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AITA for “cultural appropriation”
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I suit shopping and saw quinceañera dress and make a comment about how it woulda been nice to have had one but meh. My friend got mad saying that if I did it would be cultural appropriation cause im not Latina.
If you’re unfamiliar a quinceañera is a big party to celebrate a girls 15 birthday and her becoming a woman in Latin American cultures. Specifically tho this ask is talking about Mexican culture.
Now you might be saying “yeah you’re 100% the asshole. That is culture appreciation if you aren’t Latina”
Here’s the thing tho
I was.
Currently I’m a transman but I didn’t come out until I was 16 and I pass pretty well now. People think I’m a cis gay boy or some other type of cis mlm. I’m also Latino. My dad is an immigrant and my mom’s second generation (her parents were immigrants). However I’m kinda white passing (both parents have pretty light skin for being Mexican)
But back then as far as everyone knew I was a Latina turning 15 so I COULD have had one. But didn’t for a few reasons (I don’t like being the center of attention, I was in the closet and it woulda been dysphoric, I wanted to use that money to go on vacation instead)
So yeah- AITA? My friend is being pissy about it still saying I need to apologize but literally what did I do wrong???
If there’s any questions I’ll make a throwaway account
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ariadnesweb · 11 months
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In contrast to the first movie, The second spiderverse movie places a lot of emphasis on Miles's Puerto Rican Heritage:
We are introduced to his universe while Miles is protecting a bodega, eating refried empanadas
The background music during this introduction seems to be inspired by the Bomba genre of music, in which dancers keep the beat to the drum.
The main victim of Miles's double-life as Spider-man seems to be his grade in Spanish, as he presumably skipped out on the language he was already familiar with. This is Very Much to his mom's dismay, as Miles's spanish is littered with spanglish.
(It's not that big of a deal, Rio's spanish is also mixed with spanglish, though it's very much a cultural pride thing.)
Rio's main conflict with Miles is that he's growing up away from her, moving away from Brooklyn, very much living a life she doesn't totally understand.
Rio herself lives in a world defined by familial relationships, in which she's brought to talk preemptively at Aaron's funeral by her family (though she would rather wait for Miles's to be there beforehand). She expects Miles to continue the family heritage and pride, and is confused at the idea that he would have to play up the American Dream Myth to get accepted into his chosen university, despite his own middle-class background.
Miles himself is gathering up the courage to break it to his mom that he is his own person, defined by his double-life as Spiderman, and not necessarily in line with her expectations of him.
Miles's own antagonist throughout the film is the alternate universe spiderman, Miguel O'Hara, a mexican and irish man who created and leads the Spider Society.
Miles slots Miguel in as another 'uncle/dad/older brother' parental figure in his life, ala his dad, uncle Aaron, Hobbie, and Peter B., calling him 'tio'.
Your Mileage May Vary on how Miguel connects to Miles culturally, since his main beef with Miles is tied to what 'Spiderman' represents, but I personally find him reminiscent to my own Cuban stepfather, as an older educated man who found his own place in the world at the cost of a lot of harsh life experience. Both his strength and tragedy is shaped by the loss of his 'old world' upon a new one, as well as personal experience with armed violence. These experiences have shaped Miguel to believe himself the 'lone atlas' holding up society, and whose principles as 'The Man' are to be imposed on the younger generations following him (ie, Miles).
(Miles's victory over Miguel is very much to Not Follow His Example, to carve out his own personality and family for himself.)
The movie ends with Miles-1616 being confronted with his world 42 self - a version of himself that didn't become Spiderman, and instead, followed his uncle's footsteps to become the Prowler. Coincidentally, this version of himself has a 'cleaner' spanish pronunciation of his own last name, with shorter vowels and softer sounds.
(Not to downplay Miles's Black Heritage - his relationship with fellow black teen Hobbie Brown is vital, as well as the smaller relationships like Miles & Spider-Byte.) (Or Miles's Brooklyn connections that connect him to New York specifically.)
(Or to stop anyone from relating to Miles and his difficulties becoming his own Spider-Man.)
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hollowsoul12 · 1 year
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Ok so this post was meant to be for a specific bright fan (so im not trying to call out all bright fans or all bright fictives/systems) , but since they have me blocked me since its upload and since they have made it clear that they don't actually care about the victims of bright, I'm making this post anyway.
So, one bright fan on here has decided to make a callout post not only villainizing DJKaktus, but also @daisybellejpeg, you know just the person that is helping make shaw who is a VICTIM OF ADMINBRIGHT S*XUAL AB*SE AND HAS BEEN TRUAMATIZED BY HIS CREATIONS. They claim that Daisybelle is anti-DID/systems and also trying commit Jewish eraser. So since I am very pissed off at the moment, I'm just wanted clear up stuff about that this and leave a little note to people like this fan (also sorry daisy if I put any words in your mouth or act "white knightly", I just feel some else saying something show that their isn't personal bias) :
So for starters, DAISYBELLE IS NOT ANTI-DID/SYSTEMS. They have mentioned multiple times that they acknowledge that they bright systems/fictives are a special situation.
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Plus, Daisy in general is always going to be slightly antagonistic towards bright, them being a direct victim of Adminbright, but so far Daisy (imo) has done a good job being clam about handling people who still hold on to bright (at least better than I have). The only thing they have stated that will not tolerate is people giving shit to them about how they create shaw, as its become a healing tool for them.
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Now the Bright fan that made that post had decided to include two screenshots "proving" that Daisy is anti-DID/system and a Jewish yet completely left out context points.
For the first one, they completely left out the beginning part of conversations and completely doesn't point how the person daisy is responding to has no idea what they are talking about and the fact that person ten starts to act in a sort a jerkish explaining after daisy saying the initial description.
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This, to me, feels very patronizing thing to say especially, and so no surprise Daisy proceeds to go off on them about being patronized. For some reason, though, bright fan tried to twist this into daisy erasing the Jewish rep. This, however, is not only not what they said, as all Daisy said was "you deadass don’t know this since we haven’t even decided on a race", (although I should mention daisy is pushing for shaw to be Mexican American), but even if Shaw isn't Jewish, its probably because they don't want any more connections to bright outside of the number, not because they want erase Jewish people.
