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Do you have any advice for anyone who wants new experiences in regards to anal, though they have had bad experiences in the past? My dom and I want to use butt plugs but I'm nervous after all the bad experiences I've had with it. (Buttplugs are a new thing for me too)

As corny as this sounds, slow and steady wins the race. Most people have a bad experience when some Jack ass decides to ram it in like a dumbass without regard to injury.

When it comes to anal you have to remember that there's two sphincter muscles, an outer and inner. The key to anal not killing you is in the second sphincter. You have to find ways to help yourself relax. Breathing exercises help, making sure your partner doesn't rush things helps, and not using something the size of a fist to start helps.

Small plugs are a great way to start out, and plugs actually feel way different than a cock also. The difference is with the plug, once it's in, the sphincters can almost close because of the tiny shaft. With a cock the sphincters are held open wider and longer. Lube is your best friend to start. Use a ton of it. Don't be afraid or shy about it.

My starter tips:

1. Lube

2. Start with a finger, slow, steady, helping both sphincters relax and adjust to the intrusion

3. Positioning, contrary to popular "porn belief", doggy style isn't the best angle for anal, or even a really good one. On your back, legs bent up and spread, is almost the perfect angle for most guys to try it on you.

4. The sphincters. The first one is easy. It's just constant pressure. The second inner one is the big clincher. The more you push from outside the more it clinches and hurts. The trick is to exhale and push out against the finger/plug/cock. It sounds counter intuitive to say push out but it works. Push out a little(like you're trying to push out gas to be blunt) and you'll feel it relax and whatever you're trying to get in will pop in much easier. After it's in really don't rush it. Let it stay open and relax and take it slow.

5. Once you practice all of that you'll find it to be a lot more enjoyable. Patience, relaxation, and remember to push out for the second sphincter. That's really the best advice I can give.

This concludes anal tips by Doctordaddysir 🤣❤️

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New Year’s Eve Rendezvous

She was meeting him for the first time on New Year’s Eve. They’d only started talking a few days before. She felt close to him. He made her genuinely feel good about herself. They had shared many stories about their past as he was the first one that seemed to get it. In their talks he didn’t manipulate her fears or talk up her worries. He listened and just seemed to understand. They discussed in length her desires and his dominance. They seemed to be a good match. Her usual worries were there but she thought she’d take a chance anyway. They talked out all the details, limits, safeword, restraints, play times, aftercare, it was all in place and she felt ready.

He met her in the parking lot of the hotel and waited for her to get there to check in. There was some fear from the past and his small gesture of waiting to check in meant a lot to her. It meant she didn’t have to fear someone else being in the room, she didn’t have to fear an unwelcome surprise when the door closed. He had listened , he had really understood.

They walked into the room and put their bags down. He walked to her and grabbed her, he stared at her eyes, looked at her smile and said “I’m so glad you’re here baby girl” and with that they both leaned in for a kiss. Their lips touched, he could taste the flavored lip gloss, he could feel the softness of her lips. One big exhale of a sigh and their kiss went from trepidation to desire. It seemed to last an eternity. She felt his hands on her side, squeezing and caressing and it felt right, it didn’t feel forced or fake.

He knew her fears and worries and he was going to do what he could to make her forget those for one night. He had a lot planned, ropes, control, little time coloring, reading, spanking etc. One kiss from her, and one look into her eyes and that all changed. He could see the fear, the hurt , the pain and he could see her longing to not have those things anymore. He took her by the hand toward the bed. He slowly lifted her shirt over her head. She took a deep breath. He unsnapped her bra, another deep breath. She hadn’t been comfortable naked in a very long time but she felt good with him. She felt wanted and desired with him. She starting pulling her pants off while he was removing the bra. She knew she wanted to do this and she knew he was the one to make her comfortable enough to try.

