#she craves approval

[thenotoriousscuttlecliff]

I'm a survivor of 2012 tumblr, I fought and defended Amy Pond, Clara Oswald, and River Song from tiresome accusations of being the exact same character, I've argue endlessly about how they have very different backgrounds, personality traits, flaws, character arcs, and goals in life, how they are not defined by their relationship with the Doctor nor the people they are related to, while also acknowledging that there are some valid criticism of how they were written, which is true pretty much every companion, I'm now at the stage where I really just need to bite my tongue when I see this lazy old arguments rise from the grave like the decrepit zombies they are.

#doctor who #dw #clara oswald #amy pond #river song #so tired of seeing these three reduced to words like sassy or sexy #and having huge chucks of who they are ignored #and then claimed we learn nothing about them #fuck off #that is just wrong #I could talk endlessly about what we know about clara #how she is vain and something of a know it all teacher's pet #she craves approval #but is also brave #compassionate #caring #in her first off world trip she sees a little girl in need and instantly goes to help her #she puts her own life on hold to stay and care for two young children who lost their mother #she's a bookworm with a thing for philosophical roman emperors #now compare that with amy #who saw a child crying and thought so what #because sad childhood was the norm for her #she drifts from job to job #unsure where she wants to go with her life #she is insecure and pushes away the people she cares about because she fears and expects to be abandoned #she can be quick to anger and is always ready to throw down #there really is so much to these characters #you honestly have to be wilfully ignorant not to see any of it

[scalpelsister]

dark justiciar shadowheart is genuinely so interesting to me as like... a facet to her character. like it really hammers home how desperate she is for shar's love and affection (+ the validation and love from other worshipers of shar). like in a lot of ways I get that it seems shocking to others / some fans because it really does contradict some of the morals we see her express BUT imo that just speaks to the level of desperation she feels. her comments on how shar "must" love her for her to survive the shadowcursed lands, or the bit where she talks about shar nurturing her and loving her and sounds... almost more like shes trying to convince herself more than shes trying to convince you. theres a bit about other sharrans not thinking she had earned her name, and of course the mother superior not thinking she was ready / worthy of being a dark justiciar. like shes just so completely desperate to feel unconditionally and securely loved, and to earn the approval of others that shes entirely willing to injure herself in the process (as well as.... the people who actually love her, of course).

not to mention that mechanically, afaik, she can only end up there if shes encouraged to by the player. ie... she needs to know someone else approves.

#CHEWING ON GLASS ABOUT HER BTW IF YOU EVEN CARE!!!! #shadowheart is the character EVER dude im so unwell about her #also this is not me judging her at all. shes just like me fr fr on this #baldur's gate #bg3 spoilers #bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #shadowheart #my post #eta: at risk of projecting here she seems so like. disorganized attachment to me. like that NEED to be loved #and craving that approval and fearing ur not good enough to get it #BUT ALSO being so scared to trust people in the first place that its hard to ever get that love #and kind of. how prone she is to rapidly going from total love and trust and openess about her feelings to just #completely walling off the player character if they say something she deems mildly uncomfortable or unsavory #oughhhh #im unwell man i am. simply unwell. #also tbh these tags are a fun game in: disorganized attachment style or bpd? why not both! sjdbdbdg

[rogersstevie]

i understand that it sucked for lorelai when rory didn't make it to her graduation but damn some fans act like it was intentional and rory was being a selfish brat (as fandom is wont to do wrt rory lol) and it's just like she literally couldn't do anything, and it completely ignores that rory was so excited and proud of her mom and she got richard and emily there to see their daughter's accomplishment, like rory cared so much! she was not being selfish when she was certain she could make it to new york and back without a problem, like she didn't know she would get stuck on the bus ride from hell!!!

