#tw online grooming

[witchglittrr]

Signs of online grooming

1) adults should not talk to you (a minor) about sex. In any way. They shouldn’t be telling you details about their sexual abuse or sex life. They shouldn’t ask you questions about your sex life or sexual habits. They shouldn’t try to convince you to do sexual acts. They shouldn’t ask for nudes. They shouldn’t send nudes. They shouldn’t send you porn or nsfw materials. They shouldn’t be talking about this stuff in front of you.

This includes fandom stuff and drawings. This includes nsfw fanfiction or audios. This includes role playing.

One of the most overlooked forms of online grooming is exposure to nsfw fandom content or coercion, or requests of nsfw role plays, drawings, ect. It doesn’t matter if it’s fiction. Adults should not expose you to sexual content.

2) they offer to buy you stuff or meet up.

3) they make you feel special. They may compliment you, draw you stuff, give you shout outs, participate in activities you like, ect.

4) they ask you personal questions. Do you get along with your family? Do you have any friends? Where do you live? What do you look like?

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5) they talk to you about personal issues or financial issues. They basically treat you like a therapist. OR they repeatedly ask you to confide in them. They may threaten suicide or self harm as well.

6) they compliment you in inappropriate ways. Saying you’re “hot” or “sexy.”

Notes:

•if you are an older teen, the predator might use excuses such as “you’re old enough”, or “you’re legal”, ect for their behaviors. Don’t listen to them. A teenager is still a minor and in the eyes of regular adults, they are still children.

•anyone can be a predator and anyone can be a victim.

•minors who are closed lgbt teens, abuse victims, or have mental illnesses tend to be more vulnerable to grooming.

For anyone who was groomed online, it is not your fault. You are not dumb. You’re not to blame at all. Groomers are incredibly manipulative and good at what they do.

Your trauma is valid. It happening online doesn’t mean it’s less harmful to you.

#tw grooming #online grooming #tw online grooming #nccsa #online nccsa

[csaventing]

Going through old chats where you were being abused is really… indescribably painful. But I could set boundaries and I did. They just weren’t respected at all, ever. No wonder I stopped setting boundaries after that and all that fell down to 0. I hate my history and what has happened to me.

#survivor #tw csa implied #tw csa #csa vent #trauma vent #actually traumatized #trauma #tw csa mention #tw csa vent #tw nccsa #tw grooming #tw online nccsa #tw online grooming

[anti-endo-haven]

Tws:, gaslighting and manipulation, emotional incest (?), online grooming (Im so sorry if there's more I forgot, pls stay safe <3)

today's been a very stressful day so far, our step mother messaged the body's younger sister telling her how depressed our bio father was because we (us and our siblings) haven't seen/talked to him in a while, so the drama with my bio father has triggered a lot of memories that I hate, tbh almost any mention of him does, especially bc then we started talking about how my therapist thinks our bio father is a pedo, it doesn't help that I'm already a trauma holder for similar trauma, like it's brought up memories of the time our bio father would randomly just squeeze our hips, or the times he would grab us by our hips and pull us against him while we were cuddling, as well as the time he made me put on my bathing suit and basically model it for him to make sure it was "appropriate" it was a two piece and I had already tried it on, he made me do this in front of our siblings, it doesn't help that this happened around the time the trauma I hold happened, I hold our online grooming trauma, it happened from when we were around 10 until about 13, it doesn't help that because of this trauma ive been hypersexual since I was 10, I feel so disgusting and gross, I feel tainted, I want to rip my skin off but there's nothing I can do about it now, I'm sorry this was so long, I just needed to vent and get this off my chest

(💊 from the rainbow system)

It isn’t your fault that you’re not talking to an abuser. Your step-mother is in the wrong completely for trying to weaponize depression against you. He dug his grave, he can lay in it. He is disgusting and has hurt kids that he was supposed to care for.

Try and find some things that can help you destress and provide some happiness. I know it might not be much, but even a little help can do some wonders.

It’s vile behavior that he did and you didn’t deserve that. None of that was your fault. His actions are his own and you were trying to live and survive.

I’m sorry you went through all of that so young, the internet can be terrible and there’s so many people that will harm others. You don’t deserve to be hurt like that, you didn’t deserve to be hurt like that.

