#I need to find queer community I need to find queer community I need to find queer community I need to find queer community

[unhinged-transmasc-man]

I think what sucks so much about being a trans man is that you start from being told your entire life that femininity for you is better, that masculinity is bad, and that being feminine is simply better. Then you find that you're actually a man, and like masculinity more, or like femininity but only as a man. You have to fight that conditioning from cis people in the outside world. But then you get into queer spaces, where you likely had prior support and community as nonbinary or butch or anything "masculine but you're morally pure because you're not a man but be careful." Now that you are a man, you've crossed the line. And now you're essentially damned and tainted and everything transphobes said you are. Except now this rhetoric is repeated by other queer and trans people.

Now it's trans people insisting that femininity is better, that masculinity is bad, and that being feminine is simply better. Now it's trans people telling you that you being masculine is evil, that you should be feminine, essentially that you being masculine, what makes you trans, is bad, and that it would be better if you were a woman. And worst of all, you merely existing as a trans man is then said to be proof of you aligning with the same people (patriarchal terrible cishet men) who made your life terrible for wanting to be masculine in the first place! And then when you bring any of this up, you get the exact same misogyny. The exact same condescension. Except it's justified by "progressive" trans people because trans men are only ever called men when we can be demonized for it, and are women any other time. Essentially a "take being treated like a woman like a real man". So you actually experience misogyny, transphobia, anti-transmasculinity with bigotry towards you SPECIFICALLY FOR BEING A TRANS MAN, but then are denied that you are oppressed at all.

The only people who have ever made me consider de-transitioning have been other trans people. Trans people enforcing the rhetoric that (especially white) femininity and womanhood is inherently morally pure is so dangerous. My first abuser was my cis mother. I've seen trans women who extend any sympathy to trans men at all be entirely cut off from social support from trans radfems. It was a trans girl who "joked" that testosterone would make me a mass shooter. Some of the most vicious anon hate telling me to kms has been from self-hating trans men who make their whole personality about how trans men don't actually have issues. It was a trans girl who emotionally abused me and justified being neglectful. There needs to be accountability for how trans people treat us. We can't control how cis people act, but trans people can and need to do better.

#transandrophobia #anti transmasculinity

[roebeanstalk]

My landlord has decided not to move forward with me as a tenant due to my history with payment/mental health. While this is frustrating as heck, it’s allowed me to find a better, more affordable housing situation. I have signed a lease at a new place and move in July 1st!

I’m asking for help with the security deposit, which is $485 and needs to be paid within the first week of June.

Cashapp https://cash.app/clawshot venmo https://venmo.com/rmck89 ko-fi https://ko-fi.com/roebeanstalk

Once the deposit is paid, my space on the lease is officially secured and I am good to go. This is the main thing that I am looking for help with.

Any help at all is super appreciated. Every dollar adds up, and shares are so helpful too. I know that I’ve received so much help from people in the past and I can’t thank you all enough. I hope that this is the last of these that I have to do.

Needs:

Security deposit: $0/$485 June rent: $0/$675

Bonus: July rent (First month at new place): $485 Movers + Uhaul: $300-350

More info on my situation under the cut!

Thank you so, so so much.

Why I need help:

I have a history of mental health issues, and as a result I have a very difficult time getting and maintaining employment. My mental health also impacts my ability to keep up with and complete freelance/commission work in a timely manner. While I have made some incredible steps forward lately thanks to the right combo of therapy, medication, and a support system, I am still not at a point where I am self-sufficient yet. I am getting there – and I am committed to keep trying no matter what.

This new housing situation is incredible for me – it’s a room in a quiet house with two other queer folk, and the rent is very affordable compared to my current situation. The new place is $485/month, the current place is $675/month. Even with utilities, my total overhead for shelter will cost less than rent at my current place. If I can secure my spot in this house and move forward, I see such a clear path forward for me in terms of self-improvement and self-sufficiency.

For the first time in 15 years, I feel like I can tackle the things ahead of me. If you’re able to help out I would really, really appreciate it.

What I’m doing:

I am job hunting for something that works well for my situation. With the cost of rent, I think that a part time job will be able to cover it. The process of getting a job is difficult for me, but I am committed to continuing to work at it.

