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unpopular opinion, i know, but i fucking love men. and i dont need them to renounce their masculinity in any way to feel safe around them or love them. i don’t need to excuse my love for them with how much more i love women, or how much i wish i didn’t love them. by men i mean all men, fat, trans, black, brown, queer, disabled, even the most cishet allo white guy out there, i dont care. god i fucking love men.

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me admiring a beautiful man: wow he sure does have a vulnerable looking throat, huh?

#Talo

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A friend asked if I wanted their fanart made into stickers. (They were doing a merch trial run and I said yes to my OC being the test subject. So now I have a sticker of him on my laptop. :3

everyone should be weirder about their ocs more.

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thinking abt eating u

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if you’re a transmac person who DOES NOT have a misgendering kink / detrans kink, pls reblog this

#🙋‍♂️ #Absolutely sucks that a lot of trans hucow stuff is full of people into detrans kink :/

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Wish I wasn't so sensitive about trans stuff but to see someone retweet about a transphobic fuck-face asking their audience if they'd like to see them draw "cuntboys" and to "I know." When one of their followers say "Men have penises. Women have vaginas." Pissed me TF off!

#trans guy #vent #trans vent #blocking isn't enough I want this person dead!!!!

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“hes just a guy!!!!” fortunately, i like guys

#years of being indirectly shamed for liking men/not liking women. this post reawoke something in me. #anyone who says shit like this irl I’m actually punching in the face I’m serious #anyway kisses every man sloppily on the mouth #‘uh. he’s just some guy. mid as fuck’ #<- the same mf who calls every woman beautiful ethereal goddesses or something #like no actually let people be allowed to be ugly I’m so serious about this let people be mid be average be just some guy or some girl #‘imagine liking guys’ I don’t have to imagine actually. I quite enjoy it. #no actually i am imagining it im imagining so hard rn #nvm I have aphantasia the joke is over I ruined it #> prev tags #TALK THAT TALK #!!!! #‼️

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I NEED to bounce and moan on it while I drain your aching tits

Wuah? I didn't get the notification for this ask, so it jumpscared me when I saw it in my inbox.

You wanna ride my dick while you drain my man tits? Sounds great! A nice view while someone does my milking for me. Sounds like a fantastic lazy Sunday.

You can go up and down on my length with a mouthful of my full tits. More milk is going down your throat every bounce back down the girth of my shaft. Milk spilling down my front because your drinking is making my man tits go into production overdrive. Working to fill your relentless demand. And when my cock finally spills into you, you can keep sucking my tits till you get your fill. So your cum stuffed on one end and milk stuffed in the other.

Thanks for offering to empty a guy out!

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Hey, trans guy here, and while I’m not personally interested in getting bottom surgery, I am interested in writing t4t erotica involving guys who have. Do you have any writing tips on that front or just stuff you wanna see from what I imagine is a pretty underserved niche?

Howdy and that’s awesome!

One thing that would be cool to see represented: not everyone who gets bottom surgery is a top! I’m sure not, though strangely my interest in playing that role has increased since I had the work done. You can be the biggest anal queen this side of Pornhub and still get bottom surgery. Only makes sense, right—if we can accept that having a dick doesn’t automatically make a cis man a top, the same is also true of trans men & transmascs.

Some things about a healed-up phallo dick from my experience, under a cut:

The head is VERY sensitive, and the base is very sensitive. Everything in between that has erotic sensation but in an “Mm that’s nice” kinda way until you add pressure too. Once it’s healed up, it is definitely possible to orgasm from stimulating it. How long that takes will vary, though. I was told it might be up to a year, but I have a crazy healing factor and had it back in like 2-3 months.

If you couldn’t successfully kill the hair follicles on a permanent basis via electrolysis and/or laser prior to surgery, there’ll be hair. (It’s not THAT weird. Plenty of cis men out there have hair on their shafts too!)

If you had a tattoo on your donor site, you’ve got a tattoo on your dick now, lol. It might be unrecognizable depending on where it was originally (especially on the inner wrist/forearm).

There’s a scar up the underside right in the middle and all around the base. The scar up the middle of your scrotum will look similar enough to the natural seam of an OEM scrotum that it’s not really notable.

The scrotum won’t have all the wrinkles an OEM one does at rest.

No foreskin, more’s the pity, but the head looks VERY much like a circumcised OEM penis once it’s healed.

Different donor sites tend to produce different results. The non-dominant forearm is preferred because they take a stretch of nerve with it and it’ll typically have the least subcutaneous fat, so you tend to get the best sensation and shape. With the back or thigh, bigger guys might end up with a Coke can cock, which cis men THINK they want but it’s a different story when it’s always that size.

Yep, it’s always the same size. Which means you’ve got something the size of an average-for-your-height erection at all times.

Without an implant, it’s quite floppy as you can imagine. If you manspread at all, you might have to shake a leg out when you stand up ‘cause your dick’ll go between your thighs, and you’ll notice real quick as soon as you start walking. Masturbation can be awkward depending on how you do it, but “double bagging” (wearing two condoms at once) will keep it stiff enough to top.

There are two types of implants you can get: a flexible rod made of silver encased in biostatic silicone that gets sutured to your pubic bone to make sure it stays in place (how metal is that?!), or an inflatable rod that has a pump & release in the scrotum. Look for “erectile dysfunction implant” if you’re researching these. With the former, you basically always have an erection, but it’s posable; not great if you wear a lot of Speedos, as my surgeon put it. With the latter, you choose when it stands up and when it lies down. These implants, along with testicular implants for those who get them, are always done at least 6-9 months after the initial surgery.

