#just say you hate neurodivergent people and go

[gold-snek-hoe]

Hello and welcome to Opinions from an Internet Nobody. Today's essay:

"Ger therapy" is the new "You need Jesus": One Weirdo's Navigation through Cultural Shame

This is a supposedly well-meaning sentiment that is often weaponized against people who are behaving outside of perceived cultural norms. It's a favorite of homophobes who see queerness/transness as a mental illness, but I've been seeing it used to demonize kink (which historically is often linked to queerness), and more generally any "weird" behavior that makes people uncomfortable.

For example, otherkin, systems (especially those with fictives), and people who take fictional characters as partners. Y'know, "weirdos" who "can't separate reality from fiction." And, sure, sometimes there can be a problem with that distinction, but I know as well as you that most internet strangers saying "get therapy" don't actually give a shit about the mental health of those they target. It's code for "your behavior makes me uncomfortable, stop it."

Same sentiment as "you need Jesus."

This has actually taken me a long time to figure out. I've been in therapy for my entire adult life, working through various traumas, severe depression, anxiety, all that. Those were the biggest problems as they negatively impacted, and often endangered, my life. It was only after my hospitalization in 2020, where I was finally put on much needed medication, that I could start to grow into myself.

I changed my name. I top surgery. I came out as polyamorous. I finally got my official autism diagnosis. Now I'm fuckin' married! But... there are still things I'm working through in therapy. Mainly, shame over my "weirder" behaviors. My current therapist has been a huge blessing in helping me accept the things I was too ashamed to admit.

Now, I feel comfortable enough to share.

I'm otherkin. Always have been. My connection to my humanity is tenuous, and I'm sure that's connected to my autism. When mad, I feel phantom horns sprouting from my forehead. I have a tail that swishes back and forth at the base of my spine. In my soul, I am monstrous, and years of therapy has not erased that.

I feel like I'm only half in the physical world most of the time. This doesn't hinder my real-world success (I graduated college Summa Cum Laude, have an IMDB page, and am on my third book), but informs the way I look at the world. There's a whole other universe in my head that hums along with me in my day-to-day. That's part of why I'm so skilled as a writer. To ask me to divorce from that is to tell me to stop existing. Sorry, it's how I've always operated.

Lastly, and this is the one I'm really anxious about, I have a fictional husband. Now, looking at my blog, you might say "yeah, no shit," but I don't just ship myself with him. I mean I practice pop-culture Witchcraft, and the Goblin King is my patron. I mean I have a Labyrinth-themed tarot deck that I talk to him with. I mean I held a ritual to spiritually marry him. Basically, I Snape-wived myself.

And guess what? My therapist isn't concerned. It's not hurting my ability to live my life. I have other interests, hobbies, and goals outside of him, which he actively encourages in all our tarot sessions! I wouldn't be doing this if he didn't support me. My IRL spouse is usually there for whatever magical shit I'm doing, and supports me! Some of my closest friends know, and the only complaint I've gotten is "this guy seems important to you, I wish you told me sooner." Hell, my MOTHER knows and supports me, which is huge, because our relationship was pretty damaged after I came out as trans.

If you have a problem with the way I live my life, when literally nobody else does, take a good long look at why. You don't give a fuck about my mental health. You just don't like that I'm weird.

Tl;dr: My mental health is better than it's ever been since embracing the weird, so leave me and my imaginary husband Marak Sixfinger alone.