On the art front, I have occasional comic coloring jobs that help me out. I also have commissions – I have finally been moving forward at a good rate and have been really happy with my work. In time, this will be able to be a more standard income route. I also have a Patreon that brings in about $65/month.

Cashapp https://cash.app/clawshot / venmo https://venmo.com/rmck89 / ko-fi https://ko-fi.com/roebeanstalk

Thank you so much for reading over all of this. Thank you to everyone who has helped with donations or kind words or reblogs. Thank you so much to every commissioner and customer who has been patient as hell with me on artwork, communication, and stickers. Thank you thank you thank you. Thanks to every single one of you I have been able to keep pushing myself forward, and I'm so happy to keep doing it and make good on everything. And eventually, give back to my community. I love you all so much, even though i don't know any of you that well. Thank youuuu. <3

#trans #mutual aid #moving #trans mutual aid #help moving

[bengiyo]

I’ve just finished my rewatch of Go Ahead, a cdrama you will probably never watch because it’s het and mostly about family trauma. But it’s one of my all time favs and one of the best things about it is the strong found family theme—it’s essentially about three broken families and how they join together as one to support each other. It got me thinking about my fav found family narratives, and especially those that are explicitly queer, because there’s often added life or death stakes in those stories. What are your favorite found family stories in queer media?

This is an interesting question, and I think you qualified appropriately right away by bringing up the life or death stakes of this kind of narrative. I think I want to make a distinction between "finding your people" and "found family" because I think these things often get blurred in romance stories.

Favorite Queer Found Family Stories

For me, a good found family story has to be about the found family component of it. Romance can be a significant portion of the story, but the primary driving relationships need to be about the queers being each other's primary network. I think estrangement from your bio family is a critical component, because knowing you are all each other has is a big part of it.

POSE (2018-2021)

It's really impossible to establish what found family looks like without referring to a show about ballroom culture in NYC in the 90s. We were dying. We were being abandoned. The houses gave people a place to be and a sense of purpose. These kids called their leaders Mother for a reason. Every single queer character in this show was saved by another character in this show before going onto save another character in this show. No show has ever done it like POSE.

Despite their fighting and bickering, Elektra saved Blanca. Blanca would go on to form her own house and provide shelter and support for multiple kids. There is a desperation to queer found family for me that makes it so important. Pray Tell's final choices still resonate with me to this day.

Queer as Folk (2000-2005)

We remember all of the fucking in this show, but this is another show where the queers are their primary support network. Their families aren't really there for them. Justin is kicked out of the house and lives with Debbie for a while, and is nursed by his community after being bashed. Michael and Ben adopt Hunter. Brian donates for Lindsey and Melanie. Debbie housed Brian in the past. Emmett's family disowned him, so his friends are all he's got. The community rallies constantly to protect each other.

Part of what makes this show so special as found family, like with POSE, is how often these folks piss each other off and get into huge fights. They fall out repeatedly in this show over fundamental disagreements that are not easily solved. Some of those fights are ugly in a way only people who know you best can hurt you.

The Fosters (2013-2018)

There's no way I'm not including my favorite TV lesbians of all time raising all them kids on this post. These two public servants found each other, made the difficult choices to be together, and keep expanding their family with more fosters and adoptees over time because there's always more love to go around. This show tackled how important it is to be able to call people family, and what it means for that to be a choice over an obligation. These two always found a way to make it work for their complex family and gave a budding queer the space to grow and be a brat of a teenager after saving him from having the shit beaten out of him for wearing a dress.

Sense8 (2015-2018)

From the directors of The Matrix (1999) and the creator of Babylon 5 (1993-1998), few shows are as queer as Sense8. Eight strangers suddenly become connected to each other and cannot turn it off. Half of them are queer in some way, and it's about their adaptation to each other and looking out for each other as they're literally being hunted. This is one of my favorite sci-fi concepts of all time, and I love the way their relationships outside of their cluster play into their dynamics.

