arisato-kun

[arisato-kun]

am i aro?

This is an empty account because I’m afraid of posting it on my main tumblr. I uploaded this post on reddit too because I’m in need of advice.

I was wondering if other aro people could help add their own thoughts into this. So I am asexual, but I'm questioning if I'm aro or not.

I recently broke up with someone who I had dated for just over 2 years, but I don't really feel sad about it? Yes it sucks that it happened but I'm not crying or upset about the romantic relationship ending.

They were a very affectionate type of person and I'm not, usually when they would be affectionate towards me like saying pet names or romantic words I would brush it off and jokingly go "haha that's funny". We started off as very close friends and they had confessed to me, but when we started to date I didn't really treat the relationship as anything different than how we were friends, other than them being more affectionate and proclaiming their love from time to time. And oftentimes that sort of thing was really uncomfy for me and I felt really bad.

I always thought that just because we started to date doesn't mean we need to change anything about how we were already treating each other as friends. And now that we've stopped dating I feel like not much as really changed about how I felt about them. The only part I'm really bummed about is that I won't be able to talk to them for a long time since they probably don't wanna talk to me anymore since we've broken up.

I'm wondering if how I'm feeling is normal? I've thought before that I was aromantic but then I ended up dating them and thought "guess I'm not aro" and labeled under panromantic instead, but after all this happened I'm questioning it again.

I don't know if there are any others that have been in this kind of situation, and whether or not this is something within the spectrum of aromanticism. If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it.

#aromantic #aromanticism #aro #aroace #lgbt #aspec