#aro problems

[hazelfoureyes]

Many other writers:

My goofy ass:

Really went from “Alastor tentacle fucks a human sacrifice on a porn set” to “Alastor neatly folds your panties in his well kept home”

Most people: I need time to feel comfortable writing sex scenes 🫣

Hazel: I need time to feel comfortable writing non-sex based intimacy 👉🏼👈🏼

ᡣ𐭩ˋ°•*⁀➷ masterlist

#I’m a dumb dumb #aro problems #hazbin hotel fanfiction #alastor x reader #alastor x reader smut #hazbin hotel smut #hazbin alastor #alastor smut #fanfiction #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel x reader #aromantism #aromanticism

[feelingthedisaster]

something that annoys me a lot in fanfiction as an aromantic is when people dont tag important platonic/familial relationships but tag random romantic stuff

i remember this fic in which there were platonic relationships that were almost as important as the main romantic ship, yet they werent tagged. but a romantic relationship that didnt even had a full scene was tagged.

there are millions of fics that do this. why only tagging romantic stuff? you have non romantic relationships in your fic that are just as important. tagging them would actually help the fic to get more readers (the ones looking for fics with gen relationships) but no, the romantic couple that had ¼ of chapter (of a multichapter fic) was a more relevant tag. wonder why

#amanormativity #ao3 fic #ao3 #fic #fanfic #fanfiction #ao3 tags #ao3 fanfiction #ao3 fanfic #ao3 author #ao3 reader #fanfic reader #fanfictions #fanfics #fandom #fandom community #fandom ships #fandom culture #aro #platonic #platonic relationships #familial relationships #romantic relationships #gen fic #aromantic #aro problems #aromantic problems #i hate amanormativity #fuck amatonormativity

[opossums-in-a-trenchcoat]

I can’t stand forced romance in media. You’re telling me this man and woman who’ve barely spoken to each other, have not flirted at all and have barely been together for three scenes are in love??? Like am I just too aroace to see it?? I always feel so surprised

#i’m watching Andor and there’s two characters who have no chemistry but everyone keeps making jokes about how they’re so into each other #aro #aroace #ace #aromantic stuff #asexual stuff #aromantic #asexual #forced romance #aro pride #aro problems #ace problems #aro ace #queer #lgbtq #aro culture is

[fellas-is-it]

got tired of all depressing and hating yourself for being aro vibes on legit any other platform besides tumblr (looking at you tictac app) so wanted to listen to positive aromantic playlists and legit could NOT FIND ANY??????

And the ones that were vaguely positive were made for aroace ppl. Which is great! But im not ace!!! So WHERE'S MY POSITIVE AROALLO REP?!?!?!

Anyways i solved this hyperspecific problem myself and made a POSITIVE AROALLO playlist:

Larger image of the playlist cover i made

#plz i am starved #if anyone has a positive aro playlist SHARE WITH THE CLASS #no hate towards us bonding over our share anger/grief at the world its important and we SHOULD talk about it #but not ALL THE TIME???? #it SHOULDNT be THIS HARD to find good vibe songs for us #ive BEEN thru the hating being aromatic stage I GET IT #but jesus christ we can LIGHTEN UP A LITTLE?? #aro #aromantic #aro problems #aro culture is #aroallo #aromantism #aromatic positivity #aro pride #aro posting #aroallo pride #lgbtq #arospec #aspec #aro discourse #pride #alloaro

[theaceofarrows]

Being aroace in fandoms gets exhausting because I'm out here loving like six or seven fictional couples with all of my aroace heart,

then some asshole is always like "bUt YoU'rE aRoAcE-" so? I'm aroace, but I'm not blind to the deep emotional bond and respect they have for each other.

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aro #ace #any fandom really #aro problems #ace problems

[mysteriousboo]

as an aroace person, friendships mean a lot to me. every friend ive made is precious to me, and i understand some people think that these relationships are not as important as a romantic relationship or a familial relationship but not to me. i recently lost connection with someone who i considered a very good friend, and at that time, i thought i would move on, but it's been months, and i miss them so much! it feels like a friendship breakup, but not many people would think it's worth feeling this sad about! as an aroace, i constantly have to be scared of my friends leaving me just cause they don't consider our friendship as important as their other relationships, and i can't do anything about it. it fucking sucks and i wish people would be more considerate!!