She Loves to Cook, and She Loves to Eat (2022- )

This is a recent favorite for this, particularly because of Season 2. In Season 1, we know that Nomoto puts a distance between herself and her family because of the pressure to become a wife. In season 2, we learn that Kasuga has severed ties with her family because of the expectation that she surrender her own life to take care of her family. When she tells Nomoto this, Nomoto gets angry on Kasuga's behalf and they decide to commit to living together. They are also building their community around them, and I better see everyone in their new apartment in season 3.

Gameboys 2 (2022)

So much of what's going wrong for Gav in this season is that he doesn't feel connected to the rest of his bio family after his grandmother passed, and he's desperately holding onto all of the friendships he has because he's so lonely. It's why he's still close with both of his exes (Pearl and Terrence), and why he won't let them go. Also, he's falling apart and Pearl is the one making sure his bills get paid on time.

The Shape of Water (2017)

Shout out to my man Doug Jones for always playing creatures that everyone is attracted to. The way this movie is so much about undesirables choosing to love each other and saving each other. Go watch it if you haven't. This film is not about a sexual awakening. It's about loving inside of a white capitalist structure.

Not Queer But Good

Shout outs for my faves. Some have queer characters in them, but aren't inherently or explicitly queer.

The Golden Girls (1985-1992)

No one did it like them. A bunch of aging women living together and making the most of their lives still resonates almost 40 years later.

Avatar: The Last Airbender (2005-2008)

All of these kids are estranged from their families, and are building out something that works over the course of the show.

The Good Place (2016-2020)

I really love that this is a show about people who didn't get it together in life getting it together in the afterlife because they decided to work together, and then to care about each other. When you're literally being tortured by devils, you're all you've got.

What Doesn't Fit?

This is where things can get a little bit wiggly, but why I want to draw a line on this. I think that shows about queer friendship are important, but I also think that there's a difference between "we are all we've got" and "these people are the most important to me." So we end up with shows like the following.

Noah's Arc (2005-2006)

I often call this the Black answer to Queer as Folk, but I don't think it had time to fully-develop the found family themes in a way that QaF did with its much-longer runtime. Noah and his friends are super codependent and absolutely there for each other, but I don't think the absence of their families is explicitly attributed to their queerness but rather a byproduct of the focus on their gay life dynamics in LA. I love this show dearly, but there isn't a desperation to this that belies the family angst necessary for found family.

For The Boys (2021)

In many ways a spiritual successor to Noah's Arc, this show falls into the same place. The friend trio at the core of this is the most important relationship in their lives, but this show doesn't have the necessary found family angst.

What about QL?

For me, the biggest problem with doing found family in QL is that the primary genre is romance. These shows prioritize the way these relationships will turn romantic in a way that detracts from the found family component even when it's present. Also, because QL focuses so hard on coming of age plotlines, there's an element more of "finding your people" that supercedes any found family dynamics.

I Promised You the Moon (2021) is a good example of this. The primary drama of this show is about the romance between Teh and Oh-aew and the complications they face once they leave Phuket. Oh finds his people there and blossoms from it, but this is a story about how he and Teh can't get over each other.

As much as I love What Did You Eat Yesterday? (2019- ), the only real component of that is in Wataru's character. Kenji gets along with his mom and sisters, and Shiro is working on repairing the relationship with his family the entire time.

With Thai BL especially, I feel like they're big on friend groups, but not as big on found family. New Siwaj loves big friend groups that love each other, evinced by Love Sick (2014-2015), Make It Right (2016-2017), Until We Meet Again (2019), EN of Love (202), My Only 12% (2022), etc. He's done some great work in the space with queer friends, but not really queer found family.

Cheewin, a former collaborator of New's, also loves friend groups that have each other's backs. Probably his best example of that is Secret Crush On You (2022) with that friend quartet. The closest I think he came to found family was Uea in Bed Friend.

Another example that comes close is the unit that forms on their road trip in The End of the World With You (2023). I often think about this group of queers and the kid they adopted screaming to the heavens that they want to live.

Something I love, but which doesn't count for me is Our Dining Table (2023). There are powerful family dynamics here, but like in WDYEY they're adding Yutaka to their family and Yutaka reconciles with his adoptive family. I don't generally think that adding a romantic partner to your family counts as found family. Besides, Yutaka has a stable job and housing.

