#of the jerks who pretend

[mswyrr]

@dizzycat2000​

Learning this just made my heart do a happy flip! 😂I love it so much. A married couple making art together that a lot of different people can enjoy. That’s gorgeous.

For anyone who’s curious, there’s an article about the married chefs and their love story here:

To hear them say it, they’re always busy and always running around, but in conversation, they’re both quite laidback. They also seem very down-to-earth. They complete each other’s sentences, and sometimes answer in unison. They look at each other lovingly, and listen intently when the other person speaks. They think highly of each other. They may be from different backgrounds but have clearly found their common ground in food.  

I could see Syd and Carmy being so happy living a life like that. And I could see, in a few years, someone writing an article like that in-storyverse about the married chefs who run The Bear 💖

#sydcarmy #the bear #carmen x sydney #sydney adamu #carmen berzatto #this is such a great repudiation #of the jerks who pretend #romance would be bad for Sydney's career #irl you can be highly respected AND in love with your partner #heck yeah!! #the bear meta #dizzycat2000 #you can't tell me #their chef consultants #haven't told them about this place #.... man they could do such an amazing love story #if they want! #and it would be totally grounded and realistic

[myimaginationplain]

I've come to the conclusion that being assigned the fandom-mandated "sunshine character" is the worst possible fate a character could face

#maybe I'm just biased because the characters that this happens to tend to be some of my favorites but I think I'm onto something #these characters aren't allowed depth of emotion or complex inner worlds. once a character is fanonized as the 'ray of sunsine' #or the 'cinnamon roll' they cease to occupy any space outside of that role in fanon content. they're happy & silly & not much else #no matter how much depth they may actually have in canon. #popular fanon has a tendency to treat happiness & goodness like states without any emotional complexity. #emotional complexity is reserved for the anti-heroes & jerks-with-a-heart-of-gold you see. #atp 'X is a ray of sunshine' has begone to feel like code for 'I don't actually care about this character very much nor do I understand #their canon narrative so I'm just gonna ignore them 98% of the time. but hey they're really nice! that's something! anyways—' #this is about many characters but I particularly want to call out aang & nightcrawler / kurt wagner as two who get this the worst. #because christ the mischaracterization they get from people who never think about them outside of the 'uwu small bean' box is infuriating #also steven universe & miles morales. although it's not so bad for steven after suf #fandom bs #please pretend I typed 'begun' a few tags back

[meirimerens]

bruh the creep i had to romantically reject three times (four if you count her "lovesick ramblings" [direct quote]) in the span of not even a year and who called me a "jerk" and "insecure" for not wanting to long-distance e-date her unwarranted-evadaniil-porn-sending ass followed me after a year of no contact on the instagram i don't update, haven't posted on in a year, don't share any followers/following with her on, & that i only mentioned on this blog Once over 2 years ago. on Valentine's Day Eve out of all days. what in the maidenless behavior is this.

#i know for a fact you're not ~organically~ finding & following ~random~ french artists who post horses under 70 followers sister. #wanted to keep your eye on me on the account you thought i'd be the least likely to notice you on? #too much of an insecure jerk [for rejecting you] that you won't follow me on the myriad of accounts you know i'm active on & pretend like #nothing's happened; but nicey enough that you'll follow one where you think i'd be least likely to see you? #i know you combed my blog for multiple-years-old pictures of my face before; did you do it for this account's @ as well? #well if you're still on that creepy creeper grind maybe you'll see this message as well! learn to lurk better & maybe you won't get blocked #ps: maybe don't have your discord name + pfp be the same as your instagram's if you don't want me to immediately know who you are. #& if you wanted to rekindle; well; grow a pair & don't creep on the one acc i never mention. you won't find pictures of my face on it btw #neigh (blabbers) #stay_away_from_[ME]_get_a_job.png #incel & coquette Pick A Struggle girl. do not hmu ever again you creep.

