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When people see deviant behavior and comment that that person needs therapy, they’re not actually wishing that person well. They’re hoping to eliminate the deviant behavior, and failing that, to incarcerate them.

It’s also a gross misunderstanding of how therapy works. If you don’t want to be there, you won’t get anything out of it. I think people who say “they need therapy” do know it works that way, but they’re taking a mental shortcut. They’re imagining a deviant person who wants to change already, whom they can put in the Therapy Vortex and get a normal person out of it. If you’re intellectually rigorous about prison abolition, you have to grapple with the fact that you can’t incarcerate or therapize people into changing.

You also have to grapple with the difference between deviant behavior and harmful behavior! Someone who self-harms displays deviant behavior, which is harmful to them but not anyone else, and it’s your goddamn right to be mentally ill in a way that disgusts other people. If you want to stop, then therapy might be helpful, but it’s offensive to say that someone should get therapy just because you want them to stop.

Compare this to scamming people with fake blood testing machines. I saw people talking about how Elizabeth Holmes was a narcissist, a sociopath, whatever stigmatized cluster-B diagnosis they could throw at the wall. Maybe she is a narcissist. She doesn’t necessarily need therapy about it. She certainly doesn’t need therapy inflicted on her. It wouldn’t stop her from doing a scam again. She needs to be banned from the medical industry. Her actions were harmful, and we should address the actions, rather than trying to solve whatever the psychological cause was.

Much of this has been said before, but I’ve been seeing a lot commentary recently that criminals and deviants should go to therapy. IMO it’s a sanitized way to say “lock them up.”

#venting rn

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this is going to be difficult -> i am capable of doing difficult things -> i have done everything prior to this moment -> this difficulty will soon be proof of capability

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Tumblr is where girls go to be alone with other girls who are being alone and that's why I've been using this site for so long

#True as fuck! #That's why I returned fr #And I'm active here! #(I'm never active ;_;)

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Self sabotage can often happen unconsciously. We may get unexplainable desires or make unwise actions for no apparent reason: that's our complex living inside of our shadow. A complex is basically a repressed desire that caused us pain or trauma in the past, and that we're now neglecting. We pushed it away into our unconsciousness pretending, by doing so, to free ourselves from it. But not confronting it, we're letting it live inside of us without control: it can come out of the shadow whenever it wants and sabotage our desires and dreams whenever we seem to finally get over our deepest fears and change our life. That's because we unconsciously fear that our deepest needs won't be met: in that moment our complex comes out of the darkness and blocks us, by literally creating mental blockages or making us renounce to situations or procrastinate, so that we won't get hurt by unmet needs anymore.

For example: we're lacking money and we see money as a mean to get independence, but also as a way to free ourselves from the connections that we don't want to have anymore (i.e. we need to carpool to work, we have to share our house...). Our goal is to be financially independent, so to buy our own car and house, and isolate ourselves. We may even think we don't wanna deal with people anymore and go live in a forest. But this may actually hide our need to have real human connections: in fact, our complex may come out anytime we are given an offer for a rise or a promotion so that we give it up (we may be insecure about being able to afford that position); we may become famous online and suddenly stop posting; we may feel suddenly very tired and unable to work on any project or not plan properly our business. That's because our complex wants us to maintain those little connections we have on daily basis.

Our complex on one side wants to be acknowledged in our conscious self and be taken care of (it's still a human need/desire that caused us pain), so that's why it sabotages any chances you get to reach your goals. We may not understand why we say or do something sometimes, but our complex is doing its job keeping us where it wants us to stay. On the other hand, our complex wants to keep going unnoticed in order to keep doing what it wants to do and take control over us, kinda rebelling against us, destroying our dreams and keeping us where it's safe, exactly because we're neglecting it.

How to get over this matter? We need to be aware of what is going on in your conscious life by observing ourselves and being objective: whenever we make unreasonable excuses in order to not reach our goals, we should stop and think about the hidden reasons to find solutions that can help us mantain a balance among our complex's needs and our dreams. For example, to challenge our complex and make it lower its toll on us, we can start thinking that by being more financially independent, we may have more time to actually have a better social life (but ofc, we need to believe that and do that... our complex is still ourselves, not someone else: it knows when we're lying to us).

#self sabotage #important #things to understand #things to live by

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#I will always RB loss.jpg

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I think it’s incredibly fucked how capitalism discourages learning for learning’s sake. People will have interests they’ve spent years researching then say it’s “useless knowledge” bc it didn’t go towards a college degree and isn’t part of their job. Learning is never useless! Your brain is growing and developing throughout your whole life! People would never have epiphanies or sudden lightening strikes of creativity if they weren’t learning new things! That goes double for topics like science, politics, and history, which inform your understanding of the world you live in!

#also this! #but it also contains the double standard of learning #because it can be outsourced to the working class #a person learning became an updating asset that it's actual growing capital to catch and use #but we are talking about big macrostructures then #there is a big middle ground between leisure class' summa eloquentia #Sometimes I want to be a monk in a benedictine cluster (part time tho)

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I think it’s incredibly fucked how capitalism discourages learning for learning’s sake. People will have interests they’ve spent years researching then say it’s “useless knowledge” bc it didn’t go towards a college degree and isn’t part of their job. Learning is never useless! Your brain is growing and developing throughout your whole life! People would never have epiphanies or sudden lightening strikes of creativity if they weren’t learning new things! That goes double for topics like science, politics, and history, which inform your understanding of the world you live in!

#<-prev #RB!!! Exactly!!! #above all for the lateral community building #that gives you purpose and belonging

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download a program to create something and use it. download an emulator and play video games. download mp3 files and listen to them. download cool pictures you find off pinterest or flickr and keep them in a special folder somewhere (change your wallpaper!!). download a new font and install it. escape the app sandbox. escape the webapp sandbox. use your computer as the multimedia device it was intended to be god damn it

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whenever i see talk about third spaces people pretty much always mean bars, or other places of consumption. Nobody really talks about something like a public bathhouse that would be a massive boon for local homeless people, or making local laundromats a free public service. These can, and I think absolutely should be valuable and very utilitarian third spaces for community building.

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Me Giving a Pressed Conference: our advocacy for the disabled must include the addict, the imperfect victim, those we despise; the right to autonomy and life cannot devolve into a popularity contest

Reporter I Hate (Not Sexual Tension): Does that include all the attendees of the Bored Ape NFT event who went blind

Me: *Blood streaming from my nostrils and eyes* david, it includes everyone

#EXACTLY!

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#:3

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#april fool's day

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hey everyone its april fools. but dont worry i dont have anything planned. just going to sit here and...

I LIED !!!! GET PRANKED

POST BELOW ME GET FUCKING WET

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nobody is coming to save you. get up

#things to reblog repeatedly #unfortunately

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biblically inaccurate angels, like ones with anime eyes and emo haircuts and guns or whatever

#nostalgia #this takes me back #angels with *shot*guns!

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I dont know what to say. I’m at a ,’ , |,’_’ for words

#idc what anyone says #LOVE IT! #memetics