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Further to this :

I’m posting one more time on this, and then I’m hoping I’m done. But I continue to see bad-faith takes on the settlement statements that were released this week, and I’m so done with the double standard from so many people in Kinnporsche fandom who have spent the past three+ months engaged in hypocritical bullying and victim-blaming and/or remaining damningly silent in the face of actual, public and visible abuse of Build Jakapan.

This wasn’t even a he-said, she-said situation. This was a months-long campaign of cyber-bullying, harassment and abuse – verbal, emotional and psychological – that Poi carried out against Build online, in the open, with no attempts to hide it. We saw her abuse him, repeatedly. We saw her be homophobic toward him, and not only did everyone who was ready to rush into battle against Build for supposedly being homophobic while making money off the queer community now stay silent about it, Poi got almost 10K retweets of it, so all those people who’ve wanted to cancel Build since last summer? We can see how much their allyship is actually worth. We saw the release of the VP novel with his bruised, bloody and battered face on the cover like some kind of disgusting revenge fantasy splayed out in public. We saw her release messages about sexual matters that were insinuated to be his private messages – which, like everything she’s ever posted, have not been verified as real and correct, in the setting of her admission of lying and faking and making false accusations with other material she released. But if they were real, the release of those messages would be on the same spectrum as revenge porn. We watched her commit outright theft of his belongings, and we watched her lie about his words and actions in an attempt to drive a wedge between him and his fans, we watched her punch down at those fans by invading their privacy as surely as she invaded his, we watched her make it all as filthy and gross and mercenary as she could in order to besmirch it as much as she could, watched her laugh about how much fans cared about him like he doesn’t deserve any kind of care or concern, like he’s a dog she can kick around without repercussion.

And antis joined in that abuse, plenty of people in the fandom were complicit in it – lies were collected and reblogged and spread around as supposed receipts of what a terrible person he was, by people who repeatedly represented themselves as “neutral,” without the least bit of concern for the provenance of those rumors, which were already in unbelievable supervillain territory and sure enough, turned out to be actual legal slander. People posted things like “burn in hell,” or made and spread vile memes when he left BOC like the whole thing was something funny, to laugh about, rather than a serious issue like accusations of intimate partner violence. He was called trash, garbage, an incel – at the same time people were vilifying him for supposedly cheating on Poi, so which is it? Is he an incel or was he fucking half of Bangkok? In one of the most breathtaking instances of victim-blaming I’ve seen in a long time, people amplified and spread the lie that he slept with Poi to get his role like it was some kind of gotcha, as if – had it been true – that wouldn’t have been evidence of Poi’s harassment and sexual abuse of him. The casting couch isn’t any less abusive when a man is subject to it than when a woman is subject to it. If it’s gross and abusive for Harvey Weinstein to do it, then it would be gross and abusive for Poi to do it, and the way some people acted like it would somehow be Build’s fault? I’m sure every actress in Hollywood would love to hear that. Or would it be OK because he’s a man? Because that sounds awfully close to those creeps who say that teenaged boys should think they’re lucky when their female teachers molest them. (Or maybe when women in power over them on the filming set coerce them into giving massages?)

And as we saw all this happen – even as people patted themselves on the back and reassured each other that this wasn’t a witch-hunt, that it wasn’t an online mob working itself into a frenzy - 99.5 percent of the people who had been so very concerned with compiling and spreading everything and the kitchen sink during the initial feeding frenzy on Build went aggressively silent in the face of Build’s legal claims, including defamation, coercion and other abusive behavior by Poi. Suddenly, we started getting calls for circumspection and civility - aka silence - now that Build and his reputation and his career already had been savaged. Now that it was becoming evident that these same people were complicit in her abuse of him and had helped create the very scenario he said that she had threatened and kept him under control with. Now that they had helped an abuser get their satisfaction during what is traditionally the most dangerous time for abuse victims – when they try to leave.

Suddenly people were just done with all of this, just so very tired of it - now that the damage was done, and what was left was clean-up of the havoc they had helped wreak.

