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Reclining Nude, 1935, Zinaida Serebriakova

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There are plenty of straight men who go through dry spells and still don’t feel the urge or sexual need to pull another man to fill the gap. That’s why sex work is a thing lol, actions speak louder than words. Or this guy has a sexual problem, maybe an addiction or smth.

I just saw a post of a Reddit guy posted on Twitter. He was telling he has weekly sex with guys to help a dry spell with women. But that he doesn’t find these men attractive or is attracted to them sexually. He just does it because they’re easier to pull. A lot of gay men are assigning him an identity and a label.

The discussion got big and I saw and realized a lot of new perspectives. I always thought if you had sex with someone that = sexual attraction to some degree. But that’s not the truth. Sexuality, sex and needs are all different things. And if this guy or any other person that fucks someone with the same sex, still identify as straight… I’ll believe them.

Like I feel you have to actually like men to be gay. u don’t have to like men to have sex with men. sex is a physical act and doesn’t always have an emotional component. it’s like complicated but it’s also just not that complicated idk.

I think a lot of people don’t realize that sex itself is simply a function that your body can do and for many, wants to engage in for pleasure.And it isn’t necessarily tied to attraction or sexuality.It can just be a clinical thing for the end result of sexual release.

(I’m bisexual but I 💯 believe a straight man can engage in a homosexual sex and still id as straight if he’s not physically, sexually or emotionally attracted to men).

No, sex is in fact tied to sexuality. A momosexual person is physically incapable of feeling genuine attraction to someone of the gender/sex they're not attracted to. If this guy is weekly fucking men, I would be more inclined to believe he's just got a lot of internalized homophobia or something or he's just deeply in denial. There is the issue of porn actors who are "gay for pay" but I think that's kind of its own thing. That's not necessarily people choosing to do it of their own free will, they are being swayed by the promise of money.

Sex is not just a clinical function that anybody can fulfil, at least not to most people. It's an extremely intimate act that to most people has a certain degree of importance. The special importance of sex is why rape is such an especially horrific crime, and it's why I defend people setting any boundaries they want whether or not I personally think they have a good reason.

Sex might have less meaning for some people, and that's fine for them. But for a lot of us it's an important thing. You absolutely cannot make the blanket statement that it's just a clinical thing and claim that sex is divorced from sexuality. That's absolutely ridiculous and totally wrong.

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“If lesbian can include people attracted to men, how am I supposed to communicate that I’m ONLY attracted to women!?” Exclusive lesbian. Just say you’re exclusively lesbian.

Or lesbian….the word is RIGHT THERE. You are a lesbian. Why are we consistently told we need to keep making space for men, and now it’s being put in our label. There’s nothing wrong with not liking men. We are consistently told by society that we have to coddle and make way for men.

#wlw #terf bullshit #pan lesbian #resources #anti bi lesbian #anti mspec #exclusionist #??? #it’s not even exclusioni it’s lesbophobia #lesbophobia

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Greg Ellis is an MRA who sent revenge porn of his wife to coworkers and is permanently barred from seeing his children

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The fact that I just had to sit through an IG reel where a woman sits there and puts the blame on women that they’re making men “unconsentful” fathers with cis men who have unprotected sex with them…. 5,000 people agreeing with her. Like women don’t have to carry a fetus for nine months and risk possible death via pregnancy. The hoops people will jump through to stop men receiving accountability is astounding.

Like vasectomies aren’t a thing??? They’re a fifteen min operation that doesn’t even need anaesthetic. It’s almost never brought up as a BC method for men. Like women and teenage girls aren’t undergoing surgeries to have reproductive protection fittings like IUDs that many say actually need anaesthesia because it’s so painful to go through without painkillers or any kind of pain help.

#feminism

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Like u guys for real took a terf identity (febfem) and were like “oh cool lemme rebrand this rq.”

