#self-validation even

[elitadream]

Lately I've been thinking about Peach's healing power again; only this time, I wanted to draw it in a pleasant context rather than a dramatic or bittersweet one! The idea that her soothing magic can not only alleviate others' pain but also make them relaxed to the point of inducing sleep is one that I really like, and I couldn't resist using this element for a bit of fluff. 🤭💖

(Based on the original concept by @drones-of-innocence and inspired from @peaches2217's lovely headcanons 🙏)

#Another idea I'm very fond of is that Peach would secretly LOVE pampering Mario #Always looking for any valid excuse to give the man special care #Namely by standing unnecessarily close and / or touching him in some way 😂 #Brushing an unruly brown lock back in place - Arranging the straps of his overalls - making a tiny adjustment only to undo it right after - #She would always want to he near him 💕 #And by some curse or miracle Mario would systematically miss every single hint sent his way 😭🙇‍♀️ #Oh he'd be over the moon alright #But would think she's just being her sweet and generous self like always #Being painfully courteous and charming about her lovely attentions in turn without even trying #Thus continuing the endless pining cycle! x3 #These two I stg #mario #princess peach #mario x peach #mareach #romance #fluff #love and affection #lovers in denial #Super Mario Bros #Fanart

[maypersonne]

Shang Qinghua really does think that he is unlovable huh

He really thinks that he is of no value to anyone if he isn't making himself useful he will be disposed off and that will be it

He genuinely believes no would ever want him so he manipulate and posture as a lesser so to be seen as a necessary annoyance rather than the pest he believes himself to be

He hates all the work he has to do but he prefers exhaustion to the paranoia and anxiety that eat him up when he isn't showcasing his value

He is in a constant battle just to be acceptable rather than loved so he can just be in the presence of those who are dear to him

Like damn like father like son I can see where binghe got all his issues like airplane bro stop unloading it all on your OCs look you gave the poor dear anxiety

#sqh child of divorce #svsss #shang qinghua #actually this was part of my grand scheme to formulate that everything is cumplane but like it became its own thing #i was gonna relate it to #moshang #i was trying to say that bingqiu and moshang relationship hangups are similar #like mobei jun is repressing his feelings and believes that someone like him doesn't fall in love with a human or a servant or a lil rat #he internalized how he should and shouldn't act to be socially acceptable like sqq #and like he's difficult to read in general and refuses to talk about his feelings that also he doesn't understand #sqq and mbj both have sinuous minds that defy the mortal's comprehension #anyway #cumplane agenda #sqh: i made a power fantasy! #(cucumber voice): you fucked up a perfectly good protagonist is what you did! look at it it got anxiety! #sqh: well see thats what some would call a self insert #like sqh making memes about isn't making it better but i guess it's maybe better then bottling it all up #sqh got so much of his validation from his readers #so for sy to actually *see* him to criticize him to believe in him to know how good he can be #he doesn't even realize it #that does something sqh's lizard brain

[radsplain]

"the problem is men, not trans women!"

ok but what is a man? what is it about this group of people that makes them a problem? is it the identity of 'man' that's the problem? and if all men stopped identifying as men would the problem go away?

#self-id is rotting your brains #this also reminds me of the posts i used to see like 'i hate ALL men and YES that includes trans men!!" like lmao #what the hell are y'all even on about #breaking your backs bending over backwards to validate grown ass men as 'women' #and throwing actual women (afabs) into the oppressor class to keep the “logic” consistent. how embarrassing! #gender lunacy #self-id #radsplain.txt

[july-19th-club]

the other thing baru is always doing is like . simultaneously forgetting everyone around her has personal motives of their own AND assuming motive as applied to herself where there isn't any, like 'why would they send me a person who resembles me complexion-wise for this task? are they trying to get on my good side?' like maybe it's just a coincidence. a lot of things are. but because she's so paranoid she's always reading into every little detail assuming it has relevance while at the exact same time missing relevant details because they have to do with things and people that are not her