[purgemarchlockdown]

The temptation to vague about something in the milgram-confessions blog because its something thats bothered me for Actual Years about certain fandoms vs letting it go because when it is brought up its actually done somewhat tastefully and reasonably which makes me happy and this anon probably didnt mean it in the incredibly bad faith way I keep on seeing it be repeated so really Im getting upset over nothing.

#the answer is: ramble a bit in the tags just to get it out of my system #for some elaboration: Im asian! I have a knee jerk reaction when people go 'the westerners are projecting their values onto the east again' #because 9/10 of the times someone does that they're an American who wants to justify their weird racism/homophobia #by using the idea that asian countries (especially Japan) are backwards and/or ignorant but disguising it as 'being mindful of their cultur #and also then homogenizing them and pretending their all a monolith to be assholes to people! #and/or completely dismiss any possible criticism or interpretation for a series as a cultural values thing #this one fucks me up especially because usually there IS Merit in those interpretations/criticisms #but a concerning amount of people then go 'oh your just pushing your cultural values onto them' as a smokescreen to be a bunch of assholes #and/or discredit their ideas because Clearly All (insert x group here) think EXACTLY THE SAME and BELIEVE FULLY in whatever cultural #idea their using to justify this behavior #Ive Seen actual good discussion on differences in culture! #especially in another fandom of mine #but the worse option has happened so much that when I hear someone say those words alarm bells start ringing #its bad faith! I know its bad faith! But Ive engaged the worse option in good faith and came out wanting to punch someone A Lot More #Ive seen actually good faith discussions of cultural difference in this fandom sometimes! Its really nice but It scares me #cause im just Waiting for Someone to come in and ruin it #can you guys tell ive seen too many bad anime video essays? Ive seen too many bad anime video essays.

[the-starlight-papers]

The conservative student org at my school is having a very well known politician from my home state (which recently banned gender affirming healthcare for minors) come and give a talk about wokeness.

So you know I might just so happen to have been tearing down any of their fliers that I could find over the past few weeks. They have started adding more staples and pushpins but I cannot be deterred.

Now the hard part is going to be figuring out how to snag as many fliers from the people passing them out in order to make them run out faster.

#I understand that people might have an interest in going to see this person talk solely because he is a well known political figure #but I also really wish that events like this didn’t have to come around and make it much harder for me to pretend #that I’m not on a very conservative campus #plus the guy who I’ve been working on an engineering project with stopped at open of the people giving out fliers and was talking to him #about how great it was that he was making people in the engineering part of campus aware of this event #and wow really looking forward to getting to sit with that guy in a lab for 3 hours sometime soon #also apparently I have developed somewhat of a reputation #at least in my uni’s trans support group for ripping down a bunch of fliers seems like something I would do #also. yeah I understand it’s a jerk move. they worked hard putting up fliers and doing chalkings. #but the speaker that they’re bringing in doesn’t want trans people to exist so like #you want me to not exist on your campus? I pull down your posters #qsa rarely puts up posters because we don’t really have enough people because no smart queer person would come here for colleg

[snailfen]

i woke up from a nap 30 minutes ago with the best animatic idea (two birds by regina spektor my beloved) ive had in 17 years with kris and lyra and ive been stuck in a very intense catastrophic autism event about it the entire 30 minutes,

(catagory 20 autism event in the tags below)

