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papirouge · 9 months

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You mentioned that you were all for black women divesting, and it reminded me of something I've stumbled upon once. I was lurking on FDS and found this woman who always was making very wise or funny comments on threads. So I clicked on her profile and started reading the comments she left on other subs. She was a black woman, and she made a thread in this subreddit that was speciafically for black women and their issues and discussions. It was about how she went to a party, and she mentioned that she was dating an asian man, and that the people there questioned her and were pretty critical of her deciding to date an asian man over a black one. She obviously made that post looking for support, but most comments were literally like "those people at your party were pretty rude, but you shoud examine why you prefer to date asian men over black men". Like it was so weird. I don't get it. Like it's fine if you prefer black men and decide not to date outside of your race, but why would you judge other women for not doing the same? Like if he loves her, and she's happy, why would you care she's with an asian man?? Plus the way she described him he was very much a high value man (and she herself a very high value woman). I also remember her mentioning in other comments even her family wasn't very happy with her dating a korean guy (specially her grandmother), but ultimately came to accept it, kind of...

If she landed on a Black female sub I am not surprised they found "questionable" she was dating an Asian man because many Black women are unfortunately stuck in the "race loyalty" shit. Like women of other communities, they naturally cling to their community male for protection, but this cannot work like for Black men....

Black men started to go after White women to climb the career ladder. Black men in the USA are known to have never built any (economical) structure of significance for their community, like you'd expect from a decent patriarchy (that's basically one of the perk of patriarchy - men building structure for their community). That's why they cling to White women in a way to suck up to White men who hold the real power. It's very embarrassing when you really think of it and show how WEAK Black men are.... lol

Generational trauma overturned the gender dynamics, that's why Black men are the one to move as hypergamist - not Black women (who are statistically more prone to marry down than any other demographic). Because of baby mama culture and wide widespread single motherhood, Black women had to leverage their masculinity (being the main provider of the household instead of being provided for), which is precisely what Black men reproach to them to elevate other non Black women (more feminine, light-hearted, etc.) . And that's pretty is ironic because Black men are equally responsible for the problem is single motherhood in the Black community.... But Black men refuse to acknowledge is and will instead accuse White supremacy LOL

Black men are typically those to be like "what do you bring to the table?" to a Black woman (they are usually more forgetting with non Black ones), forgetting that they, as men, are supposed to be the providers... It wouldn't be a problem if they didn't consider themselves as masculine and...."traditional" LOL They'll call themselves "Black king" but behave like peasants, expecting to be hand-fed stuff by women they date... Such behavior is so repulsive and that's precisely one of the reason why I can't bring myself finding Black men attractive LOL (it's a different story in Africa because men are still traditional and will naturally provide for their spouse though).

Even still to this day, dating a White woman is still a social achievement status for Black men. Most famous/rich Black men (in the West) are mated with non Black women - especially in the sports world.. (I mean look at the new gen of NBA players who are all mixed lmao).

Black women naturally grew some resentment but also some sort of desperation, because Black men got cocky and started dunking on them as some sort of twisted way to get acceptance from the whites (the whole fetishism with "snow bunny" etc) and started telling them that no other men would want them. For so long Black women got stuck clinging to their men out who rejected them for a come up, but it's fortunately changing, and Black men are seething lol

Unlike Black men who leveraged their apparent masculinity to atrtact women from all races ("tall dark and chocolate"), what's new is that millennial and zoomer Black women are openly stating they are open to dating non Black menand are learning to leverage asset to attract all kind of women. That's why Black feminity channels are popping. And also that's why Black men are shook and go even harder to clown us saying "White men don't want us" (as if there was only White beside them lol), calling us undesirable and desperate for daring to *gasp* open their options.... Of course, when they take their passport to go to whole another country abroad it totally not desperation.... 👀

Black men feel threatened because that's the first time a significant amount of Black women decide to leverage their feminity to attract men who will appreciate them regardless of their race- and not solely focus on Black men. They say that White men don't like Black women but the truth is....Black women never really bothered trying to date outside their race. It's just a gaslighting technique to scare us off from flaring better than in the relationship with bums. That's why they hate Serena Williams btw. Whenever they find out a Black woman is coupled with a non Black man they'll be like "hm, she definitely gives off those vibes...." hm ok, and what vibes do Black men constantly dating non Black women have? 🤔

Of course, there will always be "Black love" mules who will side with Black men and shame us for dating non Black men... They're the same flock who defend Tory Lanez and other predators.... You can't save everyone at this point.

If you're interested in the discourse surround IR dating for Black women, I highly recommend you Chrissie's channel. She has an entire playlist dedicated to it which is 👩🏾‍🍳💋

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#Chrissie is literally my favorite youtube channel EVER #i watched ALL her videos lol #it changed my life #Black feminity #answered

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kassldyembcrr · 4 years

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is that [CHRISSY COSTANZA]? no, that’s just [KASSIDY ‘KASSI’ RUOCCO]. [SHE/HER] is [TWENTY TWO] years old and is a [MAKEUP ARTIST / MUSICIAN]. they’ve been in town for [ALL HER LIFE]. on a good day, they’re [CAPTIVATING & LOVABLE]. but watch out! they can also be [EMOTIONAL & OUTSPOKEN]. [THIS IS GOSPEL BY PANIC! AT THE DISCO] plays in my head whenever i think of them. can’t wait to see them around Springhill!