#everyone is attempting to influence me BUT . that's all they're doing #other people have motives but only to either flatter or destroy me personally baru cormorant #and this line of thinking is like not even necessarially a product of her upbringing . it's a product of her sexuality-related paranoia #(valid) #and her antisocial habits (just poor sense since she is already bad at understanding people and self-isolating doesnt help) #baru cormorant

[benveydraws]

i can't love you in this skin

#twittering birds never fly #saezuru tori wa habatakanai #suggestive #<- jic #interpret this as you will #there's A Lot about gender and yashiro's relationship with gender and heteronormativity especially in relation to doumeki #he asks him what type of Women he likes. they only watch m/f stuff together. “i wonder if he's gentle with women”. #the anger and disappointment when he realizes that doumeki is actually attracted to him #unless he's remembering something that happened he only fantasises about doumeki with a woman and not with himself #(same was with kageyama iirc) #except for that kiss in the elevator but that's a whole other conversation. and even then there was a woman present #he even tells kamiya that doumeki is basically straight and he's just a rare exception #yashiro's is so so desperate to push doumeki towards a “normal” life #aka not in yakuza. not with him. in a normal (straight) relationship #just. a lot of self hatred and internalized homophobia #all that being said. i think regardless of the author's intent reading yashiro as a closeted trans person is also valid #the “i could never afford myself to reflect on this and i also don't care enough about living to even bother atp” type of closet #would it contradict some of the things yashiro says? sure. but he contradicts himself all the time #am i projecting as someone who will live and die in the closet? sure #i think it's interesting that the only person who genuinely asks him about gender is ryuzaki #in the same conversation where he asks him about falling in love #and yashiro's response is basically “it wouldn't change much” and “i'm fine with what i have”. are you tho #there's a lot i can say about yashiro and aoi and yashiro and ryuzaki's girlfriend but i can't articulate it well rn so whatever #the way dumeki's lie about dating a woman affects yashiro is also interesting regardless of which interpretation you go with #which is also why i'm using post time-skip for the art. the topic keeps popping up #but yeah uh. take it as you will i just have a lot of feelings about. This #art tag

[sapphic-agent]

"If I was surprised at anything, it may have been that it seemed like people were less willing to let her make mistakes than they were with Aang."

I hate Bryke's guts, but the one thing I will agree with him (Bryan) on is this.

I've gotten heat from Aang stans for saying this, but for me Korra will always be a better written character for me. Not because Aang's childish and optimistic and naive or anything like that. That doesn't matter to me. Hell, it's not even for his actions during DOBS or EIP or Kataang. Sure, those things aren't great, but they aren't the issue with his character.

It's not about Aang's actions, it's about how Aang's actions are treated by the narrative.

This is nothing new obviously, I've said this before. Many times. Aang kissing Katara in EIP is treated as him messing up his chances with her, not because he forced something on her she didn't want. The kiss in DOBS doesn't even come up again in the show (and when it did in the comics, Aang blew up and nearly melted her face off so-). I've spoken enough about his holier-than-thou attitude in TSR too and how his message of forgiveness is perpetuated as the right one.

It's one thing that is 100% better in LOK; Korra is held accountable for her actions, by the narrative, the other characters, and herself. A big part of LOK is Korra acknowledging her actions and making the effort to change and be better.

A great counter to Aang repeatedly crossing boundaries with Katara is in Reunion when she warns Asami about trusting Hiroshi and Asami calls her out on giving unsolicited advice. Korra immediately backs off and tries to apologize when she sees that she upset her.

Now compare this to Aang's behavior in TSR or EIP.

And before anyone says it, I know Korra's older. I also know Asami reconnecting with her father is different than Katara wanting to kill Yon Rha. I get all of that.

But honestly? That doesn't matter to me. Because when you're talking about fictional characters- especially character progression and development for the protagonist- addressing flaws is important. Accountability is important. Especially when it comes to how they treat the people around them (love interests like Asami and Korra probably being the most important).

This is what solidifies Korra's character development as being better than Aang's for me.

