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As I’ve said before, I feel like it’s violent misogyny with its own pride flag. Sex is fun and can get really physically adventurous and wild sometimes. Smacking my ass or pulling my hair from time to time as we get with it is sometimes part of the fun. Beyond that, it’s mentally and emotionally dangerous and exploitative. Look at the stats about the relationships. Look at the ages of the women and how many of them are ‘subs’ and how old the men are and what percentage of them are the ‘dims’ (it keeps autocorrecting to that so I’m gonna leave it). Look at how the number of participants and their ages and power imbalances have grown and changed with the advent of social media and fanfic/porn consumption by younger and younger people. I can’t believe that emotionally healthy adult men just happen to have an innate sexuality which involves inflicting pain on others, and to say otherwise is my prudish kink shaming. Like ‘love at first sight’, bdsm is another way of emotionally manipulating and exploiting women to serve the sexual needs of others (mostly men).

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No. I believe you can have SOMETHING at first sight. A real spark, a connection of some sort that makes you want to see this person more, that immediately makes you think ‘Hey this is great!! She’s fantastic!’ But I don’t think it’s love. Not yet. I’m cynical and keep my heart in a rock on an island, but I think you need more knowledge and experience of a person to really be in love. That early, fizzy feeling is good, but it can lead you into a lot of bad situations. Young women especially. I saw a feminist poster in the 90s that read ‘Romantic love is a myth invented to control women’ and while that may be a BIT much, I can see the ideas behind it. Love and romance and the search for The One who will make your dreams come true is a lot more fun to dream about than how am I going to find a job that facilitates my life without crushing my soul. I think ‘love at first sight’ is part of that alternate universe. It’s lovely but not really true.

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one: the first gay magazine in the united states founded in los angeles 1952

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#k d lang #lesbian #hot dykes #butch #yum

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Drag Show Programs

Spanning the globe, these drag show programs have been collected from clubs and revues in major cities including Paris, New Orleans, San Francisco, and London. The oldest of these depict female impersonators and clubs from the 1940s. Though a few of the programs are from one-time events, many of them are part of a series of recurring drag shows at venues such as Club 82, Finocchio’s, Club My O My, Le Carrousel, Madame Arthur’s Nightclub, and the Wonder Club. This collection provides a closer look into the communities that formed within drag clubs, with many names appearing in multiple programs for various clubs.              

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source: The Little Butch Book by Lesléa Newman

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source: The Persistent Desire: A Femme-Butch Reader, edited by Joan Nestle

photo title: "Leslie Feinberg with lover, circa 1967" from the Lesbian Herstory Archives

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A bleeding reporter interviews a bleeding activist after one of the mass anti-war demonstrations at the 1968 Democratic National Convention, which were violently broken up by Chicago police and federal troops

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I’m sorry, I’m laughing too hard at the vocab lesson to take this question seriously. For real, I can only hear this in the “Pardon me, do you have any Grey Poupon?” voice. Which I suppose means my answer must be, “But of course!”

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EDWARD II (1991), directed by Derek Jarman.

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I think this deck is obsessed with them

No, but y’all sure do.

All clothing should have labels, it tells you how to care for the fabric. I’m so tired of this deck of ignunt questions

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Tracy Chapman, 1988

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k.d. lang, photographed by paul natkin (1992)

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Not unless she’s rubbing against another woman. She’s an adult and can do what she needs. If your partner gets upset about things like this, you may need to re-evaluate. That’s a lot of control issues.

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Good for her. Also love the correction at the end that they had to change the headline from ‘vagina’. I’ve seen this painting in Paris, and the worst part about it was the piles and piles of postcards in the gift shop because isn’t it hilarious!!! Dudes could not get enough!! It’s like porn, except it’s a painting!

#art #bullshit #headless women art

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Rock Hudson.

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No, why bother? It’s obnoxious to hit on people who will never be interested. It’s kind of obnoxious to hit on people at all, but it’s surely just being a pest to spend this time being sexual and aggressive to someone who can not and will not be open to this attention. I don’t like men hitting on me, I sure wouldn’t bother a woman with that same kind of unwanted attention. Hitting on people (as opposed to flirting) is weird and invasive at the best of times. In this circumstance it would be borderline assault.

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