#essay #in this essay i will #and then i did #the hollow kingdom #goblin king #marak sixfinger #actually autistic #pop culture witchcraft #otherkin #fictional husband #snape wives #this is my life #therapy language #bullying #mental health #discourse #tw suicide mention #fictives #y'all just hate weirdos #just say you hate neurodivergent people and go #neurodivergent #vivid imagination

[maxgicalgirl]

No but for real have we found a solution for rejection sensitive dysphoria yet ? Like does anyone else who has this have coping mechanisms that work ? I am genuinely asking please help

#adhd #asd #autism #rejection sensitive dysphoria #rsd #audhd #neurodivergent #coping #mental health #legit if you have something that works I want to hear it #I don’t know enough neurodivergent people to ask someone personally #and I’m sick of feeling like a bomb about to go off when someone doesn’t text me back #and please don’t say ‘oh just keep telling yourself they don’t hate you’ #because I understand the irrationality but that does not stop my brain from dumping 300 tons of fight or flight juice into my bloodstream

[castielsprostate]

the amount of people i see hating on innocent and harmless videos and diy's and art on instagram is genuinely concerning. do you hate fun??? do you hate being a little silly??? do you hate enjoying the little things in life??? did tiffany's mugcake stab your family to death??? did rhonda's cute house DIY call you a slur and piss in your coffee??? no??? then shut the fuck up peterhorkins1988

#just say you hate women and move on #just say you hate the lgbt+ and move on #just say you hate men and move on #just say you hate neurodivergents and move on #im so so so angry rn #like???????? did the paint personally kick you in the balls????? did it take your first born????? did it call you a slur????? #some people need to go outside fr and stay there. no more internet access #sjonnie.text #text posts

[dennisboobs]

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#absolutely do not want to argue because i get where the post is coming from with but im gonna give some thots #re: dennis autism!!!! ok!!!!! #ive talked about it before but there is WAY more to him being autistic than just the buzzer noises. when i first watched that i was like #is THIS really why people hc him as autistic. :/ and i get it! i do! i think he has misophonia inherited from glenn personally #its actually why i captioned the noise sensitive den gifsets as that rather than just. autism. #but personally i see his scripted social interactions and i go. yeah. me. me fuckin too. #and his outbursts. which are VERY personally relatable to me #i have uh. basically the same triggers? very similar triggers at least #i think dennis' neurodivergency presents itself differently because of his upbringing and thats why a lot of ppl go ???? when you say. #'yea i think den's autistic actually' #and like i said i was absolutely like. what the hell are people talking about. he's not autistic #but uh. on rewatches? hm. #dennis quite literally masks almost 24/7 #charlie has no qualms about being perceived as like. weird. but dennis masks SO hard. SSSSSSOOOOO hard #i once saw a post like. charlie has boy autism and dennis has girl autism which honestly fucking hate that but its... kiiiind of true #ASD presents itself differently in adults depending on early social conditioning #mac fights gay marriage. group dates. new wheels. dee day. celebrity booze. all the big ones. all the hits. #look how he acts when he goes off script and is forced to speak off the cuff #the way glenn describes him as being very emotional but unable to adequately express his emotions too like. yeah. same. #theres so much more than the noise sensitivity #i could go on and on about how many fucking boxes he ticks but i honestly hate that shit. i know how autism works and that bitch is autisti #im going to refrain from commenting on the reasons why i feel charlie is more acceptably hced as autistic vs dennis because mmmmm but #dennis being 'hypersexual' (not about the sex. at all) and socially adept (has scripts/systems. charlie is more emotionally intelligent) #smells a lil stinky. smells a little bit like infantilization on charlie's part. #ada speaks #ok ill spare you guys. someday ill write a proper meta on this. ive talked about it before but.

[vogelmeister]

