#cause they are stubborn and self sacrificing and can't communicate for shit!

[softgothweiwuxian]

i would also like to say, as an aside, just cause i’m seeing a lot of either jiang cheng or wei wuxian bashing on my dash today for some reason, that i am always equally sad about both of the yunmeng bros and their respective issues. they both have faults and bad coping mechanisms and both did things to hurt each other. they both need to work through the layers of trauma they have experienced and understand how their actions have effected each other. but they are also both deserving of love and happiness and healing, whether that happens together or apart.

to me it isn’t a function of “this person is worse than the other,” or “this person should feel inherently more guilty than the other” it’s “hey, these two abused, traumatized kids who were constantly belittled and hurt and pitted against each other, who were used as pawns in war, who had everything taken away from them over and over despite their best efforts, have made some bad fucking choices and have lashed out or lied to each other because they were left with increasingly little options and were in various states of distress.” 

and like, let’s be honest they have both done some really fucked up shit (see non-consensual golden core transfer, strangling and other varieties of physical violence, lying about very important things and then being dismissive of valid feelings, and bringing your brother’s worst childhood fear into a room to purposely torture him). neither of them are scot free in the deterioration of their relationship or the continued strain of it. and if we are gonna start pointing fingers at one, we kinda gotta point them at the other too. 

but also underneath all of that, they love each other so fiercely and so desperately that half of their bad choices were made in an attempt to protect each other. or out of frustration and betrayal because they cared so fucking much that when the other wasn’t standing beside them they were gutted. 

these boys both deserve some peace in their lives. they were both worthy of love the whole time, whether they believed it or not.

#wei wuxian #jiang cheng #yunmeng bros #listen i am not here for either of these boys being treated like they are irredeemable #jiang cheng spent his entire childhood being told he wasn't enough #and that he couldn't measure up to wei wuxian #and wei wuxian spent his entire childhood being told that his existence was too much #and that despite his talents he was still just the son of a servant who should technically be below others in his family #and it developed into two very different but equally damaging sets of self worth issues #that then spiralled out of control when other forces got involved #and they were both trying to do what was best #jiang cheng was desperately trying to hold onto his brother because he needed him #and wei wuxian was pushing him away because he thought he was making things worse for him #and they both sacrificed themselves for each other and then didn't say anything about it! #cause they are stubborn and self sacrificing and can't communicate for shit! #and i desperately want them to talk and acknowledge the hurts and apologize where they should and then #try and rebuild! #okay i'm done ranting now #cql #the untamed