#neither of us know who we're validating anymore so we're probably going to plan an elopement instead

[ghostjelliess]

We've been so many people together, I don't know which version to display at The Event.

#wedding planning #its been twelve years #it's just a party #but a very expensive party #and weve never really been the party type for long #we'll stop by to dance if there's good music #but were over here like two hummingbirds picking out a feeder: any will work #we wont sit at it long anyway #but there are real flowers we'd rather spend that money on tasting #but the truth of it is that we moved away from our families for good reasons as soon as we graduated college a decade ago and #i think all six of our parents want the validation of our wedding so they can happily continue to repress all the rightful reasons we left #why would we give them that when all we wanted for ourselves was peace and freedom that others dont have to ask for or run away to find #neither of us know who we're validating anymore so we're probably going to plan an elopement instead #we promised them a wedding but we didnt promise theyd be there and one of them refused to come anyway #i liked making them come to me for once after ten Christmases of flying back home #but now im just... I've been cut loose like a fraying thread and I've never been happier or more content. #there is no conclusion yet #there's just the feeling of apathy and rage #its brave of us to want to get married after them in the first place #this all started because picking out aesthetics was hard lol #i guess its time for another talk about how we want to be married but its annoyingly hard for two neurodivergent brains #we love to dance but not in the middle #we can do paperwork but the rounds of chores required makes us both pause #okay #im done now #this was cathartic