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bentonthegay · 5 months

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Ya know, it took me a long time to accept that gender (and sexuality) is so complicated and individual that for some people, there may never be a perfect word or even a perfect few words to label it with 100% accuracy. I spent many years trying on different identities, trying on identities that felt partially right but like I was missing something, and many that felt comfortable for a little while and then things changed.

In my strong desire to just find a few labels that could encompass all of me, I got really stressed and frustrated. I wanted to know which communities I would relate to the most! Even when I tried to just take a break and allowed myself into trans man spaces and nonbinary spaces, I found that I related to some or many people in each category, but not everything. After so long of just giving up it hit me. One, that I was allowed to be both. I could be nonbinary and a guy. Two, that everyone is so diverse that I'm going to relate to people of so many different identities, and there will be people who share the same labels as me that I will not relate to at all.

I can relate to some genderfluid people in some aspects, androgyne people, nonbinary trans mascs, binary trans men, femboys etc. and it's okay for me to look at experiences of people who don't share the exact same labels as me. I used to feel as if it was wrong or "intruding" for me to do so. I don't have to use a label to relate to common experiences, and I also realized I don't need to fit a label 100% to use it. I had similar issues with my sexuality.

In addition, I had to learn to be okay with not knowing every facet of my gender. I know who I am, and what I like, but I can't tell you every piece that makes up my internal gender puzzle. And I can't say with full accuracy that my sexuality is one specific thing set in stone.

I'm a nonbinary trans man. I know I'm a guy, I know I'm nonbinary. I know at least one aspect of my gender is androgyne, and I'm not sure if that is the reason I have some internal sense of feminity with my gender, but I'm fine with that. I can't say I'm fluid but it's not completely static either. I do have some fluctuations that are usually small, with the extremely rare stronger change.

I consider myself gay. I include nonbinary in my gayness because I'm both a guy and nonbinary (also the majority of my partners have ended up coming out as nonbinary during our relationships). But I know I'm capable in some circumstances of being attracted to a woman or someone who leans heavily on that side of the spectrum. Primarily if a partner ever came out to me as one and went down that transition path. But generally speaking, I'm gay, in my own way. It'd be more accurate to say men and in many cases, masculinity and androgyny. Feminine guy? Hell yeah. Feminine woman? depends lol

I'm also aspec which is weird and unique. I consider myself demisexual(/romantic). I do experience strong sexual attraction and am very sex favorable, and Ive come to understand that's partially the reason why I'd still love and be attracted to a partner if they ever realized they were a woman. But my Demi-ness doesn't require knowing someone for a long time necessarily. I can develop an emotional bond very very quickly in the right circumstances. I don't have a lot of issues when it comes to relating to a lot of "allo things" because I can relate to many, just maybe but in the traditional sense of the word. I can find random people hot AF, but it's more strong aesthetic attraction than actually wanting to bang them.

I can consume adult content because I don't do so for the people in the content itself, I just naturally "self insert" for the fantasy aspects of what's going on.

This is all to say, it took me way too long to understand that I'm not ever going to be exactly like another queer person, and that's okay. Yes it can feel alienating when I can't relate to so much that is correlated to a specific identity I use, but I know I'm not alone in that, even if not in every way.

It's been 8 years since I came out as trans, as of December 3rd 2023 💜 I'm so proud of how far I've come.

#lgbtqia #lgbt #lgbtq+#nonbinary #demisexual #demiromantic #aspec #trans #trans guy #nonbinary trans guy

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gem-of-a-miqote · 11 months

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Happy Pride month! While my charas not shown are straight leaning, most of my charas are lgbt+ Here's a basic overview of them

Stay strong!

[An image of my oc's from FFXIV,from left to right; Maurelin, bi. Vayla, lesbian. Fergus, gay. Elanor, pan. Naoski, gay. Lloydson, bi-curious(male leaning). Scharcho, pan.

An image of my oc's from FFXIV,from left to right; Creatine, transfem. Adrian, transmasc(yes this is my self insert dont judge lmao). T'amzi, trans male, Dhimitri, agender. Veil, NB. Scarlyt, genderfluid(they switch forms between a fem hyur and a masc viera).]

