#spoiler: uh. i'm pretty fuckin aro and i've kinda... always been

[uncanny-tranny]

Honestly the dumbest thing about my experiences with queerness is I'd hear people talk about identity and how they navigate queerness and I'd be like, "oh, actually, that matches how I feel to a very weird level. Huh. Guess I'll never know why, though!"

And then a few months later, I'll have a breakdown of, "Holy shit, holy fuck what the hell is happening" before I realize maybe I should have paid closer attention to why I related so much to a queer experience.

The moral of this story is: if you relate to somebody explaining their queerness... there's likely a reason for that.

#queer #lgbt #lgbtq #i'm thinking about the time i incidentally came across somebody talking about their aromanticism and i was like... 'wow i relate.' #and i was then like 'eh i'm not aro tho. i just coincidentally relate to a weirdly specific degree to this aro experience' #spoiler: uh. i'm pretty fuckin aro and i've kinda... always been #anyway maybe don't be like me and let yourself not understand who you are until you cannot take it anymore #because it kinda sucks to have a crisis of identity because you've been kinda... willingly ignoring who you are #i don't say 'willingly' in a bad way just in a... 'please it isn't worth it' way #and i call it dumb because i think i was willingly setting myself up for failure because i didn't fully understand myself #because i didn't fully realize i was aromantic i had forced myself in a lot of situations that i didn't want #and i didn't understand WHY i didn't have crushes or have interest in being in a relationship or why i hated being touched #so i just assumed i 'needed experience' and the lack of experience was why #spoiler ×2: the experience did not un-aro me <3 #it aro-d me MORE lmao