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KD's Journey, Part 2

(This is the most recent update from KD, sent about 10 hours ago. To read the first part of her story, Click HERE)

i want to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart who left comments,they made me feel comforted.im getting ready to board my flight to seattle because they dont do the procedure here where i live,but thankfully the procedure,travel,hotel and food are paid for by my insurance under circumstances like mine.this isnt the way i wanted to spend mothers day weekend but im reminding myself that my situation will help other mothers with thier cure someday,the scientists who im allowing to test the fetus said that they think they may have (possibly) found a way to correct if it found early enough.im not sure what they are talking about because last i checked there were 43 things this causes and a few were childhood cancers.this is the worst thing that has ever happend to me and i still cant beleive it,you never think these things will happen to you i guess,ive stepped out of the denial and now im just hoping something good will come out of this some day for somebody.its kind of amazing how much my baby could do for the world before she was even born,who knows maybe things do happen for a reason,maybe she was meant to help the scientists learn more,or maybe im still lying to myself to make myself feel better.im terrified of the actual procedure but the thing that scares me the most is coming home (empty).i dont know how people heal on from these things but i do know that all you beautiful and encouraging people have kept me strong and reminded me that there is still beauty in the world,the world may be cruel but its the beautiful and caring people like you that make it a better place-thank you ~KD

#abortion #KDAbortion #my abortion story #prochoice #prolife #antichoice #reproductive health #reproductive justice #reproductive rights #Maternal Fetal Medicine #pregnancy loss #feminism #feminist

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Uhm... How the fuck did you go through life without the understanding that fetuses move? 

Also, it didn't "Wave" at you. All fetal movement is purely reflexive, not the result of neurological processes directing movement i.e. intentional movement in the form of a wave.  Seriously wondering how you escaped school without a basic understanding of human development. 

Since i’ve become pregnant i’ve been asked a lot about my views on abortion. In the first place it’s something I don’t like to talk about. So i’m going to answer your question now in a post. I’d be lying if I said my views on abortion haven’t changed. I’ve always believed however that it is...

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KD's Journey

(The main purpose of both this tumblr and the facebook page that inspired it, is to provide an anonymous platform for women to share about their abortion, as it happens. Our goal is to demystify the abortion experience for all women. The following is the beginning of "KD's" story. All of her submissions will be tagged #KDAbortion. I do not edit these submissions in any way.) My abortion appt is on Friday and my baby's condition is rare,there's only about 20 cases of it,so I've decided not to bring it in the world to suffer and to donate her body for science so the next women will have more information then I did.i wish I had a crystal ball that could explain all these whys.the worst part is feeling her move.i love her and I wanted her but I don't want her to live a painful life,the last baby with this genetic problem suffered for 14 months before it passed,and I don't think I'm strong enough to wait around to bury my child,so even though abortion may be "murder" in my case I find it the more humane route for my loved and wanted child.this is the hardest thing I've ever had to do and I'm doing it alone,(restraining order on crazy ex) I do believe I will be forgiven,I wish this wasn't my life,why me?i used to be against abortion, but now I'm against letting my child live a life of pain,even though it may be a short life,it's still a painful one,I've never appreciated having the choice until I had to make that choice,hopefully my experience will help the scientists find out more about duplication of chromosome 7. I fell in love with her when she was forming in my womb,but now I have to carry her in my heart instead of my arms. ~heaven may hold you before we do,and keep you safe until we come home to you. The hardest part has been waiting for more tests hoping for more answers only to get bad news,and now I can feel her move,it would've been soo much easier if I didn't torture myself to find out every thing I could on something so rare that they know nothing about,and I'm still torturing myself with the decision I keep talking myself out of it then remembering my reasons for it.lifes not fair that's for sure ,and this world is a cruel place.i just don't want to regret this decision after its too late. - KD

#my abortion story #KDAbortion #abortion #Maternal Fetal Medicine #prochoice #antichoice #prolife #reproductive justice #reproductive rights #reproductive health

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misconceptions about strippers. 

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My Own Abortion Story Part 6 (12/19/12 - 12/27/12)

(Note - This is a continuation of my story originally shared on facebook. Click for Part I Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Part 5 )

12/19/12

I must say, I have been sleeping incredibly well since my appointment. So much for all those warnings of sleepless nights, tossing and turning, and nightmares.