also if rory had been there, the moment between lorelai and her parents would not have been so poignant WHICH it's not rory's fault at all, but you notice that most of the sweetest moments between the are when rory is not there because lorelai doesn't have that "rory is the daughter they really always wanted" feeling hanging over her. like, little things like richard kindly letting lorelai escape when emily tries to set her up with that boring dude or emily taking care of lorelai while rory is at the dance, or in bon voyage and lorelai assures an uncertain emily their friday night dinners will continue and when richard points out that the party for rory is due to the amazing life lorelai created for the two of them in stars hollow like all these things happen without rory there. and like i said, it's not her fault, but i think generally the most emotionally vulnerable moments between lorelai and her parents, the ones that don't have them grating on each other are when they're on their own, so ultimately it WAS better for all three of them to share that moment simply as two parents seeing their daughter reach a milestone they otherwise never would've gotten to witness her do

#like that's literally why it's one of my favorite eps #because you get to see rory without the constraints of stars hollow and everybody else's expectations wrt jess #and the general feeling that she has to do everything 'right' #and you get to see richard and emily be proud of lorelai and lorelai's emotions bc no matter what she will always crave that approval #like it's truly just a beautiful episode in that regard #gilmore girls #gg 2x21

[phasesofpencils]

Charlie's Daddy issues feel so forced in the show, like she SO CLEARLY has Mommy issues but this franchise is so fixated on the running bit that literally everyone has Daddy issues they just completely ignore Charlie's mommy issues. can't set up Lilith's character and twist too much, god forbid we SET SOMETHING UP properly to be paid off in the future. No let's focus on the daddy issues.

Especially Charlie's line about how "We've never been close - he only calls if he's bored or needs something." Like alright if he was ONLY calling you bc he needs you to do something that's one thing. But you're upset cus he calls you when he's bored??? When the fuck do you want him to call you???

Wow he calls when he's bored and wants to TALK TO HIS DAUGHTER?? Wow Charlie you're right the absolute nerve of that guy, who does he think he is?? Your Dad- oh wait.

#hazbin hotel criticism #hazbin hotel critical #in the pilot yes there seems he be clear Daddy issues and Lucifer actually seems like a shitty dad #in the show however he's just depressed and lonely #like how are you gonna crave your dad's approval or whatever but also get annoyed he calls for the SOUL purpose of talking to you apparently #im not saying like she owes him the time or something but like calling bc he's bored #seems like a pretty fucking normal and pretty harmless reason for a parent to call their child #like idk i feel like if i had a child and i tried calling them just bc and they seemed annoyed i was calling #idk maybe at a certain point I'd stop trying too or at least tell them to call ME when they feel like talking

[slicedblackolives]

modi having control over a billion lives and being too insecure to speak in his native language is just so fucking pathetic

#sanghis are SO insecure and craving white approval its fkin crazy #theyre just so pathetically jealous of thee most mid corporate 21 yr old girlboss feminist college student girlup intern bcs she has “approv #al“ of the west and they dont.

[welcometogrouchland]

We all assign Lilith as the Philip parallel when analyzing the similarities between the clawthorne sisters and the wittebane brothers. But have we stopped to consider for a moment that Belos saw Lilith as the Caleb in her situation? An older sibling who makes a selfish decision (in Philip's eyes) and betrays their younger sibling, leaving them a monster outcast from society??

We as the audience know just how different those situations were, but from Belos' pov...

I'm not saying Lilith was seen as so disposable and worthless by Belos, not just bc she was a witch, but because she was a Clawthorne whom Belos saw as a mirror of Caleb...but that's exactly what I'm saying and I'm realizing that Belos must've hated Lilith's guts more than we thought

