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WHAT HAPPENED TO AASEXUALCAKEUNIVERSE??? Please read!!!

Hello those of you still paying attention to this blog! I’m pretty sure I actually have more followers here than ever, so I’m sure at least some of you will see this and take interest.

Since starting college about two years ago, I’ve gone on many hiatuses, all followed by lengthy explanations with apologies and promises to do better. I’m not going to feed you that crap again, to put it bluntly.

Here’s what I am going to say.

My name is Nat. I’m a nineteen year old heteroromantic asexual girl from Long Island. I’ve identified as asexual since I was roughly fourteen or fifteen years old. I started this blog shortly after with a friend of mine who had first introduced me to the term a few years prior (yeah it took me a little while to realize it applied to me too). That friend soon stopped doing things on this blog and we basically fell out of touch (we have always lived in different states so it was easy to lose contact) and I pretty much just took over this blog without officially discussing it (I’ve since learned that friend was okay with that).

I didn’t expect this blog to get as big as it did. Don’t get me wrong, I was ambitious and certainly hoped it would get big, but I didn't necessarily expect it to. It also hadn’t occurred to me that the bigger the following, the more stressful it would be.

I constantly received messages from people wondering if they were asexual, or simply looking for their identity to be validated. I was thrilled that people were coming to me for this, and I’d sit in class on my phone, doing research to answer the questions to the best of my ability. It felt so great to help others.

I eventually realized the amount of weight my words carried here, and not always in the best way. If I said something *slightly* wrong, people were quick to attack me. It didn't matter if I was quick to apologize and eager to learn. Let’s face it: Tumblr is toxic and there is no escaping that toxicity. So I would do my best to appease everyone, whether it was by making people laugh or offering some advice, but it became difficult.

The negative comments would become overwhelming at times, and I’d be afraid to log on here and see what vile things were being spat at me for what were usually bogus reasons. I’d try to shrug it off, but that’s easier said than done.

Then came college. I was in a new place with new people and a chance to reinvent myself. I decided to limit the number of people who knew about my asexuality rather than just be completely open about it. I tried to have a life outside of my sexual identity because I was frankly tired of having to think about my asexuality every single day of my life. It was exhausting and I wanted a semblance of “normality”, if that makes any sense.

To be perfectly honest, I didn’t feel the need to come onto this blog anymore. As much as it was a tool for other people to find comfort and support, it was also a tool for me to express myself and connect myself with the community. I did so much of what I did for you guys, but it was also for myself.

Responding to messages became less gratifying for me. Selfish, I know. But I’d spent years here doing that and it became more like stressful work than happily giving back to the community. Also, as someone as young and experienced as I am, I don’t have all the answers and I stopped feeling like someone that people should turn to for these things. Sure, I’d done a pretty good job helping people in the past, but I stopped feeling like I was in a position to lend that help.

All of that leads me to this: I do not expect myself to continue with this blog. I’m sorry if you’ve sent me messages that I never answered. I’m sorry if you had been hoping I would make a comeback here. I’m sorry for my selfish reasons that brought me to this point. I’m truly very sorry.

I really hope you guys can understand my reasons, though. I also hope that I was able to put a smile on your face at some point, or offer you advice/support when you needed it. I love helping people, and I always will. Which leads me to something else: I’m not completely going off the grid.

If you still want to be in contact with me, or if you ever need advice/support/someone to talk to, or if you simply want to see what’s going on in my life, you can follow my personal blog and message me there: @nat-the-ferret​

If people actually do that, I’ll start posting there more regularly and offer more frequent glimpses into my life (even if it’s just the occasional selfie, haha). I don’t want to lose my connection with you all, and I hope you don’t want to lose your connection to me. These past several years have meant a lot to me, and I hope the feeling is mutual with a handful of you (or more, I just don’t know at this point).

I love you all. Take care, my lovely aces, and once again you can maintain contact with me by following @nat-the-ferret​ (probably going to change that URL if people start following me...).

With love, this is AAsexualCakeUniverse, signing off.

-Nat

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Sorry for the self-promotion, but I’m just gonna leave this here. I’M SORRY

Alright I just want to update you guys on something

I still plan on opening an etsy shop and selling my cranes. I’m kinda considering expanding it to more than just mini origami cranes, and including commissions for tiny portraits and such. In case you don’t remember, my crane-making started because of an art class in high school a few years ago. I was an AP art student and my specialty was tiny drawings, the smallest being 2in x 4in.