However, I do think it's because of this framing (and the fact that she's a woman, but shh) that Korra gets more hate. Her flaws being addressed also means that they're constantly apparent. The audience is always aware of them. Whereas Aang's worse actions tended to be brushed over or excused. Or the context of those mistakes were maneuvered to make the audience feel bad for him instead of the one affected by his actions (EIP EIP EIP EIP).

So yes, Bryan, people were more willing to let Aang make mistakes because you and your bestie failed to actually address them

#avatar korra #korra #aang critical #anti aang #tagging just in case #korra defense squad #pro korra #korra>aang #and it's not even a competition #anti bryke #but also? #rare bryke w #kind of #this is mostly them responding to (somewhat valid somewhat not) criticism of their writing #not actually them acknowledging the issues in their fanbase #they aren't aware enough for that #or self-aware enough to realize their past actions are part of the issue #they almost had it #anti kataang #i'm not a korrasami shipper #but if it's korrasami or kataang the choice is clear

[lavenoon]

kisses him kisses him kisses him

@naffeclipse you've seen this one but I'm posting it today for the serotonin boost, so have a callback to the first doodles &lt;3

*self insert is not a girl (he/ she)

og detective au by sunnys-aesthetic!

#post let luce #dcamv #bloodstain fool #menace4menace #naffeclipse #my art #i did tax stuff and work emails on top of my normal work today and im still catching up on sleep #so i need to set this loose (luce) in the wild and get some serotonin from watching my self indulgence pop up in my notifs #also bc there is simply no brain left to do anything else today #tomorrow. i did all this bs today so id have a mostly free day tomorrow #i wanna just. soak in self indulgence for the evening #eclipse help me do my taxes please i need someone to validate my frustration with this program #how dare they call it magpie? i like magpies i dont want to associate them with taxes of all things #okay no yeah im. getting off track in the tag ramble so im just gonna hit post. gnight enjoy <3

[spitblaze]

Casual ableist language is absolutely an issue worth addressing but maybe instead of focusing on people saying 'stupid' and 'idiot' we could look at how (non-psychotic) people throw around 'delulu' and then are shocked when people who have delusions talk about them, and people on YouTube and tiktok and really just in real life consistently using 'psychopath' and 'narcissist' as shorthand for 'evil person'

#spitblaze says things #i am not talking about narcissism in the classical 'self obsessed/self infatuated' sense #i am talking about it in the NPD way that people think turns you into an unremorseful gaslighting abuser #not to say people cannot suffer abuse at the hands of ppl with npd. just the assertion that ppl with that are inherently abusive is bullshi #also psychopqthy hasnt even been a valid dx since at least the latest edition of the dsm #its almost like ppl are realizing that saying 'this guy has Evil Remorseless Killer Disorder' is a fucked up thing to do and maybe has #more nuance than 'their brain makes them ontologically evil' #shocker. i know #ableism

[burst-of-iridescent]

What would you say is the dumbest argument people have used against Zutara as a ship that you’ve seen/heard?

can i say all?

that isn't even a joke; in all the time i've spent in atla fandom, i've yet to see a convincing anti argument for why zutara shouldn't be canon. it's always [false claim entirely unsubstantiated by canon] [zuko/katara would "insert bad thing that is already very much present in their canon romances"] [zutara bad but zu.kka good because obviously being fruity is a magical fix-all cure] [some straight up racist/misogynistic bullshit].

that being said, the argument against zutara i personally find the dumbest is the idea that people only ship zutara because they find zuko hot and want to self-insert into katara.

even leaving aside the fact that it's not just straight women, or even primarily straight women who ship zutara (most zutara shippers i know are queer and many of those are acespec), or the blatant misogyny of assuming the only reason a ship could be popular amongst women is because they find the male lead attractive instead of using critical thinking skills... how on earth do you watch zuko and katara hug each other at sunset and see each other through their lowest moments and bond over their trauma and see zuko throw himself in front of fucking lightning for katara, and still think the only reason people could possibly want them to be together is because they find zuko hot?

besides, if i really wanted to self-insert there are already two other eligible female characters zuko is actually romantically involved with, both of whom have barely any character depth and development, and thus provide the perfect blank slates for self-insertion. picking katara, who doesn't even get to so much as kiss zuko, and who has a far more distinct and unmalleable personality than both jin and mai, makes not the slightest bit of sense - but then, that's probably too much to ask from zutara antis.