This fandom has done nothing to change my opinion that this whole debacle was never actually about genuine concern over intimate partner violence, but was rooted in shipwars - going all the way back to last summer, when someone went digging back through Build’s socials to find comments eight years old that could be blown up by Twitter cancel culture just as the Vegaspete storyline kicked off, VP was increasingly pulling attention, and BBB’s facetime was increasing. Not a single thing I’ve seen since then – since Build was identified as the soft target of the VP ship and discourse around him was poisoned by purity cancel culture – has convinced me otherwise.

People in this fandom took a deadly serious issue like intimate partner violence, and they used it as a tool for their petty shipwars, and they used it to get a little hit of self-righteousness, as a little “moral” crusade that allowed them to get their Two-Minute Hate on in a way that was deemed socially acceptable and gave them a taste of blood because it was wildly successful in the real world in a way keyboard slacktivism rarely is. It’s very telling, though, how much concern they actually seem to have for abuse survivors when they won’t even call out abusive behavior happening publicly, right in front of their faces. I guess some abuse victims do have to be perfect, or maybe it’s that some people do deserve to be abused, despite the claims when people were simping for Poi?

It’s very telling when their biggest concern appears to be using abuse claims as a cudgel to make themselves feel righteous - because it appears that’s all Poi ever really was, a tool for some people in KP fandom to beat Build with. If they actually, honestly gave a shit about her, someone would have shown concern about her mental health and whether she has any kind of support network at all, rather than egging her on, encouraging and amplifying her abusive and out-of-control behavior online. I’m not going to deny that I dislike Poi, that I’ve found her distasteful and incredibly off-putting since watching her behind-the-scenes behavior with the KP cast, including trying to yank Build to the edge of a balcony on a high-rise building as he tried to resist and laughing about being called out by Jeff for sexual harassment of a minor. But one of the things that I also found disturbing about this whole debacle was the way people encouraged and enjoyed - relished - behavior that ought to be concerning for her mental health.

And even now, I’ve seen people act as if the behavior that Poi and Build have admitted to in their statements was equally bad. Sorry, no, him secretly recording a conversation that was evidence of her abusive behavior is not equivalent to her faking pregnancy claims against him and insinuating that he was the reason she got an abortion or miscarried. I’m sure all abusers would love it if conversations in which they talk about their abusive behavior were kept private and secret, but I’m extremely suspicious of anyone who wants to act like that recording shouldn’t be released - they should ask themselves why they’re ok with abuse being covered up.

Would they call a woman who secretly recorded evidence of being abused a liar?

#well said #it was all so extremely surreal in a horrifying way #how easy people turn on someone and how easy people are manipulated into hating someone so fast without question.... #I fear for the future tbh because this will happen more often it already does happen with other people and celebrities #I just can beg people to look at the source unbiased without listening to other peoples opinions EVEN if it's your best buddy #please use your own brains to evaluate a situation AND especially consider the context and external influences #learn how framing works #how persuasion works #generally learn the meaning of the actual words and terms that get thrown around way too easy (and often false) #and I hate to say it in cases like this it is important to speak up and support as much as you are mentally able to. to not stay silent... #i solely opened this account just to spread Builds side to conter all the blind poi support and Build hate here on tumblr #if Build didn't had that much fan support he might not be alive anymore he literally said that his family said that..... #build jakapan #poi #tw: abuse

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maybe now people will learn not to vilify someone, especially before they have all the facts.

but i doubt it.

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Build Jakapan Case Update + My Thoughts

It’s the middle of the night for me but I thought you all should know that it was announced that Poi and Build have settled in court. Both have published letters that agree and admit that Poi lied about everything and Build is innocent.

Here is Build’s Letter and translation:

And here is Poi’s letter and translation:

(Both translations done by @.yakibbb on Twitter)

This likely isn’t the end as her admitting her falsehoods will have to be a condition of the settlement and there will likely still be a hearing to nail down the damages she has to pay. But her settling like this confirms what I suspected for a long time: she has no evidence. Everything she’s ever accused him of came from her own mind. I suspected that from the start when she came out so strong and said she was going to sue him, and then just… did not.