Recovery can be rough. I took 3 months off work and needed it. The first two and a half weeks were the worst because I had a suprapubic catheter in, and dear gods I hated being cathed. Felt like I had to pee at all times, even right after emptying the bag. Worth it, though, absolutely worth it.

If you do radial arm flap, you’ll end up with two scars aside from the ones on your groin: a rectangular graft that goes most of the way around (NOT all the way around; that leads to necrosis!) the forearm from the wrist to about halfway to the elbow; and a less-obvious rectangular scar shaped like an open book on the top of one thigh where they take a split-thickness (meaning, only part of the way down) skin donation for your arm graft. The graft is pretty obvious, especially if you’re chubby, but my leg scar is extremely subtle and continues to get fainter as my skin cycles itself out.

The graft will be forever hairless.

People will probably glance at the graft, and they might stare if they’re rude, but in the…what’s it been, almost two years I’ve had it, exactly one person has actually asked about it and that was when it was still fresh and extra gnarly-looking. I told her “It’s a graft, it’s not as bad as it looks” and there were no follow-up questions.

Because there’s nerve harvested from the inside of the forearm, sensation comes to the penis faster than it comes to the graft. The cut nerve DOES regrow! But for the first…I’d say 6-9 months? Ish? I could only feel pressure on the tissue UNDER the graft. Sensation is still duller there, but at this point I can feel temperature, moisture, and texture well enough.

Recovery includes physical therapy for the donor arm. The more you move that wrist early and consistently, the less stiff it will be when it heals. I’ll never be able to touch my thumb to my wrist again, but I also can’t do that on the right either now, so I think that’s more to do with my age than the surgery (I used to be a lot more hypermobile, but I am no longer a spring chicken).

Learning to pee standing up is a messy affair that involves cleaning the toilet and doing laundry a lot. Once you’ve got it down, though, it’s pretty awesome.

Chasers will now ghost me the instant they find out I am not biologically available to be their sexual experiment.

There are a LOT of other options for bottom surgery, but I only have passing familiarity with them based on hearing firsthand accounts and what I learned from my surgeon. Personally, I weighed meta vs phallo heavily; being able to get a natural erection with meta or Centurion was a very attractive prospect, but it just doesn’t produce a size that I would find satisfying in terms of my own self-image, so I went with phallo. There was never a question in my mind as to wanting vaginectomy with it. Beyond the unbelievable convenience of being able to pee standing up without an STP device, I fuckin’ HATED my front hole, and I REALLY hated being pressured about having things done to it (mostly by cis men, but not always) all the time.

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trans guys with bottom dysphoria, trans guys who want/have had phallo, and trans tops are sexy af and worthy of adoration 💙

There just isn't a lot of media, erotic and/or artistic, showing bottom dysphoric trans guys as objects of desire. How often do you see postop trans men depicted as sexy? Trans men who use prosthetics and do not engage with their natal anatomy at all?

Some of this is because prosthetics and surgery are expensive and hard to access; therefore there are fewer of us to proudly celebrate our bodies. Some of this is because cis people fetishize certain aspects of trans men's bodies, and media is catered to them rather than made by trans men for trans audiences. Some of this is also because our bodies are openly mocked or criticized whenever we are brave enough to share pictures and experiences. Even sometimes by other trans people.

As a bottom dysphoric trans guy, it's okay to feel alienated by a lot of the media that's out there. Most of what we see shows men being seen and touched in ways that, to us, would feel uncomfortable at best and violating at worst.

A lot of us avoid trans men as subjects of art and erotic media because, frankly, it's triggering. And it's sad because so much of that content is made by trans people---it's empowering and an expression of their joy. It's beautiful and important! But there is a dearth of that same content for trans guys with bottom dysphoria, and it can leave these guys feeling guilty and bitter.

Because this isn't about just wanting more variety in "porn" or whatever. This is about art more generally. Among other things, art can be used to shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world around us. Seeing people like yourself depicted as sexually intriguing and desirable is one such important function of erotic art. But when there is little to no representation of people like you, it can leave you with the impression that you aren't desirable or worthy of adoration. And that can hurt.

Maybe it's not JUST about porn, though, but it still definitely is. Wanting sexually explicit material or porn to be sexually stimulated is not just acceptable, it's important. You shouldn't have to avoid engaging your sexuality in certain ways due to the general erasure of certain types of trans guys, and the desexualization, infantilization, and genital determinist representation that tends to dominate the erotic embodiment trans guys are allowed.

They also should be able to do this without being accused of being heterosexist or ciscentric. They don't owe comfort to those who would reduce them to just their genitals and their unique ability to bottom in certain ways. Look at them as men lite who wouldn't want to top because that's masculine and violent. Turns out that some people like having penises, and some people like topping. And other people genuinely enjoy having sex with them and crave their bodies and attention!

So let's affirm here that bottom dysphoric trans men, postop trans men, and trans tops are sexy as hell. Because they are. And let's create more art and celebrate creators of that art. You never know who might see it and need that affirmation.

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i wish ppl didnt shit so hard on (transmasc) bottom surgery man. i feel like i wouldve looked into a metoidioplasty a lot sooner if i hadnt seen all of the negativity and stigma surrounding phallo and metoidioplasties. but as soon as i actually looked into it i realized it was something i want! extremely bad! and i feel like a lot of other transmascs would want bottom surgery if they actually knew more about different types and results

#I think a lot about how transbucket almost died bc of a bad faith nyt article on phallo by another transmasc person #We really need to reckon with how defining transmasculinity around having a pussy is just Buck Angel's dumbass branding lol #And just as conservative and gatekeeping as defining transmasculinity as wanting a flat chest or to pass as male #> prev tags

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#phalloplasty #top surgery #trans artwork #trans art