#Correct me if I'm wrong but this is harry's label too right

[tolerateit]

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#meg talks #Correct me if I'm wrong but this is harry's label too right #Halsey #I'm so stoked for them!!

[skepticalarrie]

referring to bisexuality as there being "some straightness left" is super biphobic

Yes, exactly. And that's exactly what people are trying to do when they can't shut the fuck up about "but he's unlabelled" or "maybe he also likes women"... who cares!!! Why exactly how he labels himself is so relevant? It changes nothing on his situation, he's not less queer if he's bisexual, he doesn't like dicks less, he's not less involved with Louis Tomlinson, he's not less closeted. Everything would still be the absolute same. But what people are trying to do is rely on him being bisexual because then MAYBE they don't have to admit how fucked up his situation is, maybe if he also likes women they can keep fantasizing about womanizer Harry Styles and pretending he doesn't have fake girlfriends since 2011 to hide who he truly is.

And let me tell you why I'm so pissed about this situation, anon, and that's why I'm answering you. You got me on the wrong day and a few of you need to learn who to read before saying shit and throwing terms like "biphobic" around. It's not surprising how Harry's fans are also part of the problem. I can't even tell you how many times in my life I was dating/with a girl and people were aware of it and then the minute I mentioned I was also sexually attracted to guys (for whatever reason) everything changed... I could see the "relief" in people's eyes. People say all kinds of shit when they find out you're bisexual "but you just have fun with girls right? you only date guys" or "you like guys better since you were married with one", I've heard this from family, friends, people I don't know... Like if maybe also being also in heterosexual relationships made it more "acceptable", less gay. And that's what people try to do you with you if you're bi, because people are homophobic as fuck, people don't want you to be homosexual, like it's something inconvenient for everyone, like it's a problem. So yeah this happened many many times with me... now, do you have any idea of how many times someone called me a lesbian and I correct them? Zero. Because I don't care, I'm proud of who I am, I love girls too, so calling me a lesbian would never be disrespectful. So if I was you I would be less worried about throwing terms like "biphobic" around without even knowing the meaning of it, and more worried about getting the head out of your fuking ass and realize that this is exactly what people are trying to do with Harry right now because they're afraid to accept he may be gay, afraid to say he may be gay, and then they will have to admit how homophobic and fucked up everything is.

#ask

[sagestupidity]

Upcoming long-ass post ahead. Warning you now. It goes deep and it is long. There is a lot of personal information, but I wanted to get it out there for pride month. There is a tl;dr at the end. If tumblr mobile allowed for a page break like the old days, I'd use it now

Tw: homophobia, religious bigotry, sexuality, biphobia

I remember the first time I heard about homosexuality. I was in 2nd or 3rd grade, at daycare, in a tree house with 2 other kids my age. They had just learned a new word and were throwing it around every other sentence that day. Lesbian. "What, are you a lesbian?", "so and so is a lesbian hahaha" "only a lesbian would say something like that". I had no idea what this word meant, I was a sheltered 8 or 9 year old. These daycare friends explained what it meant. "It's when girls like other girls, like boyfriend and girlfriend, but they're both girls". For a half second, my world was rocked. I had no idea that was something someone could do. That was a option? 🎆. Before I could even think about it further, the next sentence came out of their mouth "that's so gross, right?". Well shit, they were explaining it to me, they must have been the expert. "Yeah, that's so gross". I couldn't possibly be a lesbian, I'm not gross, I'm Megan, I like bubble baths and art and fairytale stories of princes and princesses. I'm not gross, and therefore definitely not a lesbian.

When I got a bit older about ages 10-12, my parent's signed me up for a week of vacation Bible school out in Pine Idaho every summer. For most of those summers, I went with my mom's boss's granddaughter who was about my age. Her name was Alex. She was super cool and a nice friend. Very much a typical tom boy. Had a bionicle collection, wore a lot of sporty clothes, even got some of her clothes from the boy section. I was sooo jealous of how cool Alex was. But whenever I was shopping with my mom, and tried to pick out less feminine items, I'd get lectured "that's for boys Megan, you can't have that, it's weird that you like this, Megan". no matter how much I liked it, how much I thought about how Alex was allowed to branch out like that. Why couldn't I?

From then to grade 7, I was in my femme bubble. I wore a ton of pink, because I looked up to Elle Woods from legally blonde. I'd have an occasional crush on the class emo. Loving long hair and eyeliner on guys, but otherwise despising everyone else in middle school because i was getting bullied mercilessly. I reclused into books and movies, like Harry Potter and Pirates of the Caribbean

I was transfered to Idaho arts charter school. Where the girl to boy ratio was about 7 to 1. We had no sport program besides competitive dance. My family started going to a WELS lutheran church, and for a while, none of this conflicted. Little did I notice, that my church and my upbringing were compiling into some bad homophobia on my part. I was taught that gay people were against God and were going to hell. Gay people were "gross" after all. I was told by my own parents that if I *became* a lesbian, they'd drag me to the pastor's house and have an exorcism performed on me. The idea of even kissing a girl with romantic intent made my stomach flip and my chest hurt. That's just proof of how disgusting and wrong it is... right?

But being in a school dedicated to the performing arts eventually caught up with that. Sure there were gay kids at my school. Our main export was musical theater and dance. But I wasn't friends with any of them, so it was fine. Until someone from my friend group came out. For his privacy, I'll call him A, since I still know people that know him IRL. I had been friends with A for a while before he came out as gay. I wouldn't say we were close, but I'd say we were friends. When he did come out as gay, it was like a dumb homophobic light went out. A wasn't any different just because he was gay, he was still my friend, and nothing changed except my worldview.

