#the askers

[thedroloisms]

I think what's worse about people doing it to Dream is he's very reluctant to call attention to it himself so people do it for him and it's not just with abuse. They'll do it about him being queer or about having rsd and people need to realise if he wanted to use those things as excuses but he doesn't. Like it's okay to recognise the influence those things have on a person but you can't reduce an issue down to a single factor and remove all the nuance.

i mean yeah he "doesn't use it as an excuse" because 1) he'd be crucified even harder than he already is 2) people already make things up in their head abt him using it as an excuse when he doesn't (like claiming he uses his RSD to get out of things, which was particularly hilarious back in 2021 or whatever when it seemed debatable if he even knew what RSD is) (like this is the same guy who like, during every drodcast around that time, would like list off textbook adhd symptoms and then be like 'yeah idk why i do that tho') but ... that's. like.

like the point i was making isn't just "we shouldn't make excuses using his abuse/queerness/neurodivergence because he doesn't do it" -- in situations where a conversation revolving around smth like queerness or victim advocacy or neurodivergence is relevant, then i don't think these topics should be barred from conversation? as an example, people used to get on people's cases all the time about mcc 14 and how you shouldn't talk about neurodivergence in relation to it while dream was like. clearly and obviously overwhelmed and out of it literally almost until the end of the conversation because of the buildmart rework. just because dream wasn't going "wow, this was an overstimulating environment that clashed terribly with my adhd" out loud on stream doesn't mean people couldn't independently hold conversations about how the game was kind of designed to be stimulation hell, with or without relating that conversation to dream.

obviously people should have more tact when they talk abt abuse specifically, re: dream. i just...don't think that throwing his situation into his face (especially as a weapon to use against other people) is in any way appropriate. people can, have, and will use his experiences against him.

but back to my main point, it's less about "not using these things as excuses because he doesn't" and more about "not using these things as excuses when they're not excuses." like. while i understand that being a survivor, being queer, being nd affects literally everything you do...as you said, there's a difference between understanding the impact something like past abuse can have on your feelings and actions and concluding that your actions and feelings are valid because of your abuse.

like. just as an example. if a DV victim acts erratically while details of their specific situation are being dredged up and said person does things out of character for themselves like shutting down their accounts on social media and refusing to acknowledge an important situation Immediately, even if they themselves don't bring up the specifics of their situation, i think it's fair to say "hey yall are lacking any empathy whatsoever to a survivor of DV who is a victim in this current situation, grow up and piss off."

on the flip side, if someone who's been through abuse is harassing people online and doing things like campaigning for them to lose their platforms and refusing to give any information as to why they believe this is necessary or provide any proof outside of "just trust me, they're bad bro" and cries that they're trying to do the right thing because they're an abuse victim...being an abuse victim does not excuse your current behaviors, many of which are enabling and/or encouraging abusive actions and telling people (such as abusers!) that your corner of the internet is a safe place for them to make baseless accusations (including towards their victims) as long as it's towards someone you don't like. which is, you know, fucked up and kinda abusive. i sympathize with the trauma that these people have been through, but bringing up your victimhood is not immediately relevant to the current situation and also doesn't excuse abusive actions.

i hope that made sense?

#abuse #the askers

[feminetomboy]

Welcome to the Ordem fandom o7.

People miscaracterize Erin so so much.

Did you know that in Desconjuração, Kalera, Erin's Player, got so much hate for playing Erin and not making the choices the fandom wanted her to do? And by so much hate I mean a lot of hate 😔

Jesus fucking Christ, no, why. Kalera is so incredibly sweet and Erin is SO fucking cool. Look, I don't even fucking care about the ships or anything, but look at this screenshot I took of the first time Joui and Erin properly interacted. Kalera and Luba are communicating sheer volumes here. And I loved them so so much!!!!

#i heard the rumors that the fandom was so incredibly harsh on almost all players in desconjuração #aop #ordem paranormal #desconjuração #the askers #opd

[ezra-trait]

Hello! Wcif the hair on this adorable sim?

https://www.tumblr.com/ezra-trait/742519141381079040/hello-i-made-alelelesimz-vega-for-this?source=share

hello! thank uu :) heree it is

it's roxy hair by 148dazed

#wcif #the askers #nekobet

[cristalmystery]

hiii <3

ngl i was wondering how many of the seemingly random people booping me are actually bones anons lol

Oh I think there’s a lot of us attacking all the non-anons. Gives you guys a chance to boop us back, even without knowing who is who. Can’t let Bee do all the work now, can we?

#the askers #jiksvokrat

[htodog-van-pog]

I love your blog AKSKAKWHSNSNKQ

AAAA THANK YOU 4 THE KIND WORDS‼️‼️‼️

its been my passion project ever since early 2021, and its still going strong! in fact, i was working on my next drawing just this afternoon! im just about 2 reach the two hour mark of the vod >:]

i am quite a fan of your blog as well, L'MANBERG STRONG!!! 💪 it makes me so happy 2 see others still thinking and talking about L'manberg after all this time... its like an old song being carried on, being sung happily :]

excuse my rambling, please have a sneak peek! since you have been so kind

the forest fire scene..! i love L'manberg history

#the askers #<- new tag‼️ congrats! youre the first asker!!!

[gilliontidestridertits]

how dare u have such wrong opinions on color 😔😔😔 i can’t believe u . blocked unfollowed smacking u with a large hammer /j

NOOOOO I THOUGHT U WOULD BELOEVE IN ME IM DESTRPYED . See it’s because I love math and I love you so blue boom now u have to support me /j

#the askers

[nostophobic]

YOOOO ur benchtrio au seems super cool ! what other ideas do u have for it?

