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rrxnjun · 1 year

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IM SORRY FOR ANSWERING SO SUPER LATE LIFE GOT SO HECTIC ALL OF THE SUDDEN☹️

STILL WITH THE TAKE THE STAIRS FIC U GAVE ME LIFE WITH IT ACTUALLY IT WAS SO NICE TO JUST TURN MY BRAIN OFF AND READ IT SO I THANK U FOR IT!! and like actually need a jaemin in my life istg!! AND THE SAME GOES FOR THE TEASER OF UR NEW CHENLE FIC!!! IT ALREADY SEEMS SO FUN!! SO EXCITED ABOUT IT!!! 🥳🤭

I AGREE I WOULD ALSO RATHER JUST GOOGLE THE END OF THE SHOW!!

AHH I HOPE U FOUND SOME ARTISTS SINCE THEN!!! AND THANK U SO MUCH FOR TAKING TIME OUT OF UR DAY AND TRANSLATING FOR ME!! IM SURE U ARE VERY BUSY AS WELL SO THANK U SO MUCH I REALLY APPRECIATE IT!!!!🥹🥹💝💓 and my god the lyrics are so☹️☹️☹️ it's just such a great song and now it even got so much better with understanding it!!!🥲

WELL IF IT DOES HAPPEN I WILL BE HERE XD parents smh /j (but like actually i understand them cuz traveling alone can be risky☹️) thank u i hope we will figure something out if it does happen🥹🥹

IM GLAD THAT U ARE DONE WITH ONE OF UR ESSAYS ALREADY!! AND I HOPE SINCE MY LAST ASK U STILL ARE DOING GOOD WITH UR SCHOOL WORK AND STUFF🥳

I LOVE UR POSTS THERE LMAO SO DONT BE SORRY and ofc i agree!!! zach was my fav from the why dont we boys🤭 OH MY I HAVENT HEARD ABOUT THE VAMPS IN AGES damn now i'm gonna go and listen to them😵‍💫(also saw that u turned into a treasure stan🫣 and ur take on jikjin!! it's such a great song glad u listened to it!!!)

(liebestraum anon💕 and sorry if i disappear again and for writing a lot i swear i will try and keep it short for once☹️)

AHH ITS TOTALLY OKAY!!!! cant say i didnt miss you but i ofc understand that u have your own life and responsibilities and such,, so dont worry about it🤍🤍 AND THANK U SM AGAIN!!!

DJDJSJ MY CHENLE FIC IS FUN BUT THEN IT GETS DEPRESSING REAL QUICK SO UHHH HOPE YOU'RE READY FOR SOME ANGST ;-; (also i started rewriting liebestraum. just thought i'd let you know<3)

im super glad u enjoyed my translation!! the lyrics are really screamable in my opinion,,, and i also hope i did them justice however i bet i did a better job than all of the ones i saw online :p its not the best artistic lyricism but i like it nonetheless DJSK sometimes u need simple songs to jam to.

travelling alone COULD be risky </3 me and my uni friends randomly travelled to vienna last week because it was warm out and we thought our seasonal depression was finally over and i love me some spontaneous decisions but also it was so anxiety inducing bc it was my first time going abroad with no supervision 😭😭 we had SO much fun but also the stress we were put through to find the bus platform back home ??? never again. was so bad that i broke my 5 month streak of not smoking bc i had to calm myself down somehow and then i was put through the stress of buying cigarettes in german when i caNT SPEAK GOOD GERMAN but 10/10 i would do it again and it made me more confident abt travelling with friends so i WILL drag my equally spontaneous uni friends to budapest as soon as i can. (please tell me they speak at least a little english there)

I AM ACTUALLY DONE W 4 ESSAYS NOW WHOOP WHOOP ‼‼‼ 4 MORE TO GO BUT IM DOING WELL NO STRESS SO FAR. HOPE YOUR SCHOOL IS GOING WELL TOO!

wait do u rlly bc i think im so annoying on there sometimes like girl chill😭😭 but ZACH WAS ALWAYS MY FAV TOO altho i did have a daniel phase. I havent listened to the vamps in ages either i should catch up or sum ;-;

omg dont mention the teumefication of bar i wont admit it to myself yet DHSKSK however jikjin is now my fav song and i fear seeing my 2023 spotify wrapped bc of it now. ive also been watching a concerning amount of treasure map and finding myself in love with jihoon but thats...not important rn.

ill be waiting for u liebestraum anon!!! dw abt sending long asks i always look forward to them🤍 hope your days are filled with joy mwah

#💌ask #liebestraum anon

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jayflrt · 2 years

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Can u please give me reassurance that things get better with age? I've had such a drastic drop in self confidence and it's affecting every aspect of my life. It has a lot to do with the environment I'm in, so I'm really holding on to that hope that once I'm "out there" I can get back on my own two feet. I'm so hopeless rn. I'm so sorry u just seem so put together I'm jealous even tho our circumstances may be wildly different

hi anon ! IM SORRY THIS GOT SO LONG but i’ve had the same concerns as you did before, and i’m not sure where you are in your life rn, and i know i’m still an emerging adult, but i will give you my take on this !!

