#the bihet victim complex

[sapphicdessi]

lol so many bi radfems argue like reactionary manipulative queerio tras and liberals when they're called out for homophobia or told of their privilege ://

#the bihet victim complex #lmao saying someone is calling bisexuals evil for calling out your denial and downplaying of your privilege/homophobia come on #bi women are obsessed with saying liking men is oppression #treating it like it's homosexuality itself #and that gays are oppressing them for it #tra mental gymnastics in all bi communities aside from febfems which many also dislike #it's amazing the community obsessed with converting gay people or showing/telling men lesbians aren't real and can be fixed #has such a victim complex #such narcissism #bisexuals force gay people to always centre and talk about their osa and treat it like oppression #they act like it's an EXTRA struggle over gay people #what other community gets away w this shit #osa don't see lesbian as people #bi women are especially horrible to lesbians despite being ssa so like stop acting like we need to bond w homophobes #“lesbians are oppressing me by assuming I won't be serious about women” #it's a pattern and not our fault your community sucks. that you're so male centric male obsessed homophobic/misogynist and prefer privilege #you admit most bi women prefer men and rarely prefer women #and no “settling” for women bc men are shit and annoy you isn't preferring women #it's exhausting hearing the most homophobic women complain about homophobia like LOOK IN THE MIRROR you hate homosexuals yourself

[bulldyke-rider]

bestie your influence…. you got all of these bihets going mad and just making shit up their victim complex is beyond inflated. it’s so pathetic I can’t believe these are all grown ass women

What's weird is this started from me saying I hate polilezes and then all the open hetties and bisexuals started getting in their feelings. They claimed the polilezes as their own real quick

[senseofmonachopsis]

curious to hear your thoughts about this: i was reading a lesbian academic's book about how patriarchy began and she hypothesized that men at one point in prehistoric times realized they could profit off of women's biological features and started selling them in trade like cattle & she also wrote that some osa women helped facilitate that trafficking/selling women into slavery. if that was the case, shouldn't bihet women today stop acting as if they're 100% innocent...

That's the thing, there is no one group of humans who have a 100% innocent history and haven't benefited from exerting some type of power or control over others. Both women and men have used amd abused other women men, and children for their own gains.

To be completely honest, I take a share of feminist theories with a grain of salt. This is the same ideology brought forth people who claim that women in relationships with men will always suffer, and even that every heterosexual encounter is actually rape. A happily married heterosexual woman, for example, will have her agency removed by feminists to fit their narrative.

Humans have been literally enslaved throughout history (not just in the theoretical sense wrt women being kept barefoot and pregnant for example) for race/ethnicity, socioeconomic status, beliefs, etc. There are women who were not a part of any specific enslaved class that contributed to upholding those horrific systems as well.

Like idk, men have enslaved and subjugated other men too, in the literal and figurative sense. Men have used other men for profit. So the slavery comparison doesn't really work for me when tied solely to female oppression. Women don't hold a monopoly on being exploited despite what feminists say.

Do I think that the natural reproductive process has been used as wrongful justification for keeping women away from leadership, ownership of assests, autonomy, education, etc etc.? Yes. Definitely. But the dynamic between men and women in societies is more complex than man-oppress-woman always.

But feminist rhetoric thrives on the view that all women are perpetual victims in all circumstances. Ironically, similar to what you pointed out, the only exception to that is when they want to pretend like het and bi women play no part in the negative opinions and actions towards female homosexuality. Lesbians cease to be victims and somehow become privileged for not having to suffer from an attraction to men. Which makes no sense whatsoever.

#ask

[tooiconic]

what a stupid bihet victim complex. "Uh oh im Soo DeMONIZED!!!1 :(( bi woMtn ar bREAKLESS!!! cuT slackq!" lmfao literally shut the fuck up. entire world thinks youre straight becky klansmyn.

I know you're upset that summer vacation is over and that you're starting the 7th grade but don't take it out on me.

[radfem-gossip-reborn]

[funny how no one's shaming men for being OSA but when a woman is, her vagina's dirty and she's a disgusting bihet who shoves her sex life in other people's faces. yall would really rather bring down other women than face men as a class and it shows.] but we literally do shame men for the expression of their sexuality? creampies aren't an essential part of het sex, so fucking me miss with this disingenuous victim complex.

x

#piv sex discourse

[scientia-rex]

"But why IS it that for bisexual and transgender individuals, connecting with the broader LGBTQIA+ community can actually lead to worse mental health? Also, why are you bihets at Pride? I'm not transphobic but [insert wildly transphobic statement here]. Why don't you just call yourself [word people prefer to whatever label you chose]? The Q is for Qualified. Intersex issues will never be discussed. Asexuals are all straight-passing so they don't belong in the acronym anyway. We're on all the same side so just sit down and shut up and root for us! Donate to the HRC and subscribe to Out and love Dan Savage or you're not really supporting the community, whether or not they ever talk about you without insults or address your life. No, we won't be addressing your specific issues as bisexuals--you're just facing half homophobia anyway/passing as straight so you don't face ANY bigotry. Look, I don't know why you're so upset that there isn't bisexual representation on television, we have Destiel and Johnlock! Here are some characters who sleep with people of multiple genders but they'll never label themselves bisexual and mostly in the end they turn out to be crazy greedy lying cheaters. I don't know why you're angry. None of our time or energy or funding will go to bisexual issues because you're not really part of our community which you aren't allowed to call queer because we want to make damn sure you remember that you don't belong here. All context collapses and you must only use words in the Greater Gay And Lesbian Community Approved Ways. You may not be a flamer or butch but this is somehow not assimilationist or if it is assimilationist is a good thing with no inherent problems. You are certainly not allowed to be a flamer or butch if you are also bisexual and/or transgender. Those things are identities reserved for the REAL gays and lesbians. You have no history of activism and Stonewall was the product of cisgender people and Pride was not founded by Brenda Howard. You don't belong here. But why don't you feel welcome? To sit down, shut up, and agree that the only people worth seeing and discussing and helping are white cisgender gays and lesbians? No one has ever said that to you. I did not just say that to you. You are imagining things because you want to have a victim complex. The parallels between this and other forms of oppression are nonexistent and even if they exist do not reflect a problem. There is no internal conflict in the LGBTQIA+ community. Or at least there wouldn't be if you'd focus on the IMPORTANT things, like me and my problems, and listen to my solutions for everything, and never disagree with me. Don't come to my rallies or bars, though, this is not a place for YOU. YOU don't deserve to feel safe here. There is no war in Ba Sing Se."

#zero interest in DEBATE on this #the lesbian and gay community is NOT the same as the LGBTQIA+ community #and it is DAMNED disingenuous to suggest that it is