“Wuhhhh lesbian used to just mean woman who loved other women.” Yeah USED TO dumbass. I want you to go and speak to real lesbians in real life and tell them that lesbians are okay with fucking men and I hope you get clocked.

You can all die mad and lesbophobic and biphobic. I said what I said.

Your daily reminder that bi lesbians don’t exist, they literally cannot exist as it’s impossible. If you like men as well as women you’re bisexual. Lesbian literally means no attraction to men. Anyone genuinely using that label is a massive lesbophobe AND biphobe and it doesn’t make you an exclusionist???? To say that???? Saying that lesbians can be attracted to men is incredibly???????? lesbophobic? (And you fuckers who say well what about trans women are being majorly transphobic and you should drop dead)

#lesbophobia #biphobia

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this is so so important to me and mine, and I'm asking you to Do Something so I'll respect your time and keep it brief

in the UK, if 100k sign a a government petition it will be brought to Parliament and debated. y'all know this country is suffering from some 80s-style bigotry right now, and this is one symptom: almost 200k fuckholes have come together to force the government to discuss whether it is 'appropriate' to tell children that queer people exist. this is a big symbolic victory for them. and i am burning with fury.

please, if you're from the UK, sign this counter-petition so they can at least see how much of a minority they are. simply put, the attempt to put these bastards in their place isn't gathering enough steam. there are barely 2000 more signatures now than there were this morning (27th January 2023), and that isn't enough. i refuse to let these people feel even a moment of victory or satisfaction. please help.

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I need those cringey shitty sexuality pins n badges that say “do not talk to me about your nonsensical mspec identity”

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Your daily reminder that bi lesbians don’t exist, they literally cannot exist as it’s impossible. If you like men as well as women you’re bisexual. Lesbian literally means no attraction to men. Anyone genuinely using that label is a massive lesbophobe AND biphobe and it doesn’t make you an exclusionist???? To say that???? Saying that lesbians can be attracted to men is incredibly???????? lesbophobic? (And you fuckers who say well what about trans women are being majorly transphobic and you should drop dead)

#bi lesbian #anti mspec

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Why do people create fictional scenarios that will never happen and then proceed to get mad at them

LGBT infighting is so ridiculous when you apply it to real world situations. Imagine if a queer person was being harassed on the street and someone went, "IDK. They're (insert "problematic" identity here) so I don't want to help them :/" like who is this helping? How is this worth your time? We are family. Get it together.

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#gee wondered where they learned that from

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Got a terf in my sideblog and the reply is not worth deigning with a response but the pinned post?

This? This is a trap. This is concern baiting. Be very sure that shit like this is not in your best interest and does not care about you. The goal of rhetoric like this is conversion.

You’ll be welcomed and asked to ignore transphobia. You will be asked to side with transphobes at the expense of trans women. Eventually, you’ll be asked to see that, hey, maybe you transitioned to escape how terrible it is to be a woman?

This may seem obviously a trap but I see people every day buy into this. People like this do not care about you! They want to “rescue” you and don’t let them convince you otherwise.

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something i like about pansexuals is they’ll say the bi flag is bad because it’s “blue for boy pink for girl” when the pan flag is literally “blue for boy pink for girl yellow for the well known homogenous third gender, nonbinary.” and the creator of it literally states this publicly as well as saying they made the pan flag out of a desire to have “something pretty to put on their blog.”

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A few weeks ago my mom stapled pages of a story in one of her women’s magazines together and handed it to me. She gave it to me pretty much with the tag lines “for your feminist blog” and “something new to consider.” Indeed it was; she knows me well.

The story is titled “I was forced to be pregnant.” With a title like that, reading it was actually not on the top of my to read list. I thought it was about women not exercising their right to choice. I was very, very wrong on that one.