He laid her on the bed. She could feel his hands running all over her body. She felt his breath as his lips touched her side. He kissed deeply into her body, ripples went through her. It was so soft but so determined. He knew he wanted all of her and she could tell. His hands touched her and sent electric vibrations through her body. She knew he was kissing his way up to her mouth and she was anxious to have their lips touch. She could feel the anticipation as he kissed slowly and teasingly up her side. Each kiss he whispered against her skin “you’re so sexy to me”. Another kiss and “I love every curve pumpkin”. She felt wanted and she loved it. He kissed up her breast to her nipple. He took it in his mouth, the wetness of his lips made her shake, his tongue flicking on her made her quiver with desire. He lingered just for a minute then kissed up to her shoulders, once again whispering “I want every curve to be mine”.

He lifted up to look in her eyes. His hand ran through her hair, his fingers brushing her. He stared for a minute and said “you’re beautiful”. She actually believed him. For the first time in years she felt it. She believed it. He then said “it’s time to cum”. His hand slid down her stomach, between her lips. She felt his finger find her clit, he rubbed in small circles. She grabbed his arm, almost pulling him away but she just held on. Waiting. Wanting. He pushed harder and faster with his finger, she was trembling. He felt her body shaking, he knew she was already close. He slid down and his finger entered her. One finger, sliding slowly and deeply into her wetness. She was so tight and so wet. She almost pulled his finger in. She moaned, he thrusted harder and faster. She was bucking under his hand, bouncing for her Daddy. He loved it. He moved harder and faster, his palm rubbing her clit as she moved. She was moaning, she was loud, and as he thrusted he watched her stomach quiver, felt her thighs shaking. She squeezed her hand right into his arm. He whispered “don’t hold it, just cum for me baby girl”. Her head went backwards, she screamed out “fuck fuck fuck!!!!! I’m cumming daddy!!!!!!” And her whole body tensed, and she came. One long intense orgasm. Her thighs held his hand and wouldn’t let go. Her hand held his arm and wouldn’t let go. She moaned “oh God. Oh God. That was amazing”.

He leaned up and kissed her forehead “good girl” was all he said and she smiled. Three days ago she didn’t even know she wanted a Daddy and now all she could think of was the fact that Daddy made her cum. No one ever made her cum. Ever. And Daddy did it in less than ten minutes. She laid there, exhausted and excited. Their night had just begun and she knew she would love every minute. He got up and came back to the bed. He had a set of rope cuffs, she had asked before they ever started to have her hands tied to make her feel safe. After she came he knew she would get scared and he knew this would make her feel safe, feel secure and feel ready to let daddy keep exploring.

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Never going to be perfect.

I’ve been doing this a long time, I’ve had good subs and bad subs. The one thing I’ve never based that on is their body. I hear and see this a lot:

“Well, if I’m going to have a Sub I’m gonna make sure she looks amazing, better looking than my last one” “well, if I’m going to be used by a Dom he might as well be a 9, I’m not giving this up to a 5”.

Or

“I’m not good looking so I’ll just settle for anyone because I have to have this”. “Yes, he treats me like shit, no I don’t like it really, but I’m not worth more to anyone”

We all live in an age of porn, Tumblr and FetLife. I think it has skewed our expectations. I share pictures of extremely attractive sexy men and women with body types I’ll never attain. They all have perfect purchased boobs and a huge ten inch cock. The pics look terrific, their clothes are impeccable, etc. That’s not real life.

Here’s the real. I’m 5'8, 250 lbs, on a good day I have a very very average maybe six inches ready to go. Here’s the amazing thing, that more times than not has been perfect for the Sub I’m with. The reason for that is connection. I think I’m damn good at what I do, I put A TON of effort into what I do as a Daddy and/or a Dom. I mean a ton. I work up rules, I talk daily, discuss everything about their lives, not just BDSM stuff. These are real relationships with real struggles. I love it and I’m good at it.

I also don’t expect or even think about whether the sub that I connect with is a 5 or a 9. It’s not my thing. If I find you attractive because of our connection I’m going to think you’re the sexiest size 8, 10, 14, 18 or 20 I’ve ever laid eyes on and I’ll treat you that way.

