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Cuddly kitty

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I’m an idiot

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Resources 🌼

(Updated regularly)

🪷 Emergency resource: oh no I’m having a bad thought

🌻 Apps and Games

Finch: mental health app where you care for a little bird! Offers many features such as focus timers, rant zones, nature sounds, fun questions, and more! You can even make friends on it and send them encouragement :) (my friend code)

Adorable Home: a precious game in which you have a tiny spouse, cats, and a little house you can decorate! You can check in and enjoy peaceful music, different scenes, and upgrades through collecting tiny hearts you earn through easy tasks! A truly adorable and relaxing game!

Seashine: a game set underwater in which you guide a tiny luminescent jellyfish through the abyss. Beautiful, relaxing music and distant whale noises; some scary enemies, so if you have thalassophobia this might not be the one for you. Very calming otherwise though, and the creator is coming out with an enemy-free version soon in which you can just float around to the music!

Cat Snack Bar: an adorable app where you operate different business venues with the help of chubby, adorable cats! You check in periodically to collect money and update your venue, but otherwise it doesn't require much brain power. A very cute game to help you relax!

Webtoon: a comic app that allows you to browse thousands of creative and often relaxing webcomics! My personal favorite is Cursed Princess Club; it's a very clever and happy one with a lot of good messages!

1010!: a fun little game where you match up blocks. Fairly simple and satisfying, and you can update your backgrounds to fun designs!

Papa's Cupcakeria: a relaxing and satisfying game where you make cupcakes! And of course there’s a whole series of games in the Papa Louie universe to choose from that are fun and happy :)

🪸 Fun Websites

Neal.fun: features many creative pages you can visit such as— a stack of movable rocks, a page that shows how deep the ocean really goes, who was alive [insert year], draw logos from memory, and more!

mrdoob.com: a wacky website with lots of fun features you can draw and mess around with

boredbutton: for when you're bored out of your mind and want a pointless website to mess with!

theuselessweb.com: takes you to a completely useless website, such as a page where it rains corndogs or a page where you can create different forms of art.

ashortjourney.com: lets you take a small and beautifully drawn trip on a trolley and pick up/drop off tiny creatures!

Forestopia: allows you to explore images of forests and the things inside, with background forest noises!

boredpanda.com: full of memes, funny stories, and more!

listverse: contains many lists, some horrifying (so be warned for those) and some just fascinating!

🍄 Focus Sites and Playlists

rainymood.com: a site/app that lets you listen to rain for as long as you want!

asoftmurmur.com: lets you listen to a variety of sounds like rain, thunder, or a fire!

Open ocean: 10 hours of underwater videography of a spot in the ocean!

imissmycafe.com: site that lets you listen to the noises of a coffee shop! You can change the different noises too :)

Secret Forest Playlist: peaceful music; 2 hours

Rain on Leaves on a Forest Road in Autumn: rain in the woods; 10 hours

Haunted Village Halloween Ambience: eerie but quiet music; 3 hours

Relaxing Autumn/Fall Forest: sounds of wind, crows, songbirds, and creaking trees; 7 hours

Chill Beats for Worldbuilding and Writing: Fabulous lofi music; 1 hour

It's Just a Dream/Dreamcore: Very peaceful and ambient music; 4 hours

Autumn Acoustic: Autumn inspired songs; 5 hours

Sad Piano Music: beautiful piano pieces by Jurrivh; 6 hours

The Most Relaxing Waves Ever: beach noises; 8 hours

Have your own recommendations? Drop a comment or ask!

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It’s so weird having anxiety and not wanting the attention on you for that exact reason, but your BPD going “we need ALL of the attention” as a direct response and causing the attention seeking behaviours.

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Share your story about being abused. List the patterns that your abuser had. List the responses you have to the trauma. Call your abuser a narcissist and yourself a victim of narcissistic abuse.

Share the same story about being abused. List the same patterns that your abuser had. List the same responses you have to the trauma. But this time, call yourself a narcissist and say that the abuse is what made you one.

In the first scenario, you'd be met with an outpouring of compassion. In the second scenario, you'd be met with people calling you a monster and saying that you should be prohibited from having children or even that you should be killed.

But literally the only difference is who's being called a narcissist. Everything else is 100% exactly the same.

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"I was abused by a narcissist. I now regularly have suicidal thoughts. I now have unique trauma that very few people could even come close to understanding. I now struggle to understand right and wrong because it was never taught to me in an accurate way. I now regularly worry that I'm destined to become just like my abuser. I now struggle to form connections with people because my trauma scares them away. I now developed a unique ability to read other people because I needed it in order to survive the abuse I suffered. I now struggle to stand up for myself because of my trauma. I now feel the need to be the best at everything I do because I worry that I won't be able to handle the consequences if I fail to live up to that."

You just perfectly described how it feels to be a narcissist.

I get it. In a society that demonizes mentally ill people and gives abusive neurotypical people a free pass, it makes sense that you'd want people to see your abuser as the one who's mentally ill and not you. It's so much easier to find support as a "victim of narcissistic abuse" than as a narcissist. So it can be tempting to want to believe that it's your abuser who's the narcissist and not you.

But it doesn't work that way. All you're doing is contributing to the stigma against people just like you.

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yall are pro mental illness until they hallucinate

yall are pro mental illness until they dissociate

yall are pro mental illness until they self-isolate

yall are pro mental illness until they're paranoid

yall are pro mental illness until they split

yall are pro mental illness until it's too Scary for your comparatively neurotypical brain to handle

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If your apology involves degrading yourself, calling yourself shit or insulting yourself, its not an apology, try again.

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am i nuts or are a lot of social cues straight up manipulation. why r so many people just. okay with that.

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#me when i'm on my meds

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my anhedonia is eating me alive so i’m making these mental illness memes to cope

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Patrick approves of our new apartment!

#cats #cats of tumblr

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I was trying to find my original post on this but tumblr’s search is once again not working so!

With BPD (or any other personality disorder honestly), a lot of the time we hold ourselves to impossible standards. We don’t allow ourselves any room for a mistake, bad day or anything like that. We focus so much on trying to recover or whatever else that we forget that we’re human!

Even people without BPD (or another personality disorder) have bad days. They make mistakes. They lash out. Expecting ourselves to never do these things is beyond unreasonable.

And I’m not saying we shouldn’t try and do better and I’m not saying we shouldn’t hold ourselves accountable. But these things happen and we aren’t a failure when they do. We aren’t bad people if we mess up. We aren’t losing all our progress if we slip up. We’re human. We don’t need to go on a spiral and split on ourselves. It’s impossible to be perfect all the time and holding ourselves to unreasonable standards is setting ourselves up for failure.

Give yourself more patience, compassion and understanding. You deserve it.

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#love bob's burgers so much

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If you’re someone without a personality disorder trying to defend people with personality disorders, you get told that you’ve been manipulated and brainwashed and can’t be trusted.

If you’re someone with a personality disorder trying to defend yourself, you get told that you’re manipulative and dangerous and can’t be trusted.

There really is no way for us to win.

#cluster b safe #npd safe #bpd safe #cluster b #npd #aspd safe #hpd safe #bpd #neurodivergent

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I’m an idiot

#neurodivergent