Final Thoughts

For me, the stakes are pretty high with queer found family, and it really needs to have a queer basis for me to feel strongly about it. Going back to their bio family is not an option, and often times the terms we use for traditional relationships don't always fit properly (yet another reason why Unknown got so much right). I don't think it's queer found family when they're students in college whose families just aren't around because they're paying for their kids to go to school. Finding your queer community as an adult is a huge part of growing up, but a queer found family is there for the really ugly and desperate parts of existence that your friends might not see.

#answered #Ben writes #pose #queer as folk #sense8 #the shape of water #noah's arc #the golden girls #the fosters #she loves to cook and she loves to eat #tsukuritai onna to tabetai onna #the good place #avatar: the last airbender #make it right #love sick the series #my only 12% #en of love #secret crush on you #our dining table #bokura no shokutaku #the end of the world with you #bokura no micro na shuumatsu #until we meet again #bl series #thai bl #japanese bl #filipino bl #gameboys 2 #gameboys the series #what did you eat yesterday?

[gayvampyr]

“queer spaces should be inclusive of people who don’t enjoy sex and who have “strange”, negative or repulsed relationships with sex” and “sex is an important aspect of lgbt community, history, and activism and queer people should be allowed and able to talk freely about sex without stigma or shame” are ideas that can and should coexist.

#‘queer people were banned from and shamed for having sex and that’s where a lot of our activism stemmed from’ and #‘not liking or having sex is considered abnormal and a mental illness and also needs to be destigmatized’ are concepts that not only can but #often do coalign #it’s esp important to consider that a lot of lgbt ppl who have a tricky and strained relationship with sex are like that because of trauma #which is very common for queer folks #it’s really not an ace-only thing #like i am sex repulsed but it’s very hard to discern if it’s because i’m asexual or if it’s the trauma. either way i deserve to have those #feelings and be included in lgbt spaces and discussions about sex and treated as just another queer person with a different experience #instead of being alienated because my feelings about sex don’t directly line up with yours #im so sick of people in this community trying to pit us against each other. as an ace lesbian that shit is so toxic and harmful #my relationship with sex is fluid. im sex-positive always‚ but i often find myself sex repulsed. im otherwise neutral about it but im sick #of people acting like it’s either you enjoy sex and have it frequently or you hate it and you shame everyone who has it like youre a puritan #like. lesbians are CONSTANTLY getting hounded and told that we’re broken or mentally i’ll for not showing interest in (having sex with) men #for the same reason asexuality is considered bad or wrong or weird

[ohmyglobwhatthefrickamievendoing]

I will never be over how at its core OFMD is about queer hope and joy in finding the strength to change and grow, specially during a stage in life/age at which the majority will say that you should be settled with who you are and what you're doing

From Stede falling in love with a man and finally realising he's queer, and embracing that with all the overwhelming joy that he can possibly embody, after years stuck in an unhappy marriage trying to force himself into a role that didn't fit him

To Ed finally falling in love with someone and using that as a catalyst for change to find out for himself what he wants to do and who he wants to be, after years of feeling like he was stuck in one place and treading water

To Izzy finally finding a safe community where he can try out new things and find new ways to express himself, after years of being so tightly wound up and repressed

To Anne & Mary stuck in a rut and unhappy but scared they're too old to change, burning down their old life so they can move on forward together and try something new

To Buttons doing the impossible and changing into a fucking bird

Doesn't it give you hope?

Doesn't it make you overwhelmed?

That no matter what age you're at and no matter how scared you are and no matter how impossible it seems, you can still grow, you can still change, you can still find your people and you can still discover new things about yourself.

That you don't need to figure out everything about yourself in your 20s. That you don't need to fall in love and start the perfect life by your 30s. That you don't need to know exactly who you are and how you're expected to spend your life by your 40s.

That you don't need to remain stuck in the box you put yourself into because that's what people dictated or because that's what was safest.