been feeling mixed on some of my friends recently

#i love them but im gonna explain #i don’t want this to boil over like the twins did #but one of my friends i feel so cast off sometimes #i get it bc shes full time adult job employed now #in healthcare no less #but im just getting fully annoyed at her lack of availability and it makes me sad #im getting even sadder actually bc she also always seems to have time to hang with her uni friends whuch hurts #like im like okay i know you have this from 6-7 so how about we meet for dinner at 7:30 bc i wanna see you casually and she says no #and i think i really need to talk to her bc it makes me sad and then i feel slapped in the face #even on nights out we always have to go home early. which my friend basically said: #i think in future if you wanna go home you can but others shouldn’t have to too #bc my other friend got so sad she was forced to come back early and i was like yea i would have liked to have sat at manly with yall #bc i feel we don’t do this any more #i honestly think it’s better to just let her figure it out and go #i don’t want me to sweep so much shit under the rug until i despise her #bc i know this isn’t her fault i just wish she would let loose or make an effort #my other situation is my childhood best friend #i love her a lot she’s amazing. but but but. sometimes i feel she can be too protective of me. #it comes from a place of knowing me for so long #and i do trust her opinions on people who i surround myself with bc she fucking hated those twins #but sometimes i feel she has been treating me differently since my neurodivergence diagnosis #even with a certain high school friend she held this dislike even when i said she was not like the twins #bc she was hanging out with the twins at the 21st #like this girl was also having her issues with the twins and was the person in the firing line of the breakup #even when i was in nl she was so worried about me and its nice to have her have my back #bc after that guy kissed me directly on the lips she suddenly became concerned about ppl taking advantage of me #and its like to me great she cares but also i did in fact learn from it #but she gets super defensive when ppl take advantage of me and i just wanna her to step back #i just feel sometimes i don’t need her feeling like she needs to protect me or that i need to hang neurodivergence up like a flag #idk its a lot. thank u for listening

[dykefever]

just 2 have a little complain but i’ve been on some dates recently with two dif girls and both were like. so late. one was on the first date she kept pushing back the time and then still arrived half an hour late. and then yesterday i got to the park on time for date with a different girl and then receive a message ten minutes after saying they’re going to be another fifteen minutes. and she ends up saying we should reschedule because i had to be somewhere two hours after the scheduled time because she’s still on her way she was going to be like forty minutes to an hour late. like i’m not waiting that long man

#they were both neurodivergent but dude this is a date with a stranger and you message me when i GET to the place that you’re running #essentially extremely late ? i have no reason to want to wait around for you #i already didn’t really feel like going on the date yesterday but i was like oh one more date see how it goes #but i’m not hanging out with her again lol #and also the first date girl was late and then just didn’t seem super interested in me or asking questions or whatever #anyway!!!! just annoying and feels quite shitty #also really hate. the expectation now that if someone messages saying they r late like ten/fifteen minutes before #you have to thus be okay with waiting around for half an hour or something #whereas if we didn’t have phones if someone was half an hour late you would be justified in leaving #okay anyway. that’s me done #plz complain about dating to me xx #u know what i love tho ridi shows up early to hang outs. incredibly brilliant im always ready early #this is so lame i love when people are early cause usually i’m sitting around like :-) waiting to hang #laura says some things

[sardonictxt]

It’s nice to know that I’m not alone in how I’m feeling, but at the same time it’s annoying and honestly pisses me off when people say they get how I feel.

#how dare you say you understand how I feel. what I go through is torture and you think you can relate to that? #but also it isn’t really that deep #but it is it really is #vent #npd #i guess i just think my suffering is unique and could possibly never happen to anyone else but then it does or in some fashion or worse or #better and I remember I’m not that great #hate thinking about it #so when people say they understand i end up feeling worse #how narcissistic of me /s #i said /s I meant /neg but also /pos #I’m so all over the place #neurodivergent #alter posting #aspd #but in the same breath it’s comforting?? #i don’t understand

[bugfishh]

no one asked for my opinion but. obviously you can spend your money any way you want. but i feel like it takes very little brainpower to understand why people who need to crowdfund to pay bills and survive may be frustrated when they see people doing things like buying a tumblr checkmark or donating to ao3. like you guys understand why that might make someone angry right. to constantly have to ask for help shouting into the void only to be met with harassment. if someone critiques your choice to donate to ao3 it’s not because they don’t care about queer/neurodivergent people and their expression like. cmon. for the so called “tolerant left” people really seem to have a hard time practicing basic consideration of situations unlike your own

