#re: gender at least

[eliotquillon]

just finished the rwrb movie and although i really enjoyed it (and was kicking my feet giggling the whole time) i do have a couple of major criticisms, some of which i think aren’t really the movie’s fault because they had to fit a whole book into 2 hours, but some of which left me kind of disappointed:

-i feel slightly icky that bea and nora got their screentime SIGNIFICANTLY reduced even after june got cut entirely (which i was upset about, but did understand). i loved zahra and adored her on screen but i do think it’s very odd that she is pretty much the only major female character in this movie since bea was nonexistent and nora got permanently spirited away to pez’s bed or something sometime during the second act

-it felt like a lot of the internal conflict in alex and henry’s relationship was very unbalanced and henry heavy - alex’s neurodivergence was erased, his bi epiphany was barely even an epiphany, and him not being explicitly kicked off the campaign after ellen finds out about him and henry essentially killed his whole subplot about realising he doesn’t need to have everything achieved at thirty and deciding he wants to apply to law school instead. which wouldn’t have been terrible but on the flipside it felt weird that we didn’t see very much of henry’s family considering how much they affect and shape his fear of being outed and his feeling of being in a glass cage - e.g bea’s treatment by the media during her active addiction (which was entirely erased), the extent of the tension between him and philip. felt like henry’s pov scenes were a super wasted opportunity for that and we were mostly just being Told about all of these things

-i am not actually that mad about oscar and ellen still being together lol but i felt like in the scene with oscar smoking the cigar on the balcony they were kinda building up to there being significant strain in his and ellen’s relationship that just wasn’t explored. especially since it’s clear oscar would never be able to be president because he’s not a natural born citizen + the sacrifice of his career for ellen’s is so much bigger now that he’s first gentleman in this version

-pacing in general was a bit off but the worst offender was the fact that there was a complete time skip between the alex henry confrontation/reconciliation and the outing. so much of the tension and desperation from that outing scene comes from the fact that the risk of it happening was slowly increasing throughout the book and it felt almost inevitable (the elevator cctv being leaked, henry having to fake date june) and honestly making it so abrupt weirdly reduced a lot of its impact for me

-similarly i actually completely understand why the richards plot / rafael luna plot was cut (i suspect republican election interference hits a bit too close to home after 2020) but my god was miguel a lame fucking villain and him being queer and hispanic erased a lot of the original commentary about racism and homophobia that the richards plot lent itself to. like in general this movie was a lot lighter than the book which is fine! but for a movie where the main subplot is a presidential election So Much of the political themes were heavily neutered or cut to the point that it seemed like the pressure on henry and alex’s relationship was disproportionately coming from henry’s side when in the book it was more balanced

again on the whole i really really loved this movie and i knew going in that certain changed were going to be made. and i hope more movies get made like it! these r just my Thots and i may change my mind when i rewatch it with my friend tomorrow

#rwrb #red white and royal blue #putting this in the tags but the movie actually kind of emphasised a lot of the problems i have with the book #re: gender at least #i remember first reading the book in 2019 and being upset that june giving up so many of her dreams #to support her family wasnt explored more #like with her ex boyfriend who it was implied she still kind of had feelings for but had moced to california #it also feels slightly disingenuous that casey hyped up bea/nora so much after the teaser scene of them talking was revealed #except that was the only scene they ever interacted in. ever #and i know it’s not that deep I KNOWWWW #but i’ve been thinking a lot about fandom treatment of women lately #and weirdly this movie kind of exemplifies a lot of the issues i have witb fandom as a whole and not just rwrb #anyway.

[knuckleblaster]

moodboard

#ultrakill #meta #re: the previous post (at least I think. if the queue spits it out correctly) #might also be important to note the finnish language does not have gendered pronouns afaik #anyway. genderless machines real and don't you forget it

[fruitageoforanges]

my conspiracy theory is that part of daemon’s strained relationship with baela in f&b (not sure to what extent they’re going to go down that route in the show, especially as they seem to be somewhat butchering baela + rhaena) is due to gender envy.