(guess which drawing marks the beginning of the crane projects?)

Anyway I am still waiting on my friend to help me work out the business aspects of the etsy shop so I can start selling. I’m honestly considering getting someone else to help me because I’ve been waiting for months but whatever. Anyway yeah I just wanted to let you all know that this is still a thing.

Also don’t repost my pictures or remove my caption, seeing as those are two of my very best tiny drawings. Thanks.

#natspapercranes

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I think my favorite part about being asexual is confusing the hell out of everyone I meet.

Like, I fit so many different stereotypes but none of the stereotypes I fit actually apply to me. So when people don’t know that I’m asexual they try so hard to figure out what exactly I am because I don’t strike many people as heterosexual. 

Then when they find out that I’m asexual, you can practically see the pieces connect in their heads as their eyes widen and their jaws drop in that “ohhh!” moment where suddenly everything makes sense.

I dunno, it really entertains me watching people try to pinpoint what I am, especially when they clearly don’t realize that I know what they’re doing.

#asexuality #personal?

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I take my grammar very seriously.

Hey guys, have you ever wondered why there are two “A”s at the beginning of my URL?

I’m surprised nobody has ever asked me about this even once since I made this blog and I can’t stop myself from wondering what you guys think about the seemingly pointless extra letter. 

Like/reblog or send me a message if you want to know the secret behind it, and if I get enough likes/reblogs/messages, I’ll post the origin story of that extra A!

((I’m trying to think of something to post so I’m going to use this as some comic relief while I think))

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Can you not be ace, but and then later in the future become an Ace? Like, can someone want sex and stuff(not with any particular person in specific) but later in the future think what they wanted in the past was gross and don't experience any sexual attraction?

Totally

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Is there a term for being asexual but being aesthetically attracted to guys and girls (not romantically)?

There’s no specific term for that (that I’m aware of), but it’s pretty common for asexuals to be aesthetically attracted to people. Just because we don’t experience sexual attraction it doesn’t mean we can't experience aesthetic attraction :D

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I didn’t see any of you guys at Long Beach Pride yesterday (not surprising, but it would’ve been nice), so I thought I’d share with you all a picture from yesterday of yours truly :) It’s cropped weirdly because it’s a picture with one of my former classmates from my first semester of college that I ran into there who also happened to be ace. I didn’t want to post her face out of respect for her privacy.

Anyway this is me repping my ace pride! Happy belated Asexual Pride Day!

#ASEXUAL PRIDE #my face #asexual pride day #long beach pride #asexuality

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Submissions will now be open at all times!!!

I’ve decided to keep submissions open permanently! I’m going to add more tags for you guys to use, but from now on you can submit anything original (and related to asexuality) to be posted here! Have fun and keep it ace!

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Happy Ace Storytime! ☺ I'm 22 and at the beginning of our relationship my partner noticed that I wasn't enthusiastic about sex (we had and still have sex, but I never initiate it) 😅 One day he told me that he came across asexuality on the internet and that it "sounded a lot like me", so I was like "yeah, because that's what I am". He was really curious about the whole "no sexual attraction"-thing, understanding and relieved that my lack of libido wasn't his fault 😂 (C)

C On the 16th we’re in a 1 year (monogamous!) relationship. Lesson of the whole story? You will find someone who’s taking you seriously and accept you the way you are. Also, you can be ace and in a sexual relationship without being less valid. And it’s not just “a phase” or “lack of maturity” that will go away during adulthood. Have a great day!

#ASEXUAL PRIDE #asexual pride day

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I posted this on my ace blog already, but this is my subtle pride. ( @ambidextrousace)

#ASEXUAL PRIDE #asexual pride day #submission

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Here’s a scarf I started making near the start of the year. It’s still in the process, though it has kind of gone on the back burner recently. But anyway, I thought I’d share!

#ASEXUAL PRIDE #asexual pride day #submission

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HAPPY ASEXUAL PRIDE DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To celebrate, I will be opening up submissions for happy ace stories, ace selfies, ace art, etc.!!! If you have anything, and I mean ANYTHING (text, photo, drawing, whatever!) that represents asexual pride, please submit it!!!

#ASEXUAL PRIDE #asexuality #asexual pride day

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ATTENTION ANY LONG ISLAND FOLLOWERS!!!

