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mequieroiralacasa·a month agoText


Spanish Study Group???

I’m taking Intermediate Spanish I online so you could say I’m Lower Intermediate or B1(?)
I know my stuff when it comes to reading and writing. But I’m not great at speaking and I understand like 65-70% of what’s being said. It’s a confidence thing I guess (depending on the accent).
So anybody wanna help me or study together?
It doesn’t matter if we’re not at the same level. I just want to learn.

If you’re interested, dm me or comment on this post! I made a groupchat on tumblr to make it easier.

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mequieroiralacasa·a month agoText

Spanish Study Group???

I’m taking Intermediate Spanish I online so you could say I’m Lower Intermediate or B1(?)
I know my stuff when it comes to reading and writing. But I’m not great at speaking and I understand like 65-70% of what’s being said. It’s a confidence thing I guess (depending on the accent).
So anybody wanna help me or study together?
It doesn’t matter if we’re not at the same level. I just want to learn.
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mequieroiralacasa·2 months agoText


happy new year friends! for the new year, I’d love to hear your resolutions or messages if you have any. Just letting everyone know im sending good thoughts and energy and I hope you feel yourself (again) and know everything will fall into place :)

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mequieroiralacasa·3 months agoText



random academic tip but i wrote all my undergraduate papers in google docs and it never failed me. no evil microsoft word formatting goofs. emergency printing? i can print everywhere. not saving? it backs up every five minutes. need someone to look over it for feedback/advice? i send them a link. google docs saved my paper-writing butt in undergrad. 

and! if your prof requires it submitted in word or pdf or any other file type google doc also allows you to convert the document into the file type you need

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mequieroiralacasa·3 months agoText


i wanna start a group chat

that is all.

Literally no one answered so let’s try this again.

Don’t disappoint me.

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mequieroiralacasa·4 months agoText



  • No
  • Wait
  • Stop 
    • (These are full sentences! You do not need to say any more) 
  • I am not comfortable. 
  • I am not comfortable, I would like… 
    • you to wait a moment.
    • another person in the room. 
    • everyone else out of the room. 
    • a doctor/nurse of my same gender to preform this test/procedure. 
    • the person who came with me to this appointment in the room. 
    • you to explain everything before you begin. 
    • you to tell me what you are doing as you go. 
    • to do this another day. 
  • I want to get a second opinion before we proceed.
  • I don’t understand, please repeat that. 
  • I don’t understand, please explain more simply. 
  • Please say that slower/spell that, I want to do some research myself.
  • I would like to talk to [someone in my life, ie my parents to SO] before making this decision. 
  • No, I do not need to talk to [anyone] before making this decision, I am confidant on my own and am ready to proceed. 
  • What are the side effects of this medication/procedure? What are the potential complications? 
  • Why are you recommending/prescribing this specific thing? 
  • What other treatment options are there? Why are you choosing this?
  • Would your treatment plan be different if I were a man/woman older/younger had kids, etc? Why are you choosing this one then?
  • IS there anything I should know about this treatment you have not yet told me?  
  • I understand you say not to, but If I choose to do X, against medical advice, what risks am I running? (ie taking recreational drugs while on medication)
  • How much will this cost? 
  • Are there any less expensive options/tests we can run first? 
  • Is there a generic of this medication you can prescribe instead?
  • I think you are not understanding me, I said…
  • You are not listening to me, please let me finish describing my symptoms. 
  • You are not understanding how much pain I am in, let me clarify… 
  • I do not think it is anxiety/depression/my weight/etc, what else could it potentially be? 
  • I think by assuming it is anxiety/depression/my weight/etc you are ignoring some symptoms. Please listen again and let’s discuss what else it could be. 
  • Please write in my chart that you are not testing for X and why not. 
  • I am in enough pain/this is detrimental enough to my life that non-treatment is not an option. If you can not treat this/figure out what is wrong, to whom can you refer me?
  • Please write (or help me write) a summary of what we did today so I don’t forget 
  • What are our next steps? 
  • If [what you are recommending] is ineffective, what would my next steps be? What other doctor should I talk to? 
  • What is the best way to contact you if I have additional questions or issues? 

