#endos okay to interact but pls be respectful !!!

[pansypr3p]

i dont blatantly sys post often!!! im not super into syscourse, i am not always against non-traumagenic systems. it depends. but i am here to complain abt how fucked up it is that anti non traumagenic systems/people are called sysmeds. like. its a play on transmeds y'know? and the thing about transmeds is like. being trans isnt a disorder. this is because. gender is not real. its a thing we made up. cant be a disorder. nothings wrong with you. yknow?

but like. being a system is stressful if not inherently caused by or influenced by trauma!! like. i fucking love and adore my headmates and wouldnt give them up for the world but. its hard sometimes, yknow??? like. switching is hard sometimes, role switches and internal conflict and all this bullshit. we love each other but having like 200 ppl in one noggin is a Bad Time, especially when there can be like 15-25 people in the front room at a time, not to mention the dissociation. i cant remember friday. or thursday, or wednesday, or tuesday. i think i have a vague idea of what happened? but i just. its just not there. yknow? and yesterday and today- ive been fighting feeling utterly apathetic because the dissociations so bad. and that was all because someone yelled at me for a second and i shut down because i got triggered because hey! trauma! woo!

so yes. being a system is a problem. not for others around you! but for me and many others. and i dunno. i just like. i just really wish they wouldnt compare us to transmeds?? like systemhood IS medical. maybe you got some other shit going on like systemhood, and yeah, okay! sure! cool! whatever! i could care less. but if you dont have that trauma, that dissociation and struggle. i want a different space!!! than you!! bc that shit is fucking hard. and fuck it. if you dont struggle like that i dont want you to talk like you do. and if you do, and you still think youre non-traumagenic. okay. sure. whatever. i dont want you in my space either. denial is a bad look.

maybe that was rude. i am sorry. i dont like being mean to people and i much rather respect everyone and leave them alone. bur i got a little frustrated so here! a rant.

#anti non traumagens who attack endos+ are not welcome here btw. i dont care if theyre endos #you dont attack other people in any way #ive seen ppl get endos banned just because theyre endos. that is fucked up. stop #mostly i just like. systems who are created via religion or spirituality or your own will fuck me up. i dont like that. please leave #got spirituality trauma! #and i don't respect people who just decide they Want to be a system sorry lmao #just #my personal shit #anti non-traumagenic systems #traumagenic systems #endos okay to interact but pls be respectful !!! #just like. hold ur tongue if u r super angry at me i am not afraid to block skdjf #but i dont hate you #i dont hate people really #minus like #cooperate fuckfaces and abusers <3 #fuck them #minus that!! #ehehek #sorry if this isn't understandable i ramble a lot #syscourse #sys stuff #system stuff #anti endo #anti endos !! interact !! unless you harass endos in which i ask you go to therapy and leave me alone ty #anti endos interact #sysmeds #sysmeds interact #hate usin that #but oh well

[devoured-meat]

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⛧ pls interact if you're proship, para safe, anti-censorship, pro endo, satanist/atheist, xenogender, otherkin/therian, anarchist, and for all good faith ids.

⛧ we have complicated feelings when it comes to pro-consang and rqs, but know that we wouldn't hurt you if you decide to interact with us. y'all honestly get too much reactive hate and it's quite exhausting to see.

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[sophieinwonderland]

Request for advice?

We are a system already. We want to purposely create some new headmates - specifically with the hopes that these headmates would be willing to be in relationships with us. However, we also recognize that outside of doing this with servitors, they would have the autonomy to refuse once created. To be clear, we will always respect a refusal at any point in time.

My question though is... is it okay to let that hope be infused into their creation process and try to guide their formation so there's a higher chance they'd want to be? Some of us would feel icky if we had been created specifically to be a partner, while others wouldn't care.

At the end of the day, we'd always not just make sure but PRIORITIZE that they had the full ability to choose either way.

(I think part of the worry too is that these relationships would be potentially stuff that's moral in the headspace but not outside. An example because that sounds worse than it is: one of our current fwb relationships is someone who enjoys consensually killing* headmates as a kink, since in the headspace they come back with no real harm done. Anything like this would also be carefully negotiated, as it always is, but having it influence a headmate's formation would be different.

*The headmates being killed also enjoy it. We're a buncha weirdos that hate violence IRL but enjoy it in the headspace 😅)

So... is it okay to create a headmate that's more predisposed towards reciprocated affection and/or liking the same things that are only moral in the headspace, as long as you are okay with them not doing so?

(also pls be gentle with us even if it isn't okay, we're asking because we wanna make sure we don't hurt anyone. the killing stuff we have verified does not hurt those headmates too. If you're willing to answer privately that would be appreciated cuz we worry about getting judged for that stuff, especially since anti-endos often argue with you - but that's entirely your choice. I know none of our names are attached to this, but still 😅)

Umm... I don't think I can answer an anon privately. Sorry... I'll turn off reblogs to keep interaction from others at a minimum.

I think this is something that should be approached with caution. I won't tell you what to do but...

Some of us would feel icky if we had been created specifically to be a partner, while others wouldn't care.

You already know that some of you wouldn't like being created this way.

Have you also considered that long-term ramifications this could have on not just the created headmates but on you? If a relationship becomes serious, do you want a relationship where you're always questioning if they really love you because they want to or if they were just created to be that way?

I don't actually see a problem with the death play itself, because as you say, no one is actually hurt. It's just like if you were pretending to do this with a consensual adult. I mean, while it usually lacks a sexual component, most video games are just pretending to kill people for fun. 😜

But I think the consent is going to be an issue because a new headmate is going to lack the experience to make an informed decision. And you created them. That breeds a strong sense of loyalty.

My host never took advantage of me. He actually was extra cautious and made sure that my decisions were my own. But if my host had wanted early on, I think I would have done almost anything for him. I can't imagine if I had been created for this purpose, feeling like it was my entire reason for existing. And I don't think that would have been a healthy relationship.

There is no solid code of conduct for this type of thing, and I'm hesitant to impose my own moral standard here.

But consider carefully if this is really in either the best interest of yourselves or the new headmates.