#then if a cishet partner is shitty it’s our fault for dating them

[slutauthority]

it’s been said here b4, but apparently needs repeating that bisexual women do not get any special fucking privilege when it comes to cishet men.

A lot of cishet men like and obsess over the IDEA of a bisexual woman. But often times all those things they idealize about us and the assumptions they place on us are the very reasons they start to resent and despise us when they date us. i can’t tell u the amount of cishet men who have verbally supported my bisexuality and then once they are with me/dating me, my bisexuality is the very thing that makes them insecure or controlling. Because my bisexuality and how it influences my life and relationships does NOT go away once I am with a cishet man. and a lot of them are really uncomfortable with that.

When a bi woman is with a cishet man, it’s p fucking telling that most ppl react with eye-rolling and mockery. When really we should be making sure they’re okay. I’m not saying every cishet man will abuse us, I know plenty of cishet men who are decent and normal ppl who love their bi gfs. But considering the rates of abuse and assault bi women are facing, we should INHERENTLY be making sure that any member of the LGBT community is safe with a partner who is cishet instead of belittling them. And if that partner is treating them right, we should be celebrating that. We should be happy that a bisexual woman is with a good partner.

I know this is all stuff that’s been said before, but the amount of shit I still see about bi women with cishet men, it apparently just needs to be repeated until you all fucking understand that bi women are members of your community and if you’re not protecting us, then your rhetoric is actively harming us.

#biphobia #abuse tw #I’ve had a lot of MOMENTS 2day #when bisexuals have good cishet partners then you’re mad bc we’re not really ‘oppressed’ #then if a cishet partner is shitty it’s our fault for dating them #like idk how you guys expect bisexuals to have a healthy relationship to dating when this is shit we are constantly dealing with #bi tag

[kelvintimeline]

By ur definition, if ur going to exclude asexual people that means excluding two-spirited aboriginal people and agender people as well, but I don’t see exclusionists breaking their necks trying to kick them out of the lgbt+ community. Stop masking ur hate as trying to help our community, it’s obvious ur only agenda is to keep asexual people from forming solidarity & having a place of safety. Ppl just love to have someone to pick on since they’re the only ones u have enough power over to do so

I’m… literally agender, you fucking moron. And agender people are fucking trans! We belong under the T! Nonbinary people have been apart of the LGBT community for as long as it has existed, though we didn’t always have the language for it that we do now!

I’m not going to speak on the two-spirited argument because unlike you I’m not a freak who uses Native Americans as a fucking pawn in discourse in an attempt to include cis straight people into the LGBT Community but uhhhh yeah don’t fucking use people who aren’t cis, aren’t straight as a way to compare them to LITERAL ACTUAL CIS STRAIGHT PEOPLE.

Also, I’m not kicking aces out of the community. Aces never belonged in the first place. Telling my oppressor they aren’t LGBT isn’t preventing them from forming solidarity or having a place of safety. CIshet aces have more privilege than I do and literally nothing is keeping them from creating an ace community besides the fact that there is no fucking need for one.

There is a reason the only two ace organizations that exist are AVEN (an online website) and… fuck yeah asexual.

There are no resources needed. There are no laws y’all need to take down. No violence to stop. The only thing y’all want is visibility and LGBT people saying “Hey, if you aren’t LGBT, you aren’t LGBT” isn’t keeping them from fucking sending out a tweet or making a facebook staus explaining what asexuality is (though good luck on it, it notoriously doesn’t have an agreed upon definition).

Not being able to piggyback off of the hardwork and suffering of the people you oppress isn’t stopping you from organizing. Your own fucking laziness, lack of motivation, and lack of need to do so are what’s stopping you.

I don’t have power over any aces for them being ace. LGBT people don’t have power over cishet aces or cis aroaces, you oppress us. You have all the power that you need but you’re just using LGBT people as a scapegoat in the wake of your own ineptitude and failure to making anything meaningful out of the ace community.

Literally the ONE thing your community is meant to stand for is against rape culture and saying you don’t experience sexual attraction.

And now y’all say you can experience sexual attraction and be ace. And you tell fucking 14 year old kids that if they date someone who wants to fuck them, they should fuck them to please their partner, even if they don’t  want sex.

You fucking blew it. Your community is so fucking absent yet toxic that all you do is further rape culture rhetoric.

That’s not LGBT people’s fault. That’s your own shitty fault.

Don’t look at me, asshole.

#ace discourse #don't start with me #Anonymous