First day spotting. This was actually less bleeding, after the fact, than my normal period. Not to shabby!  Feeling great, by the way. No overwhelming grief or guilt. No unexplained bouts of crying. I'm sleeping well, appetite is back.  :)

Today I sat back and thought about what sort of situation I would be in if abortion were illegal and I had not been able to access my choice.  I honestly do not know what I would do. The concept is so abstract and so far outside my realm of reality I can't even begin to really consider what I would have done.  I know 100% had abortion been illegal, I STILL would have had an abortion. The thought of being in such a situation is TERRIFYING. Who knows what sorts of dangerous risks I would have taken to end the pregnancy?  I wish I could keep an extra abortion pill in my medicine cabinet just in case abortion does ever face some serious challenges in our country. The idea of taking the pill without an ultrasound and doctors presence is terrifying, but at least I would know that I was illegally terminating a pregnancy in the safest way possible.

    12/20/12

Woke up with another bout of pretty strong cramps last night and passed a medium sized clot. Since my bleeding has pretty much stopped. I have officially switched to panty liners. I did call the clinic to see if this was normal and it was explained to me that it most likely is normal. They encouraged me to keep my follow-up and call if I continue to pass clots.  In other news - Think I am going to bake a cake and bring it in on my follow - up day. Im hoping the fact that I am not some random off the street will mean they trust my delicious cake and enjoy it.

12/27/12

Hope everyone had a wonderful holiday break! Mine was fantastic. Pregnancy symptoms were completely gone. It felt lovely to enjoy the day with my family without the unplanned pregnancy hanging over my head.  Here's to a happy and healthy new year for everyone!

#abortion #abortion pill #my abortion story #prochoice #prolife #antichoice #reproductive justice #reproductive rights #feminism #feminist

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Hi! I'm not having an abortion and have never had one, but I just wanted to say that in spite of that, I love what you're doing so much (I found your Facebook page through Bedsider, and that led me here). It's so brave of you to share your story, and so wonderful of you to provide a safe place for other women to share theirs.

Thank you for the kind words! :)

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THE ELLEN / PORTIA BABY IS POSSIBLE? (see earlier post :P)

Source

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Meanwhile, the person who originally posted this doesn't understand that when you make abortion illegal, shit like this will be RAMPANT.  Meanwhile, the person who originally tagged this with the Gosnell tag, has not disclosed that Gosnell was running an illegal operation that was finally shut down when the state got off it's ass and investigated. This same person is FURTHER ignoring the reality of their advocacy.  Meanwhile, yet another anti-choicer has proven how out of touch with reality they REALLY are. 

Cherlie Lafleur, 19, was arrested after a custodian at McCaskey East High School in Lancaster, Pennsylvania, discovered the body of a young baby in a trash can in the ladies restroom at the school on Tuesday.

McCaskey East high school

The teen reportedly first attempted to flush the child down the toilet. But when that didn’t work, she deposited the body in the trash can. 

An autopsy has found that the baby was about 28 weeks gestation, well past the point of viability. Police have not yet determined whether the child was stillborn or alive at birth.

“We can not always determine if there was a heartbeat at the time,” said the coroner. 

Cherlie Lafleur

Surveillance footage at the school allowed police to track down Lafleur as the suspect.

The teen has been charged with concealing the death of a child. 

#ProChoice #ProLife #Abortion #teen pregnancy

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Not yet, but I will as soon as I get a chance ;) is it also called "havinganabortion" ?

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Im-Having-An-Abortion/389909347760628?ref=hl

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It's good to know there are people that are okay with murdering a child.

A) I know you were using hyperbole to demonize abortion so I won't even go into the fact that no where on this blog has anyone discussed murdering children.B) I call bullshit on my blog being your first exposure to pro-choice activismC) Glad I could help ya out :)  

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Reblogging because I decided to not just reblog and NOT donate.  Kicked in 10. I hope you all can contribute something! :) Good luck Deena! Life is a struggle, paying for abortion should NOT be part of that struggle! 

I got this email from the Women’s Medical Fund today:

Today we learned of a vulnerable woman who needs financial assistance that far exceeds the support that WMF routinely provides.

