#asexual problems

[arofulboyfriend]

I think the thing that bothers me the most about aroacespec (arospec, acespec, and both) erasure in fandom is that we've, for the most part, collectively agreed that it is bad to freeze entire groups out of fandom just because their needs are different than fandom's "collective needs," like how we've agreed to listen to Black and fans of color telling us about how they're treated really poorly and this is unacceptable. that even if fandom has a tendency to only focus on their white male faves, they need to strive to do better so fans of color feel safe and welcome.

But I don't see that same courtesy being extended to aroacespec folks, specifically romance/sex averse/repulsed ones. instead, we get told that our identities are inherently incompatible with fandom, despite fandom being touted as the queer people's activity, because we're not allowed to want or need sfw spaces, or gen fics, or our character's identities to be respected. we're told that if we don't suck it up and become the good and pure smut and romance loving aros/aces, we'll never find community or be welcomed in fandom.

And that sucks, you know? Why should I have to change myself, or stamp down my emotions, just to be one of the Good Ones? why has fandom decided that excluding some groups is okay? why, every time someone tries to create spaces safe for repulsed/averse aros/aces, does it become a subject of mockery and hoping it fails?

why are we expendable?

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aromantic asexual #actually aromantic #actually asexual #actually aroace #aroacespec #aroace problems #aromantic problems #asexual problems #arospec #acespec #seren yaps

[indianasexuals]

During Lesbian Visibility Week, let’s shine a light on the diversity of love, embracing our asexual and aromantic sisters in the celebration. Together, we stand stronger.

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#LGBTQ+ #VisibilityMatters #lesbianweek #lesbianvisibilityweek #asexuality #indianasexuals

#lesbianvisibilityweek #lesbain #lesbianweek #asexual problems #asexuality #aces #lgbtqia #indianaces

[bloggingboutburgers]

Every damn time

#no one can know i don't like sex #asexual #aromantic #aroace #asexual problems #aromantic problems #my art #nonburger

[frogsforthefrogwar]

#ace #ace pride #asexuality #asexual #asexual pride #ace problems #asexual problems #sex positive #sex favorable ace #asexual kink #anti swerf

[moss-the-clown-guy]

CAN WE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASSEEEEEE NORMALIZE NOT HAVING TO HAVE A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP?? IN MEDIA??? THERE'S TOO MUCH ROMANCE IN MY STORIES. I'LL BE READING A STORY AND

#aroace #arospec #aro pride #aromantic #aromantism #asexual #asexual pride #asexual problems #aromanic

[asexuwales]

I remember from before i realised i was asexual and me and some lads were talking about relationships and people cheating and the horrors and i piped up:

"if i had a partner i really wouldnt care at all if they slept with someone else, i dont want to have sex but they might so its easier for them to just fuck someone"

EVERYONES faces dropped in horror,,, thats when i started feeling like there was something wrong with me.

Looking back at it i realise, most asexuals dont see sex as a form of dovotion or an act of love, so to me I interpreted it as the equivalent of "oh they can go tenpin bowling with their mates, i dont care i dont like bowling so it wouldnt be very fun with me but i hope they have fun"

I keep forgetting and seriously sex is taken and given in a allo relationship.

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #asexualpride #asexual things #asexual thoughts #asexual problems #asexual stuff #acespec #ace #ace pride #lgbtqia

[boredgramlin]

#asexual problems #asexuality #asexual #ace memes #aroace #aromantic asexual #ace af #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #lgbt memes

[peregrinethegryphon]

I just wanna call something “hot” without there being a sexual connotation.

Like a person could draw a really cool dragon and I want to tell them how cool it is but “cool” or “aesthetic” is too underwhelming a description. There’s plenty of Cool and Aesthetic dragons, but THIS dragon, this dragon is HOT.

However, I do not wish to fuck the dragon. I simply wish to stare at it as my brain goes brrrrrrr.

#aesthetic attraction #asexual problems #and also non asexual problem because surely allos experience this too??

[space-raccoon1]

Being a closeted Aroace is so difficult sometimes because my friends will go into full detail about how badly they wanna fuck some guy and I’ll just be sitting there like

#aroace #aro pride #closeted #aromantic #asexual #asexual pride #relateable #aromantic pride #aromantic problems #aroace problems #asexual problems

[aceatbeingace]

Bit of a fun poll this. I'm curious as to if people feel more comfortable with saying asexual or ace when describing themselves or just mentioning ace stuff. Personally use ace because: I'm lazy and like shortened terms. But hey, give it a reblog and a vote if you wanna see some results!

#asexual #asexuality #ace #ace pride #acespec #acespec pride #asexual pride #asexual spectrum #ace poll #queer polls #lgbtqia poll #tumblr polls #asexual poll #asexual problems #asexual questions #lgbtqia #aceatbeingace #grey ace #ace community #asexual community #asexual culture

[pawfulofwaffles]

Ok I need to say this because I’ve been thinking about it all month, maybe longer. Did any other asexuals have a “hypersexual at a disturbingly young age” to “sex-repulsed ace” pipeline or is it just me

#or anything similar?? #am I alone in this?? #ace #asexual struggles #sex repulsed asexual #actually asexual #asexual #asexuality #aspec #ace spec #acespec #aroace #sex replused #acearo #sex repulsed ace #ace spectrum #asexual spectrum #ace pride #asexual pride #asexual problems #thoughtfulwaffles

[bibi-likes-to-draw]

there seems to be this weird thing where people assume people who are ace or aro are somehow cold hearted when some of the sweetest people I have ever met are ace and aro! Guess people can’t fathom someone who is happy fulfilled without a partner

#asexuel #asexual #aromantic #acespec #aromantism #arospec #aroace #asexual problems #aro problems #ace problems #aroace problems #text post

[bloggingboutburgers]

Can we please talk about how the words "adult" and "mature" get way too often reduced to sex and the messed-up implications that adults who don't like sex don't count as adults

Cus I'm pissed

#no one can know i don't like sex #asexual #asexual problems #asexuality #ace #my art #nonburger

[everyone-is-emptyy]

#everyone is empty #no sex life #hot girl shit #femcel #ace memes #dick jokes #girlblogging #ace sapphic #girly things #asexual humor #asexual stuff #asexual things #asexual problems #asexual jokes #asexual memes #girlboss #tumblr girls #dark memes #asexual #asexual thoughts #funny gay #funny girl

[glugglestar]

Somehow for some reason it seems incomprehensible to certain tiny minds that I can be ace and they can still get a boner from looking at my hot body

It's not that hard: I'm sexually attractive (and they're not) and I'm not going to have sex. You can't shag me; I'm unshaggable. Hope this helps

#lgbtqia #lgbtq community #lgbtq #lgbt pride #asexual #aroace #aromantic #acespec #arospec #ace pride #asexual pride #asexual problems #aro pride #aromantic pride

[dreamer0903]

Aroace moment:

Me : omg she is so hot!

my friend : yeah, I would totally bang her! would you??

Me : *horrified* WAIT WHAT? OMG NO WHY WOULD I DO THAT?!?

And that is how I found out that I've been using the word "hot" wrong my entire life.

#arospec #lgbtq #ace #ace pride #acespec #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aro pride #lgbtq community #aroace problems #aromantism #asexual problems #ace problems