#I remind myself of this constantly

[coyote-nebula]

To everyone who has lush fields ripe with story ideas but is struggling to go out and actually harvest them with your writer’s scythe: that’s alright. There’s a reason.

I see writers despairing or making self-deprecating jokes about how many wips they have, as if the ability to come up with the idea is equal to the ability to finish it out into an end product.

It isn’t.

A lot of our ideas come about, not because we were determined to be productive writers, but because daydreaming is an internal escape from life’s demands.

Writing is a demand, too.

Resting and relaxing are basic needs, unlike the high level, abstract satisfaction of being creatively productive. That’s why you might daydream (which is a mild and normal form of dissociation) ideas that you feel good about, and then struggle to research, write the words, fill plotholes, check grammar, revise— all the critical thinking and executive function things involved in creation. Your basic needs must be satisfied before your higher needs can be met effectively.

So, if you’re daydreaming about your stories extensively to mitigate stress, it’s expecting a lot of your stressed self to return from fantasy land, sit down in the cold hard real world and do the hard work to write masterpieces of literature. Those operations are at opposite ends of the spectrum.

Writing is hard. Making yourself feel guilty is only going to make it harder. You don’t have to atone for entertaining or distracting your mind by making that available to other people. Daydreaming is a valid end in itself.

Don’t feel bad about having ideas but not being able to write them. Scribble some notes if you can, if you want, but above all enjoy the escapism and take care of yourself first. The words will come after.

#I remind myself of this constantly #sometimes the resources you need to write with are occupied by something higher priority #self care will get you back to writing much faster than banging your head against the wall #writing meta #fic meta #writing advice #in fact this post has been a draft for forever

[iamanartichoke]

I don't know who needs to hear this, but as a creator -

I am fine with "the audience" -

downloading my fics

printing my fics

copy/pasting or screenshotting my fics

sharing your saved copy of my fics with anyone else who might want them in the unlikely but never impossible case that my fics are no longer available on ao3

making a book of my fic(s) and running your fingers across the pages while lovingly whispering my precioussss

doing these things with anything I create for fandom, such as meta, headcanons, au nonsense like 'texts from the brodinsons,' etc

I am not fine with "the audience"

doing any of the above with the purpose/intent of plagiarizing my work or passing it off as their own in any capacity

feeding my work into ai for any reason whatsoever

Save the fandom things. Preserve the fandom things. Respect the fandom things.

Enjoy the fandom things.

#fanfic #ao3 #archive of our own #fandom things #tumblr things #i may have said this at some point #i'm sure i have #but whatever - just in case #i don't say this with the presumption that i'm so amazing and people are clamoring to save my fics #but just if anyone is so inclined that's all #ftr i don't intend on ever removing my fics from ao3 or deleting fandom things from this blog #i've always shared my fandom things with the intent of keeping them shared bc that's the whole point of posting #but the fandom atmosphere and ao3 constantly being under attack who knows what can happen #not that this applies to anyone but should all else fail you can also reach out to me and i will personally give you a copy #at least of fics bc i save everything #not so much the tumblr things but this is a good reminder to myself that i should do that for the things i care about #that i've made or done and only posted here #anyway sorry i have now used up my quota of the putting words into sentences doing for today #i have plans to stare into the void now

[essektheylyss]

did someone actually hate on your fave? or did they neutrally attribute a trait to them that you've unnecessarily negatively moralized and you hurt own feelings about it? or, perhaps, did you project too hard and now interpret even mild critique or simple acknowledgement of interesting character flaws as an ad hominem attack on yourself?

