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x31043 · 1 year

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I guess im just bothered that when youre born an called a woman youre then constantly told to shut upforever,but when the opposite is true youre constantly encouraged to speak up.Youre ridiculed for not doing it, but to me thats different than being hurt or even killed FOR doing it. That means that childhood sucks. Adolescence sucks. Youre really in a place of forced subservience for your whole existence. You have to break out of that so hard. Youre physically smaller. You are trained to ignore yourself until you are broken. You are trained to be something that someone uncaring will shove themselves in and take, take over. You are literally raised to be an object to be used and discarded. That is UNIVERSAL. I know some people epxerience that without being born & assigned women, but for those of us who are this is literally a universal experience. You are fucking made to be a fucking sex robot and a servant and an agreeable nodding nothing whose opinions dont matter and nothing else. You are TRAINED in social cues and spend your whole life noticing every little thing and forcibly keeping all your opinions inside. Everyone should be lifting our voices up!!! Trans people should be screaming up at the sky not at others to keep their voices down!!

This literally makes me want to scream. Women are not treated better than men. Why would trans men be treated better than trans women? Where are you seeing that, where??? They have SPECIFIC, DIFFERENT experienes and also many that are the same! Because its a fucking spectrum, remember that discourse? When youre trans it doesnt work all neatly in two categories like that. I look like a trans women. Many trans women look like me. Many of us are non-binary and our gender is basically the same regardless of how we were brought up. Why can you ask me my genitals now and if i dont answer i get canceled. what the FUCK is that. Why has it become like this. It started as “our experiences are different, we need a space to talk about the ways they are not the same.” and now its-- disclose whether youre dmab or dfab to be a good ally to trans women. We have to talk about it ALL THE TIME. WE have to go based off genital differences to determine how you are privileged or not. That’s not the fucking way to move our community forward or to connect as individulas. And Guess what?? Trans women don’t even want it!!!

TME is a term that trans women made for VERY SPECIFIC CIRCUMSTANCES. It can be applied to SPECIFIC CIRCUMSTANCES which require a very nuanced and exact language. I may be fucked up for saying this but There are times when trans mascs and butches face a speciifc, different type of transphobia to trans women, too. And they deserve a space to talk about it, too, while still DEFENDING trans fems from terfs. This seems fucking obvious to me. when its white ppl it all pales against transphobic racism anyway.

And that’s the long and short of it, bc trans women arent the ones I see taking about TME. They arent the ones actively claiming they have worse epxeriences with gender and dysphoria. Thats all like cute Nonbinary transmascs typically who are white telling me my experience was a lot easier than others in my community. And to me thats a part of this fucked up socialization--always talk youself down, and hold others like you accountable for reaching beyond their capacity. Other DFAB people telling me to shut up about my transness is fucking ironic in a way that doesn’t make me want to laugh. You were told to shut up your whole life, so now you’re going to put that on me?? Why are we doing this in the first place then?? WHy if not to reclaim the voice that was stolen from us?!

My genitals are thought of as absolutely inconceivable. The 20 pounds of weight on my chest is thought of as a dirty thing I literally need to press and constrain into tight and uncomfortable shapes or I will be violated when I go outside. Do you have any idea what that does to a kid? I bet you know what it does to an adult. It’s a very similar experience! We need a space to talk about this without being called terfs or told to check our TME privilege. I am going to one day be a man with a beard in a dress. Whats not clicking?

#i was raised in a rape culture as the target of that not the perpetrator #both have long-term impacts on psychological well-being #i was treated like a predator for being butch as a teenager and adult #that doesnt make me one #the same is true for all my beautiful strong gentle trans fem friends #i need people to know what its like #your voice is constantly stolen from you. it fucking hurts. it hurts so much #anyone who can identify with that experience i respect and adore with my whole heart #thats it like part of why i am so delighted and entranced by trans women is they see that and still adorn themselves and align with it thats #so fucking beautiful and inspiring to me #because the pain of what i went through is worth something if there are people in the world who look at womanhood not as violent condemnatio #n #but as hope and embodiment and restoration and light #so thats why i need a place to express my specific pain #so we can come together and realize like yeah. womanhood sucks. you are constantly targeted. it sucks the same for all of us #it is violent cruel and you are still worth it anyway #its a pain we are all feeling #vent #this is not for the public lmao i would never say this shit #to an audience #text

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lesbitchka · 6 years

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Okay I. I know this doesn’t happen often but uhhhhhhhh I was in the wrong. I honest to god didn’t see on any of the posts where you said it was wrong to ONLY call yourself trans, but I completely get that now that you explained. I can’t speak for the other anons but I’m sorry I didn’t see that

when you say “im trans” and dont clarify that what you mean is “nonbinary”, it’s gonna be universally assumed that you were assigned the “opposite” gender and share the relevant experiences --- while someone like me who’s functionally indistinguishable from a cis person gets to go about their life unaffected on most fronts

like you gotta understand, there genuinely are people out there who are nonbinary but are straight up calling themselves “trans women” and “trans men” despite being aligned with their agab and sharing none of the difficulties or experiences own to people aligned with the “opposite” gender

AND there genuinely are people who think “binary privilege” exists and that they’re more oppressed for not fitting the gender binary, and even those who don’t think that often find themselves believing in the sort of nb politiks that go along the lines of “we need a nonbinary gender marker and are gonna swarm upon the trans people (mostly trans women) who again and again explain why not having any gender markers in the first place would eliminate just about all the problems publicly stating your gender for public record creates, and we’re gonna call them nbphobic/exorsexist/whatever”

like sure whatever call yourself trans if it floats your boat, but not at the expense of trans people who dont have any of the luxuries that being a nb person aligned with their agab offers, and dont be surprised when you run into assumptions about your experiences

#nb politiks are literally hell bc even people who are reasonable about sexuality and neurogenders #often retain mogai-like views about other aspects of nonbina..riness? nonbinaryhood? nonbinarism???#Anonymous #ask

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