first of all i’m rlly sorry that you’re feeling this way :( but i hope you know that many ppl experience these feelings and come out strong regardless, so don’t let it beat you down !! 💗 i can’t promise that things get better with age but i can promise that as you grow, you’ll learn how to handle and cope with what’s thrown your way and be able to deal with it in ways that are healthier and less stressful on you. i think teenagers also tend to have a more negative outlook on life than older (25+) people do D: i mean i’m not 25 HAHAH and i definitely don’t think life is all rainbows and sunshine, but i think i’ve grown enough(??) to appreciate the little things

this may be a stupid analogy HAHAH but i never rlly appreciated the stars when i was a kid ?? i was just like oh, there’s a sky and stars. now im older and like ,, fascinated, like i always look up and just stargaze when i’m walking home and trying to look at the different constellations. i think just growing older and learning more (i took astrophysics so maybe that’s why??) i just think so much more ab it like how bright they are even tho they’re light years away, how they seem like they’re in the same place but they’re constantly moving just like us, and how they burn for so long 😵‍💫

so it’s kinda just my outlook on life changing in a way ?? i had sort of a dilemma when i was 16 where i couldn’t understand what my purpose was in life and couldn’t even imagine myself graduating high school at the time. my parents are helicopter parents and i couldn’t even imagine them trusting me enough to let me leave the house and go on trips with my friends

now that i’m a little older, my perspectives have changed on a lot. and maybe it might change as i grow even more, but i don’t necessarily think humans have a designated purpose, but just are able to live life to their fullest if they choose to. i focus less on “what i missed out on” because of my parents and more on what i can do now and how i can be a better parent when i have a kid. and now i’m literally on a trip with my friends for the weekend—something i never imagined my parents would even think of letting me do in high school. i think i was more judgmental of myself and my actions when i was a teenager, and i defended this by thinking it was because others would judge me. now, though, i’ve embraced myself more and have accepted that i have faults but don’t let it break me down(?) in a sense

again, i’m not sure how old are you rn but my self confidence was pretty low when i was in high school :o i think a lot of it had to do bc i kept comparing myself to the ppl around me. i’ve also noticed (and seen in my social psych classes) that ppls self confidence usually increases with age :’) when you get out there and start doing things for yourself, you’re gonna start feeling kinder to yourself and realizing that everything you were beating yourself up for doesn’t matter. i don’t mean that in a negative way but in the sense that like in ten years you’re not gonna have the same worries that you’re having rn 🤧

i’m definitely not like an expert on anything and i don’t think there are any clear cut answers on how to live your life, but i will say that you will be okay and what you’re feeling now isn’t a reflection of how you will feel in the future. life will be a bitch sometimes but be a bitch back and make the most of it 💖

please also note that i am not a therapist im just a writing blog on the internet HAHAH so if your concerns are deeper than this and go into something potentially triggering then it’s wise to see a professional instead

#💌 : jayflrt love notes #anon #i was writing this in the car and while getting tteokbokki and in the market so i hope this made sense 😵‍💫😵‍💫

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rivetgoth · 4 years

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im a transsexual guy who had top surgery last wednesday and we really Goin Thru It over here - you maybe got any cool tips that helped you recover after they carved you? stapled sutured but every time we touch then i still ooze blood and plasma onto my bandages, yknow. love ur vibe btw dude - guys like you keep the scene fun. stay evil

HEY, I hopped on my comp the second I saw this message cuz I wanted to type up a proper reply instead of battling the tiny iPhone keyboard lol. Firstly though, congrats on your surgery!! And also thank you, this is a super sweet message and I appreciate the compliments a ton, thank yew ;;w;;

ANYWAY, if it’s any consolation, about a week into my recovery I got hit with the worst post-surgery depression. I was out of my Oxycodone and so frustrated with how much pain I was still in and how sensitive and weak I felt and being forced to sleep on my back and the fact that I still had to “bind” even though I had gone through all that specifically so I didn’t have to bind anymore LOL. I had thought not being able to shower was miserable enough but showering actually worsened my mood because everything was just so sensitive and sore and stiff, I remember just straight up crying in the shower once or twice. I jus say this stuff cuz I super feel you, it was pretty difficult at times and it made me feel really frustrated because I was simultaneously so happy about getting the surgery but that was so hindered by the bad feelings I was dealing with due to how draining recovery was. It was really reassuring and also hilarious when I googled stuff about post-top surgery depression and actually found a piece written by a trans dude in the industrial scene who I was actually already friends with LMAO. And more than anything I’m just hugely thankful for my friends who were there for me during recovery at that time and helped me through it and put up with my complaining and weakness. My roommates didn’t make me do the dishes for a few weeks and little things like THAT meant the total world to me :’)

