amomentwiser

[amomentwiser]

This might suck to hear, but if you're a people pleaser that is motivated by praise and avoids disagreements, you are easy to manipulate.

When I was in therapy after surviving years of domestic violence, my therapist had to tell me that my personality was primed for abuse and we needed to work on that so I would be better equipped to see the red flags and respond appropriately in the future.

I'm still working on this, and it's been 8 years. If you tell someone how you want to be treated, what behaviors you don't tolerate in your life, what you're looking for in that relationship, and they react negatively, don't compromise yourself. Just move on.

This one's for all the praise-kink girlies: differentiate, self-actualize, stay sexy

[amomentwiser]

ANTI-CAPITALIST AFFIRMATIONS

i am allowed to spend my time creating things, even if they are not beautiful.

there is no such thing as a "real job." all forms of work are real and valid.

there is nothing that i need to accomplish to be worthy. i am already worthy.

doing nothing is good for my soul.

i am not defined by what i produce.

my worth cannot be measured by my paycheck, my job title, or a list of professional or academic achievements.

i do not need to monetize my hobbies, it is enough to spend time doing something i love.

i will not let society decide what success looks like. i can define what successful life looks like for me.

[amomentwiser]

some of y'all need to learn how to accept hospitality. stop assuming people are only offering to look after you out of twisted obligation that they don't actually want to do. when you assume that, you are often denying someone the opportunity to genuinely show a friend or stranger love. even if you don't really care about what they're offering, it's respectful of their desire to be kind to accept it anyways.

i had a bunch of girls i've never met over for a women's group. every single one of them denied my offer to make them tea (despite already making myself a mug anyways), get them water, a scone, etc.

i can tell when people refuse to let me be a good host because they "don't want to be a bother". like no!! please be a bother!!! i want to serve you and make you comfortable in my home!

not to be like "we live in a society" but really do live in a modern culture than emphasizes individualism to the point where people will reflexively deny any help or kindness from others for fear of treading on their independence. newsflash: dependence on each other is what makes a community. next time someone offers you kindness, accept it instead of making excuses for why you don't need it. otherwise you've robbed both yourself of being loved and someone else from showing love.

[amomentwiser]

happy "everyone forgets that icarus also flew" monday. i want to throw up !

[amomentwiser]

I love going to second hand bookshops. For some reason old books feel so mystical. Like tell me your secrets. What have you seen. Who has read you before me.

#bookblr #old books

[amomentwiser]

I wish I could make myself understand this

you will live and you will say the wrong things and make mistakes and people will love you anyways.

[amomentwiser]

you know what’s wild is that all these crazy standards we hold ourselves to are things that we don’t even value in another person? like i’ve never been like “wow I love that this friend of mine is too proud to ask for help and never complains about their feelings” or “my favorite quality about this friend is that they get straight A’s and never get overwhelmed and has never told me about a problem” or “i love that this friend has never been wrong about anything or slipped up and said something embarrassing once in their life” and yet here we are, pushing ourselves past our limits for and beating ourselves up over slipups of things that our friends probably wouldn’t even rank in the top 50 reasons they like us

[amomentwiser]

you have to stay alive. you're going to be such a beautiful middle aged freak. young freaks will see you in the street and know that things can be okay.

[amomentwiser]

that james baldwin quote where he says, “it took many years of vomiting up all the filth i’d been taught about myself, and half-believed, before i was able to walk on the earth as though i had a right to be here.”

[amomentwiser]

Oh my god you guys, you NEED to watch this interview

It's so amazing to see how people before us bravely chose to be themselves despite living in a world where they weren't really understood, which paved the way for our generation to have words to describe ourselves and examples to look up to.

Both the interviewer and interviewee are being so respectful, too. Just honest and open dialogue, I love it.

#lgbt pride #genderless #genderqueer #asexual #Queer community #trans #gender nonconforming #queer pride #intersex #non binary #aromantic #queer history

[amomentwiser]

"Why do you have a mustache as a girl"

"Why do you wear makeup as a boy"

Oh haven't you heard? The future is androgynous

#androgynous #clothes are just fabric wear whatever you want #nail polish is just paint #writers on tumblr #quotes #gender neutral #genderfluid

[amomentwiser]

Going through my drafts and i found this. I remember writing this in the middle of the night after waking up from a dream, but I CANNOT for the life of me remember what the rest of it was.

Any guesses?

#shitposting #relationships

[amomentwiser]

It’s crazy how low self-worth fucks with peoples lives

[amomentwiser]

“When you feel perpetually unmotivated, you start questioning your existence in an unhealthy way; everything becomes a pseudo intellectual question you have no interest in responding whatsoever. This whole process becomes your very skin and it does not merely affect you; it actually defines you. So, you see yourself as a shadowy figure unworthy of developing interest, unworthy of wondering about the world - profoundly unworthy in every sense and deeply absent in your very presence.”

— Ingmar Bergman

[amomentwiser]

When people are like, "oh I was talking about you the other day."

I'm like ????

I exist even when I'm not present?

Like it's so weird that people think of me when I'm not there. Like, idk.

#writers on tumblr #relatable #social anxiety #3am thoughts

[amomentwiser]

I identify as a girl but my knees identify as a granny

#sigh #shitposting #knees #granny

[amomentwiser]

Fuckin hell.

#poetry #soul #dead poets society #bones