#hotd #f&b #daemon targaryen #baela targaryen #ok hear me out. i find daemon most interesting when he’s being deranged re: viserys #and i at least think it’s quite clear he wants to be viserys’ consort #he wants a perfect valyrian brother/sister marriage with perfect valyrian children #and viserys is both his only option and also the tightest tangled thread of a relationship he has #but whoops! he’s not a woman. and even if he was he wouldn’t want to give up his rogue prince freedom #which he sees as mutually exclusive with womanhood #then along comes baela. his OWN daughter. #who is literally described as him in every way #how could he not be jealous? how could he not see everything he can’t have in her? #especially as she’s a masculine reckless woman who still ends up married to the man she loves #obvs he isn’t alive to see that but. of course he has to curtail and trammel her and make her something other than what she is #because what she is is exactly what he lost out on #i think gender envy is also an interesting dimension in his rhea royce failmarriage #masculine women are too much of a mirror

[clonerightsagenda]

Need the Murderbot artists to come listen to Wolf 359. For every Hera in a miniskirt I want some eldritch AI geometry.

#the only reason I am not madder about the miniskirts is bc I assume some of it #is because her VA was wearing a dress in the liveshow #however the whole thing smacks of gender! #where are the giant dragon Heras or the schools of fish or the weird clouds #at least everyone's on the same wavelength re: blue #perpetual perpetual ladies night #wolf 359

[unproduciblesmackdown]

wouldn't give them the benefit of the doubt at this point anyways but truly don't think we can believe billions considers that bullying winston + most people being better than him and thus entitled to their authority over him and ability to treat him however with no ill consequence for them (which we were supposedly aghast at prince laying out as his own perspective) (and is wendy's own perspective that she never really drops) Is Bad, or even potentially not good, when rian is definitely meant to have earned a Good Reward for "evolving" out here which has nothing to do with all the treatment towards winston or even just a fairly callous and self serving perspective in general, but just like. oh but i don't wanna swipe someone else's homework and put my name on the top, i'll leave. and then everybody who writes any of this stood up and clapped

#winston billions #it's....so easy to just look at this & reflect on it at all. And Yet. #up next: billions can afford Any respect towards taylor being nonbinary....but [cue all this other material re: gender & sexuality] #f for winston & rian both two sides same coin ''winston's always wrong rian's always right'' utter wasted potential by the writing #f for rian not getting to be a funny little guy too at least. f for their dynamic being a lot of fun before confirmed Just Abusive like #well sure Could've had quasirivalry that becomes a balanced complementary counterparts team that's mutual/reciprocal #rian's character used by the writing to say Nothing; not enjoyable at all b/c she's right there w/dollar bill etc as just some awful bully #the best part is the nontextual humor in billions being kind of aware like hmm somehow this character just would always wear pants.... #altogether & at pretty much any given point frustrating; insulting; tragic....

[romansbeathearts]

Villains who disguise themselves

Count Olaf from A Series of Unfortunate Events (2017 – 2019) Doutor Abobrinha from Castelo Rá-Tim-Bum (1994 – 1997) No-Tail No-Goodnik from The Country Mouse and the City Mouse Adventures (1998 – 1999) Phoenix Buchanan from Paddington 2 (2017)

#i was gonna re-gif all of this because the transparent bits look like shit on dark backgrounds #but then i remembered i'm literally the only person who simultaneously cares about all these characters #so it only matters if it looks good on my end lol #btw i've giffed this at least 10 months ago but probably earlier #anyway there's never been a character i've been more obsessed with than no tail no goodnik 👍 #he is literally my gender #~

[peternincompoop]

i NEED to know how many people found out they were trans from watching iasip!!!

also feel free to add in the tags WHO made u realise it!!

#because i was openly trans when i was like 13-15 and then i went back in the closet for like 5 years #and then iasip (and community) made me re-realise i was trans #and i know of at least 1 more person in the iasip fandom who also realised they were trans from iasip soooo... #so iconic of us ngl #peter ncp #iasip #its always sunny #its always sunny in philadelphia #polls #oh and also uh they made me trans and gay and it was mac at first making me realise but then in the middle/later seasons it was charlie lol #charlie is so gender i love him

[grapecaseschoices]

hola if mutes and followers:

im looking for an if [with a demo, at least!] to plug kendis in.

so far im going to try project haeda for - and i qoute - “ Kendis would have a great time taking years off of Nash's life. nb/nb hostility sksjfhg “ - @quaxorascal

i am open to all genres [and most time periods], my only conditions are:

MC can have a stable dynamic with at least one family member, or there is room to headcanon distant relatives in

If the gender selectable ROs don’t have ‘nb’, than I PREFER there be AT LEAST one nonbindary/genderqueer RO.