BASIC FACTS:

kassidy ‘kassi’ ember ruocco was born right here in springhill to your everyday ‘average’ italian ( they’re very proud of that part ) family !

she’s the oldest of two – having a little brother who means the absolute world to her !

honestly, kassi would take a bullet for her little brother, any day !

when she was seven , kassi got a new neighbor ; a little korean boy , a year older than her , who she quickly nicknamed ‘moonie’ .

from the moment they met , the two were quickly crowned best friends and have been inseparable every day since !

kassi actually grew up as quite the tomboy ! she has an undeniable love for skateboarding and video games !

her love for beauty products and being ‘girly’ didn’t develop until she was a teenager !

she got her first makeup palette for her thirteenth birthday, and she’s been hooked ever since !

she made her first youtube makeup tutorial when she was sixteen and almost immediately started to make a name for herself !

since that first video, she’s gained a total of 812k subscribers !

she’s also a massive music junkie ! it’s definitely her favorite pastime ! there’s rarely a minute that goes by where she doesn’t have some kind of music playing - whether it’s out loud or through headphones !

she’s actually got a very beautiful singing voice, though she didn’t believe people at first when they would tell her that !

when she was seventeen, she and two of her best friends got together and filmed a cover video for one of their favorites songs and decided to take a risk and post it to her youtube channel !

the cover ended up going viral, and after a number of people suggesting they do it regularly, the trio decided to form an official band, naming themselves ‘infinity’ !

instead of posting their covers to her personal channel, kassi created a youtube channel strictly for their band, and they began to post a cover a week to their channel !

as of today, their band’s youtube channel has nearly 1m subscribers !

after high school graduation, kassi enrolled in cosmetology school and eventually graduated with a cosmetology degree !

after earning her cosmetology degree, kassi’s goal was to be a ‘makeup artist to the stars’ and after a million and one failed attempts at scoring that job, she finally landed herself a job working as tierney & teagan suarez’s personal makeup artist !

since working with the twins, she’s also done makeup for a number of other celebrities and is always willing to work with new ones if need / want be !

she hasn’t forgotten about the singing thing though, promise !

infinity turned out to be quite the hit around springhill and often does sold out local gigs in and around the town !

they’ve also had the honor of being the opening act for a number of well known bands !

they don’t tend to get out of springhill to perform often, but they still post a number of videos ( including live performances ) to their youtube channel so that fans from across the world can still have access to their music !

infinity has released a couple of albums, but they were all produced independently, as they’ve never been signed to a proper record label ( that is , until this year , when they got signed to their very first one ) !

with her best friend , moonie , being a photographer , kassi has quickly named him the official photographer for infinity !

if she was going to be in that ‘cinnamon roll’ meme, she’s be the ‘looks like a cinnamon roll, could actually kill you’ one !

kassi’s super duper sweet and adorable, but is very blunt and outspoken ! don’t cross her unless you’re prepared to handle the aftermath of her wrath !

oh, and she’s ‘the lost boys’ ( aka danny’s band’s ) like biggest fan ! she’s so platonically in love with him, it’s ridiculous ! you know who she’s also platonically in love with ? moonie !

POSSIBLE CONNECTIONS:

SPRINGHILL NATIVES - she’s from here, so she probably knows a lot of the people that are also from her, considering they grew up together !

OTHER YOUTUBERS - the youtube community is somewhat like a family, so she’d automatically be drawn to other artists !

FELLOW MAKEUP ARTISTS / BEAUTY GURUS - someone she can talk all things beauty with? yes please !

SOMEONE SHE’S DONE MAKEUP FOR - she’s a celebrity makeup artist, so it would be fun to know people she’s done makeup for. she also does it for non-famous people too though !

FELLOW SINGERS - girl likes to sing, so she’d definitely like someone else that also has a passion for singing !

A MUSICAL MENTOR - just because she’s youtube famous doesn’t mean she 100% knows what she’s doing, so having someone who DOES know what they’re doing to take her under their wing would be epic !

EX(ES) - she’s still fairly young, but she’s old enough to have dated a person or two !

CRUSH(ES) - this could either be someone she has a crush on, or someone who has a crush on her !

BEST FRIEND(S) - girl needs someone she’s close to and can hang out with on a regular basis !

RIDE OR DIE - literally kassi’s favorite person on this planet. her absolute BESTEST friend. someone she trusts with ALL her secrets and would do ANYTHING for ! the yin to her yang. the peanut butter to her jelly. you get the idea !

( i will update this as i come up with more headcanons / facts about kassi, but in the meantime - like this or message me if you want to plot with my adorable cinnamon roll of a child ! )

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kcssidyruocco · 5 years

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[ chrissy costanza, twenty one, she/her ] ━ hey, I just saw [ kassidy ‘kassi’ ruocco ] walking down the streets of crownsville. they’ve lived in town for [ twenty one years ], and you can catch them around town working as a [ makeup artist ]. I hear they’re known to be [ captivating & lovable ] and [ emotional & outspoken ]. if asked, they would say their aesthetic would be [ makeup brushes, ripped jeans, video games, dancing in the rain, concert tickets, video cameras, & lavender scented bath bombs ].

( hi friends -- jade again, with my third and FINAL [ don’t let me tell you any different ] baby !! )

BASIC FACTS:

kassidy ‘kassi’ ember ruocco was born right here in crownsville to your everyday ‘average’ family !

she’s the oldest of two -- having a little brother who means the absolute world to her ! honestly, kassi would take a bullet for her little brother, any day !

kassi actually grew up as quite the tomboy !

she has an undeniable love for skateboarding and video games !