#aroace struggles #friendships are hard #platonic relationships #aro problems #aroace #aromanticism #aromantic #aro #aromantic asexual #arospec #ace #asexuality #asexual

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

February 18th to February 24th, 2024

Some resources for you:

( thanks to @infiniteorangethethird for letting me use the art!!)

#aromantic #aroace #aro #aro pride #aro spectrum #aro problems #aro spec #arospec #aromantic pride #aro week

[altijd-november]

"aPhObIa IsN't ReAl"

my best friend told me to my face, knowing that I'm aro, that aromantic is a label for people who can't get bitches and then say its because they don't want bitches.

she said it was a joke, and for everyone wondering what the big deal is, think about it like this.

let's say, a gay dude is talking to his best friend, who then says something like this "being gay is unnatural". as a joke. that would not be funny.

homophobic jokes are homophobic.

aphobic jokes are aphobic.

aros are valid. always.

#aromantic #aro #aphobia #aro pride #aro positivity #aro problems

[frogsforthefrogwar]

#aromantic #aro pride #aro problems #aro memes #userboxes

[cheemsg0d]

I feel like a uniquely aro thing is wanting a partner for life but not knowing what the exact relationship is. Sometimes I think I want a romantic partner but then I really think about what that would mean and it would really off putting for me. Like I want a companion but in a relationship that can be easily interpreted, so much that I can’t even interpret it my self I just want a bro to hang out with for the rest of my life. Someone who is on the same page as me and someone that can understand me. That hypothetical relationship doesn’t even feel queer platonic to me, it just feels like a compliment to me and that other person.

#aromanitc #aro problems #aroace #arospec #aromantism #aro #aroallo

[feelingthedisaster]

where are all my people (closeted aroace girls whose parents think they are a lesbian bc they lack interest in men)?

#my mom casually says stuff in like “i support homosexuals” and then she looks at me like she looks looks at me #i am like #🧍‍♀️ #sorry wrong tree #i wont come out to her tho #thingsis of being aroace and having a physchologist mom in a country that still thinks of asexuality/aromanticism as a mental ilness #maybe she learnt about it on college #so no coming out soon #(praying she doesnt found my “secret” social medias bc im openly aroace on them) #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #arospec #acespec #aromantic asexual #aro problems #aromantic problems #asexual problems #ace problems #aroace problems #lesbian #lgbtqia+

[thearoacemoon]

The aro urge of…

Wanting more books, movies, TV shows about friendship between adults that don't turn into romance at any point of the plot.

Because society and media thinks only kids want friendship in fiction.

And sometimes even "kid's fiction" has romance. I never understood why they do it!

#lgbtqia #aromantic #queer #aroace #aspec #aro #lgbt #aro things #aro problems #aro stuff #aromantic problems #aromantic spectrum

[artist-in-a-trenchcoat]

I think the hardest thing about being aroace, especially if you're romance repulsed like I am, is knowing that you'll never have someone who puts you first.

Like, my best friend is THE most important person in my life. I'd drop anything for her if she needed me. I care about her more than anyone else. But I know that to her I'll never be that. And that it's the idea that romantic relationships are "so much more important and valuable than friendship" that makes its so she only has time to hang out with me maybe once a month while she can see can see her boyfriend every week.

I'm happy with being single. I'm happy with my friendships. I just wish I had at least one friend that cares about me more than anyone.

#aromantic #aromantism #asexual #asexuality #aspec #aroace #aromantic asexual #aro problems

[opossums-in-a-trenchcoat]

Why do action movies need romance?? Is running from/fighting/solving the problem not enough???

#say no to forced romance #aro #aromantic #aromantic stuff #aro problems #being aro #aroallo #aroace #aromantic things #queer #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer pride

[aro-problems]

When you’re aromantic but everyone else your age is in relationships and you’re afraid to get between them because they might get the wrong idea about your intentions.

#aro #aromantic #arospec #aro problems #im just scared it’ll cause issues if i try to make friends with them #and they find out i’m aro

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

You’re pissed that no one took any accountability for their supposed “aphobia/arophobia” but where is the accountability for the constant inhumane and disgusting homophobia, biphobia and transphobia STILL spewing out of ace spaces like puss? When will you all realize you feel that way because you are directly adjacent to the oppressor class and have next to nothing in common with the LGBT community as a whole but nearly everything in common with the average cishet? Y’all aren’t queer for not wanting to fuck, only fucking sometimes “if you emotionally connect”, or being emotionally unavailable to romantic partnership. And if you aren’t also gay, trans, or bisexual, you never will be.