#the owl house #toh #lilith clawthorne #toh belos #philip wittebane #obviously we as the audience know Eda is more analogous to Caleb #(someone longing for freedom and seemingly running from responsibility to get it) #(all speculation of course since we know so little about caleb but that seems to be the gist of things) #and that Lilith is the Philip in their relationship #(the more emotionally dependent and socially maladjusted one obsessed with conforming as a way to achieve status and love- #-has a (seeming in Philip's case) inferiority complex and can't comprehend their sibling making choices that don't include them) #but i remembered that Lilith is the older sibling and then this dawned on me lol #and yes i think Belos definitely had some kind of knowledge of the curse thing considering him and Lilith's deal in s1 #my personal hc is once Lilith rose the ranks she had a moment of semi breaking down and confessing to her ''sins'' #both in a creepy christian confessional way but. also i was thinking of andrias and marcy from the frog show hsbsjsnfk #anyway. Belos fucking hated Lilith didn't he. he was just waiting to screw her over #it's honestly kind of sad considering how much Lilith worshipped him and craved his (platonic) love and approval #obviously she was aiding a corrupt system but still. if anything that's just another parallel between her and belos lol #we all wonder why Lilith seemingly never interacted with other coven heads or why she resented hunter and I'm like #i think belos definitely isolated her on purpose yknow? he gave her the mission to find eda and then she put all her time into that #she probably barely talked to anyone other than kiki and the scouts. and the loneliness just fueled her desperation to get eda back y'know? #then for the hunter thing like. obviously it's Lilith's own insecurity at this teen prodigy seemingly favoured by Belos #and like. i doubt anyone in the castle besides kiki and some select coven heads really knew what went on behind closed doors #so Lilith just sees this kid who gets to be by Belos' side all the time and she doesn't get what he has that she doesn't #and because she's an emotionally stunted nightmare woman she turns it into this silly rivalry #and because Belos hates her he's like. lol okay i am not reassuring you abt your place in this hierarchy. i want to watch you suffer #and let's her feel these things and poor hunter is just like WHAT DID I EVER DO TO YOU??? #and he's mad abt it #anyway. Lilith thoughts out of my system for tonight but can you tell i love this cringefail slug woman?

[completeoveranalysis]

[5]

Oh I guess we do actually have to see the fight happen too. I feel like I’m watching a recital and just clapping politely. 

You go, Lava Lamp! Well done sweetie! You sure do the thing! 

The art is gorgeous, though. Oh my goodness. Those angles. 

Seishirou scores a point with his flexi-extendable sword whip, and I think Amaterasu is mostly just surprised that Kurogane hasn’t jumped into the fight already. Which, coupled with her teasing a little earlier, really shows just how long she knew Kurogane before all his character growth. Pre-Tsubasa Kurogane really would have been already in the fight for the fun of it. But Post-Journey Kurogane respects Lava Lamp’s need to have this fight on his own terms, especially after Lava Lamp already lived through the previous fight with Seishirou and died. If anyone gets to judge Seishirou for all his actions towards Syaoran, it’s Lava Lamp. 

THOUGH technically Kurogane does have a personal stake in this battle too, since Outo messed him up royally when he thought both Fai and Syaoran had both been murdered by Seishirou. Kurogane’s fight against him was interrupted before there was a clear winner, so it’d be pretty natural for him to want to finish things off - either out of revenge for Seishirou’s previous actions, or out seeing which of them would have actually won that time, or even just general dislike. The fact that he DOESN’T want to fight him and is content in his choice to let Lava Lamp fight for himself instead really does just show layers upon layers of growth this man has gone over the years.

Lava Lamp is going full Justice Arcana in this fight and Kurogane fully supports his feelings. Which will be a surprise to Amaterasu, but a good one nonetheless.

#Oh yeah there she goes #she definitely approves #Kurogane isn't so desperate anymore #he's not constantly craving that illusion of strength #Since he already has the real thing now #and it has nothing to do with fighting #Liveblogging the reservoir chronicle #Tsubasa #Vol 171 #Kurogane #Amaterasu #Seishirou #Literally anyone #Lava Lamp Guy #Of course we all know the true meaning of strength is being gay #But we all knew that already

[subconscious-solipsist]

I submitted my essay a day before it’s due who am I???