#zutara #even if that was the only reason someone shipped zutara they're still valid #it's a fictional ship people are allowed to have fun #at least we aren't making narrative decisions for our endgame romances based on our self-insertion #not talking about anyone in particular :) #zutara asks #pro zutara

[enden-k]

do urself and me a favor

dont follow me if you genuinely hate al haitham. dont follow me if you dislike kavetham. im gay and rlly like hthm so if you feel disgusted by this or my ramblings or when i draw kvthm or any other queer stuff, unfollow me and get well soon

#too tired to even explain what prompted this just read this and go away if anyones a homophobe/transphobe/etcetcetc #ill never understand why some ppl are like “WELL i dislike this character/ship/gay ppl in general but ill follow anw” #you dont have to like them (hthm/kvthm) but it makes no sense following me then #and if you genuinely hate them even less (especially hthm) so just go #also not liking character ships is absolutely valid and understandable but dont tell queer self shippers to stop “turning” ur favs queer #“this character is not gay stop making him gay it makes me uncomfortable as a self shipper 💔” #ah okay so im not allowed to ship myself w him bc im gay and it makes het self shippers uncomfy seeing their favs “turned” bi/gay #let ppl hc and dream its lit not harming anyone #and if harmless/queer stuff bothers you sm im sry but then it sounds like youre just an asshole #babbles #tbd

[lucifermeo]

something about the central theme of shin soukoku being "am i worthy of living?" while for soukoku it's actually "is living worth it for me?" is so funny to me like skk said we gotta out-edge our kouhai's existential crisis

aka what happens when your self-esteem is rock-bottom versus what happens when your sense of self is bigger than god. don't get me wrong there's enough of self-hatred to pass around between skk but while they do blame their own inhumanity for why living is so painful, they also know they're the shit and so they turn to judge the worthiness of living (as a human) itself

which is also why dazai being sskk's mentor is so funny. if you think about it he's literally just their personal "person most worthy of living" mascot who doles out 'you did well's like band-aids for their issues. but there's always this disconnect because dazai can't empathise with them so he does nothing for the root of the problem and they have to fix it themselves through each other. which is hilarious because then

everyone: *comes at dazai for being ass at this mentorship thing*

dazai: have you considered our vibes don't match the central themes of our characters are incompatible?

(also there's no chuuya & sskk interaction in the main manga/LNs but if you consider what asagiri himself wrote for adaptations as canon-ish then his interaction with akutagawa has the exact same disconnect that dazai has. like you would think dazai just naturally has low empathy so chuuya would be better right? no. aku was on his usual 'i need dazai-san's approval to prove my worth' in the onsen drama cd and dead apple stageplay and the whole time chuuya's just '??????' not because he doesn't know aku is like that but he doesn't get it. it's even funnier in the DA stageplay because now chuuya suddenly needed aku to defeat rashoumon and get to dazai/the building but he doesn't know how to motivate him and so decided to just....copy dazai AKDJFJFKSSK like taunting aku by saying he doesn't understand dazai at all, calling him worthless without rashoumon??? i mean by the end he did sorta imply he didn't mean it to akutagawa and say dazai already approved of aku since this is chuuya after all, but it shows when it came down to it chuuya truly gets dazai and not at all akutagawa)

#chuuya: imagine basing your self-esteem on DAZAI damn that could not be me #anyway skk y'all are terrible give akutagawa a break!! #ykw at least aku and atsu communicated about their issues with each other #and even tried to validate and uplift the other #in less than a year mind you #while *some* people have been at this love/hate for SEVEN years #i wont say who –.– #bungou stray dogs #bsd analysis #bsd dazai #bsd chuuya #bsd akutagawa #bsd atsushi #dazai osamu #nakahara chuuya #akutagawa ryuunosuke #nakajima atsushi #character analysis #dynamics analysis #soukoku #shin soukoku #skk #sskk