Nothing.else.changed.

Whenever I brought A up when telling a story to my parents, they'd interrupt with "you mean the friend that's going to hell" as if that was his name and they were correcting me now that he was an out gay teen. I dug my heels in and became a gay ally for my friend, A. Delving into gay rights as a special interest.

By the time I was 16, I was approaching the next metaphorical hurdle. I noticed I didn't really have any crushes... on anyone. I had friends. I liked fictional characters from books and anime and the occasional celeb. I just thought I had high standards for boys I would date. But I couldn't like girls. What would that even look like? It was pre 2010. The only girls into girls I ever saw were on posters in boy's rooms, or straight girls kissing to get male attention. It took a lot of work to realize God didn't hate gay people and even more work to realize that that could apply to me too. I came out as bi to only my friends at age 17.

I graduated, went off to college. Got a dorm mate, who we will call M. M was also bi, and she had the experience to back it up, supposedly. More experience than me, who hadn't really dated anyone at all. M somehow forced me back in the closet. She insisted I wasn't bi because I had never dated or kissed or anything with a woman. I had just barely had my first kiss with anyone that summer. I was only "bicurious" because how could I possibly know until I finally had experience like she did. So I shrunk myself, and only saw boys, because they gave me attention. Girls only saw me as straight, because I wasn't bi, I was "bicurious".

It took a lot of work to bust out of the bi closet a second time.

I lived my life as a bi woman. Constantly changing my spot on the kinsey scale until these past 7 years or so. I made a realization.

I don't really like guys. I'd sleep with them. I appreciated the validation I felt when I did. But I didn't really like them.

So I juggled with the queer label. Because my sexuality was complicated. Sure, I'd sleep guys, didn't mean I was attracted to them, it's not like it meant anything.

Any time I tried on the lesbian label, I'd get yelled at by a lesbian for being biphobic. They'd say stuff like "lesbians don't like guys", "stop bring men into lesbianism" "lesbians don't want to sleep with guys". No amount of me explaining that I don't like men would convince them. So back to the queer label I went.

I got married to a woman in 2019. And was content with the queer label.

But this year, 2021-

I started reading The Lesbian Document™. Learning that my occasional crush on a male celeb didn't really count as attraction to men.(sorry Bo Burnham).

I made a bit of a realization. I knew I didn't really like men, I was just ok with the idea of sleeping with them. But the idea of being with men felt similar to binge drinking.

They were both

Easily accessible

Toxic

Dangerous/thrilling

Coping mechanisms for deeper issues

I realized I was using the idea of sex with men as self harm, and I should probably stop that.

To wrap up this whole long-ass biography- I'm coming out a third time.

My name is Megan.

I'm 28 years old.

My pronouns are she/they.

And I'm a lesbian.

tl;dr:

#coming out #lesbian #lgbt #pride #gay

[habibharry]

I didn't get tickets either and I tried two times, sure it made me upset cause I had high hopes but I am not mad @ harry, maybe i was at the beginning cause I was sad but now I'm chill. I mean, let's just consider this for a moment, this is Harry's first tour as a solo artist and I know he is Harry Styles but still, bigger tours cost a lot of money and there is no guarantee it will sell out so it may be a loss for his label and they're not taking the risk. I remember otra not being pt 1

Anonymous said:Not being a sell out and the boys performing in half empty stadiums. An arena tour would have been better but I think this was a way to see how it goes. He said next year so he might add dates in 2018. We should keep in mind that Harry's management is the one who does this shit. They ask harry ofc, i am pretty sure they did talk about his tours and choosing small venues. I genuinely think, I am not babying him I promise I dragged him for two days about this ticket situation, he thought pt2Anonymous said:He thought that the number of fans supporting him or willing to go see him on tour is small? When 1d went on Hiatus so many of my mutuals either became kpop stans or moved on and started blogging about random stuff. Some just left. Like so many ppl. I honestly thought he would flop cause he made us wait this long but his first single is surprisingly doing well. But ofc I was wrong. What I'm trying to say is yeah you can yell at him and be mad at him it's your right but don't forget pt 3Anonymous said:He too is just getting started. He thought all my die hard fans would buy tickets and maybe choosing small venues would make the experience more intimate and he did the most so scalpers don't get hold of tickets but sadly they did. Just give him a break you guys he's only 23 and despite being in the industry for 7 years he still has a lot of shit to learn. Next tour will hopefully be better. I don't know what I wanted to say with this but I just wanted to rant pt 4------------------------I agree with most of what you said anon. Although it's not babying him when one says that he doesn't completely control everything, bc that's just how it is. He has a team and advisors who'd definitely know more about this business than him, so he'd be a fool if he does everything according to himself only. Also you don't have to drag him just to show you aren't ~biased, you know. There's nothing wrong in supporting him when he's right.I don't understand being mad at him tho bc it's not his fault? like I personally can't relate to that or see any logic behind being mad at Harry for this.Anyway that being said, I agree with you and like that you took this maturely! Indeed he's just getting started, he's no expert, and he'd definitely test the waters before going in full on. Imagine being your 23yro self and being out there in such situations. I'd like to see someone on here handle it better than him. People love criticizing and correcting others about situations/things that they aren't a part of lmao, that's basically what most do with Harry on here. It probably boosts their ego or something. Tragic.

#asks #anonymous #thank u for sending in your msgs i liked your opinions !!