#like I'm sorry but. as an essek stan. skill issue. #ngl I'm more inclined to block someone going 'essek is baby who has never done anything wrong in his life and he should be exonerated' #than someone going 'essek is a horrible criminal and he should die' #the first is like 'incorrect. even his partner does not hold this opinion.' #the second is like 'depending on your tone it's possible you have a point. let's talk it out and see if you do' #I myself have also had my fave formally executed on occasion. for kicks and angst. 😌 #actually laughing this reminded me of a one-shot post live show that I never finished where caleb and essek basically have this conversatio #I should actually finish and post that #anyway this is not that serious it's just constantly on my mind on this hellsite

[stuckinapril]

Reminder to myself that it’s pointless to compare myself bc no one else has my exact story. The general outline can be the same, and still there will be details that are entirely different. There are different obstacles to overcome. There is different progress to be made. Just bc it took me longer to reach a point someone else already achieved doesn’t automatically mean I am incompetent or that they are inherently better than me. It just means we were dealt different cards in life and that is okay. I will not be allowing myself to slack where I shouldn’t, but I’m also not gonna beat myself up for going through different story beats than somebody else. We all go at our own pace. No two people are exactly the same. And in that irrevocable truth comparison becomes a moot point.

#as a pre med / w the environment that kind of thing curates… I rly need to remind myself of this constantly #i am ME / a force on my own / as long as I’m doing my best nothing else matters etc etc

[darlingod]

It’s just… it is everything that Cardan thought Jude would notice his “SO OBVIOUS” exile riddle and thinks Jude to not hesitate to come back. Beside his certainty of her cleverness to piece the riddle together, he believed he was that clear about his feelings toward her; he had thought she absolutely ought to know how he feels for her.

Like oh buddy. BUDDY. Your wife had thought of the answer to your little riddle like you thought she would. But guess what? She has detrimental TRUST ISSUES. (Like… Ur super mean and hot, I can’t blame her.) Anyway.. it’s SUPER adorable of him to so wholeheartedly believe she wouldn’t question his trust. It reveals so much about his pov of thier relationship.

Jude thought Cardan’s (silly) trick was a (vile) trick, when it was simply a: “Im trying to impress/pay you back in kind with our romantic metaphorical sparring and eventually get you out of political drama for a bit,” trick.

I’m fucking laughing wow these delusional ass children I fucking love them.

#IM JUST NOW REALIZING I SPELT THEIR WRONG AND IM SO EMBARRASSED #at least it was the right their😭😭 #THEYRE SO REAL LMFAOOOOOO #like they both were so hot ofc they constantly questioned the validity of each others feelings #if the last part didn’t make sense I’ll explain #she knew he had tricked her into exile and when Jude was like ‘can I pardon myself?’ she thought it was another trick to humiliate her #like girl it was to do THE OPPOSITE of humiliation #HE WAS SENDING YOU TO SAFETY UNTIL YOU COULD COME BACK AND FLAUNT UR NEW POSITION #but basically it revealed that he loved like Jude loves #that they have the same heart #(he’s not like the reg folk. he grew up around so many mortals as she did the folk) #but he’s a faerie so he doesn’t take caution to being unpredictable #Jude even knew: the folk could be humanlike but they (the folk) inevitably would do something to remind her that they STILL ARE folk #though she had too easily assumed that the folk acting like the folk meant betrayal #he thought the whole marriage thing had meant she fully trusted him #because he knew how hard it would be for her to give up her power over him #and he thought because that she had given up her ability to command him(comma) that she couldn’t doubt trusting him any longer #queen of nothing #the cruel prince #the wicked king #Jude Duarte #jurdan #cardan greenbriar #tfota #I’ve known them since I was 13 they’re much older in my stubborn pov #also me using the semi colon as if I’m sure that it’s proper grammar LMAOOOOO #confidence is key

[sopuu]

what a lonely victory.

#mcyt #mcyt fanart #goodtimeswithscar #goodtimeswithscar fanart #slsmp #secret life smp #trafficblr #life series #cw blood #sopuuart #ok i screamed abt this on twitter already but this is SUCH a deserved win #like he played it so well- snuck into so many different groups and eliminated so many people #he’s just someone that makes people underestimate him at first but is actually a force to be reckoned with #ALSO the way he’s been wanting to make friends the whole time. only for the secret keeper to guide him towards making enemies #until ​scar eventually yields and embraces the villain they want him to be #which then led him to victory #it works so so well narratively and i constantly have to remind myself this isn’t a scripted series #good soup

[fox-on-the-moon]

just a little tip for fellow autistics: if a doctor asks “can you do x?” what they really mean is “can you do x without pain?”

