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#julia petrova #art

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hi! any book recommendations/what are you reading right now? 📚

Love a book rec request!! It’s sometimes hard to read for pleasure around my PhD and other academic commitments but I’ve been doing buddy reads with some friends which has been really fun and I’ve been getting through some excellent but neglected books on my to-read shelf.

Right now I’m reading The Mere Wife by Maria Dahvana Headley which I would VERY strongly recommend! It’s a retelling of Beowulf in the modern day that centres female characters (the equivalents of Grendel’s mother and the wife of King Hrothgar) but does some really interesting work with class, trauma, motherhood and the literary concept of the ‘hero’. The writing is stunning and the story is no less magical for being set in the real world today (ostensibly – Headley avoids a lot of specifics).

Recently I finished Kitchen by Banana Yoshimoto, which was delicate and really beautiful for its short length. I also finally read Beloved by Toni Morrison, which was devastating as expected. Morrison’s writing really is incomparable, I’m still mulling over lines from that book weeks after finishing it. I also watch the 1998 film which is tough but worth seeing. I’m in the midst of writing a chapter of my PhD thesis and reading Beloved was a good reminder of the power of lyrical and melodic prose, even when describing difficult subject matter. I think it’s been a good influence tbh

#recs #ask #anon

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“Death to Videodrome. Long live the new flesh.”

VIDEODROME (1983) - dir. David Cronenberg

#videodrome #gore tw #body horror tw

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A.J. Casson (Canadian, 1898-1992), Poplar, 1950. Oil on canvas, 30 x 40 in.

#a j casson #art

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GOD'S OWN COUNTRY 2017 | dir. Francis Lee

#god's own country

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Linus Borgo (American, 1995) - It's the End of the World as We Know It, and I Feel Fine (Self Portrait with Elsina and the Azure Window) (2022))

#linus borgo #art

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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

#mmmm currently struggling w an acquaintance who desperately needs to learn this tbqh #mental health

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1X03 "Potage"

#hannibal

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Pride and Prejudice (2005) dir. Joe Wright

#pride and prejudice

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‘Sleeping Nymph’ by Alexander Rothaug (German, 1870–1946)

#vibes #art #alexander rothaug

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JAWBREAKER (1999) dir. Darren Stein

#jawbreaker

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are we brothers, francis?

#the terror #fanart

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Rachel Sennott as Alice • Bodies Bodies Bodies (2022)

#bodies bodies bodies

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Leda (1890), Lovis Corinth / England (2010), The National

#music #graphics #quotes #the national #art #lovis corinth

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Frankenstein; or, The Modern Prometheus

#incredible!!! #frankenstein #fanart

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This is Ripley, last survivor of the Nostromo, signing off.

SIGOURNEY WEAVER as ELLEN RIPLEY Alien (1979) dir. Ridley Scott

#alien #alien series

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Madame de Pompadour by François Boucher, 1760

#francois boucher #art