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My character, Quinn from the story I was writing for nanowrimo this year

#My art #Art #digital art #oc #character art #lgbtq #Demi girl #Lesbian #Goth lesbian #Goth demi girl #Lesbian demi girl #Goth #art #Original story character

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don't use "ftm" it's outdated and offensive. it implies that the trans person was their agab, which we never were. i was always a boy, never a girl who became a boy.

i'm 35 years old. i've been IDing as trans or something similar to trans for nearly 20 years. i was probably calling myself FTM while you were playing tag during recess, anon.

i WAS a girl. i IDed as a girl early in my life. i recognized myself as a girl, called myself a girl, lived as a girl, and was a girl. who then IDed as a man. hence, F t M.

spend more time worrying about yourself instead of strangers on the internet, anon.

sorry not sorry if this comes off as needlessly hostile, but i've been getting a lot of shit from a lot of teenage trans kids about the language i use to describe my own goddamn experience, and i'm growing real fuckin weary of it.

i have elder trans friends who call themselves transsexuals and transvestites and trannies. are you going to seriously go to a 60-year-old trans person who survived the reagan years and tell her she's not allowed to use certain language to describe herself because it might offend the delicate sensibilities of some teenager on the internet?

do yourself a favor and log off, find some real-life trans people who are over the age of 20 or 25, and spend time talking to them instead of getting all holier-than-thou at random strangers on tumblr.

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Hey, you are not an embarrassment for not knowing how to do certain household chores/basic self-care. They do not come naturally to us. A lot of it takes practice! Maybe you had a neglectful guardian. Maybe you had one that was very coddling and never thought to teach you. Maybe you haven't lived in a place where these things were available to you or needed. Doesn't matter. It's okay to not know and far more common than you might realise.

That said, this website provides very simple instructions on how to do everyday tasks such as making your bed, using a washing machine, cooking different foods, washing dishes, taking a shower, etc. All you have to do is use the search bar to find the task you're struggling with, and it'll come up with what you need + other related how-to's:)

If you're having trouble navigating it, let me provide you with some examples:

How to clean dishes by hand

How to make your bed (with visual demonstrations of each step!)

How to fold clothes (with visual demonstrations of each step!)

How to take a shower & dry yourself off (also provides ways to shave beards, armpits, legs and genitals)

How to shave legs, armpits, beards, pubic areas, etc. (a more in-depth guide)

How to mop the floor

How to sweep the floor

How to swallow pills

How to make small talk

How to make eye contact in different situations (or how to avoid it while still looking natural)

It's also perfectly okay if these don't help or aren't appealing to you. Unfortunately, nothing helps everyone.

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Trying to get my first actual job and I found one that looks perfect for me. Like, it's cleaning which I can do, it's 16+ so they won't be expecting someone older necessarily, I don't need a driving license and it's got super flexible hours. It looks really good and cleaning's one of the few things I'm confident I can do, even if it's hard work. Only issue is that to apply I have to call them. Like over the phone. My mums said they'd understand if i can't since I can't even call a doctor but I really don't think I'm going to find another job this perfect for me so I kinda have to but like? Anxiety? I thought I'd be able to just send my cv to them and that'd be that, I hate applying to jobs so much 😭😭😭

#vent post #vent #anxiety

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Cringe started as a verb describing a physical reaction, i.e.: "I cringe when I see [x]."

Modern slang has turned cringe into an adjective describing anything to which a person might have such a reaction.

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This shift in language is illustrative of a shift in culture.

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For a while there, in the early 2000s, there was this big sex positivity movement and we talked openly about kink and queer sexuality and creating a culture of consent that broke away from traditional conservative ideas of moral respectability.

And now we are in the midst of this giant purity culture backlash, this giant push for rigid conformity all over the internet. Anything that deviates from the norm even remotely is ridiculed.

And this cultural shift is perfectly encapsulated in this singular linguistic shift, this verb becoming a noun.

The Revenge of the Pearl Clutchers

That's what "cringing" is. It's pearl clutching.

