REAL ANA TIP
Whenever you feel like you are binging rn like dinner or smth just go ahead and salt your food as heavily as possible that way you can’t even keep eating if you wanted to
(this also works with chocolate bars )
Stay Safe everyone <3
i will be shortly cleaning out my ask box and this has been a warning (:
Just a reminder that this blog is not a safe space for Gryffindors ❤️❤️❤️
Hey guys, please take a second to reblog this and delete house party if you have it bc apparently their data collection policy is awful!!!
Stay safe, everyone!
Things you will never see on this blog:
- The Vistani will never, ever be referred to as g*psies. It is a slur and it will not appear on this blog.
- Strahd will never truly love Tatyana. He does not know how, and he is incapable of learning what love is at this point.
- Strahd will never be truly redeemed. I might explore this in an AU, but as far as his canon goes, it’s never going to happen.
- I will not excuse his actions. I know he’s terrible. I just find broken characters interesting to explore!
Things you should know:
- Strahd cannot leave Barovia except under extremely special circumstances. This means your muse is going to have to come to him. Luckily, the nature of the Mists is such that they can appear anywhere and take anyone, no matter how far-flung the world is.
- This excludes my verses that take place in other canons (they’re coming, I promise!), or cases where we have discussed other options.
hello everyone!! I’m more than certain you’ve been aware of my inactivity and I am so sorry for that.
I know I should have said something sooner, but I didn’t want to disappoint all of you as I know so many of you love this blog, as well as the others. but it been a few months and you guys don’t deserve the silence I’ve been giving you.
the reason for my inactivity has been because due to everything going on, especially quarantine and the pandemic, I’ve not been able to focus as well as I’d wanted to. I had to take a break because I just couldn’t force myself to write. I really wanted to focus on the blogs during everything, knowing that for a great deal of people, this blog is like a home, this community is a safe space. but I’ve been struggling with the energy to do so.
as you may have noticed, the Septic-ask blog is no longer available. I couldn’t keep up with it as most of what was sent was aimed at Anti or provided a great deal of writing when I simply didn’t have the energy. for these reasons, among the others of the tole of running three blogs at once, I made the decision to delete it, as it was both the most demanding, the least inspired and the least favored of the three.
now, for the main two, I am not going to be getting rid of them! not at all. I am going to try to get back into the flow of working on both of them and getting back into the groove I had before or something similar, as writing for you all brought a great amount of joy for me! as well as just being in this community in general, along with giving a good outlet for my creativity.
though, I cannot promise to be as active as I had before due to everything going on with tensions so high, as well as having to deal with the anxiety of my friends getting sick or so on. the schedule will more or less be the same, a few asks every day with Sunday and Saturday being my days off or the days i don’t need to work but i can if I want to.
I am thinking of redoing the design of both The colonel and Unus Annus Ask, simply redesigning the aesthetic to better fit the energy i want. a makeover! you could say
I have not forgotten you all! I never could.i have plans to make the community more, well, communicative. I have plans for a discord server, though I need help with making and running it as I’m unfamiliar with it. I’m hoping this will help us keep in touch easier! and keep up activity even when I can’t post.
please, do not be afraid to reach out to me or others in the community during these times. I know things are harsh and stressful and awfully bad, but we can get through this. we have before, we can again. please try to be safe, everyone, wash your hands, give when you’re able, keep your spirits high, it’s going to be okay.
Final notes + Tl;dr
I know most of you probably didn’t read all that, beforehand, and I don’t mind too much.
in short; I was inactive due to not having the energy, I’m hoping to fix that now. I got rid of the septic eye blog because it was too demanding. I might redesign the aesthetic of the blogs. a discord server is a strong possibility, but I need help.
thank you so much for reading!
🌼there is nothing embarrassing about going to therapy🌼
Margie Donlon’s post on Facebook:
From a psychologist: After having thirty-one sessions this week with patients where the singular focus was COVID-19 and how to cope, I decided to consolidate my advice and make a list that I hope is helpful to all. I can’t control a lot of what is going on right now, but I can contribute this.
