#I feel like a lot of people's issues is that they assume by having the protagonist be cruel or bigoted in any form it is promoting that

[devastatinglygreen]

Why do you think they're waiting for the Lady Whistledown reveal?

aside from drama? and i mean that seriously. i know everyone had headcanons and wants for years here but they're building tension. there was no real tension in part one outside of sexual and the stakes need to be higher for the penultimate episode.

the next bit is spoilers we know have been pretty much seen by too many people for ep 5 at least so wander under the cut at your own risk:

i think, and i know a lot of people aren't going to be thrilled about colin not knowing before some things happen, that they need to do two things: solidify their relationship a bit and basically send penelope into a spiral to take the stakes higher.

they have plot armor, they're not going to behead penelope right there in the queen's garden with the peacocks once she gets caught. the only thing truly up for grabs is polin. and not even that, not really, but it's the thing the audience is going to care about.

the spoilers have penelope trying to tell him but failing because she keeps getting interrupted. every time she fails, the clock ticks further. it's a pressure build. eloise is on her back. colin is just wandering along, deliriously happy and penelope knows she's carrying this bomb she's gonna blow up in his face.

she lost eloise to it. colin is the love of her life. i think we can all do that math. she's so stressed out by eloise's timeline she can barely breathe and then comes cressida.

you've got cressida taking credit for LW, colin's happiness sitting on her shoulders (tho i do think it's also so smart of them to have him defend penelope to portia before he finds out, it might give him some insight to how penelope is treated and feels when the right time comes), eloise is assuming things and giving her hell.

i mean, wouldn't you be a mess too? like, give the girl some grace her entire life is imploding right after getting what she's always wanted and never thought she'd get and losing the two most important people in the world to her only a few months before. would you want to blow that up again? yes, yes, i'm sure everyone who says "but she has to!" is very morally outraged and perfectly righteous in their own lives scoffs at the idea that penelope might struggle with a secret she doesn't know what to do with.

it's not like we've never seen how that eats her up before, right? oh. we totally have. nvm.

anyways. cressida. i kind of hope it's the turning point for peneloise because i think even eloise knows she's not a good person to have in a position of power like that. say what you want but penelope doesn't lie in LW.

add in they seem to be bringing in book scenes and i'm going to guess colin catches her after she takes off to print something saying cressida is a whole ass lie. fight ensues. angst! stakes are ridiculously high. the wedding is planned. the pedestals are knocked over and now colin will know everything. does he love her after that? can he? does he trust her ever again? (clearly yes or they're gonna need to change up that family tree thing they released lol).

this will give way to colin having to come to terms with penelope's legacy and how it affects his own estimation of himself and his writing. jealousy like the book. it's a colin issue and he knows it but he still has to deal with it.

colin very much thinks penelope is his purpose, right? the book says it. LN said it about show colin. he's gotta reconcile that LW and penelope are two halves of the same person. he can't put them both in boxes.

anyways what i mean is that the stakes need to be high and her blurting it out then having 2.5 episodes of them moping around about their LW fight isn't really the thing that gets your heart racing when you've got 8 episodes to tell the whole story.

(also as an aside, i think it's going to lead to us getting second "firsts" in a way. it's not going to be a first kiss or anything but i feel like the energy of it all will be different and i, personally, think that could be very fun)

#asks #anon #polin #bridgerton #bridgerton spoilers #bridgerton speculation #penelope featherington #colin bridgerton

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

question! is it a form of neglect to purposefully not give your children sex ed? i've been thinking a lot abt it lately, especially bc that's how i grew up. when i started asking sex related questions, people would either awkwardly lie or straight up tell me not to ask. to the point my mom would guilt me for asking, saying "you can read i'll find you a book" [never gets me any books abt it] "but stop bothering me bc i have a lot on my hands" ect ect guilting stuff.

like, thinking back on it now, it makes me feel more and more like not giving your kids sex ed on purpose is a form of neglect. i understand NOT knowing sex ed stuff but it seems like when you get kids, it's kinda your job to make sure they get that info somehow? so many people DON'T know basic sex ed or even what CONSENT is and it seems like that's not just a school system thing but sometimes it's also a PARENT thing.