Do I even have any Long Island followers? I don’t know. ANYWAY if you ARE a follower from Long Island and are going to Pride on Long Beach today, TRY TO FIND ME!!!

I’m going to the parade and carnival at Long Beach today, and if you’re there, you should look out for me!

How will you recognize me?

I’ll be wearing a dark grey crop top with skinny jeans that have two (unintended) rips on the right knee. I’ll also be wearing a black ring on my right middle finger!!!

If you think you’ve spotted me, don’t hesitate to approach! I’m a very social person and would love to meet you! Just say, “What is your favorite type of cake?” I’ll respond, “Chocolate with vanilla buttercream frosting.” If this is the response you get, you’ve found me and are now free to have a normal conversation with me!!!

I hope to see some of you there!!!

Also, HAPPY ASEXUAL PRIDE DAY!!!!!!

#long beach pride #ASEXUAL PRIDE

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GUYS QUICK I HOW DO I MAKE ACE PRIDE CLOTHING/ACCESSORIES WITH LIMITED RESOURCES

MY FRIEND INVITED ME TO A PRIDE PARADE TOMORROW BUT I OWN ALMOST NOTHING PURPLE

ALL I HAVE IS FELT IN THE ACE COLORS, STRING, NO SEWING MACHINE BUT IM GOOD AT SEWING BY HAND, FABRIC PAINT, AND IDK MAYBE SOME OLD FABRIC I CAN USE ???

CAN SOME CRAFTY PEOPLE HELP ME OUT PLEASE THIS IS AN EMERGENCY

#personal? #signal boost #PLEASE HELP ME OUT

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Let’s Celebrate Ace Pride Day (6/10) Together!

Alright so despite being terrible at being active here, I am 100% aware that it’s pride month and that this Sunday (6/10) is Ace Pride Day.

I want to celebrate with you guys!

I don’t know exactly how to go about doing that, but I’m going to throw some ideas out there and I would absolutely love for you guys to share your own with me. Seriously, please tell me how you’d like us to celebrate.

My ideas:

I can go live on the aasexualcakeuniverse Instagram and talk to you guys and have a virtual Ace Pride Party.

I can can open up submissions so you guys can share your ace/ace pride stories, artwork, selfies, etc.

I can make some ace pride artwork and take requests for ace pride artwork (I love drawing and I’m good at it but haven’t drawn in a long time and need motivation so this would be the motivation I need XD )

PLEASE GIVE ME FEEDBACK!!!!!!!! I WANT TO CELEBRATE WITH YOU GUYS SO PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK OF THESE IDEAS AND SHARE IDEAS OF YOUR OWN!!!!!!!!!!

#asexual pride day #ace pride day #ASEXUAL PRIDE #asexuality

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OKAY, THE REASON THERE IS AN EXTRA “A” IN THE URL IS.......

...

I have absolutely no clue. I started this blog a few years ago with a friend (whom I have pretty much lost touch with since then) and the URL was their idea. I think had asked about it and they were just like “why not?” (but there is a good chance I’m making that up and that I just never asked about it. I honestly don't remember) I’ve honestly considered getting rid of the extra A for a long time, but I feel like the blog has been around too long and gained too much attention for me to do that without it feeling weird, like the end of an era.

So why the extra “A”?

I have no idea. I have no idea now, I had no idea when we created this blog, I had no idea when I took over fully, and I will never know.

So yeah fun fact I can’t even explain my own URL.

Hey guys, have you ever wondered why there are two “A”s at the beginning of my URL?

I’m surprised nobody has ever asked me about this even once since I made this blog and I can’t stop myself from wondering what you guys think about the seemingly pointless extra letter. 

Like/reblog or send me a message if you want to know the secret behind it, and if I get enough likes/reblogs/messages, I’ll post the origin story of that extra A!

((I’m trying to think of something to post so I’m going to use this as some comic relief while I think))

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(Regarding the extra a): You're doing the thing by which English speakers repeat a word twice to clarify it's a "real" or "genuine" or in some cases "extra" version of the word. For instance, "milk milk" (emphasis on the first 'milk') would suggest cow milk - what is the most commonly used definition of milk, or "real" milk, as opposed to almond milk, etc. So, A Asexual Cake Universe is like A-Asexual. As in legit, super ace. ✌

Huh. That’s a better explanation than the one I have. I should start using that from now on.