As for the second screenshots, while I will admit that daisy was a bit harsh to the user (as they were system stating people to stop using bright and they did make a joke about the way worded on twitter), Daisy, as mentioned before sees Shaw a healing device and people telling others to stop using it doesn't really do anything change. Plus Daisy ends up explaining their point of view in the comments.
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Now their is technically one more set of screenshots that try to prove that Daisy does not understand how DID works, but as I mentioned in the beginning, they have said they aren't a expert on DID and that it is a complex situation. At most they have urged people they use the interfaces on sites block tags that causes problems.
That is about all for me laying out the facts, however one more note for the bright fan that made that callout post and for people like the bright fan: can you fucking not villainize the victims of the Duckman. Like, its one thing to go after Kaktus, but its whole another to go after a victim of Bright, one that has a entire fucking document showing the trauma they endured and still haven't fully healed from it, thus clearly having a continued negative stigmatism. Not only does this make you all look like complete dickheads completely inconsiderate about the victims of adminbright, but also paints of bright fans and system/fictives in a negative light along with you. You could of block the shaw tag. You could have used the interface to ignore all the people that cause your mental state problems. Hell, you could of found or make a character that served as a transition from bright, like Dr. Myriad. But instead you decided to attack a already hurt person and doubling down on usage of the character.
Also, P.S., if that origional poster isn't a fictive/system and was simply using other peoples mental disorders as a way to villainize Daisy, then they can go fuck themselves.
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teecupangel · 1 year
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What if Desmond was one of the shadow soldiers in CoD? Like, he's really good at what he does, so becomes like the right hand man, but when 141 is betrayed, turns on the Americans because 'fuck this shit, this aint what I signed up for'
Shadow Company, in general, has always been more on the side of morally ambiguous since the only time we see them is when they’re working for Shepherd (in both OG and Reboot games) and he’s more on the morally gray area than a full-on villain so, yeah, Desmond could totally be part of Shadow Company.
Hell, instead of being a bartender, he could have found his way into becoming one of the Shadow Company’s recruits in the first place and it would have worked.
They’re mercs for hires but there seemed to be some kind of camaraderie going on among them, most notably seen when Graves said “These guys on the ground... Mexican Special Forces, 141, they are your brothers now. You treat 'em like your own and let's get this done, yeah?” in the mission Close Air and he does have the habit of calling others “brother” which would resonate with Desmond’s desire for a place to belong (especially 16 years old Desmond).
Also, their equivalent to “Roger” is “Yup-yup” and that will never stop sounding both funny and adorable to me.
In a scenario where Desmond becomes a member of Shadow Company, a setup we can use is him quickly rising the ranks and getting the attention of Graves, building some form of bond between them that is both friendship-forged-in-fire and bash-brothers that soon turns him into Graves’ (and Shadow Company’s) unofficial second-in-command.
You can even ‘transplant’ Desmond into Shadow Company as Velikan since Velikan never showed his face and there’s no real information about him. (Velikan is from the multiplayer section of Modern Warfare 2019)
Desmond wouldn’t balk at any questionable methods Shadow Company even does, especially if he joined the PMC at sixteen.
So Desmond turning on Shadow Company during the end of Dark Waters/start of Alone?
It could work if Desmond built a stronger bond with 141 and that is more possible if Desmond joined Shadow Company later (like, say, after the whole Grand Temple deal.) This is the idea that "fuck this shit, this ain't what I signed up for" can definitely be included.
Otherwise, Desmond would only see it as another mission and the only reason why he would take a stand would be if he believes that Graves and the others are getting out of hand (like, for example, them shooting on Soap and Ghost when they were only ordered to shoo them away or detain them if they do not comply).
So yeah, Desmond would betray Shadow Company if he believes they’re in the wrong or if he develops a more close relationship with 141 but his thoughts on what the wrong side is isn’t as clear cut as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ due to his Assassin background.
And if we were to set this up with Desmond joining Shadow Company as a sixteen years old, betraying Shadow Company would be a hardsell at that point as they would have become something akin to a family to him.
And, if he does betray them, he would definitely get some to his side, creating some kind of civil war between two factions in Shadow Company in the middle of Las Almas.
This is also the idea where Desmond would be more "don't make me do this, Graves..." and it would definitely have more angst.
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I’d also just like to note something…
And this part would also be counted as a bit of a spoiler for The Shadow’s Endgame so skip this one if you don’t want to be spoiled:
Shadow Company’s brutality during Las Almas? They only specifically target corrupted officials and police officers, those in the pockets of the cartels.
Yes, they’re definitely war crimes and they do terrorize the citizens (especially the family of their targets) but, at the same time…
It’s not exactly that different from how the Brotherhood operates. They’re not stealthy about it and that was by choice as we have to assume a PMC like them should have the capabilities to be stealthy if they wanted to be, they simply chose not to.
Perhaps they wanted to make an example of Las Almas.
Perhaps they wanted to show the cartels their work.
They attacked a hostile territory and took down the corrupted high-ranking officials…
Kinda like how Assassins used to operate before the modern era.
You might even say…
Shadow Company is what the Brotherhood could have been had they continued to uphold a more militaristic approach and idolized Ezio Auditore’s liberation of Rome.
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mochinomnoms · 4 months
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OH PLEASE TALK ABOUT COCO AND THE BOOK OF LIFE my favorite topic tbh
I prefer the book of life i find the whole "these people that look like wooden dolls are meant to be the ones from the history while real people outside of the history don't have the wood look" amazing and a great detail and LA CATRINAAA??? gorgeous woman (also I should say that idia could be the xibalba in the Catarina and Xibalba dynamic there is just this vibe yk yk)
Book of life came before Coco (plus Disney didn't own the century whatever company that book of life originally was from) and when Disney did make their own Dia de los muertos themed movie they tried to TRADEMARK EL DIA DE LOS MUERTOS TO MAKE MERCH? Insane.