sorry to ramble in your inbox. i've jst been thinking about this a lot, especially being on your blog, and wondered if you had any thoughts on it.

hi anon,

this is a rather thorny question and not one that I feel comfortable making generalizations about.

certainly there are caregivers who intentionally withhold access to information about sex, anatomy, and consent as part of a larger pattern of manipulating and indoctrinating their children, and stigmatize or otherwise punish children for seeking knowledge. in those cases I think we can generally say that withholding information is part and parcel of mistreatment. I assume, based on the rest of your ask, that this is the kind of behavior you mean when you talk about "purposefully" failing to provide sex ed.

but what counts as "purpose"? if a caregiver is otherwise meeting their kid's needs and not doing any cult shit but never raises the topic of sex ed because their kid never asked, or because they assumed that health class had it covered, or because they themself never got any decent sex ed and don't have anything particularly helpful to say, would we then call that neglect? I wouldn't, personally. it's nice when parents can, especially if their kids are coming to them with questions, but I also understand very well that the average parent is an extremely busy person who is doing their best and probably does not have any particularly thorough knowledge of sex. don't get me wrong, I have plenty of issues with how much sex negative behavior and general ick people learn from their families, but I can also recognize that this is a multigenerational cultural issue and that the parents are also the products of their own upbringings.

this is also a whole other tangent but I don't believe parents should be expected to be the primary vessel of knowledge for sex ed anyway, any more than they're expected to teach math or science. but I recognize that that's also a belief that requires schools to have mandatory, semester-long sex ed classes that are taught by a professional like any other subject and frankly the US is just not going to be there any time soon when Republicans are still trying to classify being a drag queen in front of a child as a sex crime.

tldr. it's complicated.

[comradekatara]

Thanks for answering my ask about eska and desna! This isnt really avatar related but I was wondering if you have any book/text recommendations for someone trying to get back into reading. Specifically educational non fiction or philosophical/media analysis type things. Or just anything you’d like to recommend in general. You seem very well read with how you parse and interpret texts and I would love to get to that point someday. Kind regards :)

ooh sure! i’ll try to keep my list sparse and accessible so as not to overwhelm you :)

i think pretty much any essay by susan sontag is a fun and valuable read, and she’s a very lucid and trenchant writer, but i would especially recommend illness as metaphor, which is an essay i think literally everyone in the world should read.

i would also recommend frantz fanon. i tend to assume that most people have read or at least encountered les damnés de la terre (the wretched of the earth), but i also really love peau noire, masques blancs (black skin, white masks) and would recommend both if you haven’t read either. i have some issues with their english translations, but for the most part they’re very clear and easy to read (which is not true of a lot of french/francophone theory from the 20th cent lol) and you can readily find pdfs online.

the essay “trust and sincerity in art” by c. thi nguyen is very short and eminently readable. it’s not mind-blowing or anything, but it’s fun to read, and i also think it provides a useful framework for discussing certain kinds of art, so it seems like it would be up your alley based on the criteria you described.

braiding sweetgrass by robin wall kimmerer is on a lot of these kinds of lists for good reason. it performs a lot of different functions simultaneously and seemingly effortlessly. it’s a fun and also edifying read, so you should check that out if you haven’t already.

finally, it’s been a while since i first read it, but i recommend darkly by leila taylor if you want an engaging work of literary criticism that is also personal and narrativized in a coherent way that doesn’t detract from the quality of the analytical work. it also references a bunch of different texts that comprise “the black gothic,” which is fun because then you can compile your own syllabus and continue reading from there!

hopefully there is enough variety in this short list that you feel satisfied. these are really just off the top of my head and obviously i don’t know your taste, so hopefully one of these works resonates with you. illness as metaphor is required reading imo, but the rest you can peruse at your leisure.

#treegender #asks #not atla #also for future reference if you want to discuss smth beyond atla id recommend asking me on my main blog (grendelsmilf) instead #bc i discuss a variety of topics there already

[flecks-of-stardust]

wholeheartedly and with as much gentleness as possible, i truly think there needs to be more discussion about downpour in the community as it is now. for a variety of reasons.