#many people have already said shit like this but i just wanted to put it out there . #it’s kind of exhausting seeing so many people say that like #‘if you don’t think donating to ao3 is ok then you hate queer people and you hate neurodivergent expression!!!’ guys. are you serious #like OF COURSE people are going to be frustrated seeing people throw money at fanfiction and social media site when they have to crowdfund #to eat. to pay bills. to pay rent. #to feel like no one cares about your well-being. like no one can be bothered to send you a dollar but they can spend 8 on two checkmarks #that don’t even show up on mobile lmao. #idk. #sharing with the class #this is ok to rb if you feel so inclined

[ploncc]

I get the layers upon fucking layers of why it's like this but it's still annoying ironic that being intrigued by the Wrong Sort of Monstrousness is so heavily judged

like you're into #darkacademia style intrigue and murder n' shit? enjoy gore? watch scary movies? talk about wanting to go feral and rip politicians to shreds and then eat their entrails?

Cool!

what's that? you're into the bond films and are completely aware that they're light propaganda at best but still find ways to enjoy them and are fascinated by jimmy bond, or even like him as a character?

#i stare at what i hate and i recognize its humanity and all the ways i could have become the same #i cannot breathe without taking in the same air as it #i open my mouth and the same range of human noises come out #i stare at what i hate #will it stare back? #all i'm saying is that being feral over hannibal has a certain acceptance to it that being feral over Military Crime Man doesn't #which isn't a bad thing #but oh boy it sure is a Thing(tm) #''hah hah hah i love the dark things and the scary things and the monsters'' like babe do you actually think they're monstrous #or did you take something with the aesthetics of monstrousness that otherwise isn't that morally intrusive but represents being queer/ #disabled/poc/neurodivergent/fat/what have you pretty well as a way to discuss experience in modern life? coz thats not a bad thing either!! #but are you in love with the disgusting and the monstrous or are you just in love with the aesthetics of it/loving what others hate? #those are different. not bad!! just different! #i have a feeling this is going to be comprehensible to like six and a half people #somehow bames jonds has escaped the 'moral crime of watching a thing' discourse #probably because its a dad thing to like #oh god #where's my jo ann gift card i need to buy fabric and sew a skirt quick someone am i looking like a dad ???

[alexa-crowe]

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#not to bring this up again but that ask was so out of pocket #so many things wrong with that #and incorrect #honestly there’s like 2 or 3 people who absolutely despise me and i don’t know why #but if you hate me that much for being a dumb teen who’s learning to regulate her emotions better instead of flying off the handle #maybe you need to look inwards at yourself #to be like “ugh they blamed it on being autistic or something” is ableist. we have the words for it #“neurodivergent” #do not fucking conflate neurodivergencies just bc you have no respect for me #and i’m sorry but how the fuck was any of that anon’s business #“the person was so upset” we hashed it out like civilized ppl and moved on which apparently anon hasn’t been able to do #i’m sorry for flying off the handle but i’m not going to apologize for saying true things #and it has nothing to do with being too familiar with ppl #in fact that incident and the other recent one explicitly only happened bc i was unfamiliar with their humor #and i’m sorry if i have trouble catching jokes but that’s not an excuse to say that people liking my fannish content #are perpetuating a culture of meanness #YOU are the one doing that #and to my friend who got that ask i’m sorry they tried to drag you into this #you don’t deserve that #you’ve been nothing but kind and you’ve expressed so many times what types of asks you don’t want to get #rambling

[omgrandomwords]

ok so i’m incapable of keeping literally anything to myself but i am feeling very emotional abt this so