(Making Pastel de choclo and other chilean dishes like pebre but it just isn't the same with regular ingredients instead of your country ingredients yk? LIKE HARVESTED ON YOUR MOTHER COUNTRY it doesn't taste the same I would include that as a step in the recipe that I am giving Azul totally knowing my country doesn't exist in twst and Azul is taking that step seriously lmao)
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Oooh so I didn't have time to answer this yesterday since I was busy at work. But my general thoughts are that while I enjoy both movies and their portrayal of Día de Muertos, the book of life feels (and is) a story made for and by Mexicans for other Mexicans. You can tell from the music styling, the humor, and the artistic style itself! There are for sure some liberties taken (Xibalba is not a god in mythos it's the name of the underworld roughly) but it feels very true and faithful as an experience. Coco, while I enjoy it, feels more like a group of well intending white Americans wanting to make a movie about Día de Muertos, though I'll give credit they did have Latino artists and cultural workers involved. The style of the movie just also feels more American and, as part of a study I did in undergrad, most Mexicans and other Latinos in general feel that it was made with a very general audience in mind rather than Mexicans or Latinos at all.
La Muerte in the book of life is a very interesting version of her and her design is beautiful! Los muertos in general in the first movie have a more fun, varied design to them, while the second movie just looks and feels like another Pixar film. I don't think it's a bad movie, I loved it and the music is wonderful, but it doesn't feel as genuine, especially watching as a Mexican.
If you like the book of life, the creator also has Maya and the Three (set in the same universe) but also created the nickelodeon show Le Tigre and the CN show Victor and Valentino. He's a Mexican animator, so all his shows are set with that background in mind, but it's very enjoyable for anyone to watch! If you're a fan of the music the composer is Gustavo Alfredo Santaolalla, who also did the music for the Last of Us games and show, Brokeback Mountain, and also Maya and the Three.
As for the Disney trademark thing, I know their request was either revoked by Disney themselves or denied due to the backlash. For anyone not super familiar with Latin holidays and stuff, Disney trademarking Día de Muertos is the equivalent of Hallmark trying to trademark Christmas. The only thing they can trademark now is their specific characters and imagery associated with their film, but there's a lot of drama surrounding that and using the likeness of real people and their art in the film without permission.
(I feel you about the food tho, I can't make certain dishes without a very specific brands and items sometimes. I would actually refuse to cause it won't turn out right, and I'm not damning myself or my cooking abilities lmao. Azul would probably get so stressed out with both of us aslkjdalkj)
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So I started to think about the fact that when it comes to romance in fiction, most writers feel like they have an obligation to include it rather than wanting to have fun including it, and they are more acustomed to create drama and obstacles that delay the couple getting together, but when they do get together, they either end the story there or, if the story continues, they don't use the romance to develop the characters and the narrative and, even tough the couple has good chemistry that makes their individual characters and dynamic interesting, instead make the couple break up again to milk the "will they or will they not drama" rather than going trough the hard work of writing the characters remaining in a romantic relationship while living the adventures of the plot.
This is the case with Egon and Janine: even tough they had a subtle chemistry that made them an interesting pair in the first movie, in the second movie the writers ignored that and paired Janine with Louis for no reason while expecting the audience to ignore the previous hints of romance her and Egon.
So I wanted to share three Youtube videos about how most writers take romantic subplots for granted yet have dificult writing romance on film and TV.
One is in spanish by mexican youtuber Proyeto Chaos focusing specifically in TV animation:
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The second is in english by american Youtuber Red from Overly Sarcastic Productions and focuses on the dificulties of developing romantic subplots in media in general:
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And the third is by the Youtube Channel Council of Geeks with specific focus on Romance in Superhero Comic Books:
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muchalucha-art · 1 year
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Mentioning broadcast standards and practices, did you guys ever feel restricted by what you could show, especially in action scenes? Or even other ways, like making things for casual American audiences? (I've seen complaints about the show using donuts instead of churros)
Hi there - and thanks for your question.
Yes, action scenes were the big restriction. Wrestling holds that could be imitated were a concern to the network, as was physical contact.
But on a cultural level, we were never under any instructions to cater specifically for a US sensibility. In fact, the network were happy we embraced and portrayed the cultural side of lucha libre - while acknowledging the fact that a lot of the characters were possibly first or second generation American.
As for the donuts. It was a direct reference to a Mexican luchador named La Parka, who we read had opened a donut shop in Monterrey! We had a lot of little insider references like this that only lucha libre fans would get. So accusations of cultural generalizing cut both ways: maybe those with the issues should look deeper into the show with an open mind and hopefully realize we were all about celebrating something rather than exploiting it. :) -Eddie
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mildredpierce8 · 1 year
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BEAR WITH ME AND MY RANT ABT THE NEW FITO PAEZ BIOPIC TV SHOW ON NETFLIX
OK......
So, basically Netflix released a biopic tv show about the life of Argentinian rock star Fito Paez and I'm literally so excited to watch it for a number of reasons, but the second I found out that this was a thing I got the urge to go on tumblr and just explode so here goes.
The show is called "El Amor despues del Amor", named after Paez's sensational hit song linked below:
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*please listen its actually so good
Anyways the gringos butchered it and dubbed the show in English to be called Love After Music which makes no fucking sense because the song literally translates to Love after Love not Love after Music and it is just sooo stupid, but anyway what can I do abt that.
This show excites me so much, first of all, because I think Fito Paez 10000000% deserves this kind of recognition, because he really is one of the most iconic latinamerican artists of his generation, and his music challenged the assumption that good pop and rock music could only be made and produced in English.
I guess mostly the reason this show excites me is because it is a show about a latinamerican rock artist, which you just don't get that often and I have been dying to see one. (Also, Argentinian alternative rock is definitely one of my hyper-specific fandoms and new content being produced for it is really exciting).
My mission in life, amongst other things, is to give the South and Central American rock scene the recognition it deserves, because often times people act like it doesn't exist, and new wave/ 80s pop/rock only came out of the US or England. Latinamerican rock serves an extremely important purpose in society, as it was quite literally revolutionary. (I'm bullshitting and tired, so ignore the uneccessary sentences, but my point is valid). Rock in Argentina was used to fight back against A LITERAL MILITARY DICTATORSHIP. And the fact that all the rock music biopics are still England and US centric is really annoying.
I'm not saying I don't enjoy shows or movies about music produced in the US or England, but there are so many amazing stories to tell from the perspective and about the lives of Hispanic musicians. Why are they constantly overlooked?
AND NOT JUST ABOUT MUSIC
Where are the movies about Argentinian Military Dictatorship? (IK they exist guys im just saying we should talk more about the fact that it happened). Actually for anyone interested pls watch the movie "Argentina, 1985", it is great!