Edit: I am surprised and heartened that this has been shared so widely! People have asked me to credential myself, so to that end, I am a doctoral level Psychologist in NYS with a Psy.D. in the specialities of School and Clinical Psychology.
MENTAL HEALTH WELLNESS TIPS FOR QUARANTINE
1. Stick to a routine. Go to sleep and wake up at a reasonable time, write a schedule that is varied and includes time for work as well as self-care.
2. Dress for the social life you want, not the social life you have. Get showered and dressed in comfortable clothes, wash your face, brush your teeth. Take the time to do a bath or a facial. Put on some bright colors. It is amazing how our dress can impact our mood.
3. Get out at least once a day, for at least thirty minutes. If you are concerned of contact, try first thing in the morning, or later in the evening, and try less traveled streets and avenues. If you are high risk or living with those who are high risk, open the windows and blast the fan. It is amazing how much fresh air can do for spirits.
4. Find some time to move each day, again daily for at least thirty minutes. If you don’t feel comfortable going outside, there are many YouTube videos that offer free movement classes, and if all else fails, turn on the music and have a dance party!
5. Reach out to others, you guessed it, at least once daily for thirty minutes. Try to do FaceTime, Skype, phone calls, texting—connect with other people to seek and provide support. Don’t forget to do this for your children as well. Set up virtual playdates with friends daily via FaceTime, Facebook Messenger Kids, Zoom, etc—your kids miss their friends, too!
6. Stay hydrated and eat well. This one may seem obvious, but stress and eating often don’t mix well, and we find ourselves over-indulging, forgetting to eat, and avoiding food. Drink plenty of water, eat some good and nutritious foods, and challenge yourself to learn how to cook something new!
7. Develop a self-care toolkit. This can look different for everyone. A lot of successful self-care strategies involve a sensory component (seven senses: touch, taste, sight, hearing, smell, vestibular (movement) and proprioceptive (comforting pressure). An idea for each: a soft blanket or stuffed animal, a hot chocolate, photos of vacations, comforting music, lavender or eucalyptus oil, a small swing or rocking chair, a weighted blanket. A journal, an inspirational book, or a mandala coloring book is wonderful, bubbles to blow or blowing watercolor on paper through a straw are visually appealing as well as work on controlled breath. Mint gum, Listerine strips, ginger ale, frozen Starburst, ice packs, and cold are also good for anxiety regulation. For children, it is great to help them create a self-regulation comfort box (often a shoe-box or bin they can decorate) that they can use on the ready for first-aid when overwhelmed.
8. Spend extra time playing with children. Children will rarely communicate how they are feeling, but will often make a bid for attention and communication through play. Don’t be surprised to see therapeutic themes of illness, doctor visits, and isolation play through. Understand that play is cathartic and helpful for children—it is how they process their world and problem solve, and there’s a lot they are seeing and experiencing in the now.
9. Give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and a wide berth. A lot of cooped up time can bring out the worst in everyone. Each person will have moments when they will not be at their best. It is important to move with grace through blowups, to not show up to every argument you are invited to, and to not hold grudges and continue disagreements. Everyone is doing the best they can to make it through this.
10. Everyone find their own retreat space. Space is at a premium, particularly with city living. It is important that people think through their own separate space for work and for relaxation. For children, help them identify a place where they can go to retreat when stressed. You can make this place cozy by using blankets, pillows, cushions, scarves, beanbags, tents, and “forts”. It is good to know that even when we are on top of each other, we have our own special place to go to be alone.
11. Expect behavioral issues in children, and respond gently. We are all struggling with disruption in routine, none more than children, who rely on routines constructed by others to make them feel safe and to know what comes next. Expect increased anxiety, worries and fears, nightmares, difficulty separating or sleeping, testing limits, and meltdowns. Do not introduce major behavioral plans or consequences at this time—hold stable and focus on emotional connection.