Remember, a doctor is a person YOU pay because they know a lot about bodies in general, to help you figure out whats best for YOUR body. It is still your body, not theirs! They know about medicine but you are the expert in your body. Don’t let them act like they own you. Don’t leave if you’ve still got questions, don’t stay if you’re uncomfortable, and feel free to insist on ANY information you want. 

ask questions, advocate for yourself. Be aware!!

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mequieroiralacasa·4 months agoText


Reblog this if…

Your followers can message you about anxiety

Your followers can message you about depression

Your followers can message you about their sexuality

Your followers can message you about their gender identity

Your followers can message you about body image & dysphoria

Your followers can message you about eating disorders

Your followers can message you about self harm & suicidal thoughts

Your followers can message you about family issues

Your followers can message you about relationship issues


We are all ears!!

(This applies to my followers too xx)

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mequieroiralacasa·5 months agoText














An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.


1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.


1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post.
‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.



This is so fucking unfortunate that we need this

it just makes me angry that women need this.. but we do and if you see this, PLEASE REBLOG. it doesn’t matter if you are a male or a female. by reblogging this, you might save someone’s life.

Don’t scroll past this, it’s so important

nothing to do with what my posts are normally about but this is SO damn important!! don’t scroll past without reading and / or reblogging!

this is fucking important. Idc if your blog is perfect, fucking reblog this. It may save someone.


sorry if i reblog this everY FIVE MINUTES


No worries if this post doesn’t fit your aesthetic or theme, this is important information. You could save not just a physical woman’s life but you can ALSO prevent things like PTSD that a woman would acquire from an attack if left alive

Dont you dare scroll past this without reblogging im pretty sure you can press two simple buttons to raise awareness

From someone who’s dealt with this type of thing personally and has two little girls, I find this SO important. I swear it’s so sad the world we live in but we need to protect ourselves.

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mequieroiralacasa·6 months agoPhoto


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mequieroiralacasa·6 months agoText



The thing about Those White People Baby Names is the way they so poetically express the tension between individuality and rigid conformity. These parents all want to name their child something unique, because they value the concept of uniqueness, yet simultaneously they abhor it in practice… ergo, 30 different spelling variations on the most normative possible names. This homogeneity-masquerading-as-diversity is inseparable from capitalist consumer culture and in fact is directly analogous to the experience of walking into a grocery store and being asked to “choose” between 50 varieties of toothpaste with the same exact ingredients, 12 brands of laundry detergent, etc.

Somebody’s third eye is WIDE the fuck open??!!!!!!!

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mequieroiralacasa·6 months agoText


hardest thing to learn during recovery is….. some of your misery is your own fault. you have to actively choose to stop wallowing in your own pain & start to recover. that means stop being self deprecating, start taking care of yourself, start eating healthy, start taking your hygiene seriously, even if it’s hard. & it is hard! but you must.

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mequieroiralacasa·6 months agoText


Being at university or college can put a huge amount of pressure on you to perform optimally academically. This can cause a lot of people (including me!) to overwork, and eventually burnout. Other pressures of living alone (e.g. paying fees and rent) can contribute too, inducing new or worsening pre-existing mental health problems.

It is so important to reach out and find support at uni, a time when a lot of people are away from their family support-network for the first time. I’ve collated some resources and tips of ways you can reach out to get the support you deserve!