[shannonsketches]

he's so important to me

#i guess i need to watch the anime but super's manga has just been a self-indulgent fever dream for me from start to finish #100000/10 absolutely perfect so validating so extremely catered to my tastes and headcanons and analyses and humor #so fucking funny and emotional and intense and goofy and beautifully drawn #my beautiful son getting to finally fucking see his HARD won character growth fucking shine and choose love and choose to be loved!!!!!! #Goku just being Goku Vegeta being Team Dad Piccolo being Team Grandpa Bulma being a fucking superstar keeping everybody organized and fed #god i love this squad i love this series i love these dumbasses and their struggles and their triumphs and their stupid childish bonding #I love that Toriyama just spent the last several years reminding the class that DB as a whole has always been an ACTION-COMEDY about LOVE #and I'm SO sad that the z anime really never did it justice in that sense because of having to fill time with dramatic tension but god. GOD #THE MANGA HAS ALWAYS BEEN SO CLEAR ON THAT THESIS. #Just all about Restorative Justice and Community and CARING even when you wish SO MUCH that you didn't care but yoU DO GODDAMMIT!!! #SUCH a great series I'm so sad it took losing mr t for me to finally read it but my god I needed to read it now and I'm so glad he wrote it #and i'm SO glad he wrote it Exactly Like This #once again rip to a legend i'm caught up and crying it's so perfect it's SO everything I've wanted to see onscreen and embedded in canon #and canon isn't everything but it still feels gREAT to be SO 1:1 on the same page with an author re: how you interpret your blorbo yknow??? #been rotating this man in my head for 25 years and Mr Toriyama just mWAH kissed me on the forehead about it #anyway enough tag rambles I'm off again aklsjla #bonus for that kenpachi shit and letting him say 'sorry dude I can't be cold and numb anymore but this is still cathartic as fuck lol' like #mr t i hope you see the HIGHEST tier of heaven for that (and obviously for like everything all of it the whole life you led)

[cringefailvox]

I headcanon vox as the sort of guy that treats animals better than he treats people idk why but I think it fits him

i respect u so much anon. personally i think vox has a thinly-veiled disdain for anything and anyone that isn't immediately useful to him, and not only do most people not register to him as having intrinsic value (vel & val being the only exceptions), if something can't serve him in some way he doesn't spare it a thought. i definitely think the impression we were given of him before s1 would support him having a soft spot for animals but as it stands i read him as much colder & cutthroat in canon -- he's a busy man, he has places to be and people to manipulate, he doesn't have time to indulge in fondness for barely-sentient creatures that can't be hypnotized into submission, and even if he wanted to, that's not the impression he wants people to have of him. it makes him look weak. however, i also posit that in life he was the type to argue vehemently against getting a pet and then unwillingly become that pet's favorite person, much to his chagrin (and secret pleasure)

#BUT you're so valid for this anon. i just see him as so obsessed with self-managing that even if he did have a soft spot for animals he #wouldn't be able to w/out compromising his carefully cultivated public image #it's why he's only so silly and loose when he's alone or w the vees #vox #hazbin hotel

[mamawasatesttube]

HANG ON A SECOND.

kon lotr references are REAL!!!! and not only that!! moreover, this is young justice '98 issue #3 which was released in december 1998, aka 3 years before the 2001 release of the fellowship of the ring movie. WHICH MEANS kon has read the lotr books.

KON HAS CANONICALLY READ THE LORD OF THE RINGS BOOKS!!!!!!!!! this means literally everything to me personally im over the fucking moon thank you for your time

#kon #rimi talks #THIS IS THE BEST ACCIDENTAL LIL DETAIL DISCOVERY OF MY LIFE #like i already hc'ed him a lotr fan BUT ITS CANON BABEYYYY #I CAN GIVE HIM ALL MY MURDER ELF OPINIONS WITH EVEN MORE VALIDITY THAN JUST SELF INDULGENCE NOW #YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[carry-on-my-wayward-butt]

i immediately deleted the ask i got because it's fucking braindead but im gonna post about it anyway.