When the pearl clutchers turned cringe into an adjective, they turned a reaction into an accusation. The pearl clutchers don't want to take responsibility for their own kneejerk emotions. They want to blame YOU.

They are saying, "My disgust isn't the fault of my own backwards prejudices. It is YOU who are inherently disgusting. My inability to cope with even the slightest deviation from norm is not the problem here. YOUR refusal to rigidly conform is the problem. I am not the one who is cringing. YOU are the one who is cringe."

Fuck 'em.

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Take the word back.

Cringe is not something people are.

It's something judgmental assholes do.

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Shout out to autistics who:

Don't know much about their special interests

Likes food commonly disliked by other autistics

Dislikes food commonly liked by other autistics

Enjoy social settings

Use sign language as their primary form of communication

Use diapers or have troubles with toileting

Like childish things or age regress

Are unable to work

Are unable to figure out their gender

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Inktober day 11: wander

#Inktober #Inktober day 11 #Inktober 2023 #digital art #art #my art #sketch #Ink sketch #Wander #Autumn #Autumn walk

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Inktober day 10: fortune

Tried to do my own version of the tower tarot card and I'm actually pretty happy with it

#art #digital art #my art #inktober #sketch #Inktober day 10 #Inktober 2023 #Tarot card #The tower #Fortune

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Inktober day 9: bounce

#art #digital art #my art #inktober #sketch #Inktober day 9 #inktober 2023 #Eyeball #Blood #gore? #cw: gore

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Inktober day 8: toad

Didn't make this one digital because 1. It doesn't need to be 2. I can't be bothered and 3. I probably wouldn't like the digital version as much anyway

#he's just a little guy #My art #art #inktober #sketch #Intober day 8 #Inktober 2023 #I can't draw animals

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Inktober day 7: drip

Had a catch up day and managed to get up to day 11 so i'm pretty happy

Not sure if I like this one or not, think I prefer the traditional one

#My art #digital art #art #inktober #sketch #Inktober day 7 #Inktober 2023 #Vampire #Blood #Gore?

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Having ADHD is so stupid bc you'll be like "I'm gonna start this task at 3" and then 3 rolls around and the executive dysfunction doesn't magically disappear like you told it to

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Inktober day 6: golden

Me? Late with like 5 inktobers? Never

Anyway I tried to do a golden sunset but I really don't like it. I was trying to make it detailed and stuff originally but ended up deleting all of that and gave up so it turned out kinda boring

#Inktober #Inktober day 6 #Inktober 2023 #Late inktober #My art #Digital art #Ink sketch #sketch

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OKAY THIS IS IT

Behold~ Cass apocalyptic series cover hehe

#OMG THIS LOOKS SO COOL #THE COLOURS #THE FACES #AAAAAAAAA #I LOVE THIS SO MUCH #Rottmnt #cass apocalyptic series

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Inktober day 5: map

Tried doing the rice map thing and I like the overall shape but you can tell I don't draw maps very often

I was trying to make it look a bit like a pumpkin but I think it looks more like the apple guys from stardew valley lol

#Inktober #Inktober day 5 #Inktober 2023 #My art #Art #Sketch #Map #Pumpkin #Rice map

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Inktober day 4: dodge

Rushed this but I actually kinda love it??? I wasn't expecting it to actually look good, though the face is very lopsided but we're gonna ignore that

And yes, I know I said I'd stop doing the digital versions unless necessary but I think here it was worth it, the digital version is so much better

#art #digital art #my art #Inktober #Inktober day 4 #Inktober 2023 #Sketch #Ink drawing #Ink sketch #Autumn #Arrow

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Inktober day 3: path

I am so behind, I did technically do the ink drawing on the correct day but then lost motivation doing the digital version so I'm only really late posting it, not even started on yesterdays or todays yet

Once again much prefer the ink version, might just stop doing the digitals unless I think it's necessary

#Inktober #digital art #art #my art #Inktober day 3 #Inktober 2023 #Late #Late inktober #Sketch #Ink sketch