Friends as a support-network

  • This sounds obvious but your friends can be such a brilliant support-network!
  • Some people tend to withdraw or become isolated if their mental health is taking a hit. I always find that being with friends cheers me up and distracts me from academic stress (or any kind of stress honestly). 
  • Reaching out to friends doesn’t have to mean having deep chats with them about your current mental state - it can just be reaching out to have that few hours of distraction, while watching a movie, or a big laugh and face-masks - social interaction could be all you need a that moment. 
  • Having said that, it is so so important to have friends you can sit down with at uni (and at home) and talk openly about your mental health and how you’re doing. The worst thing to do is suppress how you are feeling.
  • Friends can be really good at rationalising your thoughts, telling you when you need to reach out to a professional, or just listening to you if that’s what you need!

Personal tutor or member of university staff

  • I have a personal tutor and know of a lot of mates at other unis that have this kind of system. This is the person I would personally go with if I was feeling pressured or that my mental health was taking a hit. 
  • If they are pastoral staff they will often be more prepared to deal with students coming to them with mental health problems, so may be better able to signpost than a ‘regular’ member of staff.
  • If you don’t have a personal tutor or designated pastoral staff then just reach out to the lecturer/seminar-leader you know the best and would feel most comfortable talking to. When reaching out for support it’s all about you being comfortable with making that first step.
  • If you are struggling with an academic aspect of a particular module then it might be worth going to the head of that module and talking to them about it. They may be very understanding and offer extensions on deadline to remove some of the time pressure - or they may volunteer their time or some other resources to help you in that area.

University-linked services

  • Universities will have their own counselling services. Depending on your university and your particular situation the wait time for this can be quite a while, but it is definitely worth reaching out - the earlier you do so, the sooner you’ll be seen!
  • My university has a peer-support and welfare-rep system, where students go on training courses to be peer-supporters and are available to talk to you, and to sign-post you to resources that may help.
  • This can be a lot less daunting than reaching out to a professional or a member of staff. It is also a lot easier with students as you can just drop them a message on fb rather than finding them if that is less intimidating.

GP and the NHS

  • It may seem obvious but it can be hard to make time or think about going to the GP during a busy term at uni, but it’s important to make sure you get registered with a surgery so you can go to them if something happens!
  • Waiting times for adult mental health services are long but they are free which is something we cannot take for granted! Going to your GP and asking for a referral to a specialist team may be a really good move.
  • Talking therapies and counselling are really helpful for some, but other people may need or respond better with medication. GPs are the only way to go if you think prescribed medication may benefit you (or has in the past).

Online resources and helplines

  • There are a huge number of online services and helplines (often anonymous) that provide support (short or long-term). This is a list of some although it’s definitely not exhaustive! If you know more then please let me know/add to this (esp. if you’re outside the UK)
  • Helplines partnership provides a directory of helplines (organised in different categories) 
  • The Samaritans provide a 24/7 helpline if you call: 116 123, website here
  • Nightline Association is a student-run service for students. Their volunteers contact people via text, calls, emails or in-person, website here
  • MIND are a great charity offering advice and support to those with mental health issues. There may be a local service near you, or call 0300 123 3393 (9am-6pm, Mon-Fri), website here
  • SANE is a mental illness and emotional wellbeing charity. Call their SANEline: 0300 304 7000 (4:30-10:30pm, everyday)
  • CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably): specifically aimed at men, call: 0800 58 58 58 (5pm-midnight, everyday), website here for their web-chat (7hrs/day, everyday, UK only)
  • Men’s health forum provides advice to men 24/7 through email, text or online web-chat, website here
  • HOPEline is run by PAPYRUS which is a charity aiming to prevent young suicide. Call 0800 068 4141 (10am-5pm & 7-10pm Mon-Fri; 2pm-5pm Sat-Sun), website here
  • The NHS has a list of mental health apps it recommends here
  • UMHAN (University Mental Health Advisers Network) is a national UK charity. There is a section on seeking support as well as options to get involved with fundraising.
  • BetterHelp is the largest global online counselling service. You answer some questions and it pairs you with a counsellor it thinks is appropriate. This is not free and so equates to getting a private counsellor here in the UK; you can contact them via video-chat, online messages or calls.