Deena* is a 28-year-old mother of two who suffers from a major chronic illness. During prenatal care, an ultrasound found that she is carrying a fetus with a rare and dangerous anomaly.

In the midst of dealing with the news of this pregnancy, Deena faced yet another traumatic setback — the tragic death of a sibling.

It has taken several weeks, but with the help of staff from three different agencies involved in her care, Deena has an appointment for her abortion. Due to health concerns, she must have her procedure in a hospital. The cost is $3,110.

Deena supports her young family with her monthly Social Security benefit of $800. They live in a rented room for which she pays $500 per month. Deena uses Medicare for her health care coverage, but is prohibited by law from using it to pay for her abortion. She can contribute $10 toward the cost of her procedure. 

Can you help us provide Deena with $3,100 so that she can have her procedure?  If WMF supports her with existing funds, we would have to turn away dozens of other women or girls with more routine needs. Instead, we are turning to you today to request an emergency contribution to restore Deena’s right to choose.

I kicked in $25. Please, please signal boost and consider making a donation.

#Abortion #HydeSucks #ProChoice #AntiChoice #reproductive justice #AbortionFund

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The “comparisons” people draw between abortion and things that are not at all like abortion make me want to delete my Tumblr and leave this planet.

Abortion is not comparable to:

The Holocaust

Other genocides

Mass shootings

Murder

Slavery

Probably more things I am forgetting because I’m angry 

Thanks for making public that you value an embryo or fetus more than breathing, autonomous people, some of whom have endured terrible, terrible things. Just stop. You’re embarrassing yourself.

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My Own Abortion Story Part 5 (12/18/12)

(Note - This is a continuation of my story originally shared on facebook. Click for Part I Part 2 Part 3 Part 4)

12/18/12

As promised yesterday, and never delivered, I will share my experience with the clinic and clinic staff later on today! Thanks again everyone for the kind words :) I am feeling great today. Still bleeding like the lighter days of my period. Light cramping every now and then like my normal period. No more blood clots woohoo!  I actually feel less pregnant. Symptoms have subsided some. Feeling less sick throughout the day and my boobs are starting to feel a bit more normal. I take this as a sign the medication actually worked the way it should.

Had a pretty good day today. Work went fine. A few of my co-workers who knew about my abortion surprised me with flowers and a box of chocolates :)  It was nice to get out of the house lol. Cramps/bleeding was like light day of my period. Picked up a bit when I took a pretty decent walk after work, but not enough to be concerning.  I feel a bit more in control of my emotions which tells me the hormones are slacking off :) Boobs feel better. I haven't thrown up (but wanted to a few times) since Saturday! Heck yes!  Actually enjoyed lunch today. lol.  Hope everyone is having a great day!

    I've been promising I would share my experience at the clinic with the staff - here it is :)  The clinic was staffed completely by women, except for the MD. The entire building was obviously older, but well updated. It felt like an awesome feministy gynecology practice inside. Tons of awesome empowering posters and artwork. Say some of the 4000 Years for Choice artwork hanging on the walls which was cool.  The ultrasound tech was amazing. She smiled the entire time, joked with me, and obviously wanted to make sure the ultrasound went exactly how I wanted it to. She first asked me if I was interested in viewing any part of the ultrasound, I said I didn't mind viewing it and afterwards when i asked if I could have the picture she said of course. She had me fill out a quick medical release and asked if I needed to sit down with her one on one for any further counseling or if I was ready to get my labwork done. I was, so we went to the lab. They obviously cared that my medical history was complete and honest, and they could tell I was a joking kind of person so we shared a few good laughs about various things.  I absolutely loved the diversity at the clinic. The staff varied in age, race, shape. I could tell some of the girls were close friends and everyone seemed to get along.  After my labwork I sat in the group counseling room waiting for the other girls to complete their labwork so we could get our medical counseling. I asked them why they do it in a group and they said it initally started out as a way to efficiently get everyone counseled, but they found it actually helps open up communication and helps those who may be to shy or scared to ask questions.  One of the girls in the room seemed pretty upset and I sat and talked to her. She obviously was not there on her own and I suggested she go try and talk to the girl who did my ultrasound. About 20 minutes later, the girl came back in the room to grab her sweater and told us that she was leaving. We asked why and she said she just didn't want to do it and the clinic gave her the phone number for the adoption group (the one I was talking about before, Choice Network). She obviously had stopped crying while she was with the counselor and was feeling a lot better about her situation. I wish I could have seen what went on in that counseling room.  I know a few other girls I met in the waiting room left because they were not far enough for the pill (so much for the anti's claim that you are ALWAYS 6 weeks when you find out your pregnant). I asked one of the clinic employees about why they left if they knew they were pregnant and she said the doctor is concerned about ectopic pregnancy if he cannot detect it with ultrasound, she he gives them info on ectopic (if they are not showing any signs or symptoms) and will ask them to come back if they do not exhibit the signs in a week or so. Apparently, the abortion pill wont end an ectopic. It only works on IU pregnancy. Doesn't make sense to me, but I am also not a doc.  The doctor met with us finally, made sure we understood how to take the pill and hwat to expect, then he had us swallow the pill.  The clinic sent us home with pain meds, iron supplements, lots of awesome reading material, and obvious support. I actually got a follow up phone call today to ask how everything went and make sure I didn't have any questions.  While I knew what to expect in general from my volunteer past, this clinic was new to me and was an awesome experience1  As I already said, I plan to schedule all my well women's care with them :)

