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zhoufeis · 9 months

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kdrama ask meme

based on my cdrama ask meme: send me a number and I’ll reply with a gifset

1: extraordinary you or true beauty 2: goblin or hotel del luna 3: bring it on, ghost! or happiness 4: i’m not a robot or see you in my 19th life 5: doom at your service or tale of the nine-tailed 6: w - two worlds or flower of evil 7: moon lovers or alchemy of souls 8: weightlifting fairy kim bok-joo or strong woman do bong-soon 9: 100 days my prince or the tale of nokdu 10: semantic error or the eighth sense

11: haru or baek kyung 12: jang man-wol or myul mang 13: jang uk or naksu 14: park bong-pal or seon woo-hyul 15: kim hyun-ji or dong dong-ju 16: eun dan-oh or tak dong-kyung 17: ki seon-gyeom or lee young-hwa 18: oh yeon-joo or yoon sae-bom 19: kim min-gyu or kang chul 20: hong cha-young or seo dan-ah

21: haru / eun dan-oh or lee soo-ho / im ju-kyung 22: im ju-kyung / han seo-jun or eun dan-oh / baek kyung 23: kim bok-joo / jung jun-hyung or cha heon / shin sol-yi 24: wang so / hae-soo or jang man-wol / koo chan-sung 25: kang chul / oh yeon-joo or ban ji-eum / moon seo-ha 26: jang uk / naksu or tak dong-kyung / myul mang 27: seo dan-ah / lee young-hwa or ki seon-gyeom / oh mi-joo 28: song geu-rim / ji soo-ho or kang dan-i / cha eun-ho 29: sae-bom / yi-hyun or do hyun-soo / cha ji-won 30: cho ji-a / kim min-gyu or hoo joon / lee geun-young

#kdrama ask meme #mischa for ts

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what-breaks-my-heart · 3 years

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부담스럽다 (Burdensome)

Burdensome. If I have to choose ONE word to describe episodes 9 and 10 of Doom at Your Service, it’s ‘burdensome’. The story is burdensome on Tak Dong Kyung, her family, Myul Mang, the deity, Na Ji Na, Cha Joo Ik, Lee Hyun Kyu, and even myself as a viewer.

As I pointed out in my first piece of opinion on this drama when I first started it, the literal title — One Day, through the Entrance of My House, Doom Came in — reflects the experience of the character whose perspective we are seeing, i.e., Dong Kyung, through her grief. Her experience so far, is in line with the 5 Stages of Grief Model.

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance

This post by @captainstarkky elaborated at length on this, so I recommend checking it out.

Episodes 9 and 10 made me realise that Dong Kyung is not the only one who feels burdened in this drama. From the very beginning, we saw how Dong Kyung has this tendency of giving in and not speaking what’s truly in her mind, because she does not want to be a burden to other people.

She does this not only to strangers, but also to those who love her. Why? Is it because she lacks self-esteem? Is it because she’s still grieving over the death of her parents and her status as an orphan who does not have anyone to rely on? Is it because of her self-assumed responsibility to take care of her little brother? Is it because her aunt Kang Soo Ja who raised her and her little brother was herself financially struggling, hence the motivation to not become a burden on those who love her?

We saw how anytime someone showered Dong Kyung with love or compassion, she looked awkward and uncomfortable, just like when Aunt Soo Ja tried putting on a hat on her.

Quite a number of people around Dong Kyung noticed this. Funnily enough, her walking on eggshells around them made those people walk on eggshells around her too.

Dong Kyung feeling like a burden to the people around her makes those people to be uncomfortable around her, which in itself is a burdensome feeling to have. Her feeling like a burden makes them feel burdened.

Dong Kyung’s refusal to be completely honest with her loved ones, to tell them what’s really on her mind, hurts them more than the actual tragedy that has befallen onto her.

You see here how Dong Kyung understands that the look on someone’s eyes is also a way of communicating without actually talking about it out loud; it’s to be understood and accepted as a way of communication. Thinking back at how difficult it must had been for Aunt Soo Ja to raise both Dong Kyung and Sun Kyung, Dong Kyung must had seen and understood the frustration Aunt Soo Ja had over the years.

So it’s understandable how Dong Kyung goes on believing that communicating only through the look on someone’s eyes is a perfectly sufficient way of communicating. She assumed a burdensome responsibility by herself when she was 10 only years old, and what you learn at such a young age becomes part of your identity.

What Dong Kyung fails to appreciate is the difference between other people’s feelings and what they choose to do with them. Is it a surprise though? She grew up feeling like a burden, so she wouldn’t have been able to understand it.

Feelings come and go. You don’t have complete control over them. As we live our lives, it is completely normal to experience all sorts of feelings. But what makes us human is having the free will to choose what we want to do with them. Dong Kyung’s friends and family can see how hurt Dong Kyung is, but they choose to respect her decision to keep a happy face in front of them.

Aunt Soo Ja is arguably the one person who has seen Dong Kyung’s struggle the most. But what did she choose to do? She embraces Dong Kyung with warm, comforting love, pretending to not know about her struggle.

As @fierycavalier said in one of her numerous tags, when Aunt Soo Ja put not one, but THREE winter accessories which she bought in Canada on Dong Kyung, she did it in a way that you could observe that she physically put the weight of her love over the years around Dong Kyung like a warm blanket so there’s no way Dong Kyung could ignore it.

It’s like the saying, “if you don’t have anything good to say, then say nothing at all”. More often than not, when someone you love is grieving over something, the only thing you can do is just to be there for them in silence, letting them feel your warm presence — whether in person or in spirit — while giving them the space to process their feelings as they grieve.

Nevertheless, this does not mean that it is healthy for someone to keep suppressing what’s on their mind all the time. Not saying their feelings out loud caused Joo Ik, Hyun Kyu, and Ji Na to be entangled in the situation they have been in for the past nine years. As a result, they have been feeling burdened by their past, unable to move on.

We can safely conclude that Dong Kyung, her family, her colleagues, Myul Mang, Na Ji Na, Cha Joo Ik, Lee Hyun Kyu feel even more burdened than they would have theoretically feel had they chosen to be honest and talk about their feelings instead of pretending to be okay.

As they walk on eggshells around each other, cautious not to burden and hurt the other’s feelings, they paradoxically hurt and burden them anyway.

Funny how things come full circle as they try to avoid it in the first place.

Now, that itself feels burdensome.

p/s: I am so sad that my method of embedding Tumblr gifs in my post is currently not working. Otherwise, I would have embedded gifs from @belsmultifandommess which I requested the other day in this post. Do visit the gifset 1, 2, 3, 4 and have fun using your imagination to guess which exact gifs I would have embedded in and where in the post I would place them.

#doom at your service #kdrama #kdrama opinion #while most of my previous essays ended in a hopeful tone I chose a burdensome ending for this #because I can feel my heart heavy with burden as I'm writing this #interestingly I feel less burdened now that I've put this into words

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