Real people for the most part aren’t the porn models we see in these pictures, real beauty is wrinkles, curves, rolls, scars, stretch marks, uneven tans, legs that probably could’ve been shaved a day or two earlier, showing up to meet me after a bad day in sweats and a hoodie with flip flops on. Real men have bellies, hairy chests or smooth one’s, muscles that could use definition, egos that can be as fragile as yours, and sometimes need to be the Dom while wearing gym shorts or in my case scrubs they wore to work.

I get frustrated at women and men who believe they either don’t deserve to be happy because they don’t look good, or can only be happy if they are with someone that they feel is so much better looking that it’s an honor to be considered theirs, no matter how poorly they are treated.

Real relationships in this world take work, are messy, not always perfect, and above all have real “average” people who happen to be way more “above average” than they give themselves credit for.

Own yourself , be proud of you. Rock that size two, rock that size 18, show your daddy your 32a’s or your 44EEE’s. He will love it because you’re his. Tell him you love his belly, love his 14inch bicep, or his six inch cock, etc.

Worship each other if you’re happy with each other, because searching for better, searching for perfection has ruined many good relationships.

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Doctordaddysir's Tools of the Trade #3

The simple Clothespin. You can use one, you can use many. They can be used for lots of pain, tiny bits of pain, to increase pleasure and sensitivity, and all sorts of things in between.

One of my favorite things to do with clothespins is to take four to six or so of them and pinch around the areola making a circle. The pinching of the skin will make a small bowl around the nipple. I'll then put an ice cube in each "bowl" and they can't take the clothespins off until the ice cube melts. It's absolutely an amazing and fun torture. Lol.

I also just happen to love the aesthetic of seeing them lining a body, bunched up around the breasts, or the pussy, clamping onto the lips on either side.

The possibilities are endless with clothespins and they can be kept around in the house or hotel room without really appearing to be BDSM toys, for those that worry about leaving toys and instruments around.

They're also a great opener to nipple clamps in that a bag is much cheaper and easy to purchase anywhere. I'm sure most have tried them, but if you haven't you definitely should. I keep a bag of fifty readily available at all times. You just never know. Lol

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I heard a new word today and now I feel like my Kink vocabulary is complete.

Pervertables

Every day objects that are used in D/S, Kink play. A hair brush as a paddle, Bobby pins as nipple clamps, clothes pins, and many many other things.

I love this word. Lol.

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Doctordaddysir's cute date idea #24

You in the kitchen with just an apron on, and a remote vibrator stuffed inside you, you're baking holiday cookies. I turn the vibe up and down with each scoop of flour, sugar, etc, making you count them out loud. If you mess up you get spanked hard and then have to continue with baking. I watch you wiggle and squirm as the vibe makes you wetter and wigglier.

Each time you put a batch in the oven I drop you to your knees and face fuck you as they cook, watching your eyes roll as the vibe runs inside you and my cock slides in and out of your mouth.

When the cookies are ready to decorate I turn the vibe up and down as you try to neatly decorate. Every time you mess up from how it feels I grab you by the hair and help guide your mouth to the spilled sprinkles, making you lick them up and clean like a good girl, then I kiss you hard to reward you for being so good and let you get back to decorating.

It's a nice starting idea...

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I've had people ask recently, so here's a link to my SoundCloud recordings. I read some of my stories and also have three or four bedtime stories for littles recorded. Please share and enjoy.

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Proving you are worthy. That's not how it works.

I had a "Dom" reblog one of my stories and caption it with "what a great way for a sub to prove she's worthy" or something very similar to that. Words like this make me cringe, and really make me sad and angry.

Subs, potential subs, potential play partners, etc....please listen up!!!

You should NEVER have to "prove" you are worthy of a Dom by doing any type of play or sexual task. Period. You should never feel pressured to show someone what your value to them is in that way. Ever. Period. If a guy tells you that he has to play with you to "see" if you're worth it or worthy of him he's just an asshole and you should run very far away.

You prove you're worthy by discussions on limits, needs, desires, wants, and making sure you align on those things. You prove your worth by being open, honest, communicative, and willing to listen. A good Dom will just know.