I got my laptop out for this, goddamn. Where would i even start?

"You’re pissed that no one took any accountability for their supposed “aphobia/arophobia”" This tells me everything about you, you possibly don't believe in aro/ace identities. You don't believe people can hate on, or be hateful to, aro/ace spec people. And yes I am pissed. Because it was fucked up.

I would try to justify it with "if this was transphobic/homophobia you wouldn't be acting this way" but im guess you don't care about that as you obviously don't see it the same way.

you were also probably someone who sent asks like this (but more hateful) in 2016 and before, you were probably also someone who posted and reblogged aphobic content and said it was "just a joke" later while still sending asks like this to people. Take of that anon and show your face coward.

"where is the accountability for the constant inhumane and disgusting homophobia, biphobia and transphobia STILL spewing out of ace spaces like puss?"

where is the accountability for the homophobia, biphobia and transphobia still spewing out of ALL lgbtqia+ spaces? Where is the accountability in the REAL world? Where is it anon? Where is the accountability for the acephobia, the arophobia and so many other "not real sexualities/gender identities" -phobias?

You saw a post about aphobia, and instead of being like "yeah that was f-ed up" or "i dont care" you went "but what about meeeeee" which is very all lives matter of you. (I am not comparing racism to homophobia, however the "what about me" bs can be summed up very easily using all lives matter as an example) For the fucking record, all spaces have assholes, all of them. On behalf of the "normal" aro/ace spec folks, i apologise for any homophobia, biphobia and/or transphobia you have experienced from us. "When will you all realize you feel that way because you are directly adjacent to the oppressor class and have next to nothing in common with the LGBT community as a whole but nearly everything in common with the average cishet?" This is a main aphobe talking point so thank you for doing this by the text book so i can break it down easier!

Three pages about asexual hate crimes which im sure every average cishet has to deal with (assuming their white and male) 1 2 (a booklet for asexual people to be actually fucking included) 3

An incredible interview is here but im going to quote a few things from it as theres a 99.9% chance aphobes wont click a link

"We know aromantics and asexuals have existed for as long as humans have. However, it’s only through the terminology recently going mainstream"

"Because of Freud’s influence, many of us grew up learning that our sex drive is the primary motivator of human behavior, but that isn’t the case."

"That mindset replicates itself within the community so that when a new identity emerges, or when people try to explain themselves, there is resistance and pushback from within the community with the mindset that “if we let these kinds of people in, then that will dilute the access to power and resources we have.” And it forces the community to maintain adjacency to white supremacy, patriarchy, capitalism, ableism and classism, all while leaving behind entire groups of people."

" Do you think there will be more identities joining the LGBTQIA+ acronym? JP: Yes. The more words we have to describe ourselves, the better we are understood."

"The biggest comparisons are the lack of visibility and exclusion from communities on the basis that they’re weird, different, othered or “don’t belong in this space.” Every queer person has experienced this narrative and as more join under the umbrella, the newbie will experience the same challenges, discrimination and misunderstandings as those who came before." and here is another article that has a quote i just live by

"When did trauma become the mark of queerness?"

but back to the aphobe ->

"Y’all aren’t queer for not wanting to fuck, only fucking sometimes “if you emotionally connect”, or being emotionally unavailable to romantic partnership. "

if you think queer = sex then so help me. queer does not equal sex, queer is sexuality. and guess what that is NOT always sexual. sexuality is who your attracted to, whether it be romantically OR sexually.

and Asexuality is a spectrum, some asexuals never have sex, some don't want to have sex but have had it due to trauma or peer pressure, some don't care for it, some did it for a partner but just dont care about it.

same with aromantic. Its a spectrum. By your process here, so so so so so many people are removed from the lgbtqia+ community but you couldn't possibly mean that-

"And if you aren’t also gay, trans, or bisexual, you never will be."

-oh you did.

So none of these are part of the community either then? Agender, Bigender, Intersex, genderfluid, pansexual, omnisexual, Omnigender, Questioning, transgender and queer?

interesting anon.

Anyways i hope my followers enjoyed that! Let me know what you think if you finished reading all this!

Love;

An aegosexual, pansexual, aromantic, trans guy with to much fucking time on his hands.

#tw apobia #ask #asks #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aro #ace #aro pride #pride #lgbtqia #ace pride #ace problems #aro problems #cw aphobia #aphobia