Where are the movies about indigenous communities being wiped from existence in virtually every South American country?
Or, as a Colombian, can we get a show about terrorism or the drug trade in Colombia that isn't made from the bullshit NARCOS perspective of white guy policemen saviors, when we all know that all American cops did in Colombia was militarize our police forces and teach them how to abuse the public.
I'm getting off topic
THERE ARE AMAZING MUSIC STORIES COMING OUT OF LATIN AMERICA
Like the entire Mexican punk rock scene it is so cool
Cafe Tacvba, Maldita, Caifanes.
Where's the series abt Colombian metalheads. The metal scene was huge.
Or the goth scene. There was a time where you would walk on the street and you would see crowds of Morticias going to dance The Cure at a club.
Or the fact that Seru Giran recorded their first album in exile in Brazil bcs the government literally had them on a hitlist.
Which speaking of Seru Giran, how is there not a movie abt that yet. Seru Giran is such an iconic fucking band led by none other than Charly Garcia. They are a gift from God to humanity, they are pioneers of progressive rock, I don't know anyone like them. And I'm always saying this but if Seru Giran were British or American they would be just as highly regarded as the Beatles or the Rolling Stones or Pink Floyd because they are just too good.
Here are some Seru Giran songs everyone should listen to:
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*this man is everything. synth on top of a keyboard on top of a piano.
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Anyways, if you're still reading at this point you are very dedicated and i appreciate that.
And side note, please watch this performance of Charly Garcia, Fito Paez and the one and only Fabi Cantilo bcs it is too good:
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*ojos de videotape is one of the most beautiful songs ever written and sometimes idk if its even real.
OKAY SO, TO CONCLUDE THIS EXTREMELY INCOHERENT RAMBLING,
I am extremely happy about the fact that latino stories are being told in media like this because its something that i feel as a fan of rock music and a latina i have been missing from my life. And you may think why do we need movies abt dictatorship or drug deals or terrorism. Doesn't that just perpetuate the stereotype that that's all your country has. NO ON THE CONTRARY. When it's told by big American corporations, it often loses meaning. Shows written by latinos about latinamerican experiences showcase the reason I am so proud to be latina. Because we are a resilient people. Our humanity shines through even in the darkest of times. In the midst of wars and dictatorship, we can come up with shit like this and it is so cool. And I wish there was more recognition for that.
So yeah maybe this isn't a rant abt Fito Paez, even though I love him so much. And I'm more than sure this show is about his life and not about Argentinian military dictatorship.
But I guess mostly I hope this will encourage more latino filmmakers to tell our stories. Tell our stories because they are so cool, and I love watching movies abt rockstars. But I would love it so much more to watch movies about rockstars who look like me.
So I'll get back to this after I watch the show. Chau :)
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capricornsicle · 1 year
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So here's a comment I received on this post (I shared the promo picture of Amy Workman as Hikari Zhang for the Teen Wolf movie, as well as a behind-the-scenes of her that was posted on her official Instagram page).
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(Image: Comment from Tumblr user @thyfggfy. It reads, "I don't see a problem as long as she looks the part. I mean isn't that the whole idea of acting? Pretending to be someone you are not. Should we also be mad that Stiles wasn't portrayed by a half Polish actor?")
My tags on this post, which thyfggfy responds to, are basically "hope they don't send her to the desert" and "there's a joke here about Hollywood assuming all East Asians are the same".
To take things one at a time, the first statement. I am assuming none of this is meant in malice, and is genuine, as I see no reason to assume otherwise.
"She looks the part." But does she? Amy Workman is a Chinese-American actor. Hikari Zhang is a Chinese-Japanese character. There's a similar situation with Arden Cho (Korean-American) as a Korean-Japanese character. Can you hire any East Asian to play another, or to play a mixed East Asian character when they are not mixed?
Well, yes. You can hire anyone to play anyone. But is it good? No. Because saying a Chinese actor looks enough like Japanese to play the character is like to say a Russian is basically Serbian or Bulgarian or Polish or Swedish. It's not the same, and people will get offended if you assume it is. Especially when there is race involved, because it's so common in the US (where the show/movie is made) to hear "all Asians look the same" or "all brown people look the same" or "all poc look the same", or so on. A close Chinese friend of mine is often asked to translate something from Japanese or Korean. I am often called Mexican (I am mixed Native American/Cree and Arab/Syrian). It's rude, and it's racism.
Not to mention, you can circumvent this problem easily. Either send a casting call for a Chinese-Japanese character, if one is needed, or change the character to be just Chinese when you hire a Chinese actor. I like the second, as Amy Workman is fantastic and I'm excited to see her in the movie. It's not like kitsune is specific to Japan. In Japan there's きつね/kitsune, in China there's 狐狸精/huili jing, in Korea there's 구미호/kumiho or gumiho, in Vietnamese there's 狐狸精/hồ ly tinh. All are fox spirits. So why keep the character mixed Japanese? I think because, to Hollywood, and especially to the Teen Wolf writers, it's close enough, right? But it's really not.
Next, "acting is pretending". You're right, it is. In grade school productions, I pretended to be Brutus in Julius Caesar, a forest fairy in Midsummer Night's Dream, a man with a broken hip in The Man Who Came to Dinner, and, in other plays, variously dead, grieving, injured, drunk, old, young, rich, poor, a traitor, a villain, a hero, a martyr, and so on. But I was pretending to be a kind of person having a certain experience. I wasn't pretending to be another race. Because that is a bad thing.
Lastly, "should we therefore insist Stiles is half Polish?". Well, first of all, he's not. What we know about Stiles' ancestry is this: he is named after his mother's father, his grandfather, who is Mieczysław, a Polish name. That's all we know. We don't know if his maternal grandfather is Polish or he was a first- or second- or x-generation immigrant or anything else. We don't even know if this person was Polish, or if it was another Slavic country. We certainly can't say that Stiles is half-Polish. We don't know that his maternal grandmother is, we don't know that his mother is. But it's fair to assume that Stiles is around 1/4 Polish and his grandfather is a first- or second-generation immigrant.
And because literally all we know about Stiles and being Polish is a name, we can't say that the character himself would identify as Polish, would speak the language, would practice Polish culture. We simply don't know. Fandom likes to assert that fanon and headcanon is basically canon, but headcanon does not make absolute truth, and it doesn't serve in place of canon. We can't assume a level of Polish heritage is absolute fact that may or may not exist.