#god. LIKE OK WHERE DO I EVEN START WITH THE IDEAS I HAVE PLANNED FOR THESE TWO IN THE FIRST PLACE #like. in my head kris originally lived in new bark town and was friends with ethan #but had to move away because her mom got a job at the goldenrod radio tower #and lyra moves in soon after! ethans upset and pretends to dislike lyra but his mom makes him play with lyra and they hit it off instantly #kris is really shy and she has low energy so she doesnt really make any new friends in the city. she really only has her mom #and her phone calls with ethan #meanwhile lyra is really energetic and social and makes a lot of friends really quick! #so when ethan starts journeying and reunites with kris in goldenrod and kris finally meets lyra she cant help but just. hate her. #its not just that she moved into kris's house and took her place as ethan's friend. lyra has a lot of the things kris wishes she had #then team rocket takes over goldenrod city and kris's mom is trapped in the tower like all the other employees. #lyra is the one who gets into the tower first and she helps a lot of innocent people get out including kris's mom #and kris is grateful her mom is safe (shes really close to her mom since shes one of the only people she has) but also. really confused? #shes been nothing but a jerk to lyra since theyve met. #but when she started panicking about her mom being in danger lyra promised to find her anyways. and she saved her too! #after lyra's dad finds out about the team rocket takeover though he lyra to come home. #he always worried for lyras safety and wants her to stay out of trouble (theres a really good reason for this btw) #and lyra disobeyed him when he called her and told her to stay away from the city #and kris doesnt feel like she should just. stand by and let that happen! lyra helped save her mom. #and her journey is really important to herself and so kris goes right up to lyras dad and gives him quite the earful #she somehow manages to convince him to let lyra finish her journey! and lyra is so fucking grateful #and the two start becoming friends from that point on. lyra becomes really important to kris #im thinking of maybe lyra giving kris two thin white ribbons to tie ribbons on her pigtails? #first of all as a symbol of their friendship and also to draw similarities between the two of them #second of all. (gestures to suicune) #anyways what did i say. catagory 20 autism event. im gonna have to edit a tag at the top #mossball.txt #gsc #trainer kris #trainer lyra #pokemon

[lonesomedotmp3]

the evil dead franchise is not good you're delusional. get well soon.

#like WHO cares it's just a poll and the opinions of some randos on the internet. #but well I CARE!!!!! SO MUCH!!!!!! #like evil dead 2 is NOT the comedy horror masterpiece people pretend it is it's men thinking they're so smart and funny #and jerking themselves off in the writer's room and fine people can find merit in it WHATEVER #but do not act like army of darkness is not OBJECTIVELY terrible. worse than the worst freddy worse than the worst scream worse than the #worst final destination etc etc #it's BAD. and it's misogynistic as shit #and i saw a post like oh i hate that they made ash williams a male chauvinist asshole he wouldn't fucking say that #he kind of would. lol. you just don't care because you'd rather babygirlify some man with blood on his face than admit #a piece of work fucking hates women. #whatever 😐

[angstmonsterwrites]

When someone grows up or lives a protracted amount of time endurung abuse/neglect, and goes on to be an abusive and neglectful person themselves, much of society, or the media, or laypersons in general will assume that this is just the natural outcome. (And thus is the stigma of posttraumatic stress and other mental illnesses that are essentially the expressed injuries of all that mistreatment propagated.)

However, when the exact opposite happens-- when that mistreated person becomes notably kind, wise, generous, responsible--it seems like everyone's stumbling over themselves to praise that person for "not letting their trauma define them".

Here's a tough pill to swallow and probably a very unpopular opinion: That second person's trauma did define them, just as surely as that highly negative stereotypical first one. Our experiences, for better or worse, are major building blocks in who we become. That 'stronger', more morally sound person simply did a much better job of deciding *how* it would define them. Perhaps it was because at some point they had better support in licking their wounds, or they were simply intelligent enough to notice that their personal situation was not an absolute truth and strove for better whenever and however they could. Just a little sweetness is sometimes all it takes to compel a person to reject the behavioral and moral bitterness that's been shoved down their throats otherwise.

But you'll rarely hear much about how that second person, whose trauma supposedly does not define them, still struggles to sleep many nights. You won't hear of their private struggle with feeling alien in spite of their good and well earned reputation. You might think they're someone who never engages in self pity, and maybe that's right--because what a lot of what people mistake for self pity is genuine, bone-deep, complicated grief. But there's a stigma behind being too honest; there's a general vibe of collective hatred for emotionally hurt people because their wounds are evidence of how cruel the world is. It's easier to demonize those who vocalize the lasting reality of their pain.

I've heard too many anecdotes of how that second, "good" survivor who was surely not defined by their mistreatment, suddenly ended their own life.

