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things i wish i had known when i escaped my family household and couldn't ask my parents for help

invest in a good mattress early on. there are many other ends you can save on - sleep is not one of them. this is key to how much energy you'll have throughout the day

you don't need a bedframe but you do need a slatted bed base (even if it's just pallets)

opening a bank account is easy

there's youtube tutorials for everything. how to install your washing machine, how to use tools, fixing stuff around the place. channels like dad, how do i? are a godsend

change energy provider as soon as your old deal runs out. you'll get better offers elsewhere and avoid price gouging

assemble a basic first aid kid at home: painkillers, probiotics, alcohol wipes, bandages, tweezers, antihistamine tablets - anything you might need in a pinch

and an emergency toolkit: flashlight, extra batteries, a utility knife, an adjustable wrench, multi-tool, duct tape

set your fridge to the lowest temperature it can go. the energy consumption is minimal in difference and it'll give you +4/7 days on most foods

off-brand products are almost always the same in quality and taste, if not better, for half the price

coupons will save you a lot of money in the long run

there's no reason to be shy around employees at the bank/laundromat/store; most people will be happy to help

vegetarian diets are generally cheap if you make food from scratch

breakfast is as important as they say

keep track of your budget in a notebook or excel file - e.g. rent, phone and internet bills, food, leisure so you'll have an overlook on your spending over the months

don't gamble

piracy is okay

stealing from big stores and chains is also ethically okay

keep medical bills and pharmacy receipts for tax returns

also, file your tax returns early

take up a hobby that isn't in front of a screen. pottery, music, going for a run every now and then, stuff that'll keep you busy and sane

and most importantly... you're allowed to get the stuff you want. treat yourself to the occasional mundane thing. a good scented candle. a bath bomb. that body lotion that makes you feel like royalty. the good coffee beans.

you're free and you deserve to be happy.

#moving out tag #moving ref #save

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Whenever I post this I get “BUT WHY BURY IT?” From people

Heres why…

Zero odor, which mean no pests going through it. I can even compost “some” bread products because no ones going to be going through it for it.

It never drys out, ever. This helps speed up the break down of everything inside.

Its in the middle of my garden and leaches out into the soil around it bettering my garden. I now have a few of these in my yard, because I love them so much.

Worms. They move in immediately again helping the break down and giving me amazing soil.

#composting #gardening #save

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Hello tumblr wise ones. Tips for moving out? for renting? for generally experiencing unprecedented levels of responsibility and independence?

#moving out tag

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Getting a job:

How to Write a Resume so You Actually Have a Prayer of Getting Hired

How to Write a Cover Letter like You Actually Want the Job

Ask the Bitches: What the Hell Else Can I Do to Get a Job?

How to Frame Volunteering on Your Resume When You’ve Never Had a Job

How To Get Ready For a Job Interview: Prep Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself

Common Job Interview Questions and How to Answer Them with the Confidence of a Mediocre White Dude

10 Questions You Should Never Be Asked in a Job Interview

What to Wear (and What Not to Wear) to a Job Interview

What to Do When You’re Asked About Your Salary Requirements in a Job Interview

How NOT to Determine Your Salary

How to Find Remote Work: On Getting the Elusive Work-From-Home Job

High School Students Have No Way of Knowing What Career to Choose. Why Do We Make Them Do It Anyway?

The Actually Helpful, Nuanced, Non-Bullshit Way to Choose a Future Career

Myers-Briggs Personalities and Income: What Your Type Says About Your Salary

I Just Applied for a Job. How (And When) Should I Follow Up?

Our Best Secrets for a Successful, Strategic, and SHORT Job Search

Season 2, Episode 11: “I Tripped and Fell into a Career I Don’t like. How Do I Reinvent Myself?”

Freelancing and side jobs:

Should Artists Ever Work for Free?

Stop Undervaluing Your Freelance Work, You Darling Fool

Romanticizing the Side Hustle: When 1 Job Isn’t Enough

The Ugly Truth About Unpaid Internships

Freelancer, Protect Thyself… With a Fair Contract

Ask the Bitches: My Boss Won’t Give Me a Contract and I’m Freaking Out

I Lost My Job and It Might Be the Best Worst Thing That’s Ever Happened to Me

Becoming a Millennial Entrepreneur (in the Midst of a Pandemic) with Katelyn Magnuson

11 Awful Mistakes I Made as a Self-Employed Freelancer, and How YOU Can Avoid Them

Workplace benefits:

Workplace Benefits and Other Cool Side Effects of Employment

Your School or Workplace Benefits Might Include Cool Free Stuff

Your Yearly Free Medical Care Checklist

Dafuq Is a Retirement Plan and Why Do You Need One?