Generally, if you just say “yes i can do that” they will assume you can do that thing painlessly and without issue at all times. you need to clarify “i can but it hurts a lot” or “i can only do this sometimes when x and y” etc.

They will also generally assume you won’t do things if they hurt too much, but a lot of us deal with pain very differently than an allistic person might. Even if some pain doesn’t stop you from doing something, you should still tell them you have it, it still “counts.” If you are not visibly (to them) showing signs of pain, they will almost always assume you don’t have any and you need to tell them otherwise.

#actuallyautistic #i keep forgetting this myself so maybe its helpful #for someone #bc like if only id known this at 16 lol #reminder that allistics are very very bad at reading cues that are different from their own #also #please look at the 1-10 scare with explanation for every number if youre like me you might have a wrong idea of what each means #'i can feel the pain constantly but still do almost everything' is already a 4

[iris-drawing-stuff]

John and Mikoto! I drew them first and then realized that I needed a background last minute, so I hope it looks ok.

#milgram #milgram fanart #mikoto kayano #john kayano #iris draws #once again i embark on my quest to learn to draw legs #I'd say that Mikoto's look good but Johns still look a bit... eh #one day I will be able to draw them... one day #ever since I saw them with eyebags in double I've been trying to remind myself to give them eyebags more often #constantly tired kings

[daftpatience]

one thing I have learned about being poor is that you cannot for a moment stop thinking about it

#theres no peace #every little thing reminds me we are poor #seeing friends having electricity wifi heat food gas. it all costs money. and bills and fees and charges happen all the damn time #im constantly worried that i am measing up somehow or im not keeping track of my finances properly #the person handling our disability assistance application keeps coming back with question after question about my job #and i have so much doubt and fear that ive made some mistake in my answers that will disqualify us from support #and theres this sick backwards stupid thing where applying for and being on disability support is discouraging me from trying to make money #because the more i make the less likely we'll get support but i need to make money to live #its just fucked. and once we're on support i have to make monthly reports of my income so ill feel like im explaining myself all the fuckin #time #cus the system isnt built in a way that makes sense for self employed ppl who have business expenses to account for #sorry for the ranting i cant sleep #truly truly i think poverty is making me a worse persin #more anxious more resentful more jealous more miserable more spiteful #i have so little and there is so little i can do to help it #i want things in a more desparate and even childish way than i used to eant things #spend a lot more time fantasizing about magically having expendable income #not to mention the constant exponential guilt that comes from asking for help or recieving help. its guilt i need to unlearn but i feel it

[the-chosen-half-of-one]

You’ve heard of “rotating blorbos around in your mind,” now get ready for “rotating just the most random phrases you’ve ever heard or seen.” Now with the added bonus of: the broken record function, which lets you experience the magic of repeating the phrase internally on loop forever with no clue as to why and no way of stopping it no matter the relevancy to current circumstance or situation!

#I can’t get would that this hoodie were a time hoodie out of my head all of a sudden #I don’t know why why would that phrase stick?? of all possible phrases #I keep repeating it to myself and like ??? #is this an adhd thing? #it reminds me of what Brick does in the Middle repeating things he’s heard kind of involuntarily just getting stuck on them #like the you’re gonna love our pizza ep #one of the other phrases currently on endless loop mode of rotation in my head is just that post that says mental eelness with an eel photo #so make of that what you will #Idk what to tag this as #rotating in my head #neurodivergence #probably #I remember as a kid the end of the emperors new school theme would just go kuzco kuzco go go constantly on the bus

[yuxinmi]

Being in the aroace spec and a shifter is a strange experience because the only person i'll ever have genuine romantic interest for is in a whole different reality, and i mean ONLY that reality. Noone in this reality, my other DRs, or literally any other reality that doesn't have my beloved person, is ever that interesting to me. The only interest i'l have for them are strictly platonic.

