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[traumasurvivors]

I really, really hate the TikTok trend where kids/teenagers tell their mom to “shut up” in front of their dad as a prank. The reactions of some of the fathers before they realize it’s a prank are really unsettling. The rage and impulsive responses are scary honestly.

I will say I had one video I liked. The dad was so shocked that he turned to the mom and said “is she okay?” Like it was so out of character and alarming to him and his immediate reaction was concern and why is she doing this instead of rage and she must pay for it.

#not here to debate about parenting #I’m not saying consequences shouldn’t exist #but like #the amount of them that immediately go to react #physically #or in a way to terrify their child #is fucking alarming #abuse #tagged for trigger warning

[traumasurvivors]

Having bad days does not erase all your progress.

Having good days does not mean you’re faking.

You’re valid on both your good days and bad days. You’re doing just fine.

#Queue are amazing

[traumasurvivors]

Sometimes, we’re doing really well. We make so much progress, and we take strides and we feel so good about ourselves. And then those bad days and times creep up on us. I know it’s hard. It really is. But those times will pass again, and while they’re here, please know they don’t erase the progress you’ve made.

#my post

[traumasurvivors]

Do not punish the behaviour you want to see

I mean, it seems pretty obvious when you put it like that, right?

But how many families, when an introvert sibling or child makes an effort to socialize,  snarkily say, “So, you’ve decided to join us”?

Or when someone does something they’ve had trouble doing, say, “Why can’t you do that all the time?” (Happened to me, too often.)

Or any sentence containing the word “finally”. 

If someone makes a step, a small step, in a direction you want to encourage, encourage it. Don’t complain about how it’s not enough. Don’t bring up previous stuff. Encourage it.

Because I swear to fucking god there is nothing more soul-killing, more motivation-crushing, than struggling to succeed and finding out that success and failure are both punished.

#Queue are amazing

[traumasurvivors]

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#flappyhappy

[traumasurvivors]

[Image description: A pink graphic with two flowers at the top. Underneath it says “It’s okay if you thought you were over it but it hits you all over again. It’s okay to fall apart even after you thought you had it under control. You are not weak. Healing is messy. And there is no timeline for healing.” Underneath that the credit goes to “Traumasurvivors.tumblr.com]

#my post #graphic

[traumasurvivors]

You are not obligated to forgive your abusers. You are not obligated to forgive anyone who hurts you, regardless of if they've changed their ways or even if they're struggling and in need of help. You are not required to honor anyone else except you, your feelings are more important. Please do not ever feel guilty for saying no and setting boundaries.

#abuse

[traumasurvivors]

Thank you all for all your support.

I was feeling really overwhelmed last night and it helped so much to get so many reassuring and supportive messages and to see people standing up for me. I appreciate you all.

If it wasn’t for you, I don’t think I could have this blog honestly. Sometimes the hate is so loud and my brain feels like everyone hates me as a result. Thank you for always helping prove my brain wrong. Whenever someone hates on me, multiple people come and show me love and you all end up being so much louder than the hate 🩷

#personal

[traumasurvivors]

the drama last night on your blog was a TRIP thats for sure

It was quite something. I blocked the person and moved on but apparently they kept going for awhile.

Sorry to anyone who witnessed it!

#april answers

[traumasurvivors]

People won't always understand you, and you don't always have to explain.

[traumasurvivors]

Just in case you don’t get to hear it from your parents or family in general…
You’re doing a great job. I am so proud of you. I believe you can achieve your dreams. You’re going to be okay. Making mistakes is okay. You are important. And you are deserving of love and happiness.

#just throwing some positive content on my blog to break stuff up right now

[traumasurvivors]

Would you like to see a really dumb picture of my cat

Yes. I would. Please send me the cat picture.

(You can send it here, I just want to take this opportunity to mention my animal blog where I love love love getting pet submissions. @nothingbutadorableanimals).

#April answers

[traumasurvivors]

I mean if I’m being glass half full today, I guess at least my posts are worth plagiarizing? I could take that as a compliment.

#personal #this is just meant to be a joke #I don’t actually think you have to find a positive in everything #I just think this whole situation is strange #plagiarism #I’m used to people making hate blogs about me #not this lol

[traumasurvivors]

Hi, just report them. It's in "report something else" for impersonating you. I went to report it but it won't let me report for this reason if it isn't myself they are impersonating. The staff should be able to tell they are copying your posts after you have made them.

Thanks, anon.

I didn’t actually know this was a thing you could report for.

#April answers #plagiarism #just tagging any posts to do with this as such #in case people want to blacklist

[traumasurvivors]

Honestly, the timing of this is suspicious. I was venting about my posts being plagiarized by someone else earlier and then a blog pops up that seems to exclusively repost my posts as their own?

This feels very intentionally done to try and bother me. I’m blocking them and moving on.

#personal #like I’m not even mad #Im just confused as to why #like?? #Im deleting most of the posts regarding this because I don’t want to give them the attention they want

[traumasurvivors]

It’s super weird when I see a post come across my dash, and think it sounds familiar. And then realize it’s my post, but someone else has posted it as theirs. Please quit plagiarizing posts.

My original post is here.

Healing is a hard process. We may feel frustrated that we’re not “better” yet. We may feel weak or like we’re a failure. Please show yourself kindness and patience. There is no time line for healing.

#this is totally directed at op #I don’t expect anyone in the notes to realize #Im just frustrated this keeps happening #plagiarism

[traumasurvivors]

shout out to people who's family isnt entirely bad or entirely good, but something in between and you dont know how to feel about them. you feel angry but you also feel guilty, because you know they genuinely love and care about you, but sometimes they show it in a way you know its not okay. your feelings are valid, your anger and sadness and grief are valid, and you dont have to prove this to no one. bigger shout out to those with memory issues who know something isnt right but can't recall all of the bad events, only the feelings, which only increases the guilt.