#Abortion #abortion pill #my abortion story #ProChoice #ProLife #AntiChoice #reproductive justice #reproductive rights #feminism #feminist

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hahaha omfg i love when pro-lifers say “i’d love to adopt/foster WHEN I’M ABLE TO” when asked if they care what happens to a baby after birth. why the fuck do you get to decide when you can and can’t parent but a pregnant woman doesn’t? you are laughable. honestly. 

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I think it’s fair to say that most people are uncomfortable with the idea of a 14-year-old having sex. But…access to Plan B isn’t about keeping a 14-year-old from having sex—by the time she gets to the pharmacy, that ship has sailed—it’s about keeping a 14-year-old who has already had sex from getting pregnant. And despite what urban legend (or past embarrassing FDA memos) may tell you, making emergency contraception more available is not more likely to make young teens have sex—it will just make them less likely to end up pregnant.

Jessica Valenti (via prettayprettaygood)

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Obama Admin is quickly earning a spot on my list! WTF OBAMA ADMIN? W. T. F.

I visited a Crisis Pregnancy Center as a teenager and found out very quickly that the main focus was evangelizing. I was greeted by what I now know was a volunteer who led me to a private room and had me give a urine sample. She placed the sample on her desk, popped in a drugstore test stick and picked up a heavy bible. She told me she wanted to pass the time by reading scripture to me. I sat and listened politely and then told her I was non-religious. She insisted on praying with me anyway and then read the result of my test – negative. She then asked me if I used contraception and told me that condoms don’t really work and that I was better off just not having sex at all. With that, I was released.

My friend *Katie was not so lucky. Years later she visited the same CPC and her test was positive. Instead of offering support to a pregnant teen, the center pressured her to give the baby up once it was born. Katie was adamant that she wanted to raise the baby herself but the volunteers at the CPC had already pulled out a list of eager couples and continued to pressure her with horror stories of teen parenthood. She was finally able to leave and is now a happy mother.

Not content with simply defunding Planned Parenthood, many conservative states and even the federal government are openly giving taxpayer dollars to Crisis Pregnancy Centers. In fact, in 2010 the Obama administration gave Care Net, one of the largest purveyors of CPCs a “capacity building” grant, despite the fact that the organization is strictly a proselytizing entity which does not provide family planning services and which has an explicit “Christian only” hiring practice.

#ProChoice #ProLife #AntiChoice #Abortion #teen pregnancy #reproductive justice #reproductive rights #crisis pregnancy center #cpc

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My cousin died during her abortion.

I am so sorry to hear this happened. Unfortunately, any time a person undergoes any medical procedure or treatment, death is a risk. These risks are not hidden from women, in fact many states require biased counseling before the procedure that not only highlights these risks but exaggerate them.  

If you were reaching out looking for support, please write back and let me know. I am sure many of the followers of this tumblr/facebook page would know of some excellent grief support resources!