I have some concerns. I will admit I haven’t been neutral in quite a while because Poi gave me no reason to trust her and every reason not to with her inconsistencies and Pinterest-picture evidence. I like to believe victims but i also firmly follow “trust, but verify” as a mantra. And I couldn’t verify anything she said. I could, however, see the inconsistencies and the coincidental timings and the conveniently cropped screenshots she shared as “proof” of him being so awful.

I digress.

I am concerned that since a mere couple of days ago she was slandering him live on TikTok that she won’t stop now, even with the settlement. I’m equally concerned that a settlement won’t be enough to clear Build’s name in the eyes of his neutral fans. I had hoped he’d take the case all the way so that the evidence would come out. But then again, this is a deeply private matter so I don’t blame him for wanting to keep his evidence private.

I have absolutely no hope that this will change the minds of people who are determined to hate him. But I do have hope that people who went neutral will see this and appropriately change their minds about him and this matter.

I am a bit concerned about what a case like this means for “believe the victim!” Since Poi obviously exploited that exact mentality as she defamed him, knowing it would ruin him to even be accused of something like this regardless of if he did it. I don’t think it’s a bad thing for more people to take the “trust but verify” approach… however I’m concerned that cases like this will be pointed to when discrediting real victims and dismissing their cases as simple misunderstandings. Because at the core of it, it seems like this was a messy break up that went really, really wrong.

I have no real closing thoughts here other than:

1. This isn’t quite over though I don’t know if we’ll get exact settlement details in the future.

2. I’ll be watching carefully to see if she actually stops with her erratic, defaming behavior or not. I’m not entirely sure she’s capable of stopping, so I’m concerned he may end up having to sue again if she breaks the settlement.

3. I think people need to be a bit more critical about believing people blindly BUT should still default to believing the victim in most cases to avoid using bad examples like this to discredit real victims.

4. This will do nothing to change people who are determined to hate Build’s mentality and I don’t expect it to. It was never about abuse for them, only blind hatred.

5. It’ll be interesting to see how Build’s life and career progress after all of this, especially juxtaposed against all the other Thai BL actors who are having problematic behavior come to light lately…

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The case was filed by Build Jakapan and his legal team in February, 2023 and the hearing was expected to happen in May.

May is here and the matter is finally settled in court.

Below are the statements from both Build Jakapan and Poi Patchayamon.

(Credits to __yakibbb on Twt for the translation.)

Few hours to spread the lies or twisted information. Few months to get the truth.

#build jakapan #poi #i hope that is indeed the end and they talked about lot more in the background to come to agreements #like... a restraining order would be nice

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buildurluve IG Live

#build jakapan #<3

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build's twitter update:

(translation cr. to @/__yakibbb)

Hello Everyone . This will probably be the last thing I will come out to talk about. Previously, no matter how much fake news attacked me or if it’s about myself, I never said anything, never responded, I only collect evidence to use in court. I have decided that using social media to correct news or respond is not my choice.Although the court proceedings will take years, I will wait because I believe in justice.But today, the attack reached my family and my fans, so I have to come out to protect their feelings.

Although now there are many people who are disappointed in me, angry with me and already left me. I’m sorry from my heart for making you feel that way.Everyone has the right to choose what they feel comfortable with. and even though today there are very few people who believe in me, I want to tell those people that you are the ones that I care about.Thank you everyone from the bottom of my heart.

You guys make me want to continue living my life every day even though life is so bad, even though my mental state is very bad.You guys mean a lot to me, I promise to be better person every day for you guys.I promise and confirm to everyone that I will repay what you guys have given me, I will live my life carefully, I will be careful withy actions & my wordsI will be careful so that you guys won’t be disappointed in me again.