[and ofc mc must be able to choose gender and pronouns. I am still suffering in playing Kendis as a ciswoman just to get Nate, smdh. Never doing that crime in another game.]

Do not waste our times giving me a game where the amt of white characters to characters of color is significantly larger. Nothing 4/3:1, or even 4:2. 

Thank you! I appreciate yall even looking at this and triply appreciate any recs! :-DD

#grapecase posts #oc: kendis crawford louel #if search #vn search #i wont even mention wimmin bc i feel it goes without saying? #i will say while im not AS nitpicky re: gender as i am re: race -- i would say its just better to ensure there are at least two ladies #i dont want to see a row of 'm' pls #especially no where im planning to play kendis

[autistic-shaiapouf]

I should start rb'ing the pride art I've done, those wings, happy pride moth, and that post I made colorpicking the nonbinary flag from Pouf's main color palette

#i should. make more art 🤔 remembering i like isaac comma binding of and how trans/genderfluid isaac is a huge thing #OH i should rb my old pride art of the ants?? and make new art bc i want an excuse to give meruem bi colors #yeah ppl make jokes about him being het but yall are really gonna dunk on pouf for the v*re episode and forget that meruem was there? #he was there AND into it.. also youpi was there too let's not leave him out of this one #truthfully. gender and sexuality require a degree of social and cultural understanding and are unique in the fact #the the are for the most part driven BY social dynamics and experiences; the ants don't have that bg and therefore #dont have much of a conception of what is considered queer; i personally think it's a very natural thing for them #in the dub the other ants use they/them for pitou in a reflexive way; like there's a base understanding of it but like. #they're not weird about it. your army commander is a catboy. the pronouns are the least of the issues #hoatm rants

[isitovernow-ootw]

beginning to wish i was exposed to queer internet spaces a bit later so i could have just existed for a while, its really hard to think about my gender when I haven't spent a single period of time not analyzing it since i was 13

#idk i think i could have used at least a couple years of just iding as a cis allo lesbian to see how it felt #like before even thinking about other possibilities #idk having id'd as aro for my entire teen years and never really considered my identity before claiming that term made it really hard #to realize that wasn't the case at 17-18 #and i wonde if i had just been gay for like a second if i could have skipped that #and now I'm re-questioning my gender and I don't even know #at this point i think even if i had had the possibility of being cis at some point my perception of gender is so fundamentally altered #from trying to fit myself into boxes for like 7 years #that it still would not be remotely the same as the gender of a cis woman #idk I've been consuming a lot of lesbian content #and feeling somehow detached from cis lesbian circles is weird because I'm getting to a point where lesbian is my primary identifier #so i want to fully connect with that #but my experience is so different from a lot of people #because i never got to be a teenage girl #or let myself be one? idk #idk if i even id as a girl or a woman now at all i just wish things were less complicated #feeling dyke feelings generally #*when i'm screaming at the sky

[seilon]

sudden vivid memory of being 14-15 years old and daring to wear knee-length boy’s shorts to a local summer festival in one of my first public acts of transgenderism and despite that being the most mundane thing on earth (especially considering I was still not allowed to cut my hair at that point so i by no means looked mistakably like a guy or anything) being verbally torn to shreds to the point of sobbing by my mother upon getting home because I was apparently making myself (and her by association) look bad and being a flagrant humiliation in front of my friends’ parents. i guess sometimes i forget how scarring and often terrifying simply Existing as a trans kid was lol

#cw transphobia #my mom’s said some of the worst things you can imagine to me re: my gender over the span of my life #but at least now I’m an adult with some autonomy and years of built-up resistance and im not as young and impressionable and whatever #i remember this sort of thing and how legit terrifying it was and just go hm. impressive i never killed myself but boy do i live with the #mental reprocussions of living through it #im just glad im on t now and i pass and I don’t hate looking at myself in the mirror or feel like I want to rip my body apart #god being a teenager was just fucking awful #my friend asked the other day what I’d do if I had to re-live my teens again and while she was like hell yeah I’d be so smart and I’d do #everything right this time around and etc. I just. still sat there like oh yeah no I’d kill myself #getting through those years as a trans kid + family issues + mental illness + etc was like being hauled over broken glass #and I would rather die than have all the effort and endurance go to waste just to do it again #anyway sorry this was random and sad #i need to get up and eat that’s probably why I’m. like this right now #kibumblabs

