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I just want to take a moment to remind you that if you deal with constant fatigue, whether it’s from a chronic illness, side effects of a medication, or any number of reasons, your f/o would never shame you for it. They know how hard you’re trying. They know you want to be able to do so much more than you can some days. They will never call you lazy or tell you that you’re making excuses or not trying hard enough. They know that simply isn’t true. If they can do anything to lighten your load, please let them. They love you and just want to see you happy.

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- cyber F/Os that glitch out when you're close to them

- cyber F/Os that make computer fan noises when they're flustered and overheated

- cyber F/Os that can be the perfect temperature for cuddling

- cyber F/Os that memorize everything about your interests to impress you

- cyber F/Os that partially or fully glow in the dark

- cyber F/Os that learn about things that they don't need (cooking, sleeping, etc) to help you with them

cyber F/Os, cyber F/Os, cyber F/Os!

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to my fellow selfshippers with a complex relationship to gender, your f/os would always understand you and perceive you exactly how you want to be perceived <3

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if you have any condition that makes you prone to fainting, your f/o would be there to help you.

imagine you just got up, but did it too quickly and it all starts acting up again: heavy head, tinnitus, your vision starts fading and so does all the balance you have. the whole shebang.

your f/o would be there to catch you before you faint and help you regain your balance.

and if you do faint, then they'd especially be there to catch you. they'd lay you down on a comfortable place (or at least their lap, of they can't move you) and provide all the care you might need.

either way, they're definitely giving you some water and a carbohydrate rich snack (if you can have it. if not, then something equally energetic) afterwards.

they love all of you. and this is definitely not something to be ashamed of nor that'll make them think any less of you. the least they could do is to make sure you're alive and as well as can be.

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Normalize your f/os loving your disabled ass. They don't see a problem with you having to take things slow. They stay with you through fits of overstimulation, unresponsiveness, and chronic pain. They understand when you're not up to things because of how your body is treating you. They understand and no matter what, they love you.

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Imagine your romantic f/o helping you through a meltdown 💗

Imagine your f/o making you comfortable when you’re almost inconsolable ❤️

Imagine your f/o just being there to be with you 💜

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im sick so have these ideas that pop in my head

imagine you're sick and your f/o took care of you.

the soft lil f/o

the one that take VERY good care of you. like cook you food (or if they can't cook they just order a take-out and bring it to your bed)

if you're a type of person who will finish your work at all cost even tho you're sick, your f/o will tell you to get rest. if it didn't work? well have fun being squeezed because your f/o ain't letting ya' go

and if ya' wanted to take a bath? oh please they already get you some good ol' warm water! if ya don't like it well they just gonna make a hot bath. if ya don't have bathtub? nah they're showering with you they ain't letting ya get cold!

your f/o will literally find you a good, warm, long sleeves, comfortable clothes for you to wear. this will work even more better if you have no fashion sense.

your f/o will sleep with you and said to keep you warm. even though that's true but there's other reason. they just wanted to sleep with you as they watch you sleeping peacefully as they swear to protect you with all their life.

if your ass not sleeping? then your f/o ain't sleeping with ya. they will stay up to take care of you until you finally sleep.

aggressive lil shit f/o

they will yell at you for being stupid enough or weak enough to get sick but they will cook for you nonetheless or order a take-out for you. if ya don't like it? well have fun getting the food shoved in your mouth. (don't worry it just soup)

if ya try to finish your work? ain't no fucking way bruh. they dragging you. literally. back into your bedroom we go.

bath? your f/o already made them warm. they just kinda complain about it because it takes tons of time waiting (they basically worried that you'll get worst state than you already are) if ya want a shower? of course they're showering with you as they are complaining about how cold the water is while standing close to you just for you to get more warmth.

this f/o will let you pick the clothes. they let ya wear what ya want but..you sometimes seems dumb with your clothing style.

this f/o will act like they're sleeping and when you fall asleep they would get up. kiss your forehead and whisper quietly that they hope you get well soon.

why they got up? make food and do your chores so you don't have too and waiting for you to wake up in the morning.

if you're not sleeping. be prepared to get scold by them and have a very long and boring story that'll make you sleepy eventually. they know what to do when you aren't sleeping

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Imagine your F/Os working together to look after you when you’re in a bad physical or mental health period. Whenever one of them is with you, they’re constantly texting the others to keep them updated. They notice something is wrong and suddenly the others are bombarding them with advice and asking if they need to come over. Maybe another will come by if the current one is overwhelmed, or they’ll trade places so the first can get some rest while knowing you’re in good hands. If you’re sick or injured, one might look after you while another runs for supplies and a third cooks you soup, or if someone upset you while one cheers you up another will sneak off and have a “chat” with that person, with varying degrees of actual talking depending on the F/O in question.

