#starting to put tl;dr at the end for my fellow adhders

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people dont seem to understand that abuse isn't black and white. it isn't throwing bottles at a child and letting it shatter on the wall for them to clean up, not all the time. it isn't being bad, being horrible, every second of every day, and although some people do live in such environments, its not the majority.

based on personal experience and other abused kids i've met, its on a scale. the reason so many people struggle with getting away from abusive situations is because it's not all abuse, all the time.

it's pretending to go to the bathroom and spending the whole time masking your sobs with the exhaust, then laughing until you can't breathe over a game of cards less than an hour later. it's wearing long sleeves to hide bruises at school, then coming home and chatting about that one annoying kid in math. it's crying yourself to sleep at night and waking up to make a nice breakfast together.

it's about balance. without it, it would be incredibly easy to break away from an abusive scenario. but its there. and its hard.

tl;dr: abuse, especially child abuse, is most likely not a straightforward situation, and is more nuanced

#starting to put tl;dr at the end for my fellow adhders #and keep in mind this is based on my life and my experiences and will obviously not apply to everyone #i'd love to have a conversation about this so send me your thoughts ask me questions #tell me what you think #sorry about posting such low things today btw #im just in those kinds of feels #tw abuse #tw child abuse #tw trauma #let me know if theres something else i should tag #the tree speaks #abuse #child abuse #trauma