That's not to say that you can't headcanon Stiles as being thoroughly Polish, because you can do whatever you want, and that's why there are such excellent fanworks as this one by KuriKuri (a fantastic Sciles fic that heavily involves Polish language, food, and overbearing grandmothers -- go read it!). I enjoy anything that expands upon the world characters live in.
But another important thing here is that Polish is not a race. It's a nationality. You can cast one white American guy to play another white American guy no problem, because you can't visually tell one white American from another. The only real differences are language -- there are dialects and accents in English that are harder to imitate and, depending on what kind of story you're telling, might have benefited from a different actor or a change to the character.
And if casting for a character who is European-American, you can often benefit from an actor who is the same, especially if the story involves them speaking the language a lot, but it doesn't necessarily mean you need an actor of the same heritage. For example, while Crystal Reed is a great actor, she did not make a very convincing French woman in 5x18 Maid of Gevaudan, and as a native French speaker I would have preferred if they had taken some measures to alleviate listening to a fake French accent that wasn't very good -- an American accent would have done less to take me out of the story, or if her lines had been dubbed over by a French speaker, or whatever. But it's not hurting anyone to have someone do an unconvincing French accent, because French is not a race which is often discriminated against and subject to racism. The same does not apply for Chinese, Japanese, and Korean actors and characters, because racism is always hurting people.
In fanwork, though, you can do whatever you want. Let me not be maliciously misquoted as saying anything but. You can write characters with how much or how little heritage you like, because you're not tracking ancestry, you're telling a story, through writing, through art, through audio, through any medium. But it is vitally important to recognize fanwork as just that. Fan-made work that appreciates some part of the source material, and fills in a gap that the source doesn't go into depth on -- or tears it down and rebuilds it, for fix-its and AUs and the like. Fanwork isn't canon, and you cannot treat it like canon. Everyone's interpretation of the source is valid and acceptable, because it is an individual, personal interpretation they have chosen to share. Biased? Often. Prejudiced? Unfortunately, also often. But acceptable? Always.
Though when it comes to Teen Wolf, well... A lot of the time people who headcanon Stiles as more Polish than he appears to be on the show also refuse to believe that Scott is Latino. His mother's maiden name is Delgado, both his parents are Latino, the actor is Mexican. And yet so often fandom will, on the one hand, call Stiles Polish and talk about his heritage and culture, refer to Derek's "Native American cheekbones" (I wish this was fake. I wish I did not read the post that talked about this. Sometimes I hate it here.) and assume based on a later-retracted tweet by Hoechlin that he was learning more about his ancestry and believed there was something Native American there (and I have a lot of posts about dubious Native American "ancestry") that Derek is therefore Native American (I love fanwork as much as the next person, but No.), or blah blah blah, and insist that Scott cannot be Latino.
And of course there is a lot of racism there, because there is a lot of racism in this fandom. I don't think the vast majority of people are doing it on purpose (although I can think of a few people who have all the resources to know better and remain obstinate about being a tool), but it's impossible not to notice when you look for it.
If fans want to talk about characters having interesting heritage to connect with, how about the Hispanic/Latino heritage of Scott McCall/his family (actor/mentioned in canon), Erica Reyes (by surname), Nolan Holloway (actor is Latino/Caxcan), Gabe Valet (actor is Brazilian), Josh Diaz (surname/actor is Brazilian), Theo Raeken (actor is Penobscot tribe -- like, actually a member), Tracy Stewart (actor is Chinese -- and while there's a lot to dislike about Kelsey Asbille her character remains interesting), Danny Mahealani (actor/character is Hawaiian), Corinne/The Desert Wolf (actor is Latina), Nathan Pierce (actor is Singaporean), the Calaveras (all Mexican), Hayden Romero (surname/actor is Latina), Jiang (actor is Chinese), Satomi Ito (Japanese), the Yukimuras (Korean and Japanese).
The reason no one seems to want to write about these characters, and Stiles is always the center of attention, even in posts like these where he was never even implied? Well, to paraphrase @princeescaluswords, I'm sure it has nothing to do with race.
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When I was little I didn't know that racism between white and black people was a thing
It's going to sound weird, but while I knew that racism existed when I was little, I didn't know that racism from white people against black people was a thing.
Because on both sides of my family I've got cousins (like second cousins and stuff, people from my parents generation) who married black spouses.
So I grew up with cousins who were black (step cousins? my mom's cousin adopted them when their parent married in, then there's their younger half siblings who I'm blood related to) and mixed on both sides of my family, but I was closer with the cousins on my maternal side, probably because there were more of them closer in age to me.
So the idea that there was a time in history where white people and black people weren't allowed to get married was shocking to me.
Racism against other kind of POC however I was far more familiar with, for various reasons.
Either by way of the vaguely racist jokes and slurs that would get tossed out by older relatives against asian, latino, and middle eastern people (very few of those in my family).
Or- OR various members of my family getting mistaken for being latino. Specifically my dad, older sister, aunt, and cousin (both from my dad's side of the family) who all have been mistaken for latino at one point or another.
But the person in my family that this happens to the most is my dad.
For being what I can only describe as a dark skinned white person.
Like literally.
My dad did one of those at home dna ancestry tests once, nothing but german, english, and french as far as the test could tell. Man should be pasty as far as the dna results say, but he stays 2 shades darker than the rest of us year round.
He gets mistaken for latino by actual latinos regularly, it's a whole thing. Especially if he ends up working a job with multiple latino co-workers.
Which is also hilarious because his dad (my grand dad) was technically legally mexican because he was born in mexico (even though my dad's grand parents on that side were born and raised in the USA, so I don't even know the story of about how my grand dad ended up being born in mexico), but that's a whole other thing.
Anyways there was a 2 or 3 year gap between me learning that racism as a concept exists (only so many times your mom can tell you not to repeat what your older relative says because it's racist before the idea clicks), and learning that white people being racist against black people specifically was a really big thing that existed, specifically in american history.
There really was a brief period of my life where I thought racism was a white people vs latinos vs asian vs middle eastern people thing.
Which is a different kind of horrible when you take into account that I have a younger cousin who's adopted from pakistan who I literally heard another older relative of mine call Sand N*gg*r when he was out of ear shot when he was like 5 years old.