That you can always grow and change and try something new and it's never too late

#specially if you're asian there's so much pressure to get everything settled for the rest of your life before you reach your 30s #and finding queer community early on is /much/ harder #it becomes very easy to feel like you're failing in life if you don't hit every single checkpoint expected of you before you reach your 30s #so seeing a show about older queer people reaching these checkpoints at an older age heals something in me #they fucked up izzy's personal arc tho BUT I also understand this show's about gentlebeard #& for that to happen they needed to surgically remove izzy from ed (or they could have made it into a polycule- WHO SAID THAT!?) #someone's probably already said this in a much more put together way but i'm currently having emotions about it so... #ofmd spoilers #ofmd #our flag means death #our flag means death spoilers #our flag means death season 2 #ofmd season 2 #ofmd s2 #our flag means death s2 #gentlebeard #blackbonnet #ofmd edward teach #ofmd ed teach #edward teach #ofmd stede #stede bonnet #ofmd izzy #izzy hands #ofmd buttons #nathaniel buttons #ofmd mary read #mary read #ofmd anne bonny #anne bonny

[sleepinglionhearts]

Once again I am thinking about becoming an art teacher vs. thinking about how fast I'd get fired if I became an art teacher

#idk I work well with kids but I dunno if I'd survive a classroom overfull of 'em #and like ok sure I could try teaching in Austin or something but the thing is #I would WANT to teach in town or in some other middle of nowhere small town because I feel like #those are the students who like. NEED to have someone teaching them wild ideas about art and communication #and what art can do and what art does and what art has to say #i would get so fired so fucking fast lol some kid would be like 'guess what we did in class today' #and then parents would come down on me for teaching art history to their 12 year olds #and not in the conservative white friendly way hsgshsgshs #oh who am i kidding I'd get fired as soon as parents (or some other teachers!!) find out I'm queer #happened to my 10th grade english teacher #anyway. just having some thoughts tonight

[dr-amnesia]

guys please

i need to get my hair dyed so bad guys. how else are other queer kids going to sense my faggotry??

anyways i'm a ginger too so like.. i want to dye like. half of it brown or maybe like, just the front brown.. i think it would look cool

#dyed hair #queer #funny #queer community #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #lgbtq #I NEED TO GET MY HAIR DYED #i might be one of those people that finds dyed hair attractive.. #but hey #red hair #people call me ed sheer an

[smilepilled]

so exhausted of genitalism and bioessentialism infecting trans spaces so damn often

#“can xyz use abc if theyre 123?” “yeah sure go for i—” NO BECAUSE IF YOURE 123 YOURE GONNA BE INVADING ABC SPACES!!!!!“ #like cmon guys... #the amab and afab shit has made so many of you forget that trans experiences are beyond and above genitalia #its about self discovery #its about knowing yourself #its about FINDING yourself #its about understanding how and what your experiences are #the whole “you cannot use that label or youre evil” mindset is so #so #sooo #fucking old #we are in 2024. trans people are being shot #killed #and stripped of their every right #you should care less about whether tumblr user kittypawgrabber8495 identifies as a gaybian or turigirl or gaybian or lesgay #and care more about trans people in need #queer people in need #the infighting is exactly what others want. and by others i mean those who antagonize lgbtqi+/mogai/liom and other queer communities #plus #so many of you have the same bullshit ideology from radfems and eugenists #VERY #very #VEEEERY #Far up your asses. and its kind of scary #offputting? shocking? pick the term you like #either way. we went from fighting and giving our lives and blood for this cause #to... arguing online about if poopshitter_masterblaster can use the term bleeperoid if theyre agloglabs #(not actual term those are. silly placeholders.) #we really gotta rethink this whole thing #our rights and lives are way higher priority than weird complex exquisite queer experiences. please unlearn the hatred for ur fellow queers!