I hope this helps some of you reach out and find some more support if you need it! Remember that your mental health and wellbeing comes before academics or anything else!

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mequieroiralacasa·6 months agoText


U know how a laptop gets really slow and struggles if you haven’t shut it down in a while, or have too many programs open, and just closing down some unnecessary things or turning it off overnight can really give it a lease of life?

You’re kind of like that too. It’s okay if you’re feeling burned out to give yourself some time to just shut down and do nothing for a little while. It’s okay to need to put some things on the backburner if you’re juggling too much at once.

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mequieroiralacasa·6 months agoText


“I think every girl needs to love herself, regardless of anything. Like if you’re having a bad day, if you don’t like your hair, if you don’t have the best family situation, whatever, you have to love yourself and you can’t do anything until you love yourself first.”

— self love is so important :)

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mequieroiralacasa·6 months agoText


How to start again ✨

  • delete apps and social media that lowers your mood 
  • wear a new scent, throw away things you don’t need, delete contacts of people who make you feel unworthy, unfollow social media that makes you feel bad in any way
  • make a new playlist that makes you feel confident and happy 
  • in a journal, write down why you want to change, the traits of the person you truly want to be, the places you want to go and people that make you feel inspired
  • write down the things that stop you and bad habits you have, and replace those with new mindsets and habits 
  • before you sleep, make a detailed, achievable routine for the next day, that includes everything you want to do, including activities that genuinely make you happy
  • try new hobbies, like baking/cooking, playing a musical instrument, making art, learning a new skill, a sport, or a new language. you can easily get free resources online 
  • think about the ideal version of yourself. you can be like that, if you try your best and work hard. 
  • do not overwork yourself or set overly lofty daily goals and forget to do things like drink water. make your sleep and health your number one priority.
  • spend less time on your phone scrolling through social media. have a method of focusing on other things, like Pomodoro method or using the Forest app. 
  • if you can’t concentrate, commit yourself to doing it for 5 minutes. once you get into the flow it’s much easier to concentrate.
  • be patient and kind with yourself. it’s hard to change overnight. you’re the only one who can help change you, so be a friend to yourself.
  • once you start something, promise yourself you will finish it. 
  • have new weekly routines, like going to a cafe every Wednesday afternoon or indulging in your favourite tv show every Friday night.
  • do not deny yourself of good things; there needs to be a balance. similarly, do not be too generous and overdo it too much. 
  • dedicate a day to clean your room and organize your things if you feel stressed out. 
  • it may feel scary to change, as you may feel like it’s not the real you. but you’re still you, just the best version of yourself.
  • have a relaxing morning routine to look forward to, like making a nice breakfast, having a skin care routine, stretches, journalling, or thinking about nothing for a few minutes
  • have a mental image that makes you excited to do something. visualize yourself completing the goal and concentrate on it every morning.
  • however, learn not to rely on motivation because your brain will often turn off motivation, especially when you first begin something. have a routine, a specific time to do something, and do it. 
  • notice the places and people that drain your energy, and try to avoid them. find people who make you feel energized and places that calm you.
  • think about an enjoyable part of something. for example, when studying you can look forward to learning new things and when exercising, listening to calming music or using nice stationery. it’s actually more fun than you think. 
  • even though it’s hard, don’t compare yourself. you’re on your own path, and it doesn’t matter if people are better than you, because there will always be someone better than everyone. don’t be afraid to suck. so draw badly, write bad poems, run slowly, make embarrassing mistakes and fail everything. you can’t be good at something unless you’re terrible at something first. and doing anything badly is so much better than doing nothing.
  • don’t tell anyone about your new beginning, just start and let the results speak for themselves.
  • you can change and be your ideal self. but it will be hard to do that if you don’t believe in yourself. so make sure you challenge negative thoughts telling you can’t do something. tell yourself firmly that you can do it and then prove your negative thoughts wrong.
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