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Because we’re in between quite a few festivities, this is a friendly reminder that:

🌺 Your f/o would never take issue with how your body currently looks or how much you’re eating.

🌺 Your f/o would never make any unwarranted comments about how you look, what you’re eating, or whether the food you’re eating is good for you.

🌺 Your f/o isn’t going to stand for anybody else making those comments either, and they’re not afraid to shut others down when the conversation takes a turn for the worse, either politely (”Excuse me. We don’t talk about those things here.”) or a little more abrasively (”Hey, how about you shut up and let people enjoy themselves? It’s a special day!”)

🌺 The only thing that matters to your f/o is that you’re having a good time! Holidays are about indulgence and celebration, and they would never want the person they care about to spend such a special season wallowing in guilt and shame!

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✧Imagine the littlest things (with your F/O)✧

「Not everything has to be big and super romantic all the time. Sometimes it's lovely to notice the tiny little intimate things about them.」

Just imagine:

✧ Their wrist peeking out of long sleeves when they reach for something

✧ Their hair falling into their face when they lean forwards (optional: leaning for a kiss with you)

✧ Their voice in the morning, a little bit scratchy and nasal, as they sleepily bid you good morning

✧ Their ears, cheeks and fingers turning red when it's cold

✧ Their favourite snack and their expression when they eat it, the way the edges of their mouth turns

✧ The colour of their eyelashes when the sun is shining on them

✧ Any freckles, moles or birthmarks in an obscure place that only you know

✧ The hue of their eyes in different times of day, and in different lights

✧ Their muffled speaking as they brush their teeth, but are still trying to talk to you

✧ The way their cheek sinks into the pillow when they lie down on their side

✧ Are their hands warm? Hot all the time? Freezing?

✧ Them pinching the edge of their jacket or shirt when they're nervous

✧ The sheet of sweat on their nose after exercise

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autistic self shippers

imagine stimming at your wedding. your f/o is absolutely gushing over your happy sqeuals because you just can not contain your excitement.

they look at you and know they’ve picked the right person. they love seeing how excited you get, knowing that they’re the one who made you this happy.

#f/o #f/o prompts #f/o gush #f/o comfort #romantic f/o #self insert community #self ship #selfship #autistic f/o #autistic s/i #autistic

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To those who are also prone to migraines: your f/os, regardless of relationship type, want you to rest and take care of yourself. They can and will take care of you and ensure you're as comfortable as you can be. Sleep is usually the only remedy that works (for me at least). Need water? Okay, stay where you are. They're on their way. Tea? Hot/cold shower? Help making a bed on the floor? Is your hair long and you feel like throwing up? They've got you gently holding your hair back and making sure you either make it to the toilet or a trashcan. If you don't they won't be mad. They’ll get you comfortable and offer to help you clean it or clean it themselves if the cleaning solution smell messes with your head/hurts.

Get migraines about once a week and spearmint is a great smell with a little oil diffuser.

Drink water, even if it's tiny sips. It makes it easier on your body if you hurl

Sleep wherever you feel the most comfortable (I usually camp out on the bathroom floor)

Track your migraines; it's really helpful when you go to any doctor. I use Migraine Buddy. It's free and checks in every 6-12 hours just in case you forget it was running

Darkness and silence are hard to find so stick towels under the door and pull a blanket over your head. If you don't like your head covered avoid windows.

Listen to your body. If people don't respect your limits, they aren't worth your time. If you're stuck with them just make sure they know how much pain you're in and how sick you feel. Still ignore you? I'm sorry you have to deal with that, just stay safe!