#also kind of the best essay I’ve ever written #which isn’t saying much cuz historically they’ve been horrendous #but I actually applied what my most favourite prof of all time taught me last semester #I even sent it to my mum to look at and she called me and was so impressed cuz usually my papers are so bad she can barely read them #so hard to read she would get mad cuz my sentences would be backwards and words in really weird places but that’s a whole other issue #he had some very good methods and tips that make so much sense to me #and are INCREDIBLY useful for staying organized throughout the process #I have raging adhd and seriously most of my writing makes no fucking sense cuz I’m all over the place #I also just loved him and craved his approval so hard I hung on to every word and tried my actual best to do it right #I had him for two classes and finished with an A and an A+ #i miss u gil

[good-beanswrites]

Normal lunch break behavior: printing out the two drabbles, annotating them, and figuring out how to draw them

I'll need more than just a lunch break to process my thoughts, but (1) thank you for the treat! (2) I imagine that these drabbles coexist in the same AU. (3) "Can we be good together?" / They could be good together. (4) I'm this close to writing fanfic in this area myself.

I am normal about your normal lunch break behavior 👍

#!!!!! #im really glad you liked them -- thats such a huge compliment AHH ;---; im so normal #OMG of course no pressure but id love so much to see your notes/art/writing 👀👀👀 #thats so exciting!! #i really enjoyed writing them >:0 it was soooo fun to consider all the possibilities #and by fun i mean i got severely upset 😎👍 asdfsdf #i originally wanted them to be in the same chronology so im glad they work well together #i felt bad having such similar phrases in both but i really thought that was the one thing she'd focus on #she craves that sense of belonging/approval the cult was able to provide and she got from her parents #so whether its in favor or against treatment she views things in terms of belonging and groups. if its done together its better. #those are my thoughts at least -- id love to hear your take on her mindset! #ask

[peniscat]

rolling my eyes so hard at these posts being critical of the way gerri spoke to roman in the last ep. like bfr she's only getting criticism because her fight was with tumblr sad boy roman roy. 😒

in a way i understand ppl saying that she was being unprofessional but then again when have her conversations with roman ever been particularly professional? they're deep into mixing business with personal, and given that personal is not gerri's greatest strength, it's no wonder that she didn't quite manage to read the situation to her benefit. they've never particularly operated in the area of professionalism and especially considering how gerri has been treated lately and with roman doing something extremely stupid, it's no wonder she might not be acting her most professional, especially when she's having the conversation with roman.

#idk i feel like the ppl wanted her to somehow stabilize the situation #which yeah would have been the rational thing to do. but it disregards their very recent history where there's mutual hurt #roman craving for gerri's approval and gerri just wanting him to follow her lead and not be stupid #it was such a trainwreck of a scene that illustrated really well how roman is spiraling and how their relationship has changed #and idk i also feel like that gerri wasn't being too unprofessional. sure it might not have been the traditional way to show respect #but then again. like i said. it's how they operate. and roman asking gerri to respect him after all the shit he has pulled? the audacity!!! #yeah roman is spiraling and sad but it doesn't mean someone like gerri has to coddle him after a really stupid move like firing joy #and especially when he suggests she's not good at her job. literally probably the worst insult you could give her #answered

[birbfeeder2artisticboogaloo]

iahdosiahds im not even HALF the way thru the walking dead, idk if i can keep liveblogging all of it ;A;

it's good bg noise for drawing but like.........there's just SO MUCH ;A; THINGS ARE HAPPENING. and also NOT HAPPENING ;A; idk if i'll even finish watching it there's just so much aaskadksdalkdjk

#shout out to lizzie for being a burgeoning serial killer tho #she craves the taste of blood and i approve of that #she and carl can be partners in crime when they grow up #and help becky burn down random houses :D #tha walken ded #birb watch

[parasprite]

ik she'd never play favourites and stuff but god its like. depressingly clear how much my mum prefers hanging out with my cousin over me. they have outings and regular movie nights and go on walks together and run errands and do chores they do literally everything together. and honestly its not just that like... even when im hanging out with the two of them i know she's more focused on my cousin. like she takes an interest in his interests. she asks him about spanish all the time but doesn't give a shit that i'm learning portuguese. i feel like i bore her whenever i try to speak. i always wanna let him ride shotgun the rare times im out with them because she can hold a conversation with him but not me. and whenever i'm alone with her she just treats me like a receptacle for her dumb fucking rants about facebook drama and then she seems so surprised when i have good advice for her even though i Always have good advice. she treats me like her talk therapist. she never thinks about my needs or my life or my interests. not that i even wanna tell her about it.