12. Focus on safety and attachment. We are going to be living for a bit with the unprecedented demand of meeting all work deadlines, homeschooling children, running a sterile household, and making a whole lot of entertainment in confinement. We can get wrapped up in meeting expectations in all domains, but we must remember that these are scary and unpredictable times for children. Focus on strengthening the connection through time spent following their lead, through physical touch, through play, through therapeutic books, and via verbal reassurances that you will be there for them in this time.
13. Lower expectations and practice radical self-acceptance. This idea is connected with #12. We are doing too many things in this moment, under fear and stress. This does not make a formula for excellence. Instead, give yourself what psychologists call “radical self acceptance”: accepting everything about yourself, your current situation, and your life without question, blame, or pushback. You cannot fail at this—there is no roadmap, no precedent for this, and we are all truly doing the best we can in an impossible situation.
14. Limit social media and COVID conversation, especially around children. One can find tons of information on COVID-19 to consume, and it changes minute to minute. The information is often sensationalized, negatively skewed, and alarmist. Find a few trusted sources that you can check in with consistently, limit it to a few times a day, and set a time limit for yourself on how much you consume (again 30 minutes tops, 2-3 times daily). Keep news and alarming conversations out of earshot from children—they see and hear everything, and can become very frightened by what they hear.
15. Notice the good in the world, the helpers. There is a lot of scary, negative, and overwhelming information to take in regarding this pandemic. There are also a ton of stories of people sacrificing, donating, and supporting one another in miraculous ways. It is important to counter-balance the heavy information with the hopeful information. 16. Help others. Find ways, big and small, to give back to others. Support restaurants, offer to grocery shop, check in with elderly neighbors, write psychological wellness tips for others—helping others gives us a sense of agency when things seem out of control.
17. Find something you can control, and control the heck out of it. In moments of big uncertainty and overwhelm, control your little corner of the world. Organize your bookshelf, purge your closet, put together that furniture, group your toys. It helps to anchor and ground us when the bigger things are chaotic.
18. Find a long-term project to dive into. Now is the time to learn how to play the keyboard, put together a huge jigsaw puzzle, start a 15 hour game of Risk, paint a picture, read the Harry Potter series, binge watch an 8-season show, crochet a blanket, solve a Rubix cube, or develop a new town in Animal Crossing. Find something that will keep you busy, distracted, and engaged to take breaks from what is going on in the outside world.
19. Engage in repetitive movements and left-right movements. Research has shown that repetitive movement (knitting, coloring, painting, clay sculpting, jump roping etc) especially left-right movement (running, drumming, skating, hopping) can be effective at self-soothing and maintaining self-regulation in moments of distress.
20. Find an expressive art and go for it. Our emotional brain is very receptive to the creative arts, and it is a direct portal for release of feeling. Find something that is creative (sculpting, drawing, dancing, music, singing, playing) and give it your all. See how relieved you can feel. It is a very effective way of helping kids to emote and communicate as well!
21. Find lightness and humor in each day. There is a lot to be worried about, and with good reason. Counterbalance this heaviness with something funny each day: cat videos on YouTube, a stand-up show on Netflix, a funny movie—we all need a little comedic relief in our day, every day.
22. Reach out for help—your team is there for you. If you have a therapist or psychiatrist, they are available to you, even at a distance. Keep up your medications and your therapy sessions the best you can. If you are having difficulty coping, seek out help for the first time. There are mental health people on the ready to help you through this crisis. Your children’s teachers and related service providers will do anything within their power to help, especially for those parents tasked with the difficult task of being a whole treatment team to their child with special challenges. Seek support groups of fellow home-schoolers, parents, and neighbors to feel connected. There is help and support out there, any time of the day—although we are physically distant, we can always connect virtually.
23. “Chunk” your quarantine, take it moment by moment. We have no road map for this. We don’t know what this will look like in 1 day, 1 week, or 1 month from now. Often, when I work with patients who have anxiety around overwhelming issues, I suggest that they engage in a strategy called “chunking”—focusing on whatever bite-sized piece of a challenge that feels manageable. Whether that be 5 minutes, a day, or a week at a time—find what feels doable for you, and set a time stamp for how far ahead in the future you will let yourself worry. Take each chunk one at a time, and move through stress in pieces.
