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what is happening at that bachelor party and WHERE is chimney

#911 #911 spoilers #lmao

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9-1-1 | 5x16 ↳May Day

#911

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New fav Lou pics

#lou ferrigno jr #oh ok

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Imagine you're at your wedding dressed to the absolute nuptial nines ready to marry your man, the love of your life, and your dumbass brother and his dumbass best friend wander in dressed as Crockpot and Grubbs hungover as fuck and have the nerve to be like "lol don't freak out!!! But we did lose ur fiance tho🤪haha wellll it's complicated 🤪" like id tie an anvil to their ankles and drop them in the ocean fr. get out of here with that.

#911 #911 spoilers

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“what’s the song of the summer” ?? it’s DANCING IN THE DARK by bruce springsteen for the 40th year in a row

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to kiss the lips is to drink water. i kiss your lips. —MARINA TSVETAEVA

#911

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TOMMY KINARD | "Mmm. So, not like that."

#911

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#Gay on gay crime

#911

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9-1-1 7.04 · Buck, Bothered and Bewildered

#911 #I love her

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idk how to flirt but i can make things awkward if you're into that

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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

#suicide mention

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we need to bring back inviting people over for cake and coffee. my grandma used to do that all the time and I think it's a lost art

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the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.

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guy who has chronic pain and fatigue: man why can't i do more stuff

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buddie + no personal space

#911 #they’re really Like That

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If you’d told me a few months ago that some little arachnid that looks like it’s just three creatures slapped together at random would become one of my favorite animals, I…well, I probably would’ve believed you, because I know myself too well, but I would've been very skeptical

She’s fucking adorable and she’s started coming up to the glass when it’s food time.

Also, her name is Mr. Pinchy, because I thought she was a male, at first, and I decided to keep the name when I figured out she wasn’t.

#arachnids #bugs #vinegaroon #yes it’s from the simpsons

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#911