[oh-judas]

argh will i ever find love as a lesbian christian

#hmm #idk it feels like i'll never be in a fulfilling romantic relationship that will respect my faith #like not to be pathetic or anytbing but i want to fall in love :( #buuuut i literally dont know if thats possible i need someone who is also a christian & sapphic #like can i ever find both those qualities in 1 person AND THEN be in a romantic relationship w/ them? #idk!!! i dont want to die alone!!! #it also helps that i have no irl queer christian community #fuck i have No Christian friends either #so its like #will i have to compromise myself in every romantic relationship i pursue? or will my faith be the deal breaker that i have to use to push #ppl away? #BOOOO I DONT LIKE THIS #idek where to find queer christian friends My Age #my life is so hard #idk its the holidays im thinking about finding love & its been over a year since ive last been kissed #fuck

[sassmill]

In Act 2 of Lempicka when Tamara and Rafaela enter Le Monocle for the first time they look around at all the women together and Rafaela says “a room full of nothing but US” and Tamara says “let’s never leave” and guys I just went to a lesbian bar for the first time (okay it’s actually a deli but they turn it into a lesbian bar at night) and GUYS? That is the safest I have ever felt out drinking and dancing and I felt so natural and I was surrounded by other queer women and that’s. That’s the first actual queer space I’ve been to in YEARS and especially post-pandemic. And I’m feeling such an overwhelming mix of emotions right now because I didn’t realize how isolated I felt from the queer community in my day to day life (ie not online). I just. God.

Dedicated queer spaces are so important. Lesbian bars are so important. This is the only one I’ve been to but I’m VERY aware that these days there are fewer and fewer of them but I just. I didn’t know how badly this kind of place and experience and connection to community was missing from my life until I suddenly had it tonight.

#also within ten minutes of walking in a woman came over to ask me about my Lempicka tattoo #rip lempicka gone too soon #honestly I don’t think I would’ve agreed to go out tonight if it weren’t for the amount of reflection and reckoning I’ve been doing #since seeing lempicka for the second time #I wouldn’t have been so gutted about its closing if it hadn’t made me feel so SEEN and UNDERSTOOD #and the scene at le monocle is like a microcosm of that within the show #with all of the women approaching Tamara about how her art #her paintings of women #make them feel seen #like that is that show and that was this night for me #thinking about how repressed and isolated I really am in my personal life #and how quickly a show like Lempicka gets taken away from us #it really made me think like ‘shit.’ #if I don’t find a way to connect and engage with the queer community it is entirely possible that something awful will happen #and I’ll never have the chance to #like I need to just fucking live and find it instead of staying at home and wondering #I am very much an introvert #and I am very much not one for going clubbing #not that this was a club per se #but it’s the kind of thing where every once in awhile I know I need to push myself #I need to make myself go out #because when I do I have moments like this #lempicka #lempicka musical #lempicka broadway #tamara de lempicka

[lunityviruz]

Listen to miserable by ORISUN idiots

#rants n rambles #I need to make a band camp account n find more music like this #music recs #lgbtq community #black queer #punk queer

[mysticsnoopy]

i'm gonna say it.

i think some of you guys are too mean on heartstopper for no actual good reason.

just because a media is targeted towards teens doesn't lessen its value as queer media. i'm not saying its devoid of critique or anything. it can be like any other queer media. but like any queer media it has a right to exist.

i've been seeing a lot of cynical losers spur on about the show for being what it is; a teen romcom.

while i completely understand (and even agree) with the critique that the "cutest gay stuff" is clearly favoured by companies as it's easy marketability instead of more adult queer media, that doesn't have to do with the media itself. it has to do with companies seeing creativity through marketability, not for what it is.

#snoopy babbles #btw im not a fan of like the show or comic (i previously was but mostly as a younger queer person and more of a casual fan) #im not defending it at that base. i'm mostly just commenting on a phenomenon ive seen of people judging it on an unfair lens #because its not supposed to be an adult show. its clearly for queer teenagers and thats ok. good even! it teaches queer kids hope. #hope of community and friendship and love. i know as a queer kid i needed that. and im still a fan of the adult stuff! #overtime most queer kids will grow out of it and find more adult centric queer media. that's simply how these things work. #anyways im trying not to rant here. that is my very simplyfied thoughts on heartstopper hate.