You’re not disgusting or gross, it’s sad that it’s a product of what happened, but you’re doing an excellent job. I’m proud of you. You’re good enough. You’re not a disappointment, you’re not a mistake, you’re not a failure. You’re a survivor and we will always stick together. If you need to cut your stepmother out of your life to be able to do better mentally, do so if you’re able.

If you’re able, see if a luke warm or preferred temperature bath can help. Add some music in the background. Bath bomb if you have one, use some body wash for bubbles, small things to make it a little better. Just to relax. This is completely optional and I know it doesn’t work for everyone. We use these as a more serene thing, saying that the water is washing away what we don’t want to be there, the bubbles are a form of soap which is helping wash it away. The music is to help ground us. Again, it’s completely optional and it might not help so 100% try and find something that can help ground you when you’re able to.

Much love from us! You’re doing everything you can and you’re doing great. ❤️

Have a cookie!

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#tw gaslighting #tw manipulation #tw emotional abuse #tw emotional manipulation #tw emotional incest #tw incest mentions #tw incest #tw inc*st #tw online grooming #anti endo #did system #system #osddid #traumagenic system #endos dni #endos not for you #actually did #actually traumagenic #did plural #did plurality #osdd plural #osdd plurality #💊 #the rainbow system

[pattysplaceofplaces]

I Will Never Forgive Proshippers 

This is my own little personal rant but I will not go out of my way to harass proshippers and I ask for the same thing or else the account will be blocked immediately. Proshippers trying to start an argument will be blocked too. This will hopefully be the only in-depth post I make about them. 

This has some pretty triggering content, no one is required to read this. Keep yourself safe mentally and physically.

[Tw: Child grooming, childhood neglect, online grooming, sh, alcohol addiction]

     I was alone. I was twelve, making dinner for my fourteen year old brother, fearing the nights when my father would get drunk, scars littered my arms. The days blended together and I can barely remember them now, for the best I assume.

My loneliness pushed me towards the internet, I was so desperate for anyone to make me feel loved. I met several older men 30’s+ 

I was twelve, I was a child. I hadn’t even hit puberty yet. 

Some made their intentions clear right off the bat, one was my “friend,” a man in his 40’s became my online boyfriend. 

I was so desperate that I ignored their requests and demands. A man asking if I had hair in-between my legs, another who sent me porn and would ask if I climaxed. I was stupid but they weren’t. They knew what they were doing, they knew I was young. They didn’t love me, this wasn’t a forbidding love story. 

It was taking advantage of a girl who was on the verge of death. 

One man knew my location and threatened to find me. I walked to and from school alone, it was a thirty minute walk. I told no one but I kept a knife in my backpack, terrified that I would be found. 

It hurts to talk about this, to experience memories I never knew I had, for each detail to be revealed before my eyes. 

Proshippers may not listen, I know that very well. I know I will not change many minds. I have felt the need to be silent for four years. I want to speak out and I will. 

Proshippers, there will never be love when it comes to an adult and a minor. It does not matter if the adult has a tragic backstory or went through grooming themselves. It will always be about a sadistic sense of power.

“Fiction doesn’t affect reality.” 

It does. It affects survivors like myself to see grooming displayed as something “cute” or “aesthetic.”

 When you post these things you are affecting naive minors, making it believe this is okay. They won’t realize they have been groomed until it’s too late. Just like me they’ll look at themselves and wonder “Will I ever be pure again?” Like myself they will not be able to look at themselves naked in a mirror. 

Our suffering should never be your “harmless” ship. Our suffering was never a forbidden love story, our suffering was never because of “one bad person.” 

You are making it easier, you are letting these hideous adults hide behind made up words and cute art styles. 

I will never forgive you for that. 

#Proshippers dni #Tw neglect #tw grooming #tw online grooming #tw child grooming #Tw self harm mention #i will not be silenced #Speaking out

[sourisking]

I don’t like proshippers because I was groomed by one.

Not because I think freedom of Speach should be limited (have seen that argument from proshippers). Not because I’m a puritan (don’t call people that for thinking RPF is a little strange). And not because I simply hate shipping.

I was groomed by a proshipper, and it makes me hate all proshippers because they almost always act like she did.