How to Save for Retirement When You Make Less Than $30,000 a Year

Season 2, Episode 6: “Someone Offered to Mentor Me! How Do I Be a Non-Sucky Mentee?”

Navigating the workplace:

My Secret Weapon for Preparing for Awkward Boss Confrontations

Are You Working on the Next Fyre Festival?: Identifying a Toxic Workplace

Woke at Work: How to Inject Your Values into Your Boring, Lame-Ass Job

Can Looking Weird at Work Be Good for Your Career?

Why Is Short Hair Controversial? An Examination of Expensive, Annoying Beauty Standards

Season 1, Episode 1: “Should I Tell My Boss I’m Looking for Another Job?”

You WILL Regret Accepting Your Coworker’s Social Media Friend Request

Season 1, Episode 5: “I Don’t Love My Job, but It Pays Well. Should I Quit—or Tough It Out?”

Season 2, Episode 7: “How Do I Throw My Incompetent Coworkers under the Bus?”

Sexual Harassment: How to Identify and Fight It in the Workplace

Getting a raise:

Salary Range: Are You Asking for Enough?

A Millennial’s Guide to Growing Your Salary

The First Time I Asked for a Raise

You Need to Ask for a Fucking Raise

Should You Increase Your Salary or Decrease Your Spending?

Getting a promotion:

Santa Isn’t Coming and Neither Is Your Promotion: How To Get Promoted

How I Chessmastered Myself Into a Promotion at Work

Job Hopping vs. Career Loyalty by the Numbers

The Fascinating Results of Our Job Hopping vs. Career Loyalty Poll

I Hate My Job and I Don’t Know How To Leave It: A Confession

A New Job, a New Day, a New Life, and I’m Feeling Good

Season 1, Episode 9: “I’ve Given up on My Dream Career. Where Do I Go From Here?”

Working remotely

How to Successfully Work from Home Without Losing Your Goddamn Mind (Or Your Job)

How to Find Remote Work: On Getting the Elusive Work-From-Home Job

8 Genres of Productivity Music (Plus Our Secret Stash of Personal Favorites)

My 25 Secrets to Successfully Working from Home with ADHD

#job search #job hunt #save

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Bottom of the River by Delta Rae except you’ve wandered off from camp to look for your friend, who was taking way too long to come back - and you could hear a formless song playing in the distance. Hoping that it’s your friend out there, you follow it. The song leads you to a creek, and the creek leads you to a pond, and… your friend is nowhere to be seen, but the lyrics are clearer than ever. Something splashes in the water below, and you are abruptly consumed by a desire to join whatever lurks at the bottom.

requested by @madwaterbender

#audio

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As a college student, currently really hungry with nothing to eat, I understand how hard it can be to get food. Sometimes you really just don’t have the money to eat and when you do, you waste it all on fast food instead of stocking up on cheap things because you’re so tired of Ramen Noodes and canned food you could barf. So, I’ve composed a list of recipes and resources that will fit a college kid’s budget and appetite. Don’t go hungry! <3

Ramen Noodle Recipes:

Ramen Noodle Stir Fry

Sirloin-Snap Pea Stir Fry

Chicken Noodle Soup

Chili Cheese Ramen

Egg Drop Ramen

Spinach and Ramen

Ramen Spaghetti

Ramen Alfredo

Cheesy Ramen Noodles

Mug Meals:

Cheesy Eggs Mug

Cheese and Broccoli Mug

Mac and Cheese in a Mug

Meatloaf in a Mug

Nutella Mug Cake

Cheesecake Mug

Coffee Cup Quiche

Coffee Cup Chilaquiles

Mug Egg Scramble

Microwave Recipes:

Potato Chips

Corn on the cob

Scalloped Potatoes

White Rice

Fried Rice

Baked Potato

Chicken Casserole 

Garlic Chicken

Chicken Soup Casserole

Caramelized Onion Baked Potato

Soft Chicken Tacos

Pancakes

Recipe Generators

My Fridge Food

Fire House Chef

Dinner in 15 Minutes

Advanced recipe Generator

Cuisine

Recipe Matcher

Super Cook

Recipe Puppy

Cook Thing

Recipes by Ingredient

Recipe Key

Not Beans Again

Ideas 4 Recipes

Big Oven

Other Resources

Actual College Student Cookbook

Restaurant Coupons [1] [2] [3] [4]

Free Birthday food [1] [2] 

#personal ref

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Bird Feet Tutorial

I made these feet for my kenku costume. Here are instructions on how to make your own!

Keep reading

#cosplay #tutorial

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🔊SOUND ON!🔊 It’s finally done :D!