[lith-myathar]

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#legit though part of why i often find myself more interested in m/f ships is two-fold #a) they still have women in them and b) m/f ships are allowed to be. well. fucked up for lack of a better word #like my god there were people losing their shit about shadowzel and saying it was wrong to ship it #when frankly it's a very tame example enemies to lovers even though we like to joke about ''toxic yuri'' #but there's fuckin discourse about it because istg there's this weird attitude that f/f ships need to be Pure or whatever the fuck?? #have y'all ever known lesbians irl??? wlw are every bit as screwed up as everybody else #and yes positive rep is important but i think queer women ESPECIALLY should be allowed to tell the stories they want to tell #without members of their own community jumping down their throats and telling them they're morally bankrupt #because their ship isn't all soft sunshine and rainbows and equal power dynamics and Correct Thinking On The Issues #maybe policing and shaming real queer women for ''glorifying abuse'' or whatever the fuck #(when most of the time they aren't even doing that!!!!) #is the actual negative impact here

[snekdood]

ive been disillusioned with a lot of the left for a while, it's nice to at least see that other ppl see it now, though the reason why kinda fucking sucks.

#i used to think i could trust ppl bc of pride flags in their profile or them being trans or whatever #and then i put allll of my trust in that community not realizing theres a Multitudes of types of ppl in it #aside from even the fact some trans ppl can be nazis- some trans people- as much as it might make us look bad to admit- #are also predators and abusers and want to lie to you and use you for money and sexually abuse you and dump you like trash #and then accuse you of doing everything they did @u@;; ask me how i know! #so on the one hand im happy ppl see it now- it's not that leftists or queer ppl or feminists are better ppl- ppl more worthy to trust- #they're just as diverse and as good and as shitty as any other demographic of people. #you're gonna find shitty people everywhere. obviously you're more likely to find predators on the right but that doesnt mean theres not #plenty on the left too. #at a certain point calling yourself 'on the left' doesnt mean much aside from idk. thinking ppl need basic human rights? #and even then its apparent that some leftists dont think that. so who can say. maybe you wont misgender me? but nah- you will #if i disagree w you or if we get in a fight- i've seen plenty of leftists do this. #i just think the term is useless now. #i think the left is about to fracture into different groups at this point #anyways be weary traveler of ever putting all of ye trust into any group of people. #its possible to like ppl and enjoy being around them and still not fully trust them. and if something tells you to gtfo? you should #also putting all your trust in a group of ppl is a one way ticket into possibly joining a cult on accident #or at the very least a culty friendgroup

[disastergoose]

my aroace post got way more attention than I thought so I also just wanted to share that you don’t have to have sex. you don’t have to have romance. we have so much social coding around having The Same Major Experiences and Feelings but in truth, EVERYONE’S journey with love, intimacy, sex, romance, and care is different, and you can have deep, meaningful, beautiful connections with people without having sex or being in romantic love. you don’t have to have those experiences if you don’t want them or don’t feel ready for them. you also don’t have to have yourself Figured Out. If you aren’t sure you’re ace/aro/somewhere in between or outside, that’s cool. you’re on a journey. you’re at the right place in your journey, and the right people will support you and respect the boundaries around how you want to be loved and touched!

#when I was 12 I was so worried about all of this and having myself figured out #I felt like I was missing out on huge parts of life other people were experiencing #and I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to find love and be in community if I couldn’t be attracted to someone #and as a queer demisexual person in a very harmful conservative religious environment this was especially true! #and now I’m on the journey and the people I am friends with and have romantic interest in are super respectful of what I need and want #and it’s okay that I don’t want sex right now! #it’s okay that romance is something I’m still figuring out! #aroace #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum #demisexuality #demisexual #asexuality #happy pride to the aroace folks too 💚 #my posts

[namisweatheria]

I got here excitedly to hopefully make a Community with the new feature for One Piece fans who center their fandom engagement totally on the female and trans characters and got immediately stuck on the name. I don't think Dyke Piece will get approved.

#I think I'll center it on female shounen characters at large instead to get more people. trying to think of a funny name for that #but honestly the term female shounen (female young boy) is pretty funny by itself. #one piece #communities #new features #tumblr #queer #using generic tags is a little embarassing but ohh myy goddd. I need to find more of my people. where are they!!!!! #can't use 'sexism mines' either. <- favorite term for shounen animanga. WHATS THE POINT!!!!!!!