From now on, all the truths I will say from my side won’t refer to anyone, and I confirmed that everything I say is true.I received those gifts during my birthday,at that time I didn't have enough space to store it, so I just deposited it there temporarily, I haven’t unpacked it yet.And I confirmed that I already asked it back, but I won’t talk about why I haven’t received it yet.

Thank you and sorry everyone from the bottom of my heart, I also understand if you don’t want to forgive me.But I want you guys to know that I can feel everyone's willingness to give gifts to me, and I never thought of throwing those gifts away. All the gifts besides those gifts including every letter I have kept it well, thank you for always supporting me.

From now on, no matter who comes out and says what is true or fake news I want you guys to fully consider, you can believe it if you want. I can't stop anyone from thinking, I just want to clarify my part only. Believe or not believe, it’s your right. I won’t say bad things to anyone, enough with this hatred.I want to move forward and not be stuck with it anymore.

As I’ve said before I’m just a normal person, or maybe a bad person for everyone.I accepted that I’ve made mistakes and I’m ready to learn from it.But for some things I did not do wrong but were accused, my loved ones told me to love myself and fight for the truth.I chose to only fight in court, I won’t talk about this issue no matter what until the court’s decision comes out.Now if you hate me or want to scold me, do it as much as you want but please don’t mess with the people I love.

It might just be a game for some people, but it's also the real life of some people too and they really hurt from it.I can only hope that we will stop the spread of hate and stop hurting each other. Today I want to say thank you to fans and everyone who still love and support me, thank you for always protecting me.But I’ll be so happy if you guys don’t post accusations, insults or harassing anyone or people around them.I still believe that no one deserves that. From now on, I won’t come out to say anything again no matter what happens.Everyone has a right to love and support people they feel comfortable with, I respect everyone’s decision.

Thank you for reading until the end.

#his response to poi showing off stuff that were gifts from fans to biu she has at her place and now wants to sell / throw away #he came forward since she obviously just wants to hurt his fans with this move. indicating he wouldn't care about them #imo people shouldn't expect that idols can keep every single gift in the first place. it's too much to store and some might not be his tast #so I personally wouldn't even mind if things would go to his friends or people he likes #but what she's doing is straight up disrespectful and mean (besides that he just stored the gifts at her place not gave them to her) #build jakapan #poi #also for those who still hate on the other BOC actors and coworkers reread the last part of his statement please

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These photos were posted on Weibo, my understanding is that they came from a D7 staff member. Below is the original link (it shows a little weirdly.)

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Source: https://vt.tiktok.com/ZS84J8qAu/

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biu talking to us through his fc 🥹🥹

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sobbing right now 😭😭😭😭😭

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For anyone who doesn’t seem to understand this yet: It is NOT ok to help an alleged abuser destroy a man’s life and career because hey, he made homophobic comments eight years ago, so he deserves whatever he gets.

I’ve heard a lot of “no one deserves to be abused” and “victims don’t have to be perfect” granted to Poi, but not a shred of that grace has been extended to Build by a whole lot of people whose voices have been the loudest in amplifying literally slanderous lies about him and in posting the absolute vilest takes on the Internet.

Also, Build was homophobic eight years ago? Poi was homophobic four weeks ago. 

Receipts

The fact that everyone who participated in cancelling him ignored - and has continued to sleep on - this snide little homophobic dogwhistle, the fact that it has almost 10K retweets, is pretty compelling evidence that none of this has ever really been about homophobia. Just as the aggressive and deafening silence on the allegations of abuse that Build has brought forward against her are pretty convincing evidence this was never actually about abuse or intimate partner violence for a lot of people.

#facts #build jakapan #poi

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bible's speech at the thailand social awards 11

#important reminder #bible wichapas

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this news page has released an interview with build from yesterday with english subtitles available. since I posted and reblogged mostly fan translations yesterday, I wanted to share this one too

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#another summary regarding her claims #build jakapan #poi

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translations from build's interview at the criminal court today

#build jakapan #poi