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ACES!!! Look at this Scientific American article!!! It makes me genuinely so happy to read. We’re making it!!!!

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/asexuality-is-finally-breaking-free-from-medical-stigma/

#asexuality #pathologization

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FEMA is doing an emergency alert test on all TVs, radios, and cell phones on October 4, 2023, at approximately 2:20pm ET.

If you live in the US and you have a phone you need to keep secret for any reason, make sure that it is turned off at this time.

Yes, I'm doing this months in advance, and yes, my blog has very little reach, but I figure better to post about it more than less.

Please reblog and add better tags than mine, I'm bad at tags.

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Going to try and spread this around some more because my teeth are getting progressively worse and the worse they get the more I’ll have to pay to get them fixed and replaced. No new donations for 25 days.

Please help if you can if that is by donating or just reblogging

Thank you 🙏🏾

#donation request

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hello. i just found your blog (and masterpost abt aro/acephobia) and id like to say thanks. im a trans aroace kid, and ur masterpost defending aro/aceness was weirdly validating. i wasnt here on tumblr in the old days or anything but ur acc is very cool

<3 <3 <3 Thank you for your kind message!

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Hadïh!

Once again requesting mutual aid as alongside a stomach tumor, I also seem to have long covid and can barely work right now with my fatigue and breathing issues.

I am an indigenous disabled, neurodivergent, intersex, non-binary lesbian (really got the short end of the stick).

I spend basically all my free time at appointments or getting treatment, and have almost no time I can work anymore. I do have a job, but my income is minimal and I mainly survive on disability pension. I also have debts from previous health crises where I had to take on loans to make ends meet.

My bank account is empty and in the negatives until my next disability cheque, which is three weeks away. Any amount will help.

My paypal (and etransfer) is [email protected]

We don't have venmo or cashapp in Canada.

Misiyh friends!

Image ID: savings account with negative sixty-six dollars, dated for may fourth at nine fourty PM.

Please reblog if you can't donate - check notes for updates.

#Donation Request

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No I think you're entirely correct, a lot of aphobes have either gotten over it or at least shut up. Most of the bullshit in the tag is just from a very vocal and obnoxious minority. I haven't seen nearly as much garbage about it on other sites.

Glad to hear it! That shit went on for long enough

#ace discourse #crapcourse

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I went into the ace discourse tag for 10 seconds

The anti-ace/aro crowd is still as awful and tiring as ever and it’s the same stuff over and over

But I’ve not seen any crapcourse anymore in forever anywhere else when I was just trying to have a good time so I’m gonna assume it’s just the most annoying and hateful people who have decided to keep at it

Let me live in this belief

#ace discourse #crapcourse

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hey I know you’re not on here anymore but I followed you way back when and I always thought you were super cool and super kind in a really toxic space so I hope you’re having a better time being on here less 💜💚💜

Awww thank you so much kind anon, this ask makes me happy <3 <3 <3 I still hang around, but mostly I read and yeah have taken a biiig step back from crapcourse if nothing else

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(cws for racism/anti-blackness, misogyny, acephobia)

Following asexuality activist Yasmin Benoit on twitter has been one blunt example after another of the aggression and hostility that aces of color have to face, and how often every imaginable bigotry will get piled behind a more “acceptable” acephobic face to attack and tear them down.

In the name of questioning her identity as asexual, the author of the review she shared is practically playing anti-blackness bingo.  We’re constantly hearing “teenagers can’t say they’re asexual!  they’re too young!  that inherently sexualizes other teenagers!”  And then here, they say that because a black 14 year old went to Pride, she obviously was “interested in sexual activity” as a way to frame (and undermine) a later “swap” to asexuality.  

It’s no surprise, but it’s wild these people can call themselves feminists when they see “beautiful black woman” and start sexualizing and objectifying her like the most stereotypical perverted men.  “This 14 year old went to pride, so she’s interested in sex!!” sounds stolen straight from predatory rape culture, not to mention homophobia.  “She’s dressing too revealing, this makes her interested in sex” is ALSO straight from predatory rape culture.  The description of what she was wearing sounds straight from some misogynistic novel that we’d drag to hell and back for describing women by the state of their breasts.  And yet it all becomes fair game to try to set up some kind of contradiction between a black woman’s stated identity and her existence.  

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#racism #aphobia #antiblackness #misogynoir

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Actually fuck Canada day. Instead of spending money on festivities, maybe support indigenous people today? I'm a third generation survivor of residential schools, and proudly Wetʼsuwetʼen.

We're short for food because we've been focusing on paying down our debts so bills aren't overwhelming every month.

P*yp*l & etr*nsfer: [email protected]

If you're indigenous drop your payment info!

#donation request #signal boost

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Help a native (Wetʼsuwetʼen) intersex lesbian survive their debts from escaping a transphobic situation? My job is only giving me 6 hours a week and I can't do physical labor due to my disability. Pm me for more information.