24. Remind yourself daily that this is temporary. It seems in the midst of this quarantine that it will never end. It is terrifying to think of the road stretching ahead of us. Please take time to remind yourself that although this is very scary and difficult, and will go on for an undetermined amount of time, it is a season of life and it will pass. We will return to feeing free, safe, busy, and connected in the days ahead.
25. Find the lesson. This whole crisis can seem sad, senseless, and at times, avoidable. When psychologists work with trauma, a key feature to helping someone work through said trauma is to help them find their agency, the potential positive outcomes they can effect, the meaning and construction that can come out of destruction. What can each of us learn here, in big and small ways, from this crisis? What needs to change in ourselves, our homes, our communities, our nation, and our world?
Something frustrating me atm and my path and how it’s changed:
I like the idea of making an oath of my craft.
I also like the flow of most of them…
I’m going to write my own… but I’m still going to complain about this a little bit.
I like the Wiccan Rede¿ (I’ve seen it spelt three ways in the last hour and I give up trying to see which one is right atm)… but it’s not my path.
I set out to learn more about Wicca because I really look up to a handful of Wiccan Witches.
But, the more I looked into the history of Wicca and the sources Gardener (considered the father of Wicca) used and how the co-founder changed a lot and how it became the modern practice we know today… on top of the fact I don’t completely follow the Rede because a lot of it doesn’t apply to my life properly, doesn’t fit me being in the Southern Hemisphere VS the Northern Hemisphere… it felt wrong.
I started doing shadow work recently and aiming to work with my higher self vs the idea of working with any deities (I still work with the fae because I always have and I adore them) and working on tracing back family lines and working in my heritage and what’s in my bloodline’s cultures because it feels right. (I was originally drawn to Wicca under the misconception it was based in the Celtic roots, it’s not entirely, it’s more dicey than that, I’m not really on board with it. I’d rather trace back to my actual roots and learn the traditions of my family’s cultures and go from there).
So that’s where my craft has gone and why, what’s frustrating me is I can’t find a pre written oath that doesn’t pertain to Wicca.
Because there’s a massive misunderstanding in the community all over that the rules/laws/guidelines of Wicca apply to all of us.
They do not.
Wicca has a strange history of a little bit of everything, my heritage has some Celtic roots… I’ve traced some of my lineage to Scotland (I knew this one, I grew up with my family tartan in my grandparents home), Wales, Ireland and France (Which is kinda cool and unexpected). I know there’s some ‘true English’ in there as well but I kinda brush it off, because seriously, I don’t feel like I relate. My family has kept some Celtic traditions on my dad’s side. The more I look into the cultures I’ve come from, all of whom like to be a little separate but have some overlap, the more I see Wiccan traditions as a mix of cultures that were taken over and their history scattered.
My path is aligned for me, by me and while Wiccan sources are usually great, we as witches need to start cross referencing and discovering and discussing where these traditions actually came from, because it’s a collection of knowledge from a group of witches and a lot wasn’t documented as well as it should’ve been.
I’m struggling to find my path in a sea of misinformation and chaos and lost cultures. I’m struggling to find sources that truely speak of the tragedy of witchcraft in its whole. Because witchcraft is about owning your power and a lot of that has been lost and there’s been a power imbalance and struggle throughout history.
I don’t like my Scottish family history.
My maternal grandfathers side is the Scottish and if you’ve been around long enough, you probably know how I feel about him and why I hate him. I also don’t like the violence in the culture, some of it is beautiful, but a lot of the culture is rooted in violence and I don’t want that. Do I see the violence in myself? Hell yes. Do I want to work with anything that could make it grow? Hell nah.
I also understand most cultures have a violent history, but not all of them carried that through their entire cultural identity. Scotland kinda did and I wasn’t super connected to it anyway.
I’d rather follow the women in my family anyway. (Welsh, French and British. Pretty sure Irish comes from my Paternal Grandfather, who I’m not close to, but I don’t have a problem with so I’ll look into it more as well, especially around fae legends)
I brought a tiny crystal ball, a Selenite wand and I have a tarot deck on its way (or I’ve lost my money because it’s late). I’m opening up my path little by little and delving into deeper research and mystery.