#not main tagging this right now but #some tag babbling. like #some of yall are unnecessarily cruel about downpour. seriously. #you don't have to like it but you can also stand not to tear down someone's work like this #if every word out of your mouth is just about how much you hate downpour. why are you still here? #and i mean that genuinely. it's unpleasant for you and for everyone else. and i say this as someone who still prefers vanilla's lore #at the same time i think it's a real issue where some people take downpour as gospel and assume things about other people's creative choice #even though downpour is a DLC and it's hard to make certain claims about canonicity because of that #it has been publicly acknowledged as being an official AU. multiple times. by the MSC devs themselves #downpour is a fan made passion project that was worked on for years and years before it got DLC status #it was never meant to be scrutinized in the way it is now. i think it's more appropriate to regard it as like #a really popular fanfic most of the fanbase has read #i just feel like. a lot of the community conflicts i've seen stem from downpour's messy existence as a DLC that was originally a mod #and i think it's valuable to have community discussions about that. but also this is tumblr. so. i'm probably asking for too much

[creepyscritches]

I wanna thank you for your post about being nice to customer service people as someone who works in a customer service call/text center 🫡 people who say please and thank you to us are so rare! I was so shocked, I thought Americans just didn’t use please and thank you as a cultural thing or something, it really breaks our morale when people are rude for no reason 😣 not only that but also being xenophobic and generally mean. We’re already being exploited by the companies lol we don’t need more mistreatment. Thank you and everyone who is kind ❤️

It is not a cultural thing in the SLIGHTEST to not say please/thank you. You are experiencing inexcusable rudeness and you shouldn't be expected to "get used to it"!

Almost ALL of my IT assistance comes from India and I've worked in tandem with Indian medical coders several times over the years. It's insane to think even my colleagues were griping and moaning about working with ""offshore employees" " 🙄 in my personal and professional life, these employees have been incredibly helpful and kind to me and it's just basic decency to thank them!

Just today I had to call our offshore IT for some convoluted/botched IT update, and it took 5 minutes of polite conversation + trouble shooting to correct everything. IT WOULD HAVE TAKEN ME WEEKS ON MY OWN!! I don't understand how people are so shitty to people that actively fix their most frustrating problems. Like it's already insane to be so rude to strangers, but strangers that are bending over backwards to fix YOUR annoying problem? Go to jail 10,000 years.

I hope you have polite and courteous customers this week, anon! You deserve conversations that make you smile.

#Creepy chatter #The biggest complaint I hear is 'ooohh the language barrier :(' #Shut up #Just accept that you need to phrase things differently sometimes and be nice #Ntm I'm usually using the WRONG tech word so I assume it's MY language barrier issue #Personally I have trouble understanding most thick accents regardless of language #So I spend a lot of time trying to train my ears to better grasp what I'm hearing #I have an employee with a very thick accent and I hate for her to feel like she can't easily communicate w me #It's a dual benefit to work on my auditory weakness bc I can more effortlessly have pleasant chats w IT while we fix things #Idk you should be nice to people and recognize when you are the one needing to improve! Be NICE

[animemusicbrackets]

for the bracket, are songs using Synthesizer V vocals allowed? i know you said that utau was alright, but i just wanted to make sure before i put my submission in

yes synthesizer v is fine to submit

#i do have some.. Opinions on newer software that is able to use AI. including synth v and vocaloid 6 #but since they still have specific voicebank characters im assuming they get the samples the same way all the previous software does #ie legally and ethically. so that parts not really an issue for me #i just personally think that lots of the charm that comes from vocaloid music is that theyre very obviously robots #like gosh everyone loves these robots its so cute. its like how scientists consider the mars rovers like their babies. TO ME #thats just personal tho! i get why people are excited about software that can sound more realistic #just for me i cant divorce a realistic sounding vocal synth from the implications of all the more harmful ways that could be used #which idk maybe thats dumb bc by that logic i should feel the same way about a lot of other tech #but theres something about ai thats just so... im so tired of hearing about it lmfao #anyway this is kind of a tangent to the question #also nothing against you anon! just putting down some stuff ive been thinking about recently #asks #vocaloid tournament