[curiouslavellan]

🔥 da:i romances

For the romances in general - while I understand and commiserate with the complaints that characters like Cass and Solas shouldn't have been straight, I actually really like that the characters all have their own orientations that aren't player based

For a particular romance I feel like I'm alone in not liking the Trespasser wedding in a Cullen romance. I get the idea but the execution is just bad imo. I don't really remember any gameplay associated with it, even a dumb little fetch quest or anything, it feels very rushed and inconsequential. Also from a character perspective it makes me sad for him and Quiz. Their friends aren't there, their families aren't there despite Cullen's family being brought up multiple times throughout the game to the point that him reconnecting with them is a character beat, they're in Orlais (ugh)

#ask games #floralprintshark #thanks moss! #but yeah the wedding seems so popular but is just eh to me #i know it was rushed cuz quiz might be dying but just the idea that they get married alone in this place that at least cullen #and maybe also quiz hates is like. :/ #now re: the characters having unique sexualities #anyone who mods straight characters to be bi or who just ships their OCs with them anyway rocks #i just dont mind having to make my characters certain genders to romance certain people #and every game that has this kind of cast makes da2 exponentially funnier #because it just makes it look less and less like a time crunch thing #and more and more like kirkwall is full of bisexuals on purpose

[libraryleopard]

The Wolf Among the Wild Hunt by Marc Fenn Wolfmoor

Adult dark fantasy novella 

After killing the wrong person, a wolf shapeshifter is sentenced to run the Wild Hunt to redeem his honor, a trial few have survived

Aromantic asexual main character in a queerplatonic relationship with an aromantic asexual nonbinary knight

Queernormative medieval Europe-inspired fantasy world including trans, aroace, polyamorous, lesbian, and gay characters 

Dark folklore atmosphere

First in a series (I think) but ends pretty wrapped 

Also includes illustrations throughout

Content warnings as per the author below the cut

Explicit battle violence; descriptions of gore and blood; murder; hunting violence, including violence against animals; sexual assault* (by a woman against a man); descriptions and themes of physical and emotional abuse; trauma from enslavement, violence, and neglect; and suicidal thoughts and ideation 

*author’s content warning said sexual assault is off-page but I would disagree with that a bit

#this is a quick read but definitely not a light one #very bloody and violent #though the main character's relationship with brennus the knight is really sweet #it's also a bit nonlinear at times #there's creepy fae and the wild hunt so definitely things I enjoy even if it's not an easyread #there is a neat piece of world-building re: gender-inclusive language #there's a gender-neutral title but also titles like king and queen can apply to any gender I think #at least there's a female king and mentions of a female prince #in addition to maurr the gender-neutral equivalent of lord/lady #pretty sure men can be queen but not certain #anyway I thought that was a cool way of having gender-inclusive medieval fantasy #pride reading 2022 #the wolf among the wild hunt #lulu speaks #lulu reads #lulu reads the wolf among the wild hunt #books

[roosterbox]

Mini Personal Contemplation Incoming

My mid thirties has become defined by a series of realizations that certain things which have been ingrained in my brain since childhood… are probably actually not that great. And have probably led to further problems down the line, as far as personal relationships go.

Like the fact that, say, if I grab something and it hurts my hand, I’ll still carefully set it down rather than drop it. Ordinarily you’d think a person would be told that their health/safety is more important than some object. In the face of pain, I’m more afraid of breaking something or making a mess than I am of being hurt. I don’t quite know what to make of that.

Or the fact that, when faced with what are traditionally thought of as ‘negative’ emotions - anger, sadness, frustration - I just tend to… shut down. I mean, when you’re told constantly that your problems are a burden to others… well, there it is. You guys don’t even know how many posts I’ve written out and then deleted with this in mind. Side note: sometimes keeping such a tight reign over stronger emotions might lead to them coming out in other ways. Not so healthy ways. Voice of experience here.