#Just keep that shit to yourself and nobody will care I won’t care #You do not NEED to share everything you write/draw online #I promise it’s not that hard #anti proship #anti ship #anti proshitter #lowkey a vent #grooming cw #grooming tw #antiship #anti rq #anti radqueer #anti radshit #And by dislike I mean hate with a fiery passion. I won’t act on it but it’s there #… did I misspell Speach? #Its speech isn’t it #Yea #fuck #im not changing it LMAO

[wildflowercryptid]

something that's been weighing on my mind ever since learning about the situation with ezra / toonimal is seeing how these predators will take the active hostility that is frequently directed towards minors in online spaces to their advantage and use it to prey on vulnerable children. i think that we as adults in online fandom should probably come together and maybe rethink the language / manner we go about interacting with kids bc clearly the way things are rn is causing active harm.

like obviously, if you're an adult and aren't comfortable with minors interacting with you or your content, you should be allowed to set that boundary and should be vocal about it, ( especially if the content you create isn't safe for them to consume. ) but i don't think talking to them like they're a blight on all that is good and holy is the way to go about it. maybe just saying you're an 18 plus account will suffice, you don't have to tell them to fuck off.

#i'm opening myself up for ppl to leave the stupidest takes on this post but whatever i need to get this off my mind #before anyone says anything about the kids on that website. they're grooming victims. they're literally kids being taken advantage of #show them some fucking kindness and be understanding that they're the victims in this situation #idk what it is about becoming an adult that causes so many ppl to lose their empathy towards minors it's weird #like yeah kids can be annoying and pushy on online spaces sometimes but a lot of them are old enough to know online etiquette lbr #alot of us were annoying kids on the internet at some point we should understand that you don't just. get a handbook for how to act online #that's shit you learn overtime but ppl seem to forget that #they also seem to forget that talking down to kids isn't gonna teach them shit they're not gonna listen to you if you treat them like idiots #what i'm trying to say is that we really need to talk to minors more respectfully and maybe give them a little grace #( obviously there will be situations where some of them need to be yanked up by the collar but there's ways to go about that >>> #without treating them like shit ) #these kids need to know that there's spaces for them to be online safely without having to stumble into places that'll pray on them #we all know how much it sucked to be a kid online we should want better for the ones coming in after us ya know #sorry if this comes across as preachy it just breaks my heart and boils me blood to see kids being taken advantage of like this #especially when there's ways to prevent it idk #how do i even tag this.... #mj.txt #there's trigger warning on the linked post btw #tw csa mention

[askivv]

its one am and im so fucking mad rn im. what the fuck. What The Fuck.

#dream situation #discourse #negative #grooming tw #the audacity to post their weeding photo and talk about it being “similiar” to you talking to minors online???? #i hope the worst happens to you u ugly booger bitch #im so done

[pxelbunny]

I just remembered that my best friend and first huge, life-altering crush in high school had a 25 year old boyfriend. We were 16~17. They lived together. It was cool because we could have parties at their place, he got us into age restricted bars and had a car.

What the fuck? No wonder our generation is stunted.

#i got my first proper boyfriend when i was in middle school and he was 19 and went to university #all of this was just considered perfectly normal #adults didn't even bat an eyelid at it #it just feels wild now with all the discourse online #don't know how kids have it in real life though #if they've finally gotten the tools to set boundaries around themselves #i hope so #delete later #random #personal #tw: grooming

[csaventing]

I should talk to you,

But only at the right times otherwise you get mad

I should talk to you,

But only about the right things otherwise you get mad

I should talk to you,

But only when you’re around the right people otherwise you get mad

I should talk to you,

But only at the right times, about the right things and when you’re around the right people

Otherwise,

You get mad.

#survivor #tw csa implied #tw csa #csa vent #trauma vent #actually traumatized #trauma #tw csa mention #tw csa vent #tw nccsa #tw online nccsa #tw online grooming #tw grooming

[moodr1ng]

were all for prison abolition and transformative justice until i say "the man who abused me as a young teen is not in a place where he has access to children or women so i dont want to pursue any judicial action against him, and also i understand that while the abuse he put me through was extreme and awful, he was young, traumatized, endured abused himself, and abusing multiple substances and i dont believe he is the same person he was at the time", at which point everyone looks at me with pity and concern and tells me i dont have to make excuses for him and im allowed to hate him and etc etc. like yeah i do hate him. im capable of thinking past hatred, being reasonable about the situation, and maintaining my political ideals even when it comes to things personal to me, so that when i say "everyone deserves a chance at rehabilitation" i dont conveniently make an exception for the guy who hurt me personally.. anyway.