[crystalisopod]

I know loud sounds being a sensory issue is the most common (?) but it kinda irks me that that's what people always assume for me. and I do actually have issues with sound, but it's not a huge problem, and it's never in the way people assume it to be

#personal #actually autistic #autism spectrum disorder #neurodivergent #sensory processing disorder #I feel like if I say I have issues with sound #people just assume any loud sounds bother me #or lots of people talking/crowds bother me #but they really don't #what bothers me is repetitive noises #a rotating fan is particularly bad. same reason I hate having the aircon on #you know like. meditation music? a lot of it just repeats a sound far too often #and it makes me really... agitated? for some reason #overwhelmed isn't quite the word but it definitely bothers me #in a similar vein- #I don't usually have issues with lights #but blinking lights make me nauseous tbh. in the same way as the noise from a fan would #or the repetitive motion of those halloween animatronic things #it's similar. it really makes me sick just looking at it #it's like wow why the fuck is a blinking light across the room making me feel bone nausea 💀 #I guess that's autism 😍

[mydr3aminvi0let]

i wear a lot of skirts and pink and whatnot as my style has developed with me & my personality but when one of those age regression girlies latch onto me....i do not like that

#like oh....you think im one of them...bestie no im freshly 23 and im happy i made it this far i dont wanna go back #sometimes i hate being 5'2 with a small frame you have to be very careful and kinda vet everyone you interact with #idk there's a complex discussion to be had. i am someone who has went through what they fetishize and i know a lot of girls in that #community have too. so i worry a lot if if my behaviors and preferences accidentally align with that community in ways i don't realize #bc trauma will always reveal itself. idfk. when i was 20 i got in a relationship with a man who was 30 because i misheard him and thought #he was 24. i thought he was okay until we were at this giftshop and he wanted to get me something but as giftshops are super expensive #i mentioned i could fit in childrens clothes and it saves me a lot of money ($60 shoes are $30 for kids) and tbh fit my frame better #so he was “prove it” so i did and mf said “THATS HOT” ??????????? BITCH #my style wasn't even feminine in the slightest at the time 😑 it feels like a curse to have this kind of trauma then never outgrow this body #believe me ik how trauma changes your brain but how #as a woman #can you ever be apart of that community? why do you allow this to continue and not persecute these men for existing? #you're inherently enabling it and saying its okay this happened to you and its okay that other adults can hurt other kids #when my rapist got put in prison i screamed i yelled i sang i danced my friends set off FIREWORKS for me #when he got out i cried more than i ever have. i moved STATES (not the sole rzn but nonetheless) not that i was in the one he was in prison #in anyways but i was so fucking petrified he'd find me again. its embarrassing but i started sleeping with a chastity belt again. #i made more phone calls i ever have in my life to people who have and will get their hands dirty #i understand the self hatred those girls have. i understand the girls who sleep with everyone to take some of their power back. #i even understand the girls who want to get raped if they got assaulted but it never felt like enough for the pain they're experiencing #but please stay the fuck away from me. as someone who has tried to heal and wants every man like that erased from earth. #do not give them an ounce of attention. ostracize them like they're meant to be. leave it to god for their karma they will be dealt with #reckon with your pain and make sure it never happens to anyone else. only the harmed can make the greatest teachers #tbh bro i am disgusted with myself at all that those are the kinda vibes i put out. #what are you supposed to do as a woman when feminity is equalized with infantilism? i think its tone deaf and misguided whem girls are like #i dress this way to contradict societies views!!! babes its a whole cultural issue that requires reviewing and reforming #you are not doing anything revolutionary by wearing frilly skirts and saying im not like them bc they see you and ur automatically boxed in #i dress how i want and say what i want but i know as a individual im not the beacon of a groundbreaking movement #singularily flipping society on its head. dress how you want but be aware of the connotations. you're living in this society here and now #there's consequences that may not be in your favor and youll be assumed to have values that dont align with you and it may break your heart

[deus-and-the-machina]

one of my absolute least favorite ways to view a story is “wow something sad and pointlessly horrible happened to this character that was so unfair. This is BAD WRITING” like yeah sometimes it can be but also maybe that was…the writers point…to write a tragedy…famously not stories that make you feel good. And there’s meaning in that too and I wish people would try to interact with that more instead of assuming bad faith on the writers part

