#what message do you thinks it sends if being skinny is integral to your conception of gender??? genuinely what do you think?

[touchlikethesun]

i think it's worth interrogating why, for some, "thinness" is associated with gender affirmation and niceness. i think it's worth interrogating why, for some, being bigger is associated with agression and ugliness. i think, if your first impulse to someone suggesting a character be depicted in a larger body is, "fuck you ewww how dare you," that maybe just maybe, you might have a few biases that you need to unpack. this is not saying that artists can't draw what they like, this isn't saying people can't headcanon what they like, but i wish people would think a bit deeper about why they view thinness as so desirable, and fatness as such an affront.

#i tried to be calm in the post but imma be a bitch in the tags #your skinny femme sirius is not fucking oppressed #and the way people in this fandom talk about thinness is genuinely triggering for me and for a lot of people #one thinness is not associated with a fucking gender #people of all sizes exist across the gender spectrum #what message do you thinks it sends if being skinny is integral to your conception of gender??? genuinely what do you think? #what message do you thinks it sends when fat characters are demonised ridiculed or flat out ignored??? #clearly you guys read harry potter growing up because you talk just like JKR #now i'm a bit older and i've done so much fucking work on my body image on making peace with myself on breaking out of ED and diet culture #but if i was 16 and still deep in my ED i would absorb this message like a fucking sponge #and i would probably be right there with you being revolted by fatness #don't take this as an attack take it as a chance to reflect on why you think the things you do and on the effects your words have on others #for me personally i really find super skinny super femme sirius triggering because of my history with EDs and my own gender issues #but for the most part i've made my peace with the fact that this is MY issue and so i try not to comment on it #everyone has their own experiences and i think it's good to be mindful of that #and learn when the best policy is to just disengage #i didn't comment on the post that sparked this initially because that's what i was trying to do #but i kept seeing it and i kept seeing some really awful things being said about fatness and masculinity and i just don't think that's righ #marauders #sirius black #ed mention #fatphobia #fandom culture