#97 #csa tw #when i say 'he has no access to children or women' #i mean hes part of a closed-off religious community which has no access to the outside world or the internet where he groomed me originally #like hes essentially a monk. he has NO access to people he would be interested in victimizing whatsoever. #all this to say i would never fault an abuse survivor for going to the admittedly fucked up justice system for retribution or safety #but also i think there comes a point where if one professes a belief that the justice system is fundamentally broken and abusive #then yknow that belief does eventually inform whether you think that broken system should serve as your personal tool for revenge #when it comes to my situation (where the person in question is already no longer a danger to others) revenge is the only thing i would get #and i dont want revenge bc i dont believe in a justice system based on it! #my involvement is limited to periodically (every year or so) checking on the net and making sure hes not back online #it is a triggering endeavor every time to go thru his old profiles and to check on his sister and see the handful of pictures of him etc #but yknow. absent any actually ethical system of justice to address the crimes.. #just monitoring that hes still locked up in some monastery is the best i can get.

[stitchmyunbrokenheart]

addicted to being motionless. in love with being stuck in time

#tw vent #vent #vent post #mentally tired #online csa #online grooming #online nccsa #tw online csa #nccsa #tw nccsa #grooming #nccsa tw #self mutalition #tw slfhrm #tw self destructive behavior #self destruction

[green--tea-owo]

the worst part of being groomed online is the fact that they probably don't even remember me, while I remember them and everything they did to me.

#vent post #tw vent #tw depressing stuff #online grooming #groomed

[crayonurchin]

I feel like if I ever have kids, I'm going to need to be 100% transparent about the internet from the get go, and spend all my life staying as up to date as possible with it.

I am 27 years old, and it's only started to truly dawn on me how badly I was groomed by adults from aged 12-17. I never sent photos, only did a few face calls, was dropping hard NOs on sexual stuff, and yet it still happened. I was too young to understand the severity of the situation- I literally did not have a brain capable of understanding what this was.

But I don't want to just, gatekeep shit. Because that's not fixing anything.

idk, I talked to some 60+ year old friends today and they were saying about how some things never need to be spoken about to kids. I understand this sentiment to a degree, but nah, we need to tell kids what happens on the internet, give them space to be free but still be there to make sure some manipulative cunt isn't weeding their roots under their skin to grow something horrible.

All I was doing was drawing Lilo and Stitch fanart, and I still ended up with an adult man guilting me into reading his pregnancy fetish writing while telling me if I didn't he'd kill himself. I still had a 'friend' send me hundreds of dollars of gifts then have me draw corset fetish art while saying I was the only reason he didn't kill himself. I still had a supportive friend who, can you guess, had me draw fetish art while saying I was the only reason he didn't kill himself.

I want kids to know the importance and joy of the internet but my god the second they're ready for it we're having a SERIES of honest conversations

#is this a vent? #it mentions some triggers so #tw grooming #tw peadophillia #tw abuse #It's so strange #it was never about the TV representation of online predators so I didn't think it was abuse #but nah fam #it was fucking abuse and I got groomed by adults as a child #shit's fucked and I want any theoretical kids in my future life to know what it is and how to spot it and how to ask me for help #mama's gonna help by setting the groomer on fire

[cateatingdove]

Imma rant and I'm going to be explicit as possible

I don't know why these bitches act so surprised when they get harassed for dating a 15-year-old girl while being a grown-ass adult and their self-diagnosis doesn't work for shit. Do you think I'm not going to call you out despite you being a self-diagnosed ASPD dumbfuck? Bitch I thought you said you have no morals so when I treat you like you deserve to be then you bitch and whine? Also, you started spamming me with useless and pathetic attempts at harassment in my asks and comments because I showed screenshots of you being a disgusting bitch.

To the little piece of shit cum dumpster stupid ass incubator whore that's 15 but to be quite frank looks 30 at best. You send your pedophile boyfriend after my ass and have him change his profile layout because he got harassed and also because you're too much of a pussy and cock slut to have a conversation with me. I hope you rot, Even if you post an apology which, to be frank, is going to be mostly you whining and talking about how much of a “bigger person” you're being to get the air up your puss and cum filled battered abused cunt. How pathetic do you have to be to fake disorders for sympathy points when you get in trouble? I don't give a fuck if you're a victim you're still a piece of shit and I'll treat you like it. Fuck y'all feelings.