If you’d like to help UvU, please watch it on my YouTube channel! Every view counts!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mREPd_GPlKg

#video #fav #oh this is so good

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Sonic The Hedgehog ‘06

Flame Core - The Cavern

#audio #sonic #sweet tunes #sound sitches

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Part 1 of my Design and Layout for Comics lecture! 

Here’s part 2: https://gingersnappish.tumblr.com/post/614575142440517632/part-2-of-my-design-and-layout-for-comics-lecture

#personal ref

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freesias / simple leaves for the series. 🌼🌼 please don’t tag as me/kin, thank you! | ko-fi

#cool art! #body posititivity

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Things to do while Social Distancing

1. Have virtual lunch or dinner with a friend: Even though you are stuck inside and can’t be social with friends in real life you can still have a meal together over FaceTime or Skype. Grab yourself some food maybe even a glass of wine and call your bestie and have fun with them.

2. Design your environment: If you normally go to a coffee shop to get work done; you can make your own coffee shop! You can make yourself a fancy drink, put on your favorite coffee shop Spotify playlist to study and relax too, maybe go to a room you don’t normally work in at home to change up your environment.  You have your very own coffee shop right at home!

3. Staying active: I know theres a lot of jokes about recommending staying away from the gym and people saying "how will I survive?" Staying active will do wonders for your mental health. You don’t need equipment either you just need your body, maybe some comfortable shoes if the weather is nice enough to go outdoors; you could go on a walk or a run. Its a good way to see other people! I go on late afternoon walks with my dogs and I see my neighbors out and about in their yards or walking their dogs as well. Just remember to stay 6 feet from each other. You can just smile and say hi. Yay for social interaction! You also can take an online workout class for free on Youtube! That’s a great way to get your routine in!!

4. Watching movies: Honestly watching movies to me is so relaxing. People are always saying that TV is a waste of time. I don’t think that movies or TV is a waste of time especially when you have your favorite snack (popcorn with M&M’s is my personal favorite.) I think movies can be entertaining, powerful, emotional, educational and so much more! I think movies can transport you to a different place and if its an old film it can take you back in time. My favorite movies at the moment are A Cinderella Story, The Kissing Booth and Burlesque.

5. Writing letters: Another kind of communication we over look when we are busy is writing letters. I know you probably haven’t written a pen-pal letter since… middle school, but someone once described writing pen-pals is  the most social thing you can do by yourself and that's exactly the kind of thing we need right now. It’s also a fun way to get creative and spend a few hours, so grab all your stationary, pens, stickers, stamps and whatever else you want to decorate your letters!

6. Read books: Is it just me or do you have a bookshelf or bedside table that is just collecting books that you thought you were going to read? Now is your time to read those books you bought or borrowed from your friends months ago! Reading has always been one of my most favorite escapes. Books can take you on the most wildest adventures. I love creating the characters in my head and imagining how they would look like. I really enjoy reading poetry. I have a ton of poetry books I could just read over and over again.

7. Call someone: Sometimes it’s nice just to talk to someone by picking up the phone and calling them the old fashioned way with no tv, no games and nothing distracting you. Just good old conversation. You can also put in headphones and go for a walk, clean your room and do the dishes while you talk to someone. Anything to feel a little less alone.

8. Journaling: When we get busy Journaling is one of those habits that gets pushed to the side cause it takes time during our precious morning and evening routines. Now with extra time on your hands I recommend getting a notebook and really getting creative with free writing or by following journaling prompts. Not only do I think this helps with self discovery, but I think its interesting to document your experiences during this time because we are experiences history right now.

9. Learn something: Now is the time to actually sit down in front of the computer and learn something you have always been curious about. For me that would be digging deeper into my astrological sign; Leo. I have always been so curious to what a Leo stands for and what it means to be a Leo. I always thought a Leo was nothing more then courageous, fearful and loyal. Oh no no, I was totally wrong. There is so much more to being a Leo! I highly recommend you learning about your sign and tell me what you learn!

10. New Music:  Take this time to yourself to discover new music. Have your friends recommend to you new artists, scroll through Spotify playlists and make your playlists not so pathetic and short like mine! I have discovered a few new bands I have never heard of and instantly fell in love. There are still so many new artists and songs to discover!

Thank you so much for checking out this post! I hope you stay safe and take this time to get creative, discover new music, write that letter you have been meaning to write and so much more that I didn’t think of.

#long post #personal ref #important

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It's funnier if you think about the fact that it's almost april.

dont care didnt ask plus you cant even comprehend the horrors im about to summon

#buttertoast

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crab crab crab hand hand hand frighten

#video #animals #crabs #pfft

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What Isabelle has been doing while waiting for you to upgrade resident services.