#mostly when talking about stories that are labeled are tragedies this doesn’t often happen. though I have seen it sometimes. but primarily #this is about tragedies within a wider narrative bc I find a lot of people get mad about those. character death is a tool just like every #other piece of a narrative but it’s more contentious bc it makes people feel bad and I rarely see people engage with it as a tool of the #story. was that death actually badly written or did it just happen to a character you liked? was the idea of ‘they could’ve done much more #with their lives’ part of the tragedy? that sort of thing #siren says #writing stuff #tragedy #with character death as a tool the issue is you cut yourself off from the potential that character could have alive in a story where you #dont automatically assume they'll die (so genres besides tragedies horror etc) is the impact of their death worth more than what you could #do with them as living active characters etc

[kingmaximusboltagon]

most appealing part of the inhumans is that theyre all middle aged with back pain

#the comfort of a group of characters ostracized for their differences but still finding happiness and love and companionship and home #gorgon having chronic pain maximus having neglected mental illness bb and triton struggling to socialize after being raised outside society #medusa taking on so much responsibility that even her loved ones start to slowly neglect her needs assuming she can handle it all #i was looking at some uncanny inhumans art and now im in a mood over 50yo blackagar . #this probably applies more to me than People In General but like. the royal family as a whole r extremely comforting to me #bc they r characters that like. i can see parts of myself in that i havent ever found in other media before #like i have a bad back! and bad joints and mobility issues sometimes! and it hurts all the time! #and i know a chronically ill character isnt like. IMPOSSIBLE to find but it still means a lot to me that they bring gorgon's pain up #and how maximus' completely ignored and silenced mental health struggles really fucked him up for like his entire life #and how bb and triton being raised almost completely removed from society and only interacting with family members until they were adults #affected their socialization skills a LOT #like these are all things i can find and like. actually see myself there. its nice to not feel completely detached from everyone else #bc growing up these r things i did not see. ever. there r so many parts of me that i thought everyone experienced and. they dont! #i have no idea where im going with this its just. these inhumans r people. and i see them. and it means something to me. #inhumans

[ronin-deactivated19851026]

actual photo of me, mirrored:

but fr tho my cervical issues are so fucking annoying. they got better after i started wearing braces and fixing my overbite. at least, the nerve area around my ear doesn't get pinched in a way my whole arm gets numb anymore, that's a major progress finally i can play vidya whole day again but other than that, i can literally show this screenshot when asked "how are you doing?" in regards to my neck pain. literally shows every area on my face that is numb, inflamed, tickles, itches, contracts, and hurts all the time. it's so annoying and what i hate about it the most is how it affects my hearing and probably also contributes to the brain fog in one way or another idk high chances that my arteries got pinched too and my brain literally doesn't get enough oxygen, but i still haven't done tests to confirm that

on top of that, a dumb habit that i should cease for good is sitting on my legs up to 10 hours a day because it got to the point that i fucked them up so bad, i ended up constantly pulling them in my sleep and waking up from the pain worse than when i had my bone tissue drilled through with minimal anesthesia. like holy shit i used to be scared of dentists because i considered pain from getting my teeth drilled through the worst, but nope it's not, it's so fucking far from what a stiff body with a lifestyle like mine can go through

on the brighter side, daily yoga seems to be cancelling two decades of my dumbfuckery pretty quickly. more so, i manage to reach spots that i couldn't reach ever in my life before. this actually really excites me, because it shatters the concept of being "too late" for changing things that one was supposed to take care of earlier. i also have been approaching my whole life from a different, more philosophical perspective for last few years and every hardship i go through seems like a challenge these days.

i don't think i'm truly suffering like i used to anymore, at all. i may seem like i do, every time i rant or vent, because on a surface level it looks the same as before. but to me, a really thick, miserable layer of suffering that used to make me feel like i'm poisoned, imprisoned in this existence, locked in my body, forsaken and ultimately defeated, for long years and decades, is gone. venting doesn't make me feel worse, quite the other way round; it makes me feel like i'm embracing hardships, processing them, rather than avoiding, denying, and running away from them. funny how therapy and psychiatry was taking healing away from me this whole time, heh. instead i found it in places that psych-simps told will ruin me. but that's a story for some other day i guess.