#ffxiv #ffxivscreenshot #final fantasy xiv #ffxiv miqo'te #ff14 #ffxiv gpose #ffxiv viera #ffxiv hrothgar #ffxiv hyur #ffxiv aura #ffxiv elezen #ffxiv oc #queer #lgbt #pride

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mysicklove · 9 months

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i know when i write i tend to lean more like one way instead of gn, so like lately say its pegging or something. i'll put in the tag could be interpreted as cock or strap. but sometimes as a biological female whos more masc genderfluid leaning, i cant help but do like self insert

that actually makes a lot of sense. i am gn a lot and lean toward afab (bc well i am afab lol) whenever i mention pegging i just put in warnings “afab for pegging, but rest is gn” which ppl may or may not like. but that definitely works too, but for me at least, i usually describe the strap/silicon so that prob won’t work for amab😭😭😭

i hope i tag my works well. if anyone wants me to add something regarding readers sex/gender just lmk

#💌 - love letters #secret admirer

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ice-palace-art · 1 year

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Question you don’t have to answer but: with redacted audio fanart involving listeners, what should I tag for gendered non conforming/no gender listeners?

Should I tag gendered listener, or something more specific like ex: non-binary darlin? Ive started to tag “gendered listener” but I think it could be too vague and I don’t have alot of binary conforming ocs.

Sorry if this is sudden just seeing it be a topic heating up in the fandom and I’m trying to avoid causing problems! Seriously it’s been kinda aggressive and I don’t wanna be on the sharp end of that lmao

Thank you so much if you do answer!

I would be happy to give my insight!

I'm gonna put it under a cut cuz I go on a bit of a tangent lol

I have a very non-traditional view on gender so it has been a bit of a struggle to navigate. I have listeners who use xenogenders and others who are cis but very gnc. That's why I've found the gendered listener tag helpful. It tells the viewer "im putting a specific gender identity on a version of the listener that may differ from yours". I think its more focused on if the listener is identifying closer to the binary genders, like using fem and masc.

But that also leaves the question of what things are considered fem and masc? Like a trans man having breasts doesn't make them fem or a trans woman having facial hair doesn't make them masc. My angel oc is genderfluid, but even on their fem days they still have facial hair. And what about intersex listeners?

I think it's useful to know that nonbinary isn't meant to be a third gender, it's an umbrella term. Plus, not all nb people are androgynous.

While it's nice and encouraged to curate your space here, nothing is full proof. People are going to forget. Hell, it might even be that someone just has a different view of gender than you.

I'm at a point in my transition where seeing fem listener content doesn't trigger dysphoria, but not everyone else is. Im sorry if this seems mean, but getting your dysphoria triggered by someone elses content isnt their responsibility. Its something that, while there is no shame in feeling that way, should be something you work on. Personally, I like to think of all these different ocs and self inserts as aus. No one's listener oc/self insert is canon. This is all fiction.

The way I do it is if an oc leans towards a binary gender I tag accordingly (like including both masc and nb tags for my freelancer). Otherwise, I use nb for everyone else. I also sometimes use their identity in the tags (like genderfluid!angel). I don't like putting their agab even if they're cis, but that's just a personal preference. I also put their pronouns, gender, and name in the descriptions of my art (ex. On my warden art I put "ft. Nonbinary Warden, Revati (they/them)") to specify that this is an oc. I always use the gendered listener tag on top of these.

Also BE RESPECTFUL TOWARDS EACHOTHER JFC

I hope my extensive ramblings on gender makes sense lololol

#redacted asmr #redacted audio

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intercat-archived · 2 years

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mood and inspiration!!!!!

HIIII VIVIAAAN doing this for ummm eater

mood: Are there any canon ships in other media that reminds you of your self ship?

THATS A GOOD QUESTION maybe ummm haruguchi from blue period? (freak / just some guy) or maybe chaebin/haena from monsters bride? (overly affectionate supernatural being / person who doesn’t know how to deal with all this affection)

inspiration: Has anything you’ve seen in other media or headcanons inspired aspects of your ship?

OH hmm i mean obviously his canon source but uhh i have a hc that eater is genderfluid and bi with a male lean and mirage, my self insert, is masc leaning nonbinary and bi with no lean so they’re like. bro we are transgender and bisexual. we are going to kiss now. UH also a lot of like vampire aesthetics have inspired me because eater is … vampire.. adjacent.. kinda.. like no one knows exactly what he is but he consumes power from other magic beings and is immortal and lives in a big place in the middle of nowhere and that seems petty vampireish to me idk. maybe he just likes the aesthetic. anyway good thing im here to introduce him to sunshine and having fun. maybe go outside and blow some bubbles and you’ll feel better

#❤️.txt #eater #TJANK YOUUUU HEHEE

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