But they were so good and gracious and responsible...and knowing the consequences of being anything else and suppressing the need to let it out ultimately killed them.

But hey, at least they weren't given to self pity. Can't have that.

#mental health things #musings #Not every lament a person has about their own life and how they were poorly treated is 'self-pity'. #But it's damn easy for a lot of people to pretend it is. #It's such a toxic attitude. People who have been profoundly and unjustly hurt have a right to embrace their anger. #And to grieve what was denied or taken from them without being subject to myopic knee-jerk oversimplified judgements.

[fractempyreal]

@caemthe​ echoed: [ demon hunter! conall ] Conall let out a long whistle as he looked at the scenery, massacred lesser demons lying on the ground. Usually, seeing that his job was completed before he arrived was a bad sign but, upon seeing a familiar figure, the hunter put his guns away. "Looks like someone hasn't been wasting his time these last two decades." Vergil... a name rather difficult to forget due to the months he had spent tracking the rampaging demon, designing a plan to take them down, Conall was a rock in the shoe. It failed and he was the one who died instead. Unfortunate but those things happened too, not much to do about it besides restarting the cycle and... No, he wasn't trying it all again. "It also looks like you've aged quite a bit since then, Vergil. Want me to give you a tip or two for the crow's feet?" Easy to say when all the hunter did was die and 'reborn' again.

𝐁𝐋𝐎𝐎𝐃  𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐋𝐋  𝐁𝐔𝐁𝐁𝐋𝐄𝐒 ,  𝐒𝐋𝐎𝐔𝐆𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆  𝐎𝐅𝐅  𝐅𝐀𝐂𝐄        &   falling to the ground .   Yamato hums with excitement ,   vibrating from the exhilaration of battle before falling into a quiet LULL in understanding that the battle was won  &   over .   He can hear the footsteps ,   catches the stale phantom stench of death that comes from the vaguely familiar form .   There was ONE other time that the Devil had found himself in the face of the scent .   An opposer that soon enough was left nothing more than a MANGLED CORPSE  &  melted away into nothingness .   Whether or not there is some kind of RECOGNITION towards the man is indiscernible .   Perhaps he did recognize the hunter ,   perhaps he did remember a battle that had ensued in attempts to STOP the devil from furthering destructive machinations ,   but if such is the case ,   features were little more than a wintry expanse belying NOTHING outside of usual disinterest .   A smooth motion as grip loosens on blade ,   metal GLINTING as it sweeps in an arc before slipping into the scabbard at his side .   This is no threat ,   only an inconvenience .   The obvious JAB at age does not elude the Devil ,   but nothing more than a faint TWITCH at the corner of his lips indicating the slight vexation towards the spirit .                         ❛    Am I supposed to know who you are ?    ❜

#caemthe #♚ ` ʜᴇ ᴡɪʟʟ ʙʀɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ᴇɴᴛɪʀᴇ ᴡᴏʀʟᴅ ᴛᴏ ɪᴛs ᴋɴᴇᴇs ｡ﾟﾟ Answered #me leaning back in my chair and taking a long drag from my bubble pipe #why hello. bet you thought you'd seen the last of me #also Vergil 'I pretend i don't know who you are because you don't mean anything to me' nolastname is just being a jerk #like always JOIASJOGISAJG

[cithaerons]

teenage girls can literally be deadbeat middle-aged men and do a better job at it than them.

#i pretended to be a 20-something man a few times in my teens #needless to say i was a hypermacho uber-masculine jerk who lifted lots of weights and gained everyone’s respect immediately #such a self-esteem boost

[hafwen]

On the same cycle as this old lady at pain management where she's making new appointments while I try to check in

I don't know why or understand it but she never has her phone on her and always asks what day of the week it is and then tries to remember her work schedule and when she will be watching her grandsons

Every time! She knows shes going to schedule something why not just bring a list of dates or anything but making us all wait while she tries to remember her schedule and then sometimes changes the ones she's made because she realized they weren't going to work