#i went to this like adhd therapy group at shcool #and like these ppl were so articulate??? like i keep forgetting some people are very capable of saying things in a way that makes sense #and also help why was it relatable #anyways it’s nbd except it’s a big deal TO ME #and i also walked out feeling Shameful which is not great #but i hear is common? #hopefully? #and like yeah ok so i’m like oh i may actually be neurodivergent to the neurodivergent webbed site #but still i think i just held on to the idea that im a little quirky instead #and i worry everyone around me will be like ‘well duh’ but FUCK YOU #I DON’T WANT YOU TO ‘well duh’ ME YOU CAN’T SAY SHIT #evil part of my brain is like nah ur making too big a deal out of it you’re literally fine and normal #but considering how fucked up i actually have been the past eight months especially it’s like No No there’s something going on #and i can’t just be like yeah i’ve got *gestures vaguely* without actually doing anything about it #bc that’s gotten me in the worst mental state of my life #and i fully signed up for these therapy groups because i was feeling so bad #it was like 11pm and i was hating myself and my chest hurt and i was like yaknow there’s free shit somewhere to talk abt this stuff #and now it happened and i went and it was alright #i brought a fidget toy i stole from my sister and did some colouring and talk about how bad i am at getting shit done #but yeah everyone else was p cool like the vibes were cool #and i’m really excited for the next session bc we’re supposedly going to go on a Walk #i love walks

[sinningvin]

Imagine getting triggered over Toontown corporate clash dialogue couldn’t be me

#god this is the lamest side effect of ptsd #or just trauma in general #unhealthy management of stress? constantly being on edge? being scared to socialize? #nah this is the worst part because it’s so embarrassing #anyways ‘can you say owch?’ Flint bonpyre your days are numbered #god man if you hate belittliling why do you do it to me #why are you like this #is everyone else like this? #‘hi I’m your narrator. Cody is now going to go into a brief downward spiral questioning if his f/os love him and why he is always bullied’ #I mean if flints like this are other cogs like this too? in the cog suit description I think there was a part talking about manipulating - #deals and toons #and now I’ve been really worried that my f/os #(specifically Misty (because my abuser was a woman and as a result I was scared to talk and make friends with girls) and Allan (because #-he’s a higher ranking cog)) #wouldn’t actually love me and would manipulate and hurt me in our relationships #and I’m scared they would take the chance to infantilize me and condescend me #and I have absolutely massive trauma relating to that #also if you bring up that Misty was treated badly I was bullied severely by many kids that were bullied too #like I would see it play out two or three years before they would call me slurs and shit #so I’m scared it might be like that #I don’t know why people don’t like me and consider me the lowest of the low #I think it’s because I’m neurodivergent and transgender #but everyone hated me #the only person who would really hang out with me the whole year was actually really creepy towards me #and the others all went away because the school was shut #I don’t know I’m just scared my f/os would infantilize and hurt me for the same reasons my abuser and every who bullied me did #if that makes sense #like I’m actually tweaking I’m panicking #why am I always the denizen that has to suffer #it’s always me

[evangelifloss]

Thinking about a certain scene in Dungeon Meshi that completely encapsulates the Autistic experience of making friends as an adult and how hard it is to try and navigate it without ending up getting hurt.

Like IDK about y'all, but this is a common problem ALOT of Autistic Adults face when trying to make friends with other people, because unlike children who aren't good at keeping their opinions to themselves, Adults ARE. In society, we're even encouraged to "keep the peace" "be polite" and etc, which commonly leads to awful scenarios as shown above when Laois finds out his buddy has come to resent who Laois is without actually telling him. All too often the friends that we love to hang out with, people that we're so happy to spend time with, don't feel the same way and in many cases, come to blame us for our social cues or lack thereof.

And when/if we do eventually find out how our friend feels, Dungeon Meshi hits us with another painful panel of how that usually ends up playing out.

It's hard for Adults with Autism to make friends, and even harder to maintain them because alot of the ways Neurotypicals tell other Neurotypicals that they don't like a certain behavior is by quietly disengaging. Whether that involves having one sentence answers, going quiet, or having a certain tone in their voice, all those things signal annoyance or disapproval, but for the Neurodivergents, those subtle cues are completely missed.