I believe a strong part of who we are comes from who we were, traits carry down from generations past and we see that every day. Another part of who we are is stories and legends and history. We have to be able to know our past, see our present and manifest our future. We are stardust and stories.
So I’m looking into the stories and the cultures that make us who we are.
Cross referencing religious traditions and stories, seeing where they come from, learning where I can about everything. I grew up Christian, this was not encouraged at all, I’m now understanding why I was not liked in most churches. Learning to find the facts in the fiction. Most cultures have stories that are similar and overlap, look at that, look at the psychology of the human psyche and the evidence around us and ask why.
The universe is incredibly intricate and intelligent and interesting. Stories feed our soul and feed our craft. We are formed by the stories we grew up on. How did our lives shape us to become the witches we are? What did we learn from them? What can we do, to shape the next generation of witches into strong and powerful beings who are confident in their craft?
Guys like,, I love all of u and would die 4 u but please don’t use/reference off of my art writings, or characters. More specifically, please don’t copy off of my stuff. If you credit me or at least ask permission then that’s an exception ofc! But it’s sort of disheartening to see content I worked very hard to make replicated. I’ve had this problem on a few platforms and wanted to address it real quick. I hope u understand :)
Btw to All Who follows me! I’m Updatading what my Principal Looks like. SO It can match up with this au/ what the characters are.
reblog if you’re available for your followers to talk to during this hard time,
goodnight ilu all sleep good do some self care n hang in there ik quarentine is tough but this’ll be over eventually get better at your fav video game or try learning a new hobby to keep yourself busy and message me if you need anything or to talk to somebody you’re important, loved and you’re doing great keep goin 💙 if you live alone facetime, skype, even zoom anyone important to you and let them know you’re okay, or jus talk to them i really do love you all and want you to be okay
Because tumblr apparently hates sideblogs and just doesn’t want to work properly, I am seriously considering moving this to it’s own main blog, but that would mean so much work. I’d have to delete this blog to use the same name, I’d lose everyone who reads my stuff except for those who are on a taglist, I’d have to repost EVERYTHING one by one, I’d lose all my notes, which I hate because of the ones that are comments on my work, and I truly cherish and love every single one of those. But I just don’t know if the frustration of using a sideblog on Tumblr is worth it.
I’d like anyone who sees this to give their opinion on what I should do, because at this point, I’m exhausted, frustrated, and torn between the two.
Thank you for reading and bearing with me as I figure shit out. It is highly appreciated.
Okay, so I went to check my masterlinks post so I could edit it and do some things only to find out none of the links work anymore. Not a single one, except for the 2 newest additions. Hey, @staff @support, what the fuck? The point of the masterlist is to easily get to different posts, and now I have to find them all and get the links AGAIN, with no guarantee that the links will keep working this time? That’s kinda shitty. Especially because as I post more, the harder it will be to find everything every time the links go bad.
Sorry about the rant. But this is immensely frustrating.
To those of you who follow my blog and writing, here is my Ao3. Until I figure the masterlist bs out, this is where you can find all of my works organized in one place. I’ll still be posting here, but it won’t be as organized or easy to navigate while the masterlist isn’t working. Sorry about that, guys.
With it being April Fools day, it’s a fine day to have a lol and say sites like Insta, Twitter & Snapchat are places for predators to target impressionable minors thanks to the easily accessible IM feature. Online child predation is no joke, please do what you can to help whenever.
Don’t just attempt callout or exposing posts. Play fire w/ fire and report discretely while spreading awareness. They don’t and shouldn’t have to know everything either. But either way, speaking up is one of the strongest things you can do. Remember this.
For more, check out this video by Anxiety War on speaking up, predatory investigator that has been at this for many years (essentially the Chris Hansen of Youtube). Encouragement and fortitude are the crux for dealing with kind of stuff.
Please, stay safe online while staying safe at home.
If I didnt get to your ask I’ll for sure for sure get it somewhere today (since its alr 12 lol)