#with an aroace (unconfirmed but definitely aroace or alloace) person too

[thereallyreallylatebird]

Daily reminder that using "asexual" as an umbrella term for ace-spec identities is fine and good.

But also,

Daily reminder that using "asexual" as an umbrella term for ace *and* aro-spec identities is not.

Aromanticism is not a subset of asexuality, and should not be grouped under the term asexual as if it is. Doing so erases aromantic allosexual people by making being asexual a barrier to entry to being aromantic.

No, it doesn't matter that's how it's been used in the past. Terminology changes. No, it doesn't matter if you don't mean it that way, people trying to figure out their identity will still see that you're grouping aromantic under asexual and assume they can't be aromantic because they're not asexual (partially why it took me so long to figure out I'm aro).

That's all.

#brought to you by me having an argument about this exact thing in a youtube comments section #with an aroace (unconfirmed but definitely aroace or alloace) person too #this is our (aroallos) community as well #please use inclusive language #it's not that hard #aromantic #asexual #aromantic allosexual #aro #ace #aroallo #thereallyreallylatebird