and like. for my cousin's birthday she got him a paranormal activity 6-movie blu ray box set because it's their favourite film series to marathon together. like they've rewatched it a bunch of times. they discuss their fan theories and everything. yknow what she got me for my birthday this year? nada. which is PORTUGUESE for nothing. god and they had that spontaneous weekend partying in london together and then a few months later she fucking planned a trip and went to sussex alone even though she knew id been wanting to go to sussex with her for literal years. she kept saying she'd take me then she didn't. what the fuck.

#honestly i don't even envy their relationship because i know shes making him her surrogate spouse #ive kinda been there before and i don't wanna be that. it sucks #but im really sad because like. i love my cousin but i never get quality time with him like he and my mum Constantly have #nobody in my family ever wants to watch movies with me #god my dad and brother saw oppenheimer together today too theyve seen it 3 times together now #fuck this i HATEEE IT #i really need to like get in touch with my great auntie or someone i neeeed a relative i can hang out with #im so sick of nobody in this house giving a shit about me!!! #im so sick of craving attention and approval from people who will just never give a shit #ive felt this way for years like i remember telling my old therapist about this too it just. keeps happening and idk what to do about it #im so sick of listening to my brother infodump about programming languages #im so sick of hearing my mum talk about facebook #im so sick of my dad making a token effort but clearly struggling to connect with me #and. im not angry at my cousin but im sick of my mum always giving him attention. #its day in day out. constant low level misery and loneliness

[hxzelwallflower]

( 🌻 ) - :: Eileen's father wasn't emotionally present. Growing up, her mother would have to nudge him into doing social activities in an attempt to bond, but nothing worked. He made a few attempts after she turned eighteen, but by that point it was too late.

Although she gained some of that missing validation through her uncle, it wasn't same. His passing didn't make it easier. In short Eileen's was deprived of a proper father figure.

#- ; She had daddy issues #- ; Not severally but enough where she still craves the approval of an elder #- ; It's why she's so attached to Scrooge because he's emotionallt invested in his family #- ; OOC #- ; Bravo's outta pocket

[onleylonely]

I loved last year when I didn't travel to visit my family and I didn't have to go to church for Christmas and it was just me and my cat in the dark with only the lights in the mini Christmas tree on, watching a movie about a man having an affair with his son's fiance while drinking hot tea in my underwear on my couch. Loved it, I felt true peace for the first time in years when I made that choice for my holiday.

Anyway, this year was bad.

#at church my family sat down and started pointing at everyone who i used to go to school with wanting me to say hi #as if i would ever talk to the person who said i was a 2 out of 10 over a decade later because we're in the same room #my parents are obsessed with the approval of the same people who disregard them and let their kids bully us #also are transphobs but that was already known #youngest sister is an idiot who treats me like a therapist #oma craves death and let's everyone know she wants to die this year #other sisters are disassociating #dad and i played guitar tho and i cried because he played one of my favorites

[ninas-gf]

waiting in the wings is a kujou sara song…

#just. thinking about how much she craved takayuki’s love and approval #but she was treated more like a weapon or tool and less like a daughter #especially when her brothers were treated much differently #*sigh*… she deserves much better

[ninboyfriend]

When people act like South is somehow the Worst Meanest Evillest freelancer I get so mad. You just think that because she was a huge mean woman which is funny because RVB is a show about huge mean women. Wyoming was not doing all of that shit just for you to dethrone him

#also my personal take has always been that of the two of them North was absolutely the most insane. #South was manipulated by the project to behave the way she did #but I think on some level North always had a complex about needing to care for people #which is why he was paired with theta #in a way that was the easiest way to destroy their relationship. give him someone else to take care of at all times while simultaneously #revoking from her the validation through trust she craved #making her feel inferior to him and therefore much more desperate for approval through the director #unlucky six