And yet when we inevitably discover we DID do something, it is natural to ask "well why didn't you tell me?" because in our minds, it should've been the next step in the equation. However for the Neurotypicals, that's NOT something to bring up. Its important to be SUBTLE about the issue at hand and rely on signals to tell the other person. Blame is placed on us for not noticing the "obvious" signs of disapproval rather than the idea of talking it out as such things are uncomfortable and harder to do. Alot of the time what ends up happening is resentment due to the idea that it was "obvious" and the fact one didn't notice indicates a deliberate ignorance rather than a complete unawareness. It ends up calling into question our quality as a person and our sincerity. We get called "fake" or "malicious" or even "stupid" for failing social cues rather than questioning the decision to be indirect and vague.

For a manga about exploring the dungeon, it seems that the artist would rather explore very real and prevalent dynamics in society with the adventuring premise as a backdrop. I felt VERY seen in these panels, and many others, because it happens so suddenly and dare I say it, plainly. There's no dramatic build-up or spectacle made and in essence, it just Happens.

I think that's what makes the scene hit even harder. It seemingly comes out of nowhere for Laois, like how it always comes out of nowhere for alot of people, and it's never a dramatic twist either. It's always mundane and hurtful. A sudden unforeseen bump in the road that ends up calling into question one's entire friendship with someone and consequent other friendships. It asks "what if other friends feel the same. What if the people that I really like actually hate me and I don't know it?" Or at least that's what I came away with after reading the chapter. I've been where Laois was and the only reason I'm not there now is because I lost the naivete I had and doubt everyone else's sincerity.

#dungeon meshi #delicious in dungeon #laois touden #laois dungeon meshi #ryoko kui #dungeon meshi analysis #autistic things #autism #adults with autism #autistic adult #neurodiversity #neurodivergent

[boneless-mika]

Honestly I feel very unwelcome in the “physically disabled community” because while I do have multiple physical conditions, I’m also neurodivergent

#maybe the neurodivergent community also excludes physically disabled people but at least the internet doesn’t push that on me as soon as I #interact with a single post about disability #it’s just me in my corner of being hated by everybody and not deserving any accommodations ever #bet you think I shouldn’t have been allowed to buy my cane privately bc a doctor would never agree a fat person use a mobility aid or #is actually experiencing chronic pain #(I should just starve myself right? and that will make the pain go away? yeah that’s what everybody says) #(I will also stop experiencing vertigo and my habit of losing my balance while just standing still will go away as though by magic) #(this was sarcastic btw starving myself would do nothing except make me angry and tired and more in pain)

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[rslashrats]

🪰 housefly734 Follow

just a reminder that flies rubbing their hands together =/= plotting a nasty scheme

🪰 r0tt1ngm3at Follow

FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT!! I HATE THE STEREOTYPE THAT US RUBBING OUR HANDS TOGETHER MEANS WE ARE PLANNING SOMETHING DUBIOUS!!

🪰 crane-fly-wives Follow

^^ Boosting! I constantly get non-flies giving me death glares whenever I wash my hands in the restroom. Like, that's what you're supposed to do after going to the bathroom! Sorry for being hygienic I guess 🙄

🪰 diptera-doll Follow

Reasons why flies might be rubbing their hands together:

It's chilly out and they're trying to warm up

They just put hand sanitizer/lotion/hand cream on

They're rolling a ball of clay together

What you should do if you see a fly rubbing their hands together:

Leave them alone! It's none of your business

Hope this helped! :)

🪰 flyhlghh Follow

people also forget that hand-rubbing is a very common stim!! neurodivergent flies constantly get stigmatized for showing any traits of their neurodivergencies in public!! please don't forget that!!