WELL!!! funny thing is that im actually planning out like comic pages for it so i don't want to spoil much BUT. i can say a bit ^__^

the premise is that after an accidental near death experience, all tubbo underscore wants to do is to go back to living a normal life (that incidentally involves isolating himself from all his loved ones so they don't talk about That Time He Nearly Died) and also to never ever think about death ever again because he is FINE (he's not) and MOVING ON FROM THE EXPERIENCE IN A COMPLETELY HEALTHY WAY (he's not).

but when it turns out that the Accident gave him the ability to see ghosts, he's less than pleased at the existence of his new ghostly roommates, tommy and ranboo. not only does their presence constantly remind tubbo of his own mortality, but they also (horror of all horrors) TRY TO TALK TO HIM. and they're ACTUALLY KINDA FUNNY AND NICE TO BE AROUND (notwithstanding the property damage fees. thanks a lot, tommy).

CLEARLY, this is a problem. CLEARLY, the only solution is to pretend he cant see them. CLEARLY, it is a completely foolproof plan that will not be steadily complicated by tubbo's growing emotional attachment to the silly little ghosts in his apartment. nothing about this is doomed to blow up in his face not that it would be the first time something blew up in his face ahahaha see it's funny because he almost died. coping, baby!

#totally (para)normal au #benchtrio #tubbo #tommyinnit #ranboo #jamie voice #send more asks! this is fun! #the askers

[ectomint]

HI YOU'RE ONE OF MY FAVOURITE ARTISTS EVER AAAAAAAA AAAAAAA AAA

AAAAAAAA NO WAY DUDE CAUSE YOU'RE ONE OF M Y FAVORITE ARTISTS EVER AAAAAA

#the askers #no dude youre really so cool and nice man dhhshgeg agh

[male-thirst]

Max Sargent and Aarin Asker

#max sargent #aarin asker #holesrus

[bamsara]

By the way, the Cult of the Lamb comic book Kickstarter is in it's last 58 hours (as of making this post) So it's probably the last chance to get the exclusive stuff. Because they hit all the previous goals, all physical orders are getting extra stuff like more prints + tarot cards from the game. Plus there's all the add-ons they're offering you can add

#specifically for those 2 askers and mutual who wanted a reminder for it's final hours #theyve added a lot of stuff #id love the red knuckle bones dice but thats already out of my budget so im happy with what ive got #cult of the lamb

[thedroloisms]

You know, he will never have to address this. He fucked off to NYC to live in the artisan district as a sabbatical with no social media. Like he will never be back. Then his stupid little bad will play at Coachella

i mean, yeah, he's probably never going to say anything. the nature of the stream as it exists hardly makes me think that he's going to say anything, even - shubble very intentionally was not framing that as a direct accusation, for her own sake. people will have to make their own decisions as fans and some of them are going to choose to stay because they're waiting for more information that may or may not ever come, because they want to support him despite the information that's come out, what have you. that's their independent decisions to make, honestly.

as for me? frankly, i have zero interest in watching him flay himself alive in the public eye as atonement. if he ever makes a statement about this situation, that's his right, but i don't particularly care either way. if he's off social media...good? i mean, genuinely. good. i think it's evident that he's aware of certain patterns of behavior from himself and desires for those to change, so i hope that he has those support system and gets that help in his private life so he doesn't continue to hurt people (others and himself). as far as he goes as a content creator, mostly i worry about the massive amount of social power that he's had handed to him when he's mishandled the power that he's had before, so him being off social media and out of the public eye is a good thing? he doesn't answer to us. the personal relationships that he had that allowed him to hurt people close to him are not really issues to do with us, the audience - and evidently those issues are largely being handled out of our eyes. he's mentioned getting therapy, and i hope he continues to get it! i hope that it proves helpful to him!

like, i understand your discomfort anon, and frankly i'll also have certain Thoughts And Concerns if/when he comes back either as a content creator or as a band, but at this point all i can say is he's off social media for the time being, good, i hope he gets the help he obviously needs and i wish the best for shelby in her career and her personal life in the meantime even more.

#the askers #i think that fucking off to NYC and going radio silent for now is honestly the best option #like i'd have far more to say if he was like. streaming rn

[feminetomboy]

pov: indie is supposedly a subgenre of indie thats sorta like punk and indie rock and kind of lofi, diy, singer-songwriter shit, ectect theres a big definition. but its literally just indie idk what to tell you LMAO

spotify tends to categorize a lott of songs that may not really fall under the umbrella of the pov:indie as such, which is why so many people have it in their spotify wrapped

hope this helped:)

(So it's just... alternative rock......)

Thank you for that!! I'd love for Spotify to just for the love of all that is dear stop doing that tho 🧡

#the askers

[ezra-trait]

hello ezra trait it's been awhile but wcif the 1st and 3rd hairs from ur newest emo band post 🥺 first wcif free from shadowbanned hell <3 life is good

my dear brother so happy my tweet helped u out of the shadowban realm and ur now free 😭

they're lisa hair (peakaboo) by marsosims and shai style by doux

#wcif #the askers #roboobin

[cristalmystery]

🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲🌲 hello there

Eeeeeeeeyyyyyyyyyy, you found me. Hi Icy!

#the askers #icyfox17

[koholintz]

they’re the family ever

#someone asked me to upload this here and to *you* dear asker i say thank you #ngl i forget that tumblr exists sometimes my bad #but anyway! i hope you guys enjoy them! #puss in boots #puss in boots the last wish #puss in boots fanart #puss in boots the last wish fanart #goldilocks #goldilocks and the three bears

[gilliontidestridertits]

Guess who finally figured out tumblr 😻 (definitely wasn’t prompted by nbc Hannibal)

HEY HEYVWANNA GUESS MY NEW HYPERFIX.....

#the askers