#ronin.txt #rick and morty spoilers #ranting #i'm slowly turning into a grumpy babushka with my favorite hobby being talking about health it seems LMFAO #oh well i hope someone here reads this and feels the same way i feel when i read other people ranting about their health #that is: feeling less lonely #i always feel like i'm a waste of space and an utter failure because i generally have a lot of health issues #knowing that pretty much everyone around me has something they struggle with always made me feel less lonely #because i was often told by people ''ohh but you're so young to have X!!'' so i started to assume everyone else around me is healthy #... only now i start to fully realize that most people just suck it up and don't talk about it #in retrospect even those who mocked me for being sick or weak were actually super sick and weak themselves but also just sucked it up #and persisted with self-destructive behaviors until they fell apart earlier that ever #wild #the abled vs disabled dichotomy is really weird considering that abled =/= healthy and it's usually just a matter of time or accident #until the abled person will enter at the very least the gray area of disability #that is if they haven't entered it already way too many people push themselves to do more when they're clearly not up for the task #OK RAMBLE OVER

[orangerosebush]

I think one of the things that most helped me chill out and not worry about people behaving in ways I both do not understand and can’t control is finally leaving for college. Looking back, it’s no wonder I was so combative in this vaguely “hall monitor way” during high school. It sucks growing up in an environment where if you don’t know exactly how to tailor your behavior and hide parts of who you are, shit gets bad. I was constantly surveilling my own behavior so I didn’t get harassed by my dad (who also had no control over his life in the sense he was too depressed to hold down a job for long). Just a constant diet of meanness and cynicism for the brain. So when I see stuff online that’s a bunch of (unhappy) gay teens being shitty and policing each other over pointless community in-drama, I feel like that particular personal history I have is one of the biggest “it gets so much better for you one day, I promise, and a lot of the b.s. you’re going through right now is coming from other teens who are profoundly messed up in a similar way — though that doesn’t excuse it” I can offer.

[floralovebot]

I think Riven was poor in the show... I think Riven hated Sky for being a prince too. They're fighting was because of that too. Are you saying that Riven did not hate Sky because he is a prince? Riven said a lot that he did not like Sky because he is rich and rich people are unfair. Please share your thoughts for me.

I'm pretty sure this is in response to this post? But let me know if not!

Anyway, Riven coming from a poor or even "middle class" background isn't canon, it's just a really good headcanon. I say it's a headcanon because when it comes up, it's always a vague implication that could also be about something else. Like his mother abandoning him could definitely have led to him growing up poor, but it's also not an exact confirmation. His mother leaving for money could mean they were poor, but it could also mean she just wanted More Money. Darcy saying he has "a darkness inside him" is likely about mental illness and trauma rather than him being poor and taking it out on the others (also anyone who uses this as an example just know i am beam blasting your house so hard). Riven calling out nepotism and classism could definitely be more personal but it could also be an example of his very high morality and moral judgment. (like riven is extremely intelligent and stands up for people in less fortunate situations a lot.)

Like,,, it's never directly stated that he's poor and the implications that people usually see could very easily be about something else. Kind of like the headcanon that Helia grew up at RF or comes from a military family; lots of good implications, but not canon. Or s1 implying that Flora could be a lesbian or wlw; lots of implications, but not canon. On the flip side, there are tons of things about Riven that are directly stated or directly implied (like his trust issues, issues with administration, his mental health issues, and even his mother leaving him). But Riven coming from a specifically poor background is something that's more often than not just an implication that could be implying something else. I'm not saying that implication isn't there at all, but it can definitely be read in other ways (for example, I've seen people headcanon that Riven comes from a noble family and hates classism because he's seen it up close). But regardless, Riven being poor is just an implication because it's not stated or shown in canon.