SO yeah, I knew racism was alive and well, but the people I was around growing up tended to keep black people out of the conversation due to the multiple interracial marriages involving black people, along with like a half dozen mixed cousins in total, in my family.
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Sorry for making this a post @thebleedingwoodland, but this was just too long for comments.
So, as part of a conversation about this post regarding the problematic nature of, specifically, Shang Simla, there was this reply:
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And my response, cut in order to spare your dash:
See, that's the thing! As a USian, I wouldn't be at all insulted by a "Simerica" world being represented by an Eiffel Tower icon. I would go "WTF?" and then think it hilarious and just play the world. But that isn't the same as a supposedly Chinese world being represented by a torii icon, because Japan and China are historical enemies, whereas the US and France have been allies since before the US was a country and before France was a republic. A closer equivalent in insult, I think, would be a "Simerica" world represented by a hammer and sickle or something recognizably Russian, like a silhouette of St. Basil's Cathedral in Moscow or something like that. That might anger some USians because the US and Russia are historical enemies. (I, personally, would think it weird but still wouldn't be insulted, but I might be in the minority there.)
The others…I certainly wouldn't be insulted by a burger and spaghetti served on the same plate. In fact, as I type this, I'm eating tamales (a traditional Mexican food that my Mexican mother-in-law made for me) and a bowl of Chinese-style fried rice for dinner, and later I'm going to have a slice of fresh-baked apple pie and some ice cream for dessert. I'm pretty sure I've seen a combo meal of burgers and spaghetti on the menu in a few US diners. I'm not sure how Italians would feel about that, but I don't think any American would give it a second thought. Give me all the stereotypical cowboy gun duels, please (because in a fictional setting they're cool, and I live in what was the "Old West"), and, indeed, a significant portion of US citizens are overweight/obese (though I have the opposite problem, due to a chronic condition), so portraying them that way would just be accurate. Make them all have a "rude" or "loud" trait, and we're in business. (And I'd be LMAO.)
I think the overall issue here is that American corporations cater to Americans, and the US in general sucks at cultural sensitivity. Mix that with American exceptionalism and you have a recipe for disaster. I could be wrong, but I think this is partly because the US is populated mostly by immigrants combined with the fact that US culture varies greatly from region to region, precisely because US citizens have all sorts of backgrounds on top of the usual differences between urban and rural people. As such, there is no unifying American culture, nor is there any major aspect of it that is particularly unique to here and that would be considered insulting if not portrayed properly. Instead, it's a "culture" stitched together from pieces of many others. I'm going to guess that this is why many Americans don't fully grasp why culture is so important to people in other countries or even among certain marginalized groups here in the US. In turn, I would imagine that people from other countries/cultures, particularly countries that are fairly monocultural for whatever reason, often don't understand how Americans are or can be OK with the cultural "melting pot" that America is ideally supposed to be.
In the end, I think the goal with the WA worlds was not accuracy -- which would, indeed, require research -- but rather simply creating an easily recognizable backdrop for the quests. Unfortunately, that only requires, in Shang Simla's case, including anything that "looks Chinese," and that was as far as EA's "thinking" went. So you have the Great Wall and Japanese torii and, of all things, completely American "Chinese" things like fortune cookies and egg rolls. I'm not saying that this is a good thing. It isn't. At all. I think it's terrible (though unfortunately not surprising) that the average USian can't tell the difference between things that are Chinese and things that are Japanese. Worse, it's terrible that many also don't understand why mashing together things from those cultures is insulting to both of them. I'm just saying that that's what it is. EA should have done better, but they didn't. USians in general should do better, just as people in other countries should do better than believe that people not from their own country/culture are all one way or another. But, this is the world we live in, at least for now.
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National Nachos Day
November 6 is National Nachos Day! On this day we celebrate everyone’s favorite snack no matter how you make it. Chicken or beef? Beans or salsa? Cheddar or that yellow stuff they top chips with at football games? There’s no one specific way to make it as long as it has two main ingredients: Chips and as much cheese as you can pile on!
History of National Nachos Day
Any discussion about the history of nachos has to begin in the Mexican border town of Piedras Negras — just west of the Rio Grande — across which sits Eagle Pass, Texas. One day in 1943 the wives of U.S. soldiers stationed at Ft. Duncan dropped in on a Piedras Negras hotspot called the Victory Club.
Unfortunately the restaurant had closed for the day.
Still, a manager named Ignacio “Nacho” Anaya decided to throw a dish together based on whatever ingredients he still had left. Among them? Cheese and tortillas. Anaya sliced the fried tortillas into triangles, added some shredded cheddar and jalapeño peppers — and started a new tradition which bears his name to this day. (Thanks Nacho! Where would out Super Bowl parties be without you?)
Speaking of which, an alternative take on nachos — using the now familiar cheese sauce — appeared at a Texas Rangers baseball game at Arlington Stadium in 1976. Two years later the iconic ABC sportscaster Howard Cosell mentioned the term “nachos” during a Monday Night Football game — helping to turn this rather simple dish into an American tradition.
Note: Piedras Negras continues to celebrate “The International Nacho Festival” each October — complete with live music, art, cultural activities, and a “giant nacho” contest.
National Nachos Day timeline
1954 By the book
The St. Anne's Cookbook published Anaya's original recipe for nachos.
1959 Nachos Go Coastal
An L.A. waitress named Carmen Rocha, brings the dish to Southern California’s El Cholo restaurant.
1978 Monday Night nachos
Famed sportscaster Howard Cosell, turns an entire nation onto a new snack during a game between the then-Baltimore Colts and Dallas Cowboys.
2019 Nachos are a home run
The Houston Astros tribute “Walkoff Nachos” on the menu at Minute Maid Park to second baseman Jose Altuve's iconic “walk-off” home run.
National Nachos Day FAQs
When did nachos become popular?
While a Mexican hotel manager created the dish in 1943, a U.S. sportscaster gets credit for popularizing nachos in 1976 during a Monday Night Football game. Are nachos unhealthy?
Deep fried foods topped with melted cheese generally don’t rate high with cardiologists. Try going heavy on colorful vegetables and using whole-grain flour. Or just limit yourself to Super Bowl nachos once a year. Who invented nachos?