#wish there was more than 1 person checking us in and out #there used to be 4 nice ladies to check you out #they each had their own office right on the way out #but now i never see anyone in there and they make you go to the front desk #really getting tired of this lady rushing in front of my wheelchair to try to remember when she can do shit #its a rude people day apparently #lets see if i get the jerk nurse too #who lies about why she wants to know things #it's to see if im selling drugs lady don't pretend #personal #dr appointments

[detectiveconnor]

the way human (2) has all these little flags of just. casually unhealthy but not destructive, just unhealthy, habits connor has picked up. they’re just things he throws in, passing thoughts that cross his mind and then he keeps going:

Briefly, Connor wished that it was colder.

passing things that are flags for people who know him well, but people don’t know him well, in that verse. not quite the beginning of a slippery slope because he doesn’t slip and doesn’t fall, but things he is aware are less healthy than they could be and things he thinks anyway.

human (2) connor breathing in the ways he is able to breathe. human (2) connor taking shortcuts to air which aren’t that safe, but they end up in air. human (2) connor balancing - and steady - there on that cusp of something, he’s steady (will not fall, is in no danger of going anywhere), but he keeps himself balanced just-so.

#about connor #anyway the point of this is someone be snappy/gruff with him or upfront about 'i saw you in the news you're short lol' or ask questions or- #he is so tired of people skirting around it or pretending it didn't happen or trying to tell him 'well *I'm* polite though' #has had enough of people not being Real with him #meet him in the real or don't waste his time. #(the way human (2) connor is sharper about wasted time than any other connor) #(the way human (2) connor is wary of how much more to the point he is. because he knows that can cut) #(when people are being hesitant because they are trying not to hurt themselves when they share.) #(connor is Never cruel. but you can watch human (2) connor take a break and recommit himself to Holding Space for people) #(in a way nobody has ever held space for him. because the truth is just the truth and they just do deserve the holding.) #human (2) connor consciously giving people room to breathe and consciously letting them heal and consciously Listening #he's so. it's so much who he is all the way down. and that he has to be wary (?) of the way being traumatised has hurt him #the fact maybe not 'has to be' but the fact that he is. the fact he Is cautious sometimes about the way he's quick to... #See Through people when being seen through is not what they need. people very often just need to be seen. #he very very often commits himself to Seeing. and it annoys him that his knee-jerk might not be that anymore #(he worries that it isn't) #(he is incorrect. it always has been. he has always knee-jerk tried to see and find people. Connor Is A Detective.) #v; truth is his true north (human 2)

[theorangerangers]

The number of recast MCU Characters kinda surprised me and made me think about power rangers

I think it would be funny if for actors that don’t want to return or can’t return to the power rangers that they just recast an other actor that looks vaguely similar and the right age. Like Kira’s actor doesn’t want to come back then they can cast another blonde who can sing moderately well and is the same age. And basically just pretend like it’s the same person the same way they pretend Scott’s dad and Shelby’s dad aren’t the same guy or Mick isn’t also Boom. Like it’s been enough time that kids probably won’t notice the difference and older fans will probably understand the choice when it comes to actors that may not be able to do stunts anymore and just generally the money and time it takes to get to New Zealand.

Also it would be an amazing source of meta jokes and fourth wall breaks.

#like image an old villain showing and up and just being like: who are you? #recast ranger: your memory getting that bad huh? #old villain: no I definitely would have remembered who the yellow ranger is #recast ranger: well it looks like you don’t *kicks them in throat* #kinda like the 2017 reboot but most of the other actors that can return do #like they just pretend that some random guy who’s the right hight and build is the original will #since will’s actor is a jerk

[sith-shenanigans]

Dark Temple arc ch3/ch4

(Liminality on ao3)

#swtor #swtor fanfiction #io's writing #yES THIS IS THE JERK IN THE TOMB WHO PRETENDS TO BE POSSESSED #because APPARENTLY we are not allowed to have side characters who are just awful #(unless they're sith. sometimes.) #also the latter bit is from the chapter i am working on so it's not up yet But