Also sending your friends to send me hate in my inbox when using anon is a low fucking blow. You must be a neanderthal to do that dumb shit. You also don't want to separate fiction from reality maybe because you're mentally slow.

#rant post #rant #i wanted to say a lot more #anti self diagnosis #get therapy #jail too #tw rant #tw grooming mention #online harassment #anon harassment #proship drama #i hate yall

[ivan-braginski-2001]

TW: Grooming, sui and CSA

I think it's interesting how antis say "we care about realy kids too"

But none of their call outs are of real predators. Even though they're so easy to find??

And the way they treat REAL kids....

There was something on my Insta about this guy, who was a real predator hurting a real kid and even posting REAL CP. And the antis were harassing the victim and telling the victim to kts and that he deserved to be SAd and a lot worse stuff. That's literally the most tame stuff sent to that kid.

Why?

Because he was a proshipper.

And the first people to actually make a detailed assessment of the real pred was a proshipper.

The antis treated the entire situation like it was just some internet drama. They would post "awareness" about it, then those SAME people would be outted to have sent harassment to the victim. One thing that they kept saying over and over was "you wonder why it being groomed lmao" to the victim because he was a proshipper.

The victim had been being groomed since he was SEVEN. Way before he had the internet. But ofc they made these wild ass assumptions?

Yeah y'all care about kids so much huh? 😐

"Not all antis" except the only two antis to help the victim was me (who was an anti at the time) and one other anti who previously had been harassing and saying horrible shit about the victim and only switched up because the victim said they were gonna take their own life.

So yeah.

That's what started to push me away from that community.

#Proship #Profic #Ship course #pro ship #ship and let ship #🍖🌈 #🌈🍖 #Personal #tw sa #tw grooming #This wasn't even the first of last time something like this happened... #But it was the most... Graphic #With the shit the groomer put on his story #It was IRL too #Not just online grooming

[asteriiasstateofdreaming]

i'm fifteen years old. i was groomed online 1-2 years ago by a thirty five year old man who was a high school science teacher in another country. i met him on omegle. i wanted it. he didn't want a sub that was a minor but he let me be it because i, "told him the truth" about my age. he gave me the attention that i never had growing up, the attention my mother could have been giving me but instead she was too busy talking to a man who was in jail and investing her money on his books and whatever he needed. so HE was my safe space. he gave me attention, he even told me he loved me. i asked him if i was of age and in his country, would he have screwed me? he said he would make an exception, he would've fucked me at 13. i did a lot of things for him. i remember when i wasn't on my phone for a week or so and i came back to messages of him telling me he missed me and he loved me. it made me feel good. someone loved me. someone missed me. i had to be good for him, i had to... do whatever he wanted, whatever he needed. on my fourteenth birthday, i told him i didn't want to do it anymore, he understood. the problem was, i never blocked him and he never blocked me. he was still there. he would view my story sometimes, he'd even reply to it occasionally. a few months after that, in october, i made the mistake of reaching back out to him. i asked him if he missed me. he told me he missed me sometimes but he had moved on. we talked a little. he asked me if i've had anymore sexual encounters since then. i told him about some guy i traded with but it wasn't the same thing that i felt with him. he offered for me to be his sub again, although he had a new one. but it wasn't the same anymore. he wasn't as attentive, and he would reassure me. but i didn't have all of his attention anymore. school had started up again, and he had another submissive too. but he would still let me rant sometimes. he still made me feel safe. i did a lot of morally fucked up shit for him, and he didn't even have to ask. i didn't care if i had a limit, i wanted to be good for him. and i wanted to be better than her. because if there was one thing i was good at then anything else, it was being a whore. it didn't work out. and i'm happy that it didn't. i now have an amazing partner who loves me so fucking much. i have great friends and i don't even live with my mom anymore. but i am so fucked up because of him. if i wasn't already fucked up before, i definitely am now. he never manipulated me into doing anything against my will or interest, i did that all by myself. i bent my morals and limits for him, just for me to not even stick around. i feel weak a lot of the time. and i can't even tell any of you what i did, because none of you would understand why. i don't understand why. i hate myself.

#vent post #tw vent #tw mental health #tw mental illness #grooming #online grooming