I have had so many moments like this. And am probably due for several more as I continue looking back to contemplate my childhood. Breaking out of these mindsets is a long, frustrating, ongoing process. I’ll never be quite right I don’t think, but I’m getting a little better every day.

#random #personal #state of the mind #rooster should have been in therapy years ago #probably since my early twenties at least #I’ve got way too much on my plate to start now honestly #(and none of this has been made easier) #(by my other realizations re: my sexuality and gender identity) #(lol)

[unproduciblesmackdown]

as ever like: no two things Need to be juxtaposed, much less like material vs material deathmatch Only One Can Be Good, much less am i thinking i have thee objective word on fuckall b/c who does and it's like perfectly boring & unserious whenever someone just throws out Takes that are just "i think...[xyz] is [adjective]" like okay.

but anyways thinking of how, though differing in execution in a lot of ways ofc, deh & bmc start out in a v similar place & explore a journey to self-acceptance from a despairing starting point....it feels like a lot of the hindrance in deh's exploration of its own Theme there is in like, hey. :) hand on your shoulder. it's okay b/c you'll be able to be more normal. whereas w/bmc it's that it's okay b/c you'll be able to be more abnormal

#like hell yeah. and Normality is fake the way that things like Gender is fake so. what's more universally relevant here #versus like. the idea that a winning takeaway re: deh is Talking With Your Parents / Kid like #yeah that could be an improvement? in other situations; that Talking is dangerous &/or just not going to happen / be irrelevant #meanwhile nobody is ''normal'' & the idea of Normality & its Moral Goodness / Requirement does affect everyone #meanwhile that bmc is clear on jeremy's gaining supportive relationships means support for his relationship w/himself #whilest he's also able to feel better insulated from feeling Defined by whatever instance of feedback/input #whereas with deh it's like. All These People....but log off & all you need is at least one parent who doesn't hate you No Matter What #including your unfortunate abnormality....Just(tm) make the phone calls am i right? well now he at least has a part time job #meanwhile difficult to compare w/e's going on w/zoe/evan vs mpdg4mpdg jeremy/christine. latter are cute & a coherent relationship #former are [nothing] to [i'm taking psychic damage] & fuck if i know what's going on besides The Ultimate Romance(tm) (negative) #he was a boy she was a girl they could politely tolerate each other's presence. maybe forever :') #i really don't know what's supposed to be going on there so like. for real share Any reasons you like each other in Either love song abt it #anyways like No Need To Compare but for me the juxtaposition is natural b/c it Does feel like they can be looked at re: a v similar Essence #but one is fumbling around w/it & really Not sticking the landing especially while the other just does exactly what it's trying to do #and ofc it could only help that deh had to go so far from the original [???] ideas & more Farcical approach #vs i don't think bmc's envisioning ever changed so fundamentally along its development at any point #like deh's story does feel like it still has the remnants of the earlier farcier versions even in its bway form #story of A Bunch Of Wild Shit Happens To Our Protag Whaaat & sure ppl are humanized but you still never made room for like a quarter of the #alana & jared? they're alright but they died #anyways & in all these things it's like It's Not A Big Deal lol i am not here to strive to have thee true & final word #right tf on if you as well know them both & like deh more / think It was the more successful execution of its story #though i have natural enemies like say [trt loyalists who are Like That] or forever [deh haters who are Like That]....we're different #erased a tangent also mentioning how i like the Parent Approach of mr. heere's arc better than any parents in deh lol. like of course #it's Not about his Feelings or being Imperfect or Human. like ofc he has the feelings & is human & imperfect #but he just gets energized & focused like welp bummer but ofc i gotta give my kid more support w/whatever he's going through rn #like hell yeah. one fun song we're good to go #bmc #deh

[everymlmhybrid]

God I wish I knew how to collage digitally I wanna make like forcemasc collage shit so bad

#.txt #remembering the Gay Desire themed collage I made in like 2018 hmmmm need to hunt it back down and either scan it or remake it #I used to collage all the time about gender just to get my feelings out but I stopped bc I basically just need more magazines tbh #re-reading this 80 times to be sure I don't say college instead bc I have fucked that up for years somehow #<- least obvious collage AND college drop out