One of my close friends happened to confess their feelings to me, which i unfortunately had to reject (i still feel really bad about it tbh 😭) because i couldn't help but feel like my heart will only ever belong to my s/o, WHO IS IN ANOTHER GODDAMN REALITY. I can never love anyone else besides him and it's too real

#he's like my first only ever s/o in another reality #everytime my relatives ask me if i have gotten a boyfriend i constantly remind myself not to say his name #i'm being real when i say that this is the only ever person i feel for romantically #he actually got me questioning my sexuality at first tbh so i decided on aroace spec instead #desired reality #reality shifting #shiftblr #shifting #fame dr #reality shift #shifters #shifting community #shifting realities #shifting antis dni #shiftinconsciousness #shifting blog #shifting script

[robotsandramblings]

i think some of you are forgetting a very important fact

we, the audience, see and know everything. we have all the information. the characters do not.

and this goes both ways. Hunter, Wrecker, Echo, and Omega don't know Crosshair's side of the story. AND Crosshair doesn't know their side of the story either.

it's very easy for us, holding all the information, to make judgement calls. "they shouldn't have said/done that, they should have said/done this, that was uncalled for, there's more they should say," etc etc etc.

of course if they knew everything we did, they would be saying very different things and acting very differently!! but they can't!! they have limited POVs! they're speaking and acting based only on what they know! please don't forget that

#the bad batch #bad batch spoilers #star wars #i could write a novel about all the examples of how people are forgetting this #also gotta full disclaimer that i'm quite sure i've forgotten this myself in the past #i have to constantly remind myself of this as well

[universal-verringbebe]

I had finally gotten Rafayel to lvl 55 and unlocked ebb and flow and while that was a whole experience I'll never recover from, the texts afterwards 😭 him calling himself a fragile fishie, bye

#love and deepspace #love and deepspace rafayel #gotta constantly remind myself im loyal to zayne #i say as if im not hella OT3 at this point

[eyes-above--the-waves]

One of my favorite things about this year's Playoffs has been watching Matthew Knies evolve from the wide-eyed, fresh-face baby who is just happy to be here that he was last year, to the wide-eyed, fresh-faced baby who is just happy to be here AND will fuck your shit up that he is this year.

#also CONSTANTLY reminding myself that he's only 21. we don't want any t-swift/conor kennedy shit happening here #i appreciate him respectfully #matthew knies #toronto maple leafs

[feluka]

[Autistic] I actually appreciate it when people let me know that someone is deliberately being malicious rather than ignorant or confused.

#doing the fallout check format from that other post <3 #anyway this is sincere. it helps me because i constantly doubt my responses #and whether anger was warranted or not #because i genuinely can't tell from the tone whether people are being hostile or what #and obv we're all on edge right now so i tend to assume the worst and then doubt myself after #so when people explain the intent. it reassures me that my instincts were right #also trying to remind myself that i WILL mess up one day and interpret something in bad faith when it isn't #and it won't be the end of the world and i will have to handle it like an adult and be better #but constant fear of engaging because i think i will avoid screwing up isn't constructive

[tboygareth]

I know we all still talk about that post that’s like “I wish you wouldn’t think of me that way” and it’s helped so many people, so along that same vein I would love to introduce y’all to the Liking Gap

This helps me when I’m feeling Anxious and Insecure about my connections with people. Your loved ones really do like you more than you think. I promise.

#bee’s buzzing #my ex traumatized me and fucked me up emotionally #but I need to constantly remind myself that the people in my life now aren’t her or the person she cheated on me with #no one’s talking badly about me behind my back #the people I love most love me just as much as I love them #they’re just more secure in those emotions than I am #and I’m willing to bet the same is true for the collective You