Have you ever heard of Reproductive coercion? It is a term that was quite recently coined by the advocates against domestic violence to describe a certain type of abuse some women face. It occurs when a man pressures their partner to have kids and/or impregnates them against their will. Reproductive coercion comes in three different types: 1. Emotional pressure that turns into verbal and physical abuse. 2. Sabotaging birth control 3. Marital rape Over 75% of women 19-49 who reported once experiencing domestic violence also endured some type of reproductive control by men. It’s all about control and domination over a woman’s body.

The first story in the magazine is about a woman who got married around 36 years of age. After a few months of dating her boyfriend talked excitedly about having children. After he proposed he began calling her “The Babymaker.” She then confided with him that one of her fallopian tubes was blocked. He in return insisted she see a fertility doctor. She recounts, “I had finally met a great guy who was eager to start a family with me. What woman wouldn’t fall for that?” Soon after her honeymoon he persisted on in an obsessive manner, but his efforts had to be temporarily halted as she had to get emergency back surgery. Alas, 6 months into recovery he was back to pressuring her again. She was in much pain at the time due to her back, but she agreed to In Vitro Fertilization. She then became pregnant, but soon miscarried. In response, her husband grabbed her by the neck, choking her. He apologized, blaming his outburst on his grief and had her sign up for another round of IVF. And then a third round. She tried to put him off with the excuse that she needed to weigh more before she could take treatments, her husband forced her to get on the scale often and filled the fridge with fattening foods. “It hurt that all I was good for was getting pregnant.” She recounts. At the end, he screamed at her, threatening to replace her with a maid if she couldn’t get pregnant and she told him she no longer wanted to have his child. He destroyed bedroom furniture, pushed her down the stairs and threatened her with a gun. She fled to a domestic violence shelter.

The second story was about a woman who faced marital rape. This woman was 40, had a then boyfriend and two children from a previous marriage. After telling her boyfriend she did not want any more children, her boyfriend refused to wear a condom and began to rape her.  She then became pregnant with her third child. Birth control was never an option for her because she couldn’t hide pills anywhere for he went through all of her belongings. Three months after giving birth, he raped her again, impregnating her with twins. She lost the twins in a physical fight with him, but soon became pregnant again. During her recovery she begged her obstetrician to remove her ovaries and devise a lie to tell him; that she had cancer. After a decade of sexual abuse and violence she was able to get a job that kept her out of the house and often times traveling.

One in four callers to the National Domestic Abuse hotline said that their partners had tried to force them to become pregnant. Why? As one woman stated, “Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.”  Having a baby is the perfect tie that binds. These type of abusers want to create a circumstance in which their partner is dependent on him.

WHAT’S THAT HAVE TO DO WITH PLANNED PARENTHOOD?

Many voters never consider how defunding these clinics could hurt victims of domestic violence who turn to them for counseling as well as pregnancy prevention. Abused women will turn to health care providers long before they will turn to domestic abuse hotlines and organizations. Many women in abusive relationships rely on life saving, affordable care programs such as Title X. It is critical that such places are open and operation when women and children need them so desperately.

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Yk the attitude I can’t fucking stand? When something evil happens to a woman in a romantic relationship and all the comments are “you should’ve chosen better.” It could be cheating, domestic violence whatever. It’s always the woman’s fault. If he treats you like shit, it’s YOUR fault because you didn’t choose better. Because you couldn’t read the intentions that he hid on purpose. Not the person being a complete piece of shit who can’t treat other people with human decency. It’s never his fault.

People, especially men hide their true intentions. Nobody is coming into a relationship with someone with “I am going to sexually and physically abuse you.” Stamped on their forehead. Some people wait until marriage to show their true colours, some wait until a year into dating, some wait until after the first few dates. Manipulation is a serious psychological problem and one you definitely aren’t smart enough to understand if your first reaction to someone being abused is “you should’ve chose better.” It’s victim blaming and the fact that this is becoming a popular response is worrying. But weirdly, I only ever see men making this comment.

#feminist #feminism #domestic violence #domestic violence tw #idk what 2 tag this as #abuse survivor