#because violence in conflict is illegal and how are we supposed to survive jail on top of this all huh

[furiousgoldfish]

every resource ever: you need to learn to deal with conflict and not run away from it

me in a conflict: I have already lost control of myself because my body thinks we're about to die and freeze/fawn/flight response had already taken over, I am shaking and I can't control my words, and I will now take 2 months recovery and that is IF I actually get out of this alive

#abuse symptoms #trauma symptoms #trauma aftermath #conflict #trauma response #thats right there is no fight response #we freeze and fawn until we can escape #because violence in conflict is illegal and how are we supposed to survive jail on top of this all huh #not being able to deal with conflict because you're conditioned to look for survival only #if you were threatened death and became injured in all of your previous conflict #you're not going to be able to just negotiate now #it's always going to be about avoiding being injured and killed #because it makes more sense than just being able to believe that conflict can go differently or that people will not attempt to destroy you