Also, I should note that my post wasn't about shitting on this headcanon. I like the idea that Riven comes from a poor background. It makes sense within canon, I do think it's implied (even some of the weaker implications are still fun to me), and I often use it in other headcanons and aus. But again, it's not Canon and his rivalry with Sky and the other specialists had a lot of components that aren't related to classism. My post was specifically about how the Sky vs Riven rivalry wasn't just about classism. Riven absolutely does not like royalty or the idea of different classes in general. However, his rivalry with Sky was never just about Sky being a prince.

Riven calls Sky out for having advantages over them, yes. Riven calls out the other characters for not knowing something, for being privileged, for nepotism, etc, yes. But his dislike of Sky specifically didn't stem from classism. Like I said in that post, classism was absolutely a factor but it wasn't the Biggest Factor.

Riven had a lot of internal issues in s1 and all of them played a factor in his rivalry with Sky. Sky being a prince was the icing on top. It really cemented everything that Riven thought of Sky before, but it was never the First Reason, the Big Reason, or the Only Reason. Riven didn't like the specialists because they were constantly undermining him, constantly insulting him (sometimes in a direct insulting way and sometimes in a "playful/joking" way), always assuming the worst of him, and never taking his side in literally anything. He also has extreme trust issues, felt like he would be better off alone, and used everything they said and did as a confirmation of why. Like s1 Riven had a really bad case of confirmation bias and was constantly looking for reasons to hate them (Sky being a prince was One of those reasons).

Like I said in that post, the Riven vs Sky rivalry had a lot of depth and both parties played into it. In canon, it was never just Poor Boy Hate Rich Boy. Sky being a prince and therefore having a lot of privilege was absolutely a factor in Riven's dislike of him, but it was never the only thing or the biggest reason. If Sky hadn't been the prince, Riven still would've hated him. Like,, that's important! Riven didn't hate Sky Just because he's a prince. He didn't trust Sky, hated that Sky looked down on him (regardless of their class standing), and hated that Sky "saw better in him". He hated that they were both extremely stubborn, irrational pricks who took it out on each other. He hated that Sky clearly didn't like, trust, or respect him.

And again, I really do think his relationships with the other royal and/or rich characters back this up. If Riven hated Sky simply for being a prince, that energy would've been directed toward Brandon first and it would also be directed toward Bloom, Stella, and Aisha. But it isn't. In fact, Riven often shows that he respects and likes Aisha! Even when he does call the other royal/rich characters out, it's never with animosity. It's usually in this, "yeah you're rich and dumb and privileged here I'll show you how it's done 🙄" kind of way. With Sky, it's more "i hate you i hate you i hate you i hate myself fuck off i hate you AND you're a prince god could you get any worse???". Yknow?

#long post #like again i want to make it clear that im not shitting on the Riven Poor headcanons #i Like them and theyre very juicy to me #but it is still just a headcanon and even if it was canon its still not the only factor in the rivalry #like i was specifically talking about how people have a sort of... well this is gonna sound mean but a very one dimensional - #understanding of the sky/riven rivalry #classism IS a factor and sky being a prince IS a reason but thats not the Only component #and it genuinely bothers me when people think classism is the ONLY factor because it really brings the rivalry down so much #there are So Many factors in their rivalry and when people boil it down to Just Poor Boy Hate Rich Boy its really awkward #it erases a lot of what riven was feeling and how he took it out on people #it also erases a lot of sky's involvement in their fighting beyond his privilege #because again his being royalty does play a factor but he's also stubborn and judgemental and assumes the worst in people #and riven Hates those kinds of people and sky was always taking it out on Him #like sky didnt treat anyone else like that ??? #sky was his worst fucking nightmare ajhdflg #and again sky being a prince really just solidified Everything that riven Already thought #sky and riven both had a Lot of internal issues and they were taking it out on each other #that would stay the same if sky was genuinely not a prince or even if he was poor #because it was never Just about him being a prince. that Was one factor - not the entire rivalry #so again headcanon whatever you want about riven's background! i for one will continue to think he grew up poor #but its still just a headcanon and their rivalry still has a lot of components that arent related to classism or nepotism #answered #i hope none of this comes off as mean anon i promise im not trying to shit on your thoughts #like.. i think besides the riven poor in canon thing we're in agreement? #i think another aspect of riven hating sky for being a prince is that sky hates being seen as A Prince and riven really doesnt get that #like they just Do Not understand each other and they often refused to try #after s1 we see both of them actually trying and their relationship gets better because of it