🐝 iamrealflytrustme Follow

I dont know about you losers but i like to rub my hands together because i am planning the most heinous and villanous crimes in my head

🪰 crane-fly-wives Follow

Wow, most obvious troll I have ever seen in my life. Get a life, dude 🙄

🪰 compoundeyehaver Follow

> claims to be a real fly

> has bee as their profile pic

dude couldn even get the right insect for their shitty troll account LMFAOOOOO

🐝 iamrealflytrustme Follow

No i am real fly and i am plotting to land on someones pie rn and ruin it with all my real fly germs. rubbing my hands together as i do it too

🪰 crane-fly-wives Follow

Anyone wanna bet this guy is some amphibian from 4frog typing this nonsense from their lilypad right now? Just me? Okay-

🐝 iamrealflytrustme Follow

I am buzzing around people's ears now

🪰 crane-fly-wives Follow

Yep, that pretty much confirms my theory. The nerve of some non-flies, I swear 🙄

🪰 batsianmimc Follow

@venus-fly-trap-hater

🪰 venus-fly-trap-hater Follow

this post is so real!! tysm babe for sending it to me 💞 ilyy

🪰 batsianmimc Follow

ILY too sugar cube 😘

🐝 iamrealflytrustme Follow

Can you guys stop kissing on this post its ruining my evil scheme planning

🪰 crane-fly-wives Follow

Can't believe this guy is still at it, honestly. @staff @tumblr Please take action against fake fly troll accounts such as these ones!

🐝 iamrealflytrustme Follow

Staff cant kill me i rubbed my hands on them too hard and they dieded sorry

🪰 crane-fly-wives Follow

🤣🤣🤣 Oh the excuses this fake is making, LOL! I haven't been this entertained since the Bombylius major discourse last year!

🪰 compoundeyehaver Follow

why are you still arguing with the troll instead of just blocking

🪰 crane-fly-wives Follow

Just think it's entertaining to see the lack of logic that bounces around in the brains of these non-flies sometimes 🤷‍♀️ Every response this so called "I am a real fly, trust me" user has given me has just made me crack up and flap my wings together.

🐝 iamrealflytrustme Follow

I am gonna rub my hands and plan more evil schemes involving you next

🪰 crane-fly-wives Follow

Heh, just try it, kid. Go on, I'll wait. 🥱

🦗 chirpingboy Follow

things are getting heated in the fly community

🪰 crane-fly-wives Follow

Of course a Grasshopper has the nerve to comment something insensitive on this post. Honestly, just mind your business 🙄

🦗 chirpingboy Follow

okayy

🦗 hopping-along-the-bank Follow

Hey, you can't really preach for not discriminating against flies and then discriminate against a grasshopper, dude. Not cool.

🪰 crane-fly-wives Follow

I think I certainty can, with my past experiences of Grasshoppers always finding the ways to say the most uneducated and baseless takes on my previous posts and discussions. Plus, after the Fly-Grasshopper War of 247 BC (in which my ancestors fought in, mind you) and the consequences that followed it, I think I am well within my rights. But go ahead, frame me as the bad guy here. 🤣

🦗 hopping-along-the-bank Follow

Yeah, you say this and conveniently ignore the socio-economic struggles that grasshoppers have been facing for the past century, many of these issues which were spearheaded by fly conservative politicians in office at the time.

So, yeah, it is rather hypocritical for you to pull out these cards when grasshoppers have also been punished and gotten the short end of the stick throughout bug history.

🪰 crane-fly-wives Follow

The implication that all flies are responsible for a few greedy politicians is quite comical, really. 🥱 Not to mention that many Grasshopper politicians in Bugland and Bugtopia have also had histories of introducing laws that have severely affected communities majorly made up of Flies. But sure, keep arguing with me about this, buddy. I got all day 🤣

🐝 iamrealflytrustme Follow

I am still rubbing my hands and planing schemes btw

🪰 flythatlovestogethigh Follow

anyone smoke bug weed in this thread

#bugs #insects #long post