if you have to start with "you CLEARLY only consume popular/recent media you need to watch unpopular/ancient media instead" and go on to detail why i'm wrong and why i should pry my eyes open like clockwork orange and force myself to watch fictional characters with zero established compatibility lick each other's necks to whatever the current iteration of shape of you is nowadays/was back then? you're actually stupid. like genuinely you're a dipshit full stop.

no the fuck i don't need to watch X Y Z or the sequel prequel spinoff. i dont need to do fucking anything that you insist i 'need' to force me into your blowhard bitch brigade full of self-fellating schmucks.

you ''need'' to sniff a flower and feel the wind on your face. bask in the dappled sunlight under a tree and eat some sliced fruit. jackass.

#ppl who watch movies to enjoy an evening with a friend instead of painstakingly analyzing every facet of the directors brain- #-are allowed to have opinions on media #the idea that someone's opinion on media isnt valid until their consumption aligns perfectly with yours is fucking insane #because god knows the second i watch every movie show and arthouse film you've seen and my opinion still differs from yours #the goalposts move and i'm wrong for a different reason. #because your goal isnt broadened knowledge #its self absorption #i could be a clone of you with all of your memories and still think you're an idiot and regret being born of you. #anyway back to minecraft #op

[glaivenoct]

NyxNoct prompt! “Do you ever think about us?”

Across This Life & The Next Rating: T Words: 2,234 Tags: Mindless Fluff, Romantic Fluff, Late Night Convos, Existentialism

Summary: “Ignore what I said. About other universes and all that. I’m just restless.”

“You are the most honest when you’re restless usually.” Nyx says, running a thumb over the knuckle of Noct’s pointer finger. “I don’t think it’s all that crazy, though.”

“You don’t?” Noct tilts his head on Nyx’s shoulder to look up at him.

Between the ocean and the stars, Noctis and Nyx ponder the concept of lifetimes beyond their current one.

(Notes: This prompt has been collecting dust for actual YEARS, but better late than never right?)

--

“Do you ever think about us?”

Nyx pauses in his steps, tilting his head to one side and blinking curiously at Noctis’ back. The Prince sits near the edge of the lighthouse’s balcony, comfortably bundled by a large blanket around his shoulders, legs slipped through the metal bars so his slippered feet dangle casually through the brisk night breeze. He stares out at the gentle flutter of the Cygillian’s ocean waves as though he’s mesmerized by the constant push and pull, or perhaps the way the moonlight speckles across the surface like a treasure trove of diamonds. 

Nyx stands a mere few steps from Noctis’ side, eyes stuck on his back and the sway of the ends of his dark hair in the wind. It’s far beyond a suitable bedtime for either of them, but Nyx can’t seem to find the will to bother trying to urge Noctis back to bed with him. Not on a night like this where he can take in the captivating view with an equally captivating Prince. 

“About us?” Nyx repeats, pulling his hands from his hoodie pockets as he takes those last few steps. He sits down next to Noctis, crossing his legs under himself. “Not sure if I’m following you, Noct.”

Noctis purses his lips and makes a contemplative hum. His head tilts slightly back, eyes following the horizon, to the stars, and then the moon. 

“Like...” There’s a subtle pinch between his brows. “Do you think there’s other universes out there… and that we’re in them together?”

Nyx’s lips part as he processes Noctis’ questions in his head. There are few things or people that are occasionally capable of leaving Nyx speechless and lacking some form of sharp wit in a relatively quick manner. Of course, Noctis is one of those people and he’s just done it again. Nyx finds himself stuck between two different gut reactions: a soft but fond laugh or simply asking Noctis if he’s okay. 

He smiles fondly instead, bumping Noct’s shoulder with his. 

“What kind of comics have you been reading lately?”

(The rest on ao3) (Reblogs would be really, really appreciated <3)

#nyxnoct #author entries: fics #noctis lucis caleum #nyx ulric #ffxv fic #i wrote this in two days idk how #it's also not what I was supposed to be working on but im not complaining #aithilin probably doesn't even remember sending me this prompt and that's valid bc I can't say for sure how many years its sat in my inbox #also pls note this is hella self indulgent