[evergreenempress]

hot take for the Black And White Thinking website but you don't have to have a black or white opinion on tone indicators actually. they do in fact have good qualities and bad ones. yes they are another set of rules to memorize for some AND that's the way many neurodivergent people navigate social interaction already. yes some people don't understand or misinterpret them BUT they're largely unintrusive to the actual sentence so if you don't understand one you can... still read the sentence and ignore it. you can acknowledge that they help other people even if they don't help you. you can acknowledge that they are inconvenient or difficult sometimes as well as being helpful. it's okay

#cece speaks #this isn't prompted by anything btw it's just stray thoughts #they're a mixed bag for me personally. not because I mind using them #but because I can have kind of a deadpan way of talking and texting #and I feel like the rise of tone indicators have had a mild contribution into people treating me like I'm bitchy when I don't use them #which I don't love! i think there's underlying ableism in assuming an autistic person is mean for not communicating correctly #AND I have memory issues that lead to me forgetting what they mean or to use them and people can be rude about that #but they have also helped with my anxiety and bpd a lot to have things explicitly stated #in a way that doesn't leave much room for other interpretations or confrontation #and I think it's okay that it's kind of a mixed bag for me! #it's not a hellish invention from twitter or a lifesaver for me. i don't get why people feel the need to make such a big thing of them #ask to tag #just feeling opinionated tonight I guess lmao. you're welcome to counterpoint me if you want but i will ignore you if i don't care (likely)

[fluffyblue-multifandommess]

the worst part of this hypersomnia phase isn't even losing most of the day to sleep or the awful dehydration headaches, it's that no one will fucking believe that I haven't been going to bed later than usual.

i have been going to sleep at mostly consistent hours for 6+ months, and my body just decided a couple months ago that it requires more sleep than before, and that's why i've been sleeping in later and later.

but i guess the reality that someone's body and capabilities can suddenly take a dive through no fault of the person inhabiting that body just doesn't fit the narrative that sleeping disorders and many other disabilities are just self-inflicted in some way

#vent post #blue personal ramblings #i get that it's very convenient for them to just assume i must be lying about going to bed at 23h00-1h00 #it's very convenient for them to believe that -I- am doing something which has caused me to sleep until later in the day #rather than to believe that i am helpless in the face of this problem #if they can just blame me they dont have to take any steps to accomodate my annoying oversleeping-induced schedule #they can just keep telling me to try harder #sorry about the repetitive posting on this issue but it has been really grating #like. im feeling bad enough about the derailed sleep schedule as it is!!! i really dont need people adding to it #with their guilt trippy 'have you been playing a lot of video games?' bullshit

[chewwytwee]

Better call Saul is da best show evarrrrr xD

#.txt #bcs #better call Saul #no I’m literally at the end of season 3 (ep 8 so not rlly) #but holy SHITTTTTT there is so much to analyze and pick apart about the acting and editing #like I’m assuming the director has a lot of control over editing on TV #because like the way shots are paced and interspersed is sooooooo good and intentional #like I’m still deciphering some of the relationships like between jimmy and his dad #and Mike and his storylines #I didn’t notice before but MAN mikes arcs in early seasons reallly ties a lot of stuff together #and also like #thinking about the passage of time between events is also rlly interesting #the show is pretty specific about the date for a TV show and so all of the continuity is really temporally visceral #I can feel how long these issues have weighed on these people or the time they’ve spent just doing regular work to achieve their ends #ALSO GODDDDDDDDDD CHUCKKKKKKKKKK ITS SUCH A GOOD SEASON ENDING ITS FUCKING TRAGIC AND GRIPPING #THE WAY HIS LONELINESS MANIFESTS AS PAIN AND DISEASE #MAKES HIM LOCK HIMSELF AWAY #idk I am a lowkey chuck stan. like he’s a fucking prick but like Rebecca said. he’s mentally ill….. #talk to me abt chuck I love his storyline and how it’s shot