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imagine your f/o helping you do “gross” stuff.

imagine them helping clean you up when you accidentally leaked period blood on their bed.

you’re tired and maybe not feeling well, they wake you up and gently tell you that you started your period.

or maybe you knew you were on your period when you leaked.

or even if you just find period blood “gross/squeamish”, and aren’t good with blood.

they carry you into the bathroom and set you on the toilet.

they grab wipes as a they begin to clean up your thighs and vagina/other stuff etc.

they tell you that it’s okay not the look, they’ve got you, you’re safe with them. they just want to take care of you.

they don’t judge you, they don’t find it gross, all they want is to help you and make you feel safe.

#self ship #f/o imagines #romantic f/o #f/o comfort #f/o gush #f/o #f/o prompts #self insert community

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I have a killer headache and now I’m making an F/O imagine for self-shippers

Imagine you’ve got a headache, and not one of those ‘gee I should lay down for a sec’ headaches like one of those ‘I’m delirious from this headache, I have a fever and if I’m standing for too long and not holding onto something I think I might fall over and pass out’ headaches. And the pain is nearly unbearable, to the point where you’re unconsciously making very not subtle noises from the heat and pain. 

while you’re going to the kitchen for some water, you pause to lean onto something and just stand still for a while. After a little bit of time just standing there doing and saying nothing, you feel something wrap around you from behind. After snapping out of your bleary eyed delirium you realize it’s your F/O giving you a hug. 

After a bit of directing you back to your bedroom, they sit you down on your bed. If they’re bigger than you, they’ll sit you in their lap with their front against your back. If you’re the larger one, they’ll sit on your lap with their stomach to yours. Either way, the gently begin to massage your temples.

If they have claws, you can feel them delicately avoiding scratching you. If they’re much larger than you, like one of their arms is nearly as big as your whole body, they cradle you in one of they’re arms while massaging your head with their index finger and thumb. If they can use healing magic, you can feel them using it as they rub your temples and you can feel it coursing through to the rest of your head. 

If they’re a romantic F/O, they pepper you with soft kisses, on the back of your head, on your forehead, on your neck, your collar bones, your cheeks, your back or chest, and cuddle you to sleep. If they’re platonic, they’d probably crack jokes to make sure it wasn’t too awkward for you, and they might watch a movie you like so they can keep an eye on you and make sure you don’t just collapse. If they’re a parental F/O, they’ll buy you medicine, if they’re a sibling F/O, they’ll do certain household tasks that you would normally do so you can recover.

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Imagine your f/o letting you lean on them, letting you set your head in the nook between their neck and shoulder.

Imagine your f/o see you lean or fall against something suddenly or see your walking be unsteady and immediately going to steady you, or carry you to a seat.

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I just want to take a moment to remind you that if you deal with constant fatigue, whether it’s from a chronic illness, side effects of a medication, or any number of reasons, your f/o would never shame you for it. They know how hard you’re trying. They know you want to be able to do so much more than you can some days. They will never call you lazy or tell you that you’re making excuses or not trying hard enough. They know that simply isn’t true. If they can do anything to lighten your load, please let them. They love you and just want to see you happy.

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If You're Someone With High Sensory Needs:

Trigger Warnings: light hearted mention of a sex joke. Nudity, but not nsfw, and with romantic f/o.

Imagine your F/o being completely okay with you taking your pajamas or clothing off in bed.

Depending on your f/o they might drop a small s3x joke, but other than that f/o, your f/o is completely chill with you being naked or almost so against them. Your f/o almost always wraps their arms around you once you get rid of the uncomfortable clothing, and traces hearts and tiny shapes on the small of your back.

This doesn't have to be a big thing. It's not making them uncomfortable or making them distressed, because they love it! One, because they get to see you, completely see you. They get to trace every curve, count every freckle, and caress every scar.

Two, this is the way you show your love and trust in them. Letting yourself be completely exposed and vulnerable, because you know they would never never do anything to hurt you.

They kiss your temple, "feel better, cutie?"

You hum yes contently, and nuzzle more into their body. A soft smile spreads across their face as they play with your hair, "Then let's go back to sleep, my love, I do believe we've earned the rest"

And with that you both doze off into a warm, cozy slumber.