#video #animal crossing #doom eternal #violence tw #ABSOLUTELY LEGENDARY

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Grounding Techniques useful for trauma survivors

If you have experienced a trauma, you may experience traumatic symptoms. Grounding exercises can be so helpful in getting you back into your window of tolerance! When you’re out of your window you may experience flashbacks, panic attacks, dissociation, a numbness, foggy brain etc…

So here are a list of techniques! Please practice! If you can practice them whilst you are feeling ok and are in your window you are much more likely able to use them when you experience a trigger! It’s about trial and error with lots of practice! Wishing you lots of healing hugs and positive thoughts. Stephanie xx

Mental Grounding….

- Pick a category and try to think of as many objects as possible that fit in that category. (Eg. Types of dogs, cities, crayon colours, sports.) - Pick a letter & think of all the words that begin with that letter - Pick a colour & look for things of that colour in the room - Say or think the alphabet backwards or alternate letters & numbers (A1 B2 C3 D4.) - Describe an everyday event or process in great detail, listing all of the steps in order & as thoroughly as possible (e.g. How to cook a meal, how to get from your home to work or school, how to do your favourite dance.)

Reorientation Grounding Techniques…

- Say or think to yourself… ‘My name is…. I am safe right now. I am …. years old. I am currently at …. The date is…. If I need help, I am with …./ can call….. Everything is going to be alright’ - List reaffirming statements. (I am fine. Everything is going to be okay. I am strong. I can handle this.) - Ask yourself… Ask yourself where you are, what day of the week it is, what day of the month it is, what month it is, what year it is, what season it is, how old you are, who is the current political leader of your country.) - Name 5 things you see, 4 things you feel, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell or taste & 1 thing you like about yourself. - Think about a fun time you had with someone recently or call them and ask them to talk about it with you.

Sensory Grounding Techniques…

- Run cool or warm (not too cold or hot!) water over your hands or take a cool or warm bath/shower. - Spritz your face (with eyes closed), neck, arms & hands with a fine water mist. - Spray yourself with your favourite perfume (One that is not linked in any way to trauma experienced or reminds you of a traumatic experience or person) and focus on the scent. - Feel the weight of your body in your chair or on the floor and the weight of your clothing on your skin. - Touch & hold objects around you. Compare the feel, weight, temperature, textures, colours & materials. - Keep a small object with you to touch or play with when you get triggered. - Bite into a lemon, orange or lime & notice the flavour, scent & texture or suck on a sour or minty candy or ice cube. - Listen to soothing or familiar music. If possible jump around and dance to it. - Pick up a book and read the first paragraph out loud. - Hug a tree or another person (If interpersonal touch isn’t a trigger). Pay attention to your own pressure and physical sensations of doing so. Register the smells of being outside, the wind & the sights around you.

Movement Grounding Techniques…

- Breath deeply & slowly & count your breaths - Grab tightly onto your chair or press your feet against the ground as firmly as you can - Rub your palms and clap your hands or wiggle your toes within your socks. Pay attention to physical sensations of doing so - Stretch out your arms or legs, roll your head on your neck, or clench and unclench your fists. - Stomp your feet, walk around, run, jump, ride a bike, do jumping jacks - While walking, notice each footstep & sat to yourself ‘right’ and ‘left’ to correspond with the foot currently moving - Squeeze a pillow, stuffed animal or ball - If you have a soft pet (dog or cat) brush its fur and stroke it. If you don’t, brush your own hair slowly and without pulling it too much - Write what ever comes to mind even if it’s nonsense. Try not to write about the negative thoughts or feelings until you are more capable of doing so without increasing a them - Pop bubble wrap or blow and pop actual bubbles - Dog in the dirt or garden, jump on a pile of leaves or splash around in puddles or mud - Rip up paper or stomp on aluminium cans to crush them

In case of a flashback…

- Tell yourself that you are having a flashback and are safe now - Remind yourself that the worst is over and you survived it. What you are feeling now is just a reminder of the trauma and does not fit the present moment - Breath deeply and slowly. Count your breaths and make sure that you’re getting enough air - Use the other Grounding Techniques above to distract and calm yourself - If possible or necessary, go somewhere where you can be alone or with a close friend, where you will feel safe, or where you feel protected or shielded - Be gentle to yourself and take the time to really recover. If what helps you to recover is to colour, take a bubble bath, hug a stuffed animal or watch a children’s movie and if it would not be disruptive to do such things at that point in time, embrace those options whole heartedly - If possible note or write down what triggered the flashback, what Techniques you tried to use to disrupt the flashback & what helped - Remember you are a survivor. You are strong, you can make it through this, though it might take some time. Be patient with yourself throughout the process of healing.

#personal ref #important #trauma #grounding

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Art by Alena Aenami on Artstation.

Music: BLANKS - HIGHER 

#cool art!