If anything, and more so than you proving anything, a good Dom will prove he's worthy of you. A good Dom will take all the time needed to prove to you that he's not just an abusive ass looking to get his dick sucked. A good Dom will make sure that your needs line up with what he can provide for you and that your limits line up to what he needs or wants in the relationship.

It's a relationship, it's not one sided. Yes the Dom has control, the Dom has power, but that's only after he proves his worth to you and you AGREE to give him that control. You choose to submit and then he has power. He doesn't take control until you are ready for it. Period.

Please understand that an audition isn't a real thing. You don't have to do anything to show that you're worthy of him. That's bullshit. Just be smart, keep your wits, take your time and know that nothing happens without your consent to give him that control.

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My newest bedtime story reading. Goodnight moon. It's a cute little Halloween book. Thanks for the suggestion from a follower!

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Too damn funny

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I mean, rules are rules 😂😂😂

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Hey. I fit that description! And I read!! Sign ups start Monday 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

A Dad Bod, grey beard AND he's reading a book. Sign me up please.

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Who doesn't love a bearded man with a dad bod reading a book?

#doctordaddysirapproved #doctordaddysir #dad bod #dadbod #daddy #reading #books #flirting #teasing

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Deciding when to say when.

I’ve been talking lately to quite a few Subs about current and past relationships and many of them have had very similar stories. They’ve stayed in D/S relationships simply because they feel the need to have one. It’s not a particularly good one, the person they are with is kind of an asshole, or ignores them for days and then comes back without an apology and they just accept it and keep going.

I talked to one who even though her Dom ignored her, didn’t communicate, dropped rules or didn’t care if she followed them she still got on video and played for him whenever he asked because “that’s just how it works”.

I spoke to one who’s Dom would tell her that her in simple terms she wasn’t his priority, he had a life and work and he’d get to her when he could. She accepted it because she felt she needed something or someone.

You have to be strong enough to decide when is enough enough. Do you need anything so bad you’ll settle for just something instead of having nothing? I don’t think you do, but many subs feel this is their only option. I dont understand this thinking at all. Here’s the truth, you’re better off alone practicing some really good self care and healing from the trauma of idiots like these examples. You’re better off not settling for just something. You deserve better than something. You deserve better than being used and abused. You deserve better than being ignored for days.

You also have the right to have expectations from your Dom. If he’s not living up to his end of the relationship why the hell are you still playing for him at his whim, why are you still sending him fifteen selfies a day saying “i miss you”. The truth is he’s not bothered to respond to those because he knows you’ll still be there waiting and will do whatever he wants even though he’s being a complete tool. Why do you subject yourself to that? Refuse to play. Refuse to settle. Tell him your needs aren’t being met. Just because you’re the sub doesn’t mean you’re a doormat. Don’t just roll over and accept shitty relationships.

I promise if you let him go and stick to it you’ll feel a lot better about yourself and youll see you deserve something special. Someone special.

The other thing I hear a lot is “we are still friends, because I feel bad for leaving” or “we are still friends, I’d rather have him as a friend then have no one”. Exactly what has someone that treated you poorly done to deserve this special relationship with you? Exactly what part of him being a dumbass makes you want him around as a friend? Do you know what he thinks when you do that? He thinks “she can’t let me go, she will always be there. All I have to do is smooth talk her when I’m bored and string her along so I can get laid or beat her ass”. Etc etc. That’s how guy brains work. They see your lack of leaving completely as their way in anytime they need some. That’s just how it works.

Don’t fall for the shit. Don’t think you don’t deserve better. Know your strength as a sub is understanding that without your submission we aren’t Doms. We are just guys with floggers playing with ourselves and asking our Amazon Echo or Siri to call us Daddy cause we are bored.

Ugh, seriously, I’ll talk to anyone in a shitty relationship, so will most of my followers. Know you don’t have to settle for shitty Doms. Shitty Doms are a dime a dozen. But a good sub, you’re worth your weight in gold to just wait and find the right Dom that deserves you.

Another rant apparently.

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Oh sure. Use the force! Use thhhheee fooorrccee! USSSSEEE TTHHHEEE FOOORRRCCEEE!

It's all fun and game til you accidentally find the exhaust port....

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