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autistic aro yearning culture is seeing people dating and wanting to do that but also you're not sure How To Do That.

yeah :(

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romance favorable aromantics are good. partnering aromantics are good. polyamorous aromantics are good. monogamous aromantics are good. romance repulsed aromantics are good. non partnering aromantics are good. allosexual aromantics are good. asexual aromantics are good. all aromantics are good

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"What if you just haven't found the right person!"

What if I stabbed you until you bled out <2

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Someone said "aspec" when they meant "acespec". 26 injured, 10 dead

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why have us queer people as a community normalized terms like "boygirl" or "girlboy" or other things like that but not like. the actual experience of being multigender. i swear some people will be like "ahaha its so cool and swag to be a #girlboy #boygirl" then turn around and be like "MEN DNI THIS POST IS ABOUT WOMEN" "MEN CANT BE LESBIANS (because no man is ever a woman too)" etc etc like come on guys

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Actually every time an aroallo has sex without romance an angel gets their wings so shut the fuck up

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Yknow what, I’m just gonna copy and paste a thing I wrote about ftm lesbians bc the whole debate infuriates me.

Something that I think is often missed in these discussions is that sometimes people use labels that don’t fully fit because the ones that do are lesser known or frequently misunderstood. I’m a butch lesbian, but I’m also in the process of getting top surgery, I want hrt, and I present as male more often than I present as female. I’m not binary ftm. However, I need access to resources often marked as ‘ftm only’. My GP has me down as ftm because that’s the label that got me a referral to a surgeon. Most of my professors probably see me as ftm because all they know is that I’m labelled as female in the computer, but I present masculine and use a male name. I was stealth for a few years when it was easier for me to do, and will likely be stealth in my professional life once I’ve transitioned further.

By the strictest definition, no, I’m not ftm. I’m a butch lesbian, I’m genderqueer, I’m transgender, but I’m not ftm. That doesn’t mean it isn’t a label I can’t find helpful, especially when I’m interacting with cishet people who think “yeah I guess the gays can married” is the height of queer acceptance.

(I recognise these posts aren’t targeted at me specifically, but I see this debate so often. Much more often than I ever interact with the fabled “ftm lesbian”.)

And a note that I’ll add, but isn’t related to my own experiences: Multigender people exist. Someone can be a man *and* a woman, and they deserve to be able to acknowledge both aspects of their identity.

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Allosexual aromantic is not a predatory identity.

Allosexual aromantic is not an evil identity.

Allosexual aromantic is not a bad identity.

Allosexual aromantic is not a less-than identity.

Allosexual aromantic is not an impure identity.

Experiencing sexual attraction and not romantic attraction does not make you predatory or evil or bad or less than or impure.

And if you disagree, you can fuck off.

#aroallo #aromatic #aromantic allosexual

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aspec people are queer. aspec people deserve to be in queer spaces. aspec people are welcome to pride. aspec people are queer even if they're cis. aspec people are queer even if they're heterosexual. aspec people are amazing and deserve the world.

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i really want to depict a strong platonic relationship with a sexual element thats not demonized and the person/people in it arent painted as a problematic deviant or perverted or taking advantage of someone, or as secretly desiring a romantic relationship

#YES #aromantic #arospec

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shoutout to all my fellow lesbians who are told theyre not ""really"" a lesbian, i see you and stand alongside you and love you. youre wholly and completely a lesbian, your lesbianess is not dictated by anyone but you 💖

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you do not need anyone's permission to identify as a lesbian. there is no one more qualified on your identity than you!! nobody!!! no matter what!!!! the only person you need to consult with before you call yourself a lesbian is you

#lesbian #sapphic #lesbianism

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wish there was some kind of hookup network for alloaros specifically.

#yeah :( #its challenging #aro #aromantic #alloaro

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i know i’m late to the party but i just discovered Crush Culture by Conan Grey and the aro mood is huge

#RIGHT #so true #one of my favourite songs #aromantic #aro

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I love you QPRs, I love you polyamory, I love you relationship anarchy, I love you aromantics with partners, I love you people who don’t want relationships, I love you I admire you loveless community, I love you ignoring amatonormativity <3

#aromantic #aro #arospec #polyamory #loveless aro community #fuck amatonormativity #aro positivity

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I can now post my piece for @aspecjournal (just in time for the last day of AAS too)! I did a piece focused on aro symbolism (and a few puns), and I really like how it turned out!

Art blog: @rosey-arts​

#aro #aromantic #aromanticism