Anyway though, I do think my biggest piece of advice is to remember above all else that all of this is very, very short term. When you’re in this much pain and discomfort, especially if it’s like, your first major surgery (it was for me), it can be super easy I feel to become semi convinced that it’ll just be like this forever, and it can feel really hopeless and frustrating, and trying to remember that this is only gonna be for a few weeks to a month or two at most and then you’ll be back to normal is really reassuring. And the pay off is so worth it because afterwards you have the entire rest of your life to live with a way way way more comfortable happy relationship to your body and being able to wear the clothes you want without any discomfort at all and exist in the world in such a happier state of mind. There’s only so much advice I can give for the physical discomfort, but I think psychologically, that really is the most important thing. It can be really frustrating or stressful seeing how weak or painful it all is or seeing how fucked up your nipples or scars might look but it really is such a short term thing in exchange for an entire lifetime where you’re so much happier overall.

But as for the physical discomfort, I do think my advice is gonna be pretty obvious, which is just to keep taking pain meds and taking it easy. I was on a shitload of Ibuprofen for forever (I was taking like, 600 mg every 6 hours or so). I think that’s really the most you can do to minimize it. Luckily, I do think the pain all goes away pretty quickly. Like, within a week or two after the Oxycodone wore off the pain started to become way more manageable too. I also think it’s a good idea to try to just not think too much about the injuries themselves, I know I can be a HUGE hypochondriac and I worry a ton about stuff and there were times where I’d become so obsessively concerned about my nipples healing properly or something. Just try to do whatever instructions your doctor gave you and other than that don’t really mess with it, try to distract yourself with easy stuff like watching movies or playing games or talking to friends and just let your body do its thing. If you become really concerned about something talk to your doctor, or even just check places like FTM subreddits, because a lot of the time whatever you’re going through is something that a shitload of other guys have gone through too and it’s likely you’ll already find some threads where your concerns are dispelled. Other than that though, try not to let yourself get too focused on the scars or the nipples or any of the weird or gross or painful stuff going on, I think it’ll only cause more stress and discomfort. Every time I was kinda worried about something, when I saw my doctor about it at the next post-op he would tell me it looked completely fine, lol. Also remember that your body is REALLY going thru it right now, even though it’s your chest that’s primarily been actively impacted, it’s really your whole body trying to adjust to having been seriously physically traumatized. I had some really weird physical side effects all over, like a weird restless leg experience, some weird stomach issues, lots of soreness near my shoulders, and all of those things went away with time, it’s just your body readjusting and recovering.

But yeah, I know sometimes stuff like school and work can get in the way of being able to do this fully, but I do think my biggest advice is to just try to take it easy and take a lot of pain meds and rest your way through it. Eat well and stay hydrated, those sorts of cliche things. But also, more importantly, just remember that everything happening is very short term in the grand scheme of things, and as frustrating as it can all feel it is SO, so rewarding in the end. By the time you’re able to go out into the world without having to think about binding, and you’re able to wear whatever you want comfortably, and able to do things even as small as just walking up or down stairs without immediately feeling discomfort, or maybe you’re able to have a sexual encounter that doesn’t make you feel bad about your body… The few weeks of post-surgery discomfort will feel SO worth it.

And congrats again, anon!! 🎉

#I HOPE THIS WAS HELPFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111111111 #anonymous #ftm

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twshitlord · 6 years

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do you know @tranispanic at all? i think he's in danger and i don't see too many blogs saying anything about it (i might just not be following them or whatever) he said he was gonna commit suicide and he had a note written out but he deleted it and nobody is hearing from him. even if you don't know him at all, can you post this incase your followers do? im really worried fuck

While I appreciate your feelings at the moment, Anon, the best thing for transispanic right now is for him to be able to talk with people who are actively involved with him irl who are able to help him get the proper help. The last thing he needs right now are fifty-billion messages in his inbox telling him what to or not to do, etc. with a lot of people venting their worries for him at him.

While it’s absolutely really kind of you to express your concerns, everyone needs to back off and let him catch his breath. Panicking and trying to contact him isn’t going to help anyone.

In situations like this, when you don’t know the individual in a personal capacity, maybe just send a nice, “Hey, hope things work out for you!” message to their inbox and let it sit. The last thing anyone wants is for transispanic to feel like he’s responsible for making people feel upset, creating drama, etc. or for him to feel overwhelmed or stressed by the panicked people charging into things half-cocked and ill-prepared for actually counseling a person in that emotional state.

Again, thanks for your concern, Anon, but sometimes it’s really best not to try and interfere too much into these situations unless you know the person very well and are actually able to provide real emotional support and/or help them access the proper care.

#anon #reply #suicide mention

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