Paypal and etransfer is [email protected]

380/1600 CAD

#donation request

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oh look the “ace discourse” tag is still a thing and the same shitty people from way back are among those spewing anti-ace/aro crap in it

incredible can you imagine. exhausted just glancing at it let alone have the same conversations from x years ago for the 5000th time. but guess when you really hate a minority orientation that provides some energy

#ace discourse #aphobia

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Posted May 27 2021

Okay my last post got 0 traction or donations, so here we go again.

I’m a 2-spirit indigenous lesbian and survival sex worker, who is severely physically disabled, immunocompromised, and neurodivergent. I had a “ministroke” only twoish weeks ago, likely from stress, and just found out I have genetic heart disease.

My phones touch screen is broken, my drawing tablet doesn’t connect anymore, I owe 125 in phone bills, and am over 2k in debt due to needing to escape a transphobic roommate (debt is from the first months rent, getting basic furniture and food staples, and paying a damage deposit plus covering my roommates pet deposit (they have been paying me back, but have limited income too.)

Without my phone or drawing tablet I have no additional income sources outside of a meager disability pension (that barely covers my rent and food bills), so those are my priorities right now. If I pay my phone bill off I can upgrade to a new model (I need a decent camera for camming), and hopefully I can start making income again for my other bills.

Hoping to raise 400 for the phone bill, upgrade fees, and new tablet. Extra donations will go towards my active debt.

Donations via paypal and etransfers can go to my email - [email protected]

Total Raised: 11/400

Please rb if you can’t donate!

#Donation Request

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Help two non-binary lesbians escape dangerous housing!

Hadïh (Hello)!

I just poured every dime I had (including my savings, my money for covid, etc) into the damage deposit and pet deposit and first half months rent for a new safe housing situation. This was only possible due to donations already recieved.

I am native, severely physically disabled, neurodivergent, trans (tme), and a lesbian. My friend is the same, aside from them being white. Neither of us have access to loans or family help (as we are extremely low income, and either our family is low income or not safe to contact).

We still need basic furniture, food, cleaning supplies, and moving boxes so we can be fully stable.

Ideally we would get additional funds towards next months rent as every month will be tight until we can both find longterm employment.

Paypal or etransfer (only method because I'm in Canada) is [email protected]

Misiyh (thank you!)

Please reblog if you can't donate!

#Donation Request #not crapcourse

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note to myself to answer some asks soon idk how I am so bad at this adjfhjfghf

#you are all great tho thank you for sending them #'it's not you it's me' lol

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Posted March 8, 2021

Help two disabled/neurodivergent and non-binary lesbians get safe and secure housing

Hello! I'm Tula, an indigenous (Wetʼsuwetʼen) severely disabled and neurodivergent non-binary lesbian, who is currently out of work.

Both my friend and I are in unsafe housing situations (pm me for more details), and are trying to move in together.

We found a 2 bedroom place we can afford on our disability pensions, but need help with the first months rent and deposits. We have an elderly cat who would likely be put down if given up, so we have to pay a pet deposit as well.

In total we need to raise 3000 dollars for April 1st. After this we would be fully able to support ourselves. It would actually be less than I currently pay for rent, meaning I wouldn't need to keep asking for donations and borrowing from friends to keep afloat.

Etransfer or paypal donations can be sent to [email protected]

Raised: 235/3000

Please reblog even if you are unable to donate!

#donation request

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Out of Food & Work & Desperate

[Image ID: A savings bank account showing 27 dollars and 11 cents, last updated on January 1st at 11:32 am PST]

Hadïh (hello),

Sorry for posting again. My donations have dried up since my dental emergency, and the short term job I had secured let me go due to lack of sales.

I am a bisexual non-binary/trans mixed native (Wetʼsuwetʼen) guy, with severe health concerns including myasthenia gravis (which causes me to be immunocompromised) and chronic fatigue syndrome.

I was recently asked to leave my affordable housing as it was intended to be temporary, and wasn't given my damage deposit as I could not afford to have it professionally cleaned afterwards (despite no actual damage to the apartment). I now pay 3x my original rent, which leaves me with next to no money for food or bills.

I was able to get some money from the two and a half weeks I worked, but it went mainly to savings (which I cannot access unless it is for a medical reason) for my upcoming top surgery because I didn't expect to be let go so early. Because my top surgery is scheduled for the beginning February, finding a new job isn't really feasible at this point.

My previous donations have also been used up for a root canal, crown, and various fillings, as my teeth had become so painful it was hard to even eat.

I have money for rent from my disability, but I currently have almost nothing to eat and less than thirty dollars to get me through the next four months before I can work again. I don't have access to family assistance during this time as I have been all but disowned due to being trans and pursuing surgery/hormones.

Right now I need money for four months of food, medication, and basic toiletries. Due to my allergies, health concerns, and the cost of food in the city, I estimate that I will need between 800.00 to 1000.00 dollars.

My paypal and etransfer are [email protected]

If you have further questions, please pm me. Please reblog instead of liking, as liking reduces donations.

Misiyh (thank you)

150.00/800.00 raised

#donation request