Credit goes to Ignacio “Nacho” Anaya, who first created them for the wives of U.S. servicemen at a Mexican hotel restaurant in 1943.  
National Nachos Day Activities
Have a nacho competition
Hit your local cineplex
Perfect the chip-to-cheese ratio
They have chili cookoffs, barbecue competitions, and even bake-offs, so why not an annual nacho competition? Well, you’ll be happy to know that at the Port Jefferson Station in New York, they actually do hold an annual Nacho Fest, but you don’t have to go there to experience it! What with the many ways you can serve up this crunchy culinary masterpiece, invite some of your most talented tortilla artists over to bring their best recipe to the table.
At this point, nachos have become just as much a movie theater staple as popcorn. This National Nachos Day, try taking in a blockbuster while skipping on the popcorn. Instead, when you hit the concession stand, make a hot, melty plate of nachos the star of the show. Don’t forget the extra cheese!
One flaw many people note about nachos is that you can only cover so many tortilla chips with cheese. Eventually, you’re left with the bottom chips, which might as well have been left in the bag where you found them. This doesn’t have to be the case! Next time, place those chips on a cookie sheet and space them apart. Cover each chip with cheese and bake. Plate the chips and top with your favorite extras. You’ll guarantee those bottom chips get all the cheesy love they deserve.
Why We Love National Nachos Day
They’re perfect for any party
They can be topped with just about anything
They can be a snack or a meal
Is there any celebration nachos aren’t welcome? Seriously, Super Bowl, Fourth of July, birthdays — if you’re bringing nachos, you might as well throw on a cape while you’re at it because you just became the hero of the party! Don’t be that person who shows up with a five-dollar bag of plain potato chips;  whip out that salsa and make a statement!
It doesn’t have to be all about the guacamole and hot sauce. You can make nachos that fit any style of cuisine. How about giving your nachos a Mediterranean flare by subbing out those tortillas and beans for pita chips and hummus? Fan of Italian food? Try crisping up some pizza dough and topping it with marinara and mozzarella! The possibilities are endless.
It’s hard to really classify what nachos actually are. The chips would lead you to believe they’re a snack, but what with all those toppings, how can it not be a meal? That’s the great thing about nachos, they can be either. Perfect for either lunch or dinner, nachos are also only one fried egg away from being a breakfast staple as well!
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Oh, I forgot to mention this in his character profile, but Jack Kelly in the Ghost AU is Afro-Latino. His mother was a second-generation American of Mexican heritage, and his father was a black man whose family has lived in the US for at least six generations. That's typically how I picture Jack in any AU I make nowadays, but I wanted to make sure I mention it specifically for this AU since it will be somewhat important to a future plotline of Past, Present, Future
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1: write about your name. where did it come from? what does it mean?
like practically every name out there, mine has many different origins from different cultures around the world. i think it became somewhat popular or more well known in the 1950s, specifically in 1953 when it was ‘coined’ by American actor Tyrone Power and his then-wife Mexican actress Linda Christian for their second daughter Taryn Stephanie Power. contradicting this, while my name is seen as relatively new, it was used often in 18th century Ireland as a combination of ‘tara’ (meaning hills) and ‘Erin’ (meaning ireland). so the ‘original’ meaning of Taryn is ‘the hills of Ireland’. But it can also translate into ‘rocky hill’. apparently my name comes from a history of being sacred to the celts but i didn’t do enough research there to be completely right. the chart below shows the many different meanings of my name with different languages (my favorite is either hebrew or greek) i love my name, it seems to have an ancient history while also being relatively modern, which doesn’t make a lot of sense but i think it fits me perfectly :)
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12: did you travel as a child? what were your favorite places to visit?
we did travel a lot when i was a child, mostly staying in country (we hit all 50 states before i graduated high school) i know its cliche and a generic answer, but my favorite place we visited was Disney world. i always enjoyed going there, the controlled chaos and the ambiance of the place just stuck with me. i’ve been there quite a few times yet it’s never gotten boring, i love the food and it’s just - i don’t know how to describe it, but disney has always felt like home. i also enjoyed going down to orange beach, just staying in the condo we rented with my grandparents, reading/writing while listening to the crash of the oceans waves as my sisters built sandcastles. it was always a relaxing trip.
27: write about your most memorable birthday
i don’t really know about my most memorable birthday, i’ve never had one of those cinematic birthdays where everything is either perfect or goes terribly wrong. i remember my 13th very well, not because it was the best birthday i’ve ever had but because it was my first sleepover with people i wasn’t related too (tho my cousin was there bc they’re my best friend). it was also the year i was gifted a mini chocolate fountain by my friends, a box set of the entire ‘I love Lucy’ series, and the year i accidentally threw an Oreo at my friends eye. hopefully my future birthdays will be better as i venture further into being an adult, which is terrifying but it is what it is.
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if you want a great female rapper who doesn't really talk about sex can i suggest snow tha product? she's a mexican-american artist that's been around for like almost twenty years. she's also bisexual and has been with her partner juju for around five years. she raps in spanish and english so idk if you know spanish or not but it's awesome music either way.
I know I can seem serious a lot, but I actually often make jokes that I expect zero people to take seriously. And so I am rather bemused when people do take them seriously.
So since people are taking me way too seriously:
My "female rappers go a song without talking about dick challenge go" post was VERY tongue-in-cheek. I'm very aware of snow tha product actually (I believe I became aware of her because one of her songs was featured in the second season of She's Gotta Have It, and I really liked it), as well as Angel Haze, noname, Chika, Young M.A, and the billion other fucking suggestions people have sent me as though my post was a request for that. Just about any female rapper out there who isn't singing about sex, I'm at least vaguely aware/familiar with, including many from the UK as well. This isn't me attacking you, but to anyone on my page, I don't fucking need suggestions.
My point is that the MAINSTREAM BLACK FEMALE RAPPERS of this generation are all hypersexual. Period. The end. And that is a PROBLEM. None of the suggestions I get are from popular female rappers playing on the radio (do people listen to that? whatever) or topping the charts. They're not winning awards and being talked about in the mainstream. They're not in our daily conversations, few people are following them on socials, and because of all of that, they get little support from their labels (if they're even signed with one). As such, there are huge gaps between song releases, their songs are never that catchy or have mainstream appeal, all because studios decided they can't sexualize the hell out of them so there's no point in giving them a lot of studio time and sessions with engineers and song writers to pump out at least a full length album every year or two.
And even then, no offense to them, a lot of their songs and vibes aren't compatible with me. I love hip hop. I love pop. I love songs and beats I can dance to. I love catchy choruses. I love repetition, crescendos, beat changes, and fast paced flows. There's a reason I was a huge Nicki fan back in the day. I'm an east coast girl who loves that east coast, fast moving, can barely keep up with what they're saying, rap styles.
Meg gets to do a remix to Salt n Pepa's Push It, and she can afford the royalties and copyrights or whatever goes into that because she has a big label behind her that can afford it, and will do it because she's gonna rap about something sexual that they can push to objectify her and they'll get their money's worth (love the song, but I recognize the game is all). Meg gets to collab with big pop stars with songs that top Billboard. Beyonce featuring on a Chika song? Is Snow tha Product getting a song topping the charts on Billboard? She hasn't had a single song even make it on the US Billboard chart.
And I'm not saying that to put them down; it's to show how our society doesn't appreciate talented women who they can't hypersexualize. Who they can't throw a thong on her and send her out. And this is why up and coming rappers/newer artists play into that. From Doja Cat to Saweetie (who's sexualized image is literally ALL she has going for her; she has zero real talent) to the Shitty--I mean, City Girls, to Coi Leray (who that post was specifically referencing).
Talented Black (and brown) women get snubbed and ignored for the women who are fully willing to put their entire asses and pussies on display, rap almost exclusively about sucking and fucking dick or how great men love fucking them, and are willing to do whatever it takes to doll themselves up and objectify themselves for men to enjoy and for women to aspire to be like. Docile, pretty fuck dolls and little more. And any woman who can't be that (either due to looks/beauty standards, her personality/not wanting to be a sex object, etc) might get a little hype, but never too much. And def never more than women who happily stay in line.
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It is such whiplash to like... have intense imposter syndrome to a point where I immediately wanted to leave the round dance within minutes of getting there, then finally starting to relax and make small talk with some people and then get lost in the actual dancing
then coming home and reading this screenshot quoting Jacqueline Keeler:
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“Native American doesn’t mean Mexican Indians. It means Native people whose lands are under occupation here in the 48 states by the United States of America,” Keeler says, explaining that she is focused on political and legal status (Littlefeather was never an enrolled member of a tribe) because of the heavy ramifications of that experience across generations. “If you’re not enrolled in a tribe, you are not subject to Indian federal law [and] all of the trauma that happened under any of those terrible policies” such as the forced removal of Native children and placement into boarding schools and foster homes.
biiiig angry rant under the cut
I just can't get over the line "If you’re not enrolled in a tribe, you are not subject to Indian federal law [and] all of the trauma that happened under any of those terrible policies" because that is quite possibly one of the most insulting, stupid, and arrogant fucking things you can say so casually without even a second thought.
When I worked in state government I started to become a lot more informed about ICWA.
So like, did you know that if there's a child whose parents are enrolled but that child is not eligible for enrollment because of silly little things like blood quantum or being mixed from different tribes that all have different enrollment requirements, that child is legally not considered subject to Indian federal law?? ICWA is designed for Native children to be placed with their biological families first if taken into foster care, or within their communities, or within an Indigenous home before even considering a non-Native home. This is specifically because children were stolen en masse and given to non-Native families as recently as the 60s. I have given tobacco to and marched at protests with residential school survivors because quite a lot of them are still alive! Hello, the fucking epigenetics of trauma exist also!! PTSD research shows that descendants of trauma survivors have physical changes in their brain chemistry too.
Jacqueline Keeler exists in a world I guess where if you aren't enrolled then none of the trauma of displacement could ever happen to you, silly!! Except of course if you're taken into fucking foster care away from your family and culture, which is exactly the same trauma that your ancestors went through for generations!
Literally, just tonight at dinner, I was talking with a Tulalip guy who asked me if I worked for the school district and I said "nah but I'm an alumni from this district" (this was an event from the school district I graduated from as well as the local tribes) and we chatted a bit. I said I was Yurok and Métis and he was like "cool" and turned to one of his relatives and was like "Aren't you a bit Yurok?" and she went "What?? No". That's it. If I go on twitter I run into the fear that I'm going to get BraveWarrior3874429759 wanting the exact algebraic formula for what my BQ is before he decides if I'm faking or not. Or we get people like Keeler.
For years I've been really trying to think about the concept of being raised Indigenous. Racially I'm white, am always perceived as such, etc etc. That's reality. I think about my grandma and her brother who got raised by their grandpa who said "I never want them to feel like orphans" after their parents died. It was his own grandmother who was orphaned in the genocide. He moved to Los Angeles because it was safer to be seen as Mexican than as Native, and there are many other California NDNs that have the same family story like that. We're not enrolled but thanks to the help of relatives that died before we could know them, my mom and grandma still got literal reparations money for the land our family lost. When I reached out to the Little Shell tribe just to find more information on my ancestors on my dad's side, the sole enrollment officer (at the time, I'm not sure if they've hired new people now) told me we were cousins and gave me a lot of copies of documents should I try to enroll. I had already told her I can't but she did this anyway.
Toby Vanladingham, on twitter, had a thread a few months ago talking about how there's several Yurok tribal members that are enrolled because they meet the requirements in the tribal constitution in ways aside from just blood degree. He then went on to say that it really doesn't matter because they still recognize who is Yurok regardless of their enrollment status.
I can go on and on about this because the point isn't that we don't experience the trauma, it's that we are still welcomed to experience the culture and our family histories. That's the whole fucking point. My ancestors suffered greatly and made choices that I am still trying to understand in hopes that their descendants would not have to suffer. I think as long as I live I will never, ever understand the terror papa Andy felt or what Angeline went through in that school. I'm angry every time I remember my mom telling me how when she was a little girl and papa Andy told her "Don't tell anybody you're an Indian", and remembering her telling me that confusion growing up about what that meant. I go to these events in person and force myself to confront the immense discomfort over and over again because it gets easier each time, but only by small degrees, and I do this knowing that I am always going to be an